ok. so here is the deal. i’m 23. I met him 3 years ago… and fell in love with him like never before. the relationship so good when it was good, i felt like i was high. I loved him so much. His family. I saw our children together. i’d do anything for him. but when it was bad, it was verbally abusive, and just really awful. he made me cry like no one has. But I stayed in the relationship because I loved him…. It’s been 5 months since we are broken up. Basically I don’t think we were good for each other at all but we just wanted to hold on because we didn’t want to let go and because of that reason i do think u can love someone very much who’s awful for u….or maybe i’m just crazy for staying in the relationship. he broke up with me about 3 times and killed me each 3 times and came back … in the end i moved countries and broke up with him for the first time..

Here’s the deal….I feel like I changed as a person after this breakup. Or I’m not sure, maybe I am just going through a phase. I am sleeping around like a slut. I don’t care about sex. Honestly I stopped caring about anything except my career.. Before him, i only slept with my boyfriend of 1 year who by the way also had cheated on me with my best friend. I also really had cared about him. Basically i’m trying to say… before this relationship– sex used to be very very special and meaningful to me. After this last relationship– i think i have lost it. I am past anger and hurt and not being able to get out of bed, i just don’t even care anymore. In the past 3 months i have slept with 5 people- none of them were even close to dating. i’m acting like a slut, and to be honest i don’t even care. Sometimes i think maybe it’s because i don’t have faith anymore. this relationship has really fucked something up in me. can i ever going to go back to who i was again? or is this me, becoming who i am….
@Shrak– I have never really talked about this to anyone except here online. And you are right… I do care and my behavior does upset me so it’s not like i don’t care. I know this is not who I am. I need alot alot more than just meaningless sex. But I’m angry and can’t cope with this. I am already seeing a therapist and it’s not seeming to help. it hurt too much to be who i was. to care. It’s easier to block my emotions and not care anymore. Maybe I am blocking my feelings because i need to. i’m really scared of letting them out

I just got broken up with and i am in my room right now and i can’t stop crying. How can i deal with this breakup

-Broken Heart

After a breakup there is a “grieving process” that one goes through. One of the “stages”, so to speak, is an angry stage. Has anyone been able to effectively deal with this anger in a constructive way? I really don’t want to direct my anger towards my Ex because I can see her point of view and really don’t “blame her” for anything, she didn’t do anything wrong like cheating on me etc. She just ended it because she was not happy with the relationship and I can see why she was unhappy…But, I still feel angry! I want to call her up and cuss her out!!! Because that would make me feel better. I’m certainly not going to do that. But that is what I want to do!! But at the same time, I don’t want to do that because I know that I will regret it later. So what are you supposed to do!!!Arrrrrggg!

guys, after breaking up with this girl i really love, i’m abit depressed and all.
but i’m trying my best to move on.
but is my way of ‘moving on’ wrong?
i try to move on by flirting with girls going to parties and things like that.
i dun know, i seem to get along well during conversations with new girls but it all seems to go nowhere.
and i get depressed all over again because i’m with nobody at the end of the night
its like i tell myself to move on, but i keep pressuring myself to get ANOTHER girl as soon as possible so that i don’t feel as lonely as i’m feeling right now.
i mean, somehow i know this is not the right way to move on.
but what then?

(thanks for the advices and comments appreciate it. )

me and my long term boyfriend broke up today… we lived together in cali and he moved today to chicago to go get his life together.. i took him to the airport this morning and we said our goodbye’s. we were both crying and he didnt want to leave, but we both know he has no choice. he says he still wants a future with me and so do i with him. he said he will be back, but didnt say when. he wants to get a job out there and save some money and come back to me. i love him so much and this pain is unbearable. i feel like i cant breathe, like ive lost my best friend, like he’s died, like i will never see him again. i cant stop thinking about it. we have been together 24/7 for a long time and now he’s completely gone.. i dont even know what to do with myself. im so hurt. we are going to keep in contact, but it will be very little. please any advice to help me feel better. im desperate. and please nothing negative. thanks

