Need Help With Ex-girlfriend! Please Help!?
Hi guys I know this is pretty long but please help me out if you can find it in your heart to aid a really down college student.
I will choose a best answer and dish out points whenever possible
Alright so basically, my ex-girlfriend and I broke up like 3 months ago because she said that she needed time to “grow up”. Basically, we decided to still be friends because we really still like each other and get along great. However, I am still very much in love with her.
The problem is that lately I’ve been feeling really down around my ex and kind of jealous and I don’t know why. She’s basically perfect at everything. She’s very attractive because a lot of guys flirt with her, wears size 00 pants, exercises constantly, her parents are wealthier than mine as she lives in a half a million dollar house and her dad retired at the age of 48, she always gets whatever she wants (material-wise) i.e. she has two pairs of Uggs, wears all Abercrombie clothing, gets the newest iPod every year, breaks her cell phone at least 3 times a year, has two pairs of Sperry type shoes, and gets Tiffany and Co. jewelry costing around $175 once a year (She gets all this stuff usually for Christmas or just because presents but she always gets whats on her list of wants), she makes friends easily, has time to join lots of clubs in college, works as a store model for Abercrombie and has a higher GPA than me while majoring in journalism, and sometimes I feel like she has all of God’s blessing even though she is extremely atheist.
However, I am the complete opposite as I always work for what I get. I’m in one of the top 10 business schools in the nation but struggle to maintain a 3.0 GPA and spend most of my time studying, I haven’t met very many people in college because I’m trying to save money by living at home with my parents (my ex lives in the dorms which her parents pay for even though her parents live 2 blocks away from campus), I spend all my free time at home, I don’t find myself as attractive because I’ve only worked for American Eagle and I am Asian, my parents want me to earn things so I have to work to pay for my clothes, cell phone, car repairs and other stuff I want unlike my ex.
I just feel crappy to the point that I’ve been unmotivated to study and I want to sleep all day. I’ve stopped going to the gym and I have been wallowing in my own self-pity, I’m always wishing that my parents were a lot richer because my ex gets to finish college at her own pace while I’m pressured to finish in 4 while her parents can also afford to let her take summer classes not only at where we go to school but to other colleges such as New York University and/or Chicago to make her workload easier while I don’t have that luxury.
The only thing I feel like I have an advantage over her is that I know how to invest and save my money better than her because she can’t save her own money at all. She doesn’t even know how the basic definition of a stock or how a credit and debit card work. I am very ambitious and always look for ways to make extra money through investing and saving but I always still feel down because I know that she’ll still get ahead of me in the future because her father is already investing money for her for her retirement in the thousands already.
Despite all this I feel like God’s let me down. Why does he bless people that don’t believe in him? Should I stay away from my ex even though I still love her? She is white and we’ve known each other for 4 years and dated each other for 2 and a half years. Can a relationship with 2 different people like this work out again? Why do I feel this way? I get really jealous because no girls flirt with me at college compared to guys hitting on her. What should I do? Am I even in her league at all?
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talk to her if it will be another chance or not then move on if you want to forget about her go on the erasing mode don’t see her don’t call her don’t talk to her until you are completely over her.
talk it out and be confident
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Hey there
And if you already have friends, make more 
Money just makes life easier that’s all but if you are determine there is nothing that you can’t achieve, so just hang in there 
Life struggles are what makes you as a person grow and become stronger.
You seem to be going through a tough time and I hope I can help.
I also don’t mean to offend so please don’t misunderstand some of the things I’m about to write.
I hope you find your confidence because you seem to be putting yourself down a lot. So what if your gf comes from a wealthy background? So what if she’s attractive? So what if she gets good GPAs? In your eyes she seems to be perfect but in my opinion there is no such thing as perfection. Everyone has their flaws and I’m sure if you think about it long enough you’ll find more of her flaws that you didn’t notice before. It might be harsh but by identifying her flaws it’ll make you feel a lot better. It’s definitely one way to get out of the ‘dumps’. Anyways, I’m sure YOU have MANY GOOD POINTS as well. You have to remind yourself that she was with you for a reason. There was something about you that she liked. Something she was attracted to in you in the first place. Just remind yourself of the good points you possess. Even what would seem like nothing at all, like how fast you can type or how good you are at drawing stick people. Everyone has good points and I’m sure you are better than her in much more than just knowing how to save and all that.
On the whole wealthy thing…
Working hard is a good thing. The feeling you get for the efforts, persistence and hard work that you put in has to account for something, doesn’t it? It’s also a good life lesson. Besides, you can become more social by working. Make friends. This makes it bit more fun and is definitely good for your health
On the whole she gets a higher GPA than me thing…
Keep studing hard. If you want to get better grades maybe find a study partner to help you. Great way to make friends as well. Or maybe find the right way to learn. I know if I was given a textbook to study, I would most likely fail, but if I somehow turn it into a game or use pictures than I would do a lot better. It’s just finding the right study method for you.
On the whole appearance thing…
Looks is not everything but if it bugs you, there are littles things you can do to make yourself feel better. Buy new clothes. By changing your style a bit, it gives off a different vibe. Besides clothes do make a person. It doesn’t have to be expensive either, just stylish. Just remember to stay true to yourself. I’m a chick and I would go out with a dude with a great personality over some good-looking guy with no personality any day
On the whole religion thing…
It might seem like God’s let you down but maybe he has his reasons and I’m sure her family went through a lot of hardships to get to where they are now. Just remember all the good things God has blessed you with.
On the whole ex thing…
Breaking up is never easy. I think it would be in best interest for the both of you to be apart for a while. She says she needs time to grow and you are obviously going through something personal. This maybe be cliche but you’ll find someone out there you is right for you. She wants to be friends, so that’s a good thing. Maybe you guys can work things out in the near future and get back together. Honestly though, you must deal with this self-pity and wallowing first before anything can happen. If you feel like this (that she’s better than you and all that) than the relationship between you two won’t last.
I come from an Asian background as well and I definitely understand the pressure placed on you. Don’t let it get you down. Definitely get out there. Be more proactive. Hit the gym like you use to. It’s good for self-esteem. Join clubs. Make time for yourself. I know its easier said than done but you can’t just study all the time. You need fun to balance things out. Set goals and work to achieve them. Remind yourself there are others who are worse off. I know its terrible but its true. Just be positive. If you need more advice or someone to talk to, I’ll be more than glad to help.
With a positive outlook and attitude, I know you will succeed. Just keep reminding yourself of the good things you have in life no matter how small. Your future is in your hands so get motivated and get back out there.
I hope it turns out well and good luck.
^^My post is just as long as yours. Maybe even longer lol^^