Should i go on antidepressants for this (read my full story)?
two months ago i experienced the greatest disappointment of my life. my boyfriend of 3 years and best friend of 8 broke my heart, leaving me to “find himself” and supposedly be alone, though he already met someone the last time i spoke to him. this was the love of my life, and you can imagine, i was devastated. we had shared so much, been through so much, i truly believed after all the years and issues we’ve conquered, that we would last.
now my question is twofold: a part of it is for the guys out there, what do you think could have made him behave in this way, when things were going so well for us? midlife crisis (he’s approaching his 30th birthday)? another woman undoing in a matter of weeks what him and i spent years building? it wasn’t a lack in love because even as he left me, he went on about how he is going against himself and knows he’ll regret it, that he still loves me just as much etc.
secondly, i am seeing a therapist and i was wondering whether you think i should be going on some antidepressants. its been over two months and i’m still so incredibly sad. he’s not around me (it was a long distance relationship for the most part) and i’ve cut all contact, haven’t spoken to him since it happened. i’ve given myself time and i’ve tried to keep busy, focus on other things, people etc. i just cannot get over it. i miss him incredibly and dream of him constantly. how can i help myself? what did you do in similar situations?
i appreciate all your advice and thank you for taking the time to read this. God bless.
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I can understand how you feel, I had a similar problem, and No, do not even think to go on antidepressants, they won’t work.
You need to treat the root cause of your depression and drugs won’t solve that problem. Try to cheer up, he’ll come back if he really wants to.
Pills only put the problem aside to let you think out out the problems with your support team Ask your therapist .Remember love cant be forced.Get out keep yourself busy >Idle thoughts come from an idle mind
I do not think you should go for the anti-depressants. What you are experiencing is sadness, rejection, and love loss. Anti-depressants are for for a medical condition and these things you suffer from are very painful and difficult to deal with and are in fact a “part of life”. I mean in no way to dismiss what you are going through but coming to terms with these issues is something we all go through and helps make us what we are. As for why he would do this to you there are as many reasons as their are people. I cannot know why he did this and I know the pain of losing someone I have committed to and it is a painful thing to deal with. You will only get the answer from him and he’ll probably lie about it anyway if he even knows why he did it which he may not. Good luck and talk it out with your therapist and know we all go through hard times like this. There are good guys out there when you’re ready just take it slow and easy.
I wouldn’t recommend antidepressants, they are a temporary solution to a permanent problem.
You need to use this as a stepping stone, we all have set backs in life and we should grow through them. You avoid this, something else is going to come up sooner or later.
But if you look inside of yourself and deal with it you will grow in wisdom and generally as a person and will be able to overcome the many blinds that keep us from the full life experience.
Depression is a part of life for everyone just like joy and laughter… They come in phases, I am sure you can get through this… with time you will recognize that this boy was not even good for you anyway and you will probably move on to better things. good luck.
My opinion is NO!!!!!! Do not go on medication for your problem. We have all had our share of heartbreaks. It is a part of life…..that SUCKS really bad. But It is like a loved one passing away. We grieve, get mad, get depressed, and then in time get over it. This to will pass, and you will find that this was for the best, and that you will be much happier later. I know even those words make you want to say “yea right” but trust me, you will be fine. Remember, you are a good person, you are in control of you, and you deserve to be happy. Keep good thoughts in your mind, and the rest will take care of itself. Good Luck and Best Regards.