Happy? Nervous? Constantly thinkings about him? How do you treat him and why do you think you fell for him in the first place? Did he start off just as friends but later on you developed feeligns for him? Or did you have feelings from the start.

Thx

I ask because I recently found out that my fiance cheated on me 3 years ago in the beginning of our relationship with an ex. We had only been together a few weeks and he was out of town for the summer. It’s really thrown me for a loop. He says he’s sorry, it never happened again, it was a transitional thing between relationships, blah blah blah. I don’t know what to think.

i was in an abusive {horrible} relationship-cheated on -put down ect. now i have a hard working man that does nothing but love me and our new son -he’s a provider, a lover, an honest man. and i catch myself getting so angry at him for the littlest things i feel like i’ve forgot how to be happy and have someone good in my life.i’m used to being hurt and angry.how do i transition from -bad life- to-good life?

my boyfriend and i hardly communicate anymore cause he’s getting more involved with his brothers church which is a good thing, but i rarely get to see him and when i talk to him in person later on that evening through the phone he then accuses me of cheating and that im lying! what should i do?

My girlfriend is in Hawaii. She is coming back tonight at 9. Two nights ago I called her up and we had a 10 minute conversation. I forgot to tell her that I was going to Los Angeles to look at this one college. So I texted her saying that I have to go to this college sorry I forgot to tell you. I before told her that I wasn’t going to Houston because my brother was playing baseball. But I don’t know if I made the mistake of telling her that I wasn’t going anywhere even though I was going to check this one college in LA. I just simply forgot to tell her over the phone. I hope she didn’t take it as I lied to her. Anyway, I told her that I was going to LA to look at the college and said sorry that I forgot to tell you over the phone. I then suggested if you want to go out before I leave. She then replied “Um, I think that it would be better to hang out after school starts.” My psychologist told me from her point of view (how she would take it if she received a message like that) it sounds like a bad sign.

I mean I could try talking to her when school starts and ask her why is she behaving like this. But other than that, if she doesn’t listen, I’m going to probably end it. I don’t know. What do you guys think?
I’m 18 and she is 16.

My boyfriend started talking to his ex-girlfriend on the internet about 2months ago saying Hey and I let it go until the other day when I found out he was talking to her again, should I be worried?

I feel guilty for saying this behind her back because her and i do have a close relationship with her. But she is the type of person where she can be sweet as a piece of cheese cake but when her mom tells her no about things she gets really mad. She has been given a lot of things like a free car granted she did pay for the repairs. her first job was working for my uncle’s family( a secretary) a few days a week and cleaning her grandma’s house and barn. My Auntie does so much for her and she can be controlling but she lets my cousin do a lot of things. my aunt payed for her Piano lessons her horse back riding lesson and gymnastics lessons. i’m sure my cousin thanked her for it but i don’t think it could be a genuine as it could be. My cousin treats her horribly sometimes and she talks back to her and calls her rude things. I know my aunt may not be easy to deal with(my mom is her twin) but she is the parent and obviously she says no for a specificc reason.

My aunt is really generous person(she payed for a college class for me) and she is like that with her kids. They always go on vacations. My uncle is the president of a construction company. They have two boats tons of ski gear for water knee boards things like that.

last week they went away on vacation and she wanted to bring her boyfriend with her. When she asked her mom last minute my aunt said no and she freaked out. My aunt was like i have to say no because you knew if he wanted to come you should have told me two months ago. My cousin went upstairs and went on the computer even though my aunt said that she needed to pay some bills so it would be a few more minutes. She said no again and to get off and my cousin was like “You can’t talk to me like that”!

My cousin was told to go to her room and she did but as she was packing she threatned to leave the house while everyone is sleeping. She gets to do so much and she never really had to work hard at finding a job or anything and she can act like a brat. But why is she doing this i mean she’s 17 so she should be more mature by now. Im not jealous or anything im just mad that she thinks she can treat her family this way. my uncle won’t tell her no and he’ll just be like oh we’ll go and talk about it later. he won’t defend my aunt when my cousin calls her bad names either.

Sorry its so long
thanks shannon

ok. so here is the deal. i’m 23. I met him 3 years ago… and fell in love with him like never before. the relationship so good when it was good, i felt like i was high. I loved him so much. His family. I saw our children together. i’d do anything for him. but when it was bad, it was verbally abusive, and just really awful. he made me cry like no one has. But I stayed in the relationship because I loved him…. It’s been 5 months since we are broken up. Basically I don’t think we were good for each other at all but we just wanted to hold on because we didn’t want to let go and because of that reason i do think u can love someone very much who’s awful for u….or maybe i’m just crazy for staying in the relationship. he broke up with me about 3 times and killed me each 3 times and came back … in the end i moved countries and broke up with him for the first time..

