Forgiving a cheating ex?
I dated someone for 2 and half years and found out that he never broke up with who he claimed to be his ex and is engaged. When I found out about this of course I was upset and when I called him on it, he had the nerve to call me a hater and then gave me her phone number to verify that he was engaged. Well, I told her every little detail about our relationship and initially she wanted to meet with me to get all the proof I had but later decided that she didn’t need to meet and that she had all the proof that she needed. Of course I still did everything I could to expose him for who he is. The other day I ran into him after not seeing him or talking to him in about six months, he was buying condoms which means that either he is cheating still or his fiance left him. Anyway, I spoke to him and he was nasty with me as if I screwed him over or something. Over the past week or so I decided that I should forgive him so I can move on with my life but after the way he acted when he saw me, I started to change my mind. I need to forgive him but I’m not sure how. I would send him a letter but I know his nosey mother would read it. He changed his phone number once his fiance started suspecting cheating so I can’t call him. Any suggestions without making me look creepy? I know he doesn’t deserve my forgiveness but I believe it’s a huge part of the process of me moving on
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wow. that sounds tuff, I think that he’s not ready to talk, and i know its hard….but if you send him a letter, just hope he reads it…i mean obviously if he wanted your apology he would of already looked for one. And you shouldnt even be the one Apologizing, it was his fault, Karmas a B**ch. Your better off with out him, you deserve better, and the process will be hard, but im sure you can do it (:
Oh my God. I thought my story was bad enough…I can’t even imagine what you’re going through. He is a jerk! You don’t have to forgive him, but at the same time, try not to be bitter about it. Forgiving him would tell him that what he did to you was okay, which is most certainly was NOT. How dare he do this to you and to the other woman. He had no right and he does not deserve your forgiveness at all. Don’t call him, don’t text him, and try to limit the amount of time that you think about this whole situation. It will take time, but try to move on. If you keep talking to him, he will just keep being nasty with you and lying to you and stretching this whole thing out. His poor, poor naive fiance…
The only way to forgive him is not to do anything. Blank him out and go on with your life. If you see him ignore him, he is bad news. Once a cheat always a cheat. Do not get mixed up in his relationships unless it is a good friend of yours. Do not lower your self to his level.