Ok heres the situation I was married to my ex for 13 years…he went to Kuwait to work and things started getting weird, his ex emailed him which I found out about and after him lieing to me about it I decided we should split.Now recently I found out he has had s philippine girl living with him for the past five months (we’ve only been split up for about 2) In our marriage we both did wrong.I accept my blame for my part. Even as hurt as I am by the whole mess I have tried to be polite even friends which is met by name calling and rudeness.We have kids together, no child support has been paid in a lil over a month. So how do I deal with this…eventually I know we have to come to some kind of understanding as our youngest daughter is only 5….
He is in Kuwait I am in Georgia, phone calls dont work….it gets really bad…its been two weeks now since we’ve spoken, i told him we both needed to cool off, and now I think hes giving me the silent treatment
Didnt go back to him…I found out about her after we had split up, she was living with him for two months before I left him…knowing about me but keeping hrself hidden because he told her i would be vindictive…this info from an email he wrote…ive never talked to her…only seen pictures as evidence…so I know she was there

My boyfriend was in a 6 year relationship which ended in the beginning of November last year. Him and I started dating and fell in love in the first week of December. He did have some time being single and seeing the other “fish in the sea” if you catch my drift. We have now been dating since then, and are very serious, see each other every day. He moved from his city to mine about a month ago to be closer to me.

However, I find myself increasingly concerned about whether or not he is ready to be in another long term relationship. I am FRANTIC about whether or not he still has feelings for his ex. They were together for SO long, and they did SO much together ~ travelled the world, had TONS of mutual friends (him and I have none) and were just the “perfect” couple. Everyone thought they would be together forever. He landed up cheating on her when he was drunk that is why they broke up after six years. He says that he did this because he was unhappy in the relationship and it was his escape route (although yes of course he says he HATES himself for it and it was the ugliest thing he could’ve done and being drunk and unhappy in the relationship was no excuse for cheating).

So he says he loves me more than he’s ever loved anyone, but I am wondering whether or not he still misses her. He would never say anything bad about her, which is a good thing. I know that if he badmouthed her that would be negative. He blames himself fully for their breakup and says she wa a great girl who taught him a lot etc. He doesn’t throw their long relationship in my face, but he talks about his past a LOT. The places he’s visited, the things he’s done….(he doesn’t mention her name but I know he was with HER at all those places and experiences)… he sounds so happy talking about it all… it makes me sad… almost as if he could be wistful?!

Sometimes he gets quiet and distant, and I wonder if he’s thinking about her, and missing her….
I don’t know!!! How do I know that he is really over her? He is still friends on Facebook with her family and friends… not her of course ~ she deleted him..their lives were so intertwined…

How do I know I’m not just the replacement. He DOES love me, I know that…. but I can’t help feeling second place… the one AFTER “The One.”

How do I know? What do I do?? He always reassures me and I don’t want to bring up my inferiority over her with him again and create an issue and make myself appear insecure and push him away….

I just feel desperate about it. Every story he tells me, I know he was with her , he is remembering being with her…. I told him that once, and he said well he can’t change the past and that he has had a life before me, which I know is true.. but I can’t help feeling down about it all I feel so insecure about her and what they shared. I often wonder whether he regrets their breakup… whether he thinks of her and misses her.. is he actually READY for “us…” he says he is….but I don’t see how. He must still love her, after all the years. I dont’ want to live in her shadow… its a shadow in my head, yes… but I can’t seem to shake it…

Its really, REALLY getting me down (((

What if I was just the next best thing, and yes he does love me, but he NEEDS love and it was better than him being alone… and he also says I really helped him from his depression after their breakup….Does this mean I was his crutch? Sure he loves me, but does he love me for what he gets from me with regards to love and companionship again, and not having to be lonely etc?!

HELP PLEASE!!!!!

Yesterday I went to my ex’s place, he basically invited me over. Well he gave me a hug and then asked me what was up in my life. I told him my cat had died and he laughed. =(

Then he showed me pics of his new gf Kristen but I’m still afraid I love him even though he pushed me up against a wall…then he threatened to call the police on me.

I don’t get it…any advice on how to deal with this? It hurts really bad and even though half of me hates him, half of me loves him. Hellpp?!
Please don’t tell me to get a new bf I don’t feel up to it…
He was basically my first love I guess…
I just feel so broken and I feel like I want to kill myself.