My boyfriend of a little more than a year and I broke up three weeks ago. The last couple months of our relationship was just going downhill. We still love and care alot for each other, and in the past few weeks he has called me and texted me almost daily to see how i am doing and to keep tabs on me. I had a few really big crying spells and upsets because he was the phone that left me. I see the negative side of our relationship clearly, and had still thought we wcould work things out. but he’s obv done trying after having a struggle in the last couple months. alot led up to this point, we fought about petty things that was a result of insecurity and jealousy on my part, and stubbornness in a sense on his part. despite it all he did stick by me, but i think he got exhausted/ numb to it after time. im still surprised he contacts me and tells me that im cute and calls if im out. out of desperation i even emailed his mom, and instead of getting mad at me he was understanding about it. but for the past few weeks he did somewhat lead me on with words and actions. and i also led myself on as well of course. now he is saying we arent gonna get back together, and while i know that his mind could change yet again in the future, right now his mind is made up. do i just stay friendly with him? when i did that a few days ago to show him im moving on, he was open to hanging out with me. but as soon as he saw how emotional i got, the idea got shut down again. what do u guys think? please no harsh opinions, b/c honestly its been a rough few weeks.

Not only girls get hurt but so do guys.. we went out for 8 years… and she ends up saying
she has not experience the world enough.
WTF she should of told me she did not wanted serious in the beginning
not tell me after 8 years together…
Life is a B*tch and if you fall to deep. Your F*CKED..

=*(

WHY DO WE FALL IN LOVE. WHY DO WE ALL GIVE OUR HEART
AND THE PERSON WE GIVE IT TO.. DON’T CARE.. AND SHATTERS IT… Y DOES IT HURT!!!?

We broke up on May 1st. Actually, we never officially broke up. We had a huge fight and he ended up starting to ignore me and reject all my calls and texts from then on. I tried MANY times to try to talk to him and fix it but he wouldn’t give me a chance. We were together for 6 months. I left a voicemail saying that I thought I loved him but he wasn’t handling the situation right by avoiding me, and he never called me back or even tried to initiate contact. 2 months later, I’m still not over him. I’m afraid he’s already moving or moved on and I want to try one more time before I officially move on. Every once in a while I’ll text him and he’ll respond but then after a few texts he’ll just stop responding.

Anyways, I texted him late one night and this is how our convo went:
Me: I’m sorry for bugging with you the text msgs. I’ll stop for now on, I promise.
Him: You’re not bugging me, silly…
Him: How’ve you been
Me: Really good. You?
Him: Pretty great actually. Thanks for asking
Me: Happy to hear that.
Me: Can I ask you a question?
Him: Yeah of course.
Me: Do you even miss me at all?
Him: Yeah I do.

Anyways, I didn’t know what to say after that text, so I never wrote back.
He hasn’t tried to initiate contact with me at all, since that last text. I’m always the one to initiate. I’ve asked him if he wanted to catch up for lunch one time, and he said “Yeah sure, what’d you have in mind?” but whenever I try to plan something, he ignores my texts.

I don’t know what to do. I want to text him today, with no regrets of sounding desperate & pathetic, because I’m tired of waiting & hoping.

Should I text him this: ?
Me: Hey. You busy?
Him: (if he responds NO)
Me: I feel like I already know the answer, but I wanted to ask you something
Him: (if he responds)
Me: Is there any chance of us ever getting back together?

I’ve recently been broke up with my boyfriend. We officially split up this past Tuesday. And on Mondays and Wednesdays we have a class together. He actually skipped the class on the Wednesday following the break up. I have done everything you can to try to eliminate him from my life. Including getting rid of his number, texts, Facebook of him and his sister, and I’m feeling better. But I’m wondering how I’ll be with seeing him. I haven’t seen him since we broke up on Tuesday the 19th. We didn’t have a particularly good break up. So I’m not sure how I should feel or behave. Plus we have a class together for the next 3 months. If anyone has any suggestions that helps.
Thank you. I was going to do that. But I was more wondering how can I distance myself. Like I have found myself trying to dress cute so he’ll see, etc. Anyway I was wondering how can I distance myself and completely get over him while seeing him on a regular basis.

her birthday is coming on the 4th of August.. do it on her bday? and what should i say? i hate my gf right now!!

My bf was supposed to meet with me this morning but he isn’t here and is over an hour late. He is never late. He is always early. I know that there isn’t an emergency of nothing bad like that. Lately he has been a showing up later and later but with apologies but not an hour! How do I handle this without sounding like a nag and without threats of breaking up? idk, what to do.

im going through a very hard breakup right now and im trying to stay strong but its soo hard

Why do some people move on faster after a breakup … then other people?

I broke up with my boyfriend about a month ago. How long should I wait to start a new relationship?
Is a month too soon? Will it look bad (we have a lot of mutual friends) if I just start a new relationship with someone now?

because. it hurts so much right now. and I’m really happy not to deal with the stress, and even so I know he is still human and a great person, but not for me and that kills. How? Do? I? Deal???