Cheating EX Wants Me Back!? Help?
My boyfriend of over a year and I broke up this summer when he became a drinking, partying, smoking guy and started treating me badly. He got a new girlfriend about two weeks after we went on ‘break’ because he didn’t officially break up with me. He cheated on me, lied to me, and used me.
I know it’s a stupid question, but how much should I let him back into my life. I don’t want to date him again, but he knows more about me than anyone else in the world. And now that he has stopped smoking, goes to parties and doesn’t drink, and broke up with his girlfriend who was known for giving oral- he is slowly starting to realize how he ruined us and wants to get back together. He says he still loves me, and I know I still love him despite all the things he’s done. I’m not going to get back together with him because I wont allow myself to, but
How close do I let him get to me again? (I know it seems stupid that I’m asking this, when I shouldn’t be talking to him at all. but he’s starting to realize his mistakes and better himself.)
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DONT go back .He’ll always cheat and hurt you. I ended up giving my boyfriend a second chance,we got married, had 2 kids. After 15 years of a mentally/physically abusive marriage I took the kids and left.He cheated on me thruout the marriage too. I wasted the best part of my life with a man who never really loved me or cared about me. He will ALWAYS be selfish and only love/care for himself!
You said in the first paragraph that he cheated on you, lied to you and used you as well.
As bad as he’s treated you, why would you want him anywhere near you? Whatever his reasons for wanting to get back with you are, they are not genuine. He is only in it for his own personal gain, and probably thinks that you are likely to take him back anyway. In doing this, you would only be allowing him to repeat the same behavior and treat you like crap all over again (which, I can guarantee he will do). If he truly loved and cared about you, none of the problems you described would have been an issue in the first place. At this present time, all he’s doing is primping himself for the inevitable second chance, and telling you what you want to hear.
I know that it’s probably not what you want to hear, but I think now is an EXCELLENT time to show this guy that you deserve better and are more than capable of moving on. First thing first, however; above all things, YOU need to realize that you deserve better. Seriously, take it from the above commenter! After staying with the same abusive jerk for years, she had to leave anyway. Instead of wasting anymore time on your own abusive relationship situation, why not live your life and find someone better? That someone better DOES exist!
(PS–*it doesn’t take him hitting you for you to be a victim of abuse. Treating you badly, lying to you, using you and blatantly disrespecting you is emotional abuse. Don’t subject yourself to that.*)