Here’s the deal….I feel like I changed as a person after this breakup. Or I’m not sure, maybe I am just going through a phase. I am sleeping around like a slut. I don’t care about sex. Honestly I stopped caring about anything except my career.. Before him, i only slept with my boyfriend of 1 year who by the way also had cheated on me with my best friend. I also really had cared about him. Basically i’m trying to say… before this relationship– sex used to be very very special and meaningful to me. After this last relationship– i think i have lost it. I am past anger and hurt and not being able to get out of bed, i just don’t even care anymore. In the past 3 months i have slept with 5 people- none of them were even close to dating. i’m acting like a slut, and to be honest i don’t even care. Sometimes i think maybe it’s because i don’t have faith anymore. this relationship has really fucked something up in me. can i ever going to go back to who i was again? or is this me, becoming who i am….
@Shrak– I have never really talked about this to anyone except here online. And you are right… I do care and my behavior does upset me so it’s not like i don’t care. I know this is not who I am. I need alot alot more than just meaningless sex. But I’m angry and can’t cope with this. I am already seeing a therapist and it’s not seeming to help. it hurt too much to be who i was. to care. It’s easier to block my emotions and not care anymore. Maybe I am blocking my feelings because i need to. i’m really scared of letting them out

I just got broken up with and i am in my room right now and i can’t stop crying. How can i deal with this breakup

-Broken Heart

the guy was my first love, he wanted to pop in and out my life and I was not cool with that so I had to let him go, and also he wanted me to leave him alone! but it hurts so much should I rebound!

My fiance’ and I are getting married in three months, and I have always thought that he has been straight with me about the women in his past. He’s slept with four women, me being the fourth. His first was his highschool girlfriend when he was seventeen, he then went out with a make-up artist he grew up with who was a total ***** and cheated on him, then a girl who was a couple of years older than him, and then there was the girl he met online that he never slept with. Those were his relationships before me, but he’s dated more than that. I will not deny that sometimes I have problems with his past, mainly because I was a virgin until we started dating, but I work to control it because our present and future are all that matters…

I moved to his state (five hours away from my hometown) to live with him in January, and two days later on our anniversary we received in the mail a notebook from the ex he met online. She had WRITTEN A BOOK called “Addicted to Love” and it was about her life, and how her relationship with her brother screwed her up (she gave him a BJ when they were kids, and he did oral to her, but now she considers it sexual abuse. I don’t know her well enough to know either way), and then all about her short relationship with my fiance complete with all of their messages back and forth to each other. She was letting him see it before she tried to publish it.

I’m a writer, so my fiance had me read it to see if it was actually publishable, and I told him the legalities, which got her to remove the messages. He told me that they had met online, chatted back and forth, and he had gone to visit her in her state (the next one over from his home-state) once. He told me that it hadn’t gone that well, that she was controlling (tried to tell him what to wear, etc), had dodged his kiss, and that she hadn’t told her mom they were dating so he ended up spending more time with a friend who was going to college there than her.

She broke up with him a couple times because of her controlling nature, and he had really thought he found the one in this flaming psycho, so he had always put it back together. Then when his dad got stationed in SC near his Marine brother, he decided a fresh start was what he needed, so he started to pull away. She showed up at his family’s house uninvited with her best friend. He told me that it had been weird, because he had already broken up with her, and she had bags with her like she thought she would be going with them.

After all he had told me about her, I thought okay, it’s just another one of her psycho moments. In her book, I found out that they had hung out at the going away party, watched a movie with his friends with his head resting in her lap (oh yeah, he’s totally freaked out), and that she had stayed the night in his room with him. He had told me she had stayed just because it was too late tp send her home. I had bought it at the time, but now I realize that if he really hadn’t wanted here there, he would have sent her away as soon as she showed up. Then there was her very vivid description of what they did while in bed (no sex), and how the next morning his friends had all-but congratulated him thinking that he had nailed her.

She had left, and soon after he was in SC their relationship totally fell apart for good. A couple of months later he met me, we had a storybook romance, and it’s simply been incredible. Neither of us had any doubts. Then while I was packing some things since we are now moving to a new place, I found a letter from her mixed up in some papers (he and I burned the others shortly after the book arrived). It was in her book, but I hadn’t read the whole thing. I did then. She talked about how she had wished things had worked out, that she would always love him, and that she had had bags packed ready to move down there to live with him.

