he’s seriously an a** hole. i cant even begin to tell you the things i did for him and the stuff he’s done to me.I want to help karma along a little because it seams to have forgotten him. he has a year of jail over his head. I dont want to do anything with his friends, because well honestly he dosnt have any. any one have any ideas?!

I’m 22 so is she we been together since senior in high school and we have a fun relationship and its fun being together and we do love each other but here is the thing, I always thought to myself after prom (I asked her to prom and we weren’t all that close but she said yes) and since then we have been together. I always told my friend after senior she will break up with me she didn’t, 1 year later she has to be bored of me but we moved in together, 2 years later she will not like me true self she asking about us together forever our wedding 4 1/2 years 9/26 the shocker. We were at the beach laying down watching the sunset we do that a lot then she looked at me and said “Will you marry me?”. I was shocked we both started laughing I couldn’t say anything I felt so scared and nervous she said “I’m sorry I just………….thought you loved me enough but I love you like I have never loved anybody” I love the fact that she does but 1. I didn’t know girls could ask guys to marry them 2. I do love as much as she loves me 3. What do I do I’m confused I never thought we would actually last this long or feel this for each other Advise please

He says I’m too independent. I thought that was a good thing. I had a family emergency the other day and didn’t tell him until a few days later. I’m just the type of person who needs to deal with things on my own, I hate crying to anyone, especially when i know there is nothing they can do to help. We see each other about three times a week for a few hours. This is because I work days and he works nights, we have different days off, we live separately and have our own children, my daughter being the youngest in second grade. So our schedules conflict but I am satisfied because I know that there is really no other options at this time. We were planning on moving in together this coming month (jan). I’m not so sure anymore. Now he says he just feels like he is a stranger in my life. He says he feels that I don’t put an effort into our relationship and he isn’t happy. He is upset that I don’t come over his house on his day off at night (I tell him I can’t because I need to get my daughter to bed & I have no reliable babysitter & don’t like to disturb my childs routine). He says I only look for him when I feel like it, and we don’t have a relationship. I am so hurt. I feel like I can’t express myself to him now because I feel so put down by what he said… I really felt like I give this relationship everything I’ve got… I think he is going to end things. We’ve had this talk before but I guess I didn’t change, I really feel like I did, I’m not sure what I have to do to change and he won’t tell me. He hasn’t said anything for months and I thought everything was ok. I feel like I should end it if he doesn’t because now I know he is unhappy with me. I don’t want to be with someone that I’m never going to be good enough for. Does anyone understand me? Does anyone have any advise? I feel abandoned.

ok my bf and i broke up from a 2yr relationship in march… ever since we split i moved out, but we hang and do stuff what couple’s would do. But he has become a christain and i am supporting it and offered to take interest and read the bible etc..
Anyways he gives me mix msg’s he tell’s me we’ll get back together buit we’l take out time, but some days im left confused as he wont open up to me and i feel it’s one sided. and then other days he tells me to move on.. im stuck & i scared to start life without him and im scared he doesnt actualy feel the same so im still hangin with him in hope he will see i am still the person he loved and im supporting his new life change. but my heart tells me to keep hanging on, but my head tells me – move on & i dont deserve to be treated like this?
He told me we will do everything gods way? and we will get back together? i cant let go im scared of getting more hurt.

Ok so… first off I am a 23 year old female. I just got out of a 5 year relationship with a guy who really made my self esteem go down allot. I never could go out with firends or anything. I broke up with him in Febuary.

Well some of my best friends and I went on a float trip last weekend and one of my friends brought a really cute, nice, fun guy. Well I was immadiatly attracted to this guy. Then once I got to know him I got more and more attracted. On the float trip I know I was very lightly flirting but I have ben out of the dating scene for so long I forgot how to flirt. Well nothing really happened on the float trip but we have been texting a little in this past week.

Anyways i’m not sure whether or not this guy like me. I invited him to go with me and one of my firends to hike a mountain but my friend won’t be able to make it, Which I haven’t told him yet(kinda scared he will cancel). So it will just be me and him hiking.

What should I do on this hiking trip if he doesnt cancel? Should I flirt, should I just be myself, how can you flirt while hiking?

Any advise will be greatly appreciated!!

ive been in a relationship for 4 years now and we started fighting alot. we had a huge fight and i left for a weekend. i called him and asked him if i could return cause i dont have any where else to go. its his house. so i got a second job and have tryed to stay very busy. the fighting has stopped and we are getting along well. we still depend on each other. i have a car but my license is suspended so he drives me back and forth to work and he doesnt have a car he uses mine. well tomorrow i don’t work in the morning and i fell asleep but woke up a few hours later and he had some of our friends over. after i few minutes he told me to go back to sleep and got mad and went in when i didnt go in. i know we are not together but i didnt see a problem with us hangin out with the same people at the same time. is he lieing to them and me?or does he only want me around to keep up with bills im confused.

I’m a tomboy and a lot of (very rugged) dudes (between 20 and 28 yrs old ) are attracted by me because I wear viking/black metal shirts all the time with ripped jeans, black nailed bracers, combat boots and very long black hair. I know all the muscle cars engine stats from 1959 to 1979 and I play electric guitar since 12 years… those things drive them crazy! they are really impressed that I can install an exaust system on my Trans Am without any help and that I can play awesome metal riffs…

They love the fact that I touch my horse’s manure when I pick his hooves witout saying ewwww thats so gross!
And that I don’t worry about the way I look every 5 minutes and apply makeup all the time…

BUT! I had 3 relationships, about 1 year each… and it was the same story all the time, they were attracted by my personnality and the fact that they can talk about metal and cars with me, instead of fashion and gossips…. but at the same time, they were turning their head at girly girls passing by, and they were asking me to wear make-up and feminine clothes once in awhile…

They all broke up for a very girly brainless chick…

So what’s the matter? the reason why they break up is the same that make them fall in love.

