Ok I have a question or actually I have an issue that I need advise on. To start out I have been in my first lesbian relationship going on 6 years in January. Last year 2005, in April she left me. She stated the reasoning for this was because she didn’t feel loved and I didn’t show enough affection, she was overwhelmed with school there were multiple reasons given. I am guilty of the affection part. The same day she left she ended up sleeping with her friend of 2 years. To be honest I had suspected that there were feeling involved for a while but dismissed when I tried to address the issue and was told different. She was away for 3 weeks and I was told that she wanted to work things out with me. She moved back into our house however the phone calls, secret meeting with her friend and emails continued for 5 month. When I found in September I left for 2 days then ended up returning to her after all of the “I’m sorry’s” were said. I knew she was sorry and realized what she was doing was wrong. It has been a struggle ever since especially with trust. I don’t trust her when she is out of my sight (I know this is bad) I don’t trust her with her other friend either because I know that the friendship line in the past has been broken. This has put a huge strain on our relationship. Just recently (14months from that time) I found an email (in her email address) that indicated that that flirting might be taking place between her and her other friend. When I brought it up, once again was told that I was making stuff up in my head so again dismissed it. A couple of days later when I tried to get into her email the password had been changed. Now granted I shouldn’t be snooping, and never have until everything happened last year, but we have always had each other’s passwords to our emails addresses. And on occasion check each others emails. This again was another issue to who was hiding what and why was the password changed. In my eyes it indicated that she didn’t want me to see the emails between the 2 and that she might be hiding there talks. Am I just crazy? I have never ever been like this. But the past year I have just been so paranoid that everything is going to fall apart again and I don’t want to get caught off guard like last time. But in the same token I am not giving things a chance……
This past weekend we went out and she drank quite a bit and no matter where we were or what we were doing she was always looking at this same friend. This bothered me but I left it alone. I didn’t want to ruin a good time. The next day I brought it up and yup crazy again……and I only see what I want to see I was told. Now she is telling me that she doesn’t think that things are going to work and I don’t pay attention to her and show affection enough…dais a vu or what? Please help… any advice would be helpful.

I’ve been with her for 8 years now and I am like her whole world. She doesn’t really have any friends outside of me and I feel really bad for trying to break up with her. One of the biggest reasons is because I’m not really attracted to her anymore, I know that sounds bad but what do I do? Sex is more of a chore than it is for lust/love. By the way, I’m 24.

My girlfriend and I have been together a total of 6 years and im 3 years older than her. She just turned 21 and things are not that great. For the first 4 years life was great we had alot of fun and were always together. But since she started college things have been rocky. She was dating a guy while living with me for over 3months and then i found out. A month later she came back telling me how much she screwed up. So we got back together for 9months and we moved closer to her college and my work. a few months later she stopped coming home and the lies started again. we broke up again and 6months go by without a word. then she started calling and texting me again saying she missed me and how bad she screwed up.so we got back together for the 3rd time now and have been together since christmas. a few months have passed and now she stopped having sex with me and is always out at the bars with her guy friends. she doesnt live with me this time. So should I trust her?? sounds dumb huh?
Thank all of you for your help. Im just confused. I dont know if i should tough it out and hope she grows up like i did. Which is the other part of my problem. I dont go out alot and i work alot so its hard for me to meet new people. Everybody I know asks me y i have such a hard time finding a good girl. they all seem to think im goodlooking.

My boyfriend, whom I still love and who we had planned a lifetime relationship with broke up me a few weeks ago. Over a missunderstanding.He now says he misses me and wants to have me in his life but only as friends and nothing more. He says he still loves me but won’t change his mind about the relationship but he thinks of me as his best friend and soul mate. I am torn I love this guy so much but not sure what to do. I kinda feel like I have been spanked and sent to my room, yet it is so hard to picture my life without him in it. Am I crazy or what?

Everytime I’m driving w/ my girlfriend she harasses me because I go under the speed limit. I like to go 5 miles below the speed limit and I usually go 55 on the freeway. I think it’s safer. She always says things like “speed up” and “quit driving like a slowpoke” and it makes me sad… should I break up with her?

We have been going out for a few weeks and i just don’t like her anymore but she likes me still. I just need advise on how to end it. Please help me!!!

I’m have a lady friend that’s asking me for advise. She want’s to know what should she do about her relationship. She’s very attractive, independant, career oriented and she’s been dating a guy for 2 1/2 years that’s much her match.

In the beginning they decided to have an open relationship, because they both were coming out of long, broken marriages with lots of unresolved baggage. She now want’s to take things to the next level since the air has cleared and he agreed. Last month he paid $1200 toward a trip he intend to take in October. A lady he was dating is one of 7 other people that is going. The money is non-refundable. He say’s she should be understanding since the plans were made before now and he doesn’t want to loose the money, she doesn’t feel comfortable with the fact that the other lady is going.

I really need mature answers, (they both are my friend).

He can’t find anyone to purchase his ticket at $1200.

I am breaking up with my girlfriend tonight. Its very mutual and we have been together for a year. Is there a way to still have each other in our lives after we break up? (friends, hanging out) Cuz its going to be difficult adapting.

Well every time I try to break up with her she convinces me not to but I just don’t think we’re right for each other. How can I break up with her gently?

How do you make your girlfriend so in love with you where she never wants to break up with you?

We broke up a week ago and i already talked to her why she broke up with me and all she said was that she didnt like me as a boyfriend, but we dated for a month. I really miss her and was wondering if i should talk to her again about the breakup and see if we can patch things up, or is it too late?

Mutual break up. 8 years. I know to stay bust etc. But the pain hurts as if someone has died. He still tries to maintain a friendship like relationship~which we did not even have when we broke it off. Need advise on to get the pain out ~i have tried staying busy, exercising, etc. Please serious answers only.

One of my best friends is going out with this horrible girl. Even his mom
think so. She distracts him from school (he is only passing 2 classes, P.E and Computers.) And she has a bad reputation. Please help me help
him.
Any suggestions on how to make them break up?

Hi I have been dating this girl for a few months. In the beginning it was nice but now it seems like the relationship has died. We see each other a couple of times a week sometimes there are day when we don’t even talk to each other. No calls, texts, etc…

For a couple of weeks now i have been thinking about breaking up with her. But right now she is going through some tough times, lately she has been having a severe arguments with her family, especially her sister and the fights have worsened.

I really do care for her but not in that way anymore. I honestly don’t know how she feels about me, but a part of me suspects that her feelings for me have gone too, though i can’t really tell. I remeber her telling me a couple of weeks ago that she wasn’t looking for something serious and that when she goes away for military training in a couple of months that she doesn’t want to miss the person she’s with.

I don’t want to hurt her and add to her anguish. My question is should i break up with her. I keep postponing this and the clock is ticking before she leaves. I don’t want to be a jerk and I want her to know that she can always come to me in a friendship capcity that she is most comfortable with. What do you guys think?