Im dealing with a painful breakup I still love this man.But it doesn’t seem to be going any were. He dosn’t want a commitment .We live in the same apartment building.This makes it very hard for me because I see him every day and its tearing my heart out.

I have decided to move to a different city and leave this all behind me .I will not contact or tell him were Im living.

Would you suggest this to be a good thing to do on helping me heal my broken heart?

Okay, here’s the story.

I met my new boyfriend right after a breakup, and I moved into a house with him (we share a room), after 4 weeks of knowing him. I probably shouldn’t have done that, but it was convenient.

Anyway, we have not had sex yet, and he said that he respected my decision to take it slow.

Well, yesterday morning at 3 am, I was woken up because he was literally finger f*cking me. Then he put my hand on his junk and basically asked for oral sex.I said, “No. Stop it, I’m trying to sleep.”

What also really bothers me is that I was on Ambien (a sleeping pill), and he knew that I would be out-cold passed out when he did this.

I don’t know what to do, because I can’t afford to rent a $650/month master bedroom by myself. My new boyfriend is also 5 years younger than me (he is 20), so he’s very immature (but when I first met him, he acted mature).

Anyway, when I got home from work, I told him that I refused to share a bed with someone who molested me in my sleep. So I made him sleep in the other room, and I told him that I wanted him out asap.
He seemed really upset about it, and he looked like he was ready to cry.
He kept asking me for, “Just one more chance”, saying that he’d never do it again.

What do you think? Is it serious enough to break up over, or should I give him one more chance?

We have been “officially” dating for 3 days.
PS: I asked him why he did it, and he just kept looking at the floor saying, “I don’t know”.

My mom got drunk tonight and now I got in a huge fight with her and I’m slamming walls and shit and I’m so fucking stressed besides that, I’m dealing with a VERY hard breakup on me and I feel like running away. I cannot take this anymore. I’m seriously about to run away. I need some advice I cannot take it anymore I’m so close to running away you don’t even know. Help

So my ex and I dated for 2 yrs. We fell for each other very fast and felt love after a month of dating. 8 months after dating I moved 2 hours away to go to college and we last for about a year doing this long distance relationship. I came back about every 2 or 3 weeks but the distance wore on my gf and she lost some feeling for me. In order to save a chance of getting back together in the future we broke up. It was kind of a bitter breakup but we are friends again. It was bitter because she is already dating a new guy a month after the breakup. I’m 20 now and she is almost 18 and she is dating a guy who is almost 16. She plans on going to school nearby to me so she will be 10 min. away from me next fall so I think it is hopeful that we get back together but there is a small chance she goes to school somewhere else. We both care for each other but realize the long distance relationship was causing problems for us. I’m wondering if it is a good idea to get together in the future?

This girl is a very proud controlling type. Due to this we had a fight 5 days ago and never spoke since then. Today I wrote a message to her telling her its over. But no reply, nothing. Last time I wanted to break up she was nearly crying so I gave her a second chance…but what does this mean? She ain’t replying….

I’m embracing this uncomfortable feeling of despair and anger after breakup of 5 months ago. It was really bad breakup because my ex just treated me like trash at the end. He has already moved on (of course!) and he is now with a new girl. For last 5 months, I don’t feel like I live my life; I’m taking a leave from school to “heal,” but things just don’t seem to change that much. Because I was doing all my best to the best for him, I feel so belittled and lost confidence as a woman. I know I deserve a better guy as everyone else says, at this moment I feel like I’m nothing and nobody will be pleased to have me. I know I want to change this situation, but I don’t know how. Any positive advice will be appreciated. Thanks.

I’ve liked this girl for a while now, but she’s had a boyfriend until April. We stayed close all year, and right after she broke up, she came right to me for advice and to help her deal w/ the breakup. Since then, we’ve grown even closer to each other to the point where we’re talking all throughout the day either texting, on AIM, or video chat (we’re at different colleges, so it hasn’t been in person yet in a while), and I’ve really developed even stronger feelings for her. I also found out from a good friend of both of ours that she likes me too, but the friend said “she likes you, just trust me, wait a bit, she wants to be single a little bit longer.” She just got home today from college and I’m going to chill with her tomorrow, grabbing coffee and watching a few movies at her place. Obviously, from what the friend said, I don’t make a move yet, but is there anythign special that I SHOULD do tomorrow? And how long do you think I should wait before making any move on her?
Thanks!