It’s disgusting that they want to change me… I don’t understand…

I think I need ‘men’ advises on it…

am I just a friend after all?

i love my ex bf soooooooooo much and we get together nearly every second week have so much fun but just cant settle down back into our permanent relationship i dont know if hes scared of committment but he knows thats what i want but when we stop seeing each other for a few days or weeks he always calls me i dont give in and call him but still nope he’s the same and i need him to know im not doing this anymore but my confidence is way low and i always give in i need him to know its all or nothing but im hoping by not speaking to him it means distance and being apart makes the heart grow fonder RIGHT!
well heres the last bit he called last night saying if i asked you to move in and i said no, bcos i want to see some words get put into actions and he hasnt changed i beleive a person can change what do i do to him so he realises **** shes being serious ALL ADVISE PLEASE NO HURTFULL GET RID OFF HIM ****!! i had a reltionship for five yrs with him im 21 and we broke up bcos he meet new ppl

It always takes like 20-40 minutes for her to text me back, It takes me like 5 or 10. How should I react to this? She means the world to me, but I feel like I’m being to clingey, or that she doesn’t think I’m that important… I really don’t know, anyways i am completely open to critisim here.

Ok… So I met this guy who happens to have a son and a wife. They had problems because he cheated on her and she forgive him, but, they were breaking up and getting back together for quite a while. We were friends and sometimes I would try to give him support over the situation and give him advise on how to be a better dad and husband. Then few months later I became the like other woman, cause we fell for each other so we started dating. Before we knew she kicked him out of the house(not cause of me). When that happened we started a relationship, boyfriend/girlfriend. The problem is that right now I don’t know if I should trust him at all. He says that he only love her as his son’s mother. (but they were together 15yrs!!) Yesterday I read all the emails they’ve been sending to each other since he left the house. It seems like they hate each other with love… what should I do? should I trust him? should i just dumped him? would he cheat on me too? can he get back to his family? HELP!!

I just want you to know that its kinda long. && just to make it easier, I’ll just say my friends ex-bf’s name is Elliott.

One of my friends was dating this guy that she was in love with. They were together for a month. Then he broke up with her over IM. So she called me that night, crying. I got really mad at him cause I know how much she really liked him. So I texted him & wuz yelling @ him. Me && him got into a big fight. But then we got over it, && I found out the real reason why he broke up with her. But that’s not the point.

The point is is that she told me that I should stop talking to him because she doesn’t like him. && I wasn’t gonna do that. But I did for a while but then I texted him one day. && then we started talking again. We would talk like everyday. And we became really close. But just not that close.

Ok so today I was talking about Elliott to one of my friends. && my friend said that I like Elliott. && I don’t. && even if i did like him, I would have asked him out already. But my friend said that I’m probably just afraid of a long-distance relationship. Cuz he lives like 2 hours away, or something like that. And I said I dont like him cuz I don’t even know who he is. So why would I like him? Can someone please give me some advise so I can prove to my friends that I don’t like Elliott. Cuz its really getting on my nerves. Thx!

I just broke up with my long distance boyfriend of almost 9 months. It was over his smoking weed, mostly. He started up again about 5 months ago (he had been sober for 7 months), and we were doing somewhat ok with everything, I didn’t really like it when he did it, but I dealt with it anyway.
The ultimate cause of what led to me walking away from him was that he told me (not really sure if he was trying to piss me off or what) that he was going to buy an X amount of dollars worth of the stuff, which in turn not only hurt me, but made me mad because we were planning on moving in together, and he still hadn’t saved anything so that we could do that, he would I guess rather smoke it all away.

Deep down, I know I did the right thing in walking away, because he has always told me that I cant change him and get him to quit smoking, and that he would need to do that for himself, which I totally agree with. And he has always told me that if it came down to me or the weed, he wouldn’t know what to do.
I still feel guilty walking away, and I almost regret it. And I guess I still can’t believe that he let me walk away, the person I once knew wouldn’t do that, he had always told me that he didn’t want to lose me.
His whole attitude has changed since he started smoking again, and a few weeks ago, he had one of his friends move in to help with some bills so that he could start saving, but that has ultimately been a bad move for him because not only does this person smoke way more than my ex, but he has, I believe, been a huge influence on our relationship since he moved in.
He is someone I don’t even know anymore, he isn’t the person that I first met.
I’m worried about him. He was going in the right direction when we met, and then when we started talking about moving in together. But now his priorities are so messed up that I don’t know what to do. As a friend I want to help him…
Advise?

I really want her back and she always talks to me.Shes been pretty ill lately and I think the stress of everything was too much for her and she needed a break.Shes starting to get back on her feel though,so if I wait it out do you think there’s still a chance to get back with her?

Its been a year since my ex and I broke up and we have both moved on to new girlfriends and boyfriends. However, I can’t seem to stop thinking about him and what he’s doing. We broke up because he cheated on me several times. The guy I’m with now treats me so well and he’s everything I could ask for, but why can’t I get the ex off my mind? I feel like I’m over it, has anyone been in this situation before help please I feel like is getting in the way of my current relationship.