Should I give cheating ex another chance?
My ex and i were having problems leading up to the cheating. He was a very jealous guy n not always trusting of me. (That’s another issue in its self) well I had a bad feeling one day so I looked in his myspace n found where he had sent two girls messages trying to get to know them. I made a fake profile to match one of those girls n blocked her from writing back so I could talk to him with my fake one. Well I set up a date with him n he showed up to meet this girl but I was there instead. Ok his reason for meeting this girl was since we had been having problems he thought i was going to leave him n he wanted to see if he could feel anything for another girl cause if he could he knew he would be okay with out me.( I some what understand this) But he says he was stupid n would never do anything like that again. He also claims he never had intentions of doing anything more than just talking to this girl. Well that right there was enough for me to break up with him cause thats cheating in my book. After we broke up I heard from a not very reliable source that he was sleeping with his ex wife while he n i were together. I would never have believed that before I caught him cheating. there were times in our relationship where i did think that something might have been going on with his ex but i would talk to him about it n then let it go. I love him but I know that love is not near enough to make things work. He wants another chance n i want to give it to him but at the same time i know that it will take so much for me to ever be able to trust him again n i may never be able to. I just am torn right down the middle here. Is it worth it to at least try again, maybe just start off slow n let him try to show me i can trust him? Or am I just better off letting him go n just trying to move on? Im 24 n I have a 2yr old son so its not always as simple for me to go out n meet guys n all. My ex was really great with my son n i wonder if maybe my being afraid I wont find another guy that will take on that responsibility is also making me feel like i need to try again with him. Any insight you guys can give me I appreciate it!!!
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Nope! Just because he was great with your son, is NOT reason enough to take him back.
NO WAY!
You already caught him through the Myspace. Then you go as far as creating a pseudo profile to really see if that is indeed what’s going on. Its all there in black & white. THEN, you’ve even had odd feelings of something possibly going on with him & the ex wife but brushed it off…..only to find out from someone else it was true. If you have a gut feeling about something, then it is later revealed to you that your instinct was right….that is evidence enough.
You are young and WILL meet someone who will treat you AND your son as you SHOULD be treated. Don’t cut yourself short by accepting this guy back. Is this dude REALLY someone you want your son to look up to? To teach him how to cheat??? With no morals? Nah…..he’s not worth it!
You and your son deserve better. You’re both worth it!
Drop him and move. You don’t need this kind of BS in your life.
He not only is a cheater he is a loser. This has nothing to do with his ability to continue to be a good dad, he just sucks at marriage. Once a cheater always a cheater. His Solution to your problems was to find a new woman instead of working with you to fix things. He is a loser.
Kill him.
If you bought his line of BS about testing the waters… you should take him back.
The truth is, this is probably not the first time, just the first time you caught him.
Maybe instead of concentrating on who the next guy will be you should settle down and raise your son.
Here is my insight hon.
1. You can’t make another person cheat on you. He wanted to and he got caught so he blamed you. That was a perfect cop out.
2. He will just cheat on you and anyone else for that matter cuz he knows you all will just give him another chance.
3. He lies,cheats and deceives.
4. You are better off without him. Period.
5. You said yourself that you can’t trust him.
6.You will find someone when you arent even looking hon. Don’t give in just cuz you’re lonely. You are better than that. You have a child and that little boy deserves a happy mommy not a miserable one.
i did give a cheating ex more than just a second chance. he had a lot of chances but he was the one ending things with me. i never knew he was cheating until a couple years ago.
dont give him another chance. my ex told me that no one would want me b/c i had a kid and he was wrong, i have a great hubby who loves my son.
let him go. love him all you want but he isnt worth the stress