The first time I had read that part, I had been buying into the whole she’s psycho, he didn’t want her to come thing. He told me even that the difference between me and his ex was that he had wanted me to move in with him, but he had never wanted her to. This seemed fishy now, so I point blank asked him if he had ever asked her to move in with him. He told me this time “I don’t remember. Maybe.”

WTF!? I confronted him about all the holes in his story, not in a angry-confrontational way, and he accused me of being obssessed with her and that all that mattered was that she was in his past. He acted like he was done with her by the time he moved, but now he may have asked her to move with him when before he told me that she was so psycho and had thought she was going with him without ever asking? He is excited to be marrying me, but he’s also glad because he’s felt guilty about us living together without being married, so he must not have been planning on just living with the chick…

Am I being paranoid
and obsessive like he says or is there really something fishy going on? Their relationship (not counting the multiple break-ups) lasted from December ‘08 (officially January ‘09) to July of ‘09.

He thinks I have become insecure since we set the date, and maybe I have but lately with his job related stress it seems that his affections aren’t as constant as they were before. He says that no matter how well or much he expresses it he loves me and I am the only one he wants to wake up to in the morning and so on.

I need some tips on breaking up on the phone. I know it’s better to do it in person but, that’s out of the question at this moment. Please help me! I need to call her at 5:15 today. (it’s friday)
I really don’t want to break her heart, that’s why i’m asking for advice. Help me make it easier for her. I really don’t want to hurt her, she is a great person.
I also can’t say it in person. It would hurt even more. I don’t haven’t gotten my permit yet. (problably in a few months) And her house isn’t walking distance. I really can’t go to her house just to break up. I think that would be worse (she dosen’t go to my school any more.)

PLEASE HELP ME gain some insight and advise me so I can find the reasoning behind this in order to make a decision on what to do.

I am a mother of 2 young children and am in my late 20’s. Three years ago I found out my husband was cheating on me and I was 7 months pregnant with our second child. I decided to move to the west because I had not family where I was living. Since then, I have picked up the pieces, am going to school working on my Master’s degree and taking care of my children. I have not dated or slept with another man since I left my husband. At the time, he really didn’t want a divorce because he kept putting it off…when I told him to file if that is what he wanted to do.

(My husband and I have been separated for almost 3 years now. Last year, he started calling again supposedly wanting to be a family. He called and acted like everything was supposed to be all good. I guess word got around that me and the kids were doing well financially without him. We live in separate states. But it was mainly because he needed help financially (his vehicle got repossessed), and the other woman who he cheated on me with was not helping for whatever reason. Deep in my heart I knew he was not being for real, but I was just so happy he called. Well in a short amount of time, I could tell he was still playing around and not being serious. I found out he still was messing with that other woman.

In this time of separation, he has never willfully called for our children or even helped by providing for them. He has never tried to visit them nor has seen our youngest child in person. Sometimes I wonder if he even cares whether they are still alive or not. One time after a big argument (because I found out he was lying about the other woman), he told me to take him off child support since I am supposedly doing so well. I was furious! So about 1 week after that, he filed for a divorce. I was able to get an attorney, but he couldn’t. He lied to the courts saying he didn’t make enough money, was unemployed, and got the court filing fees waived. Well, it has almost been 1 year and neither of us has followed through with it. I told him since he is the one that filed, then he should finish it.

I’ve already filed for child support AND child custody before he filed for a divorce and was granted both. I was granted sole custody and I haven’t seen a child support check since June of last year. We have nothing to divide and have no community property together.

Another thing that is bugging me is what does he see in that other woman? She is the opposite of how I am, except she is only 6 years younger than me. He told me once, that men in his family respect him because once he breaks off a relationship with someone, he doesn’t fool with them anymore…so why is the other woman not in that category?

Sometimes I feel like he is stringing me along for as long as he can so when HE gets ready to come back, he will. But I am almost 30 and don’t want to be one of those people who is separated for 10 years. I still have my whole life ahead of me. My husband is almost 20 years older than me.

So why is he not trying to finish it? Is he just being lazy, is he using me as a reason not to fully commit to the other woman, or what?

2 of my cousins are doing workout programs & all that just to get more “buff” now that they’re in a relationship lol, i heard they were a while back that’s all
& 1 of my cousins is already buff lol & he gets a rebound girlfriend fast after he breaks up with a girl, which is good for him xD
anyway do you? =p or is building your relationship more important lol xD just out of curiousity?