Well, this is a toughy! You really need to think this through thurlly!
Here we go….. well summer 06 I lived at home with my family and worked at a grocrie store as a cashier. There came a “New kid on the Block” at my store. So we socialized, and really hit it off. ( meanwhile I am in a Long relationship with My Bf for 2 1/2 yrs (at that time) ) My boyfriend and i were going through the “long distance Relationship” while I live at home with my Family, and He went to College in Niagara Falls NY. As He (my bf) is in College and Away, I get a good friendship with my friend Mike, after i get back from my Time off from Surgery. We really hit it off, And YES he did know I had a boyfriend, in fact I told him How i struggled in my Relationship. So he was aware. Meanwhile My BF, had no idea. I would see mike on a day to day Basis at my old Job. We exchanged phone numbers, made plans, Went to visit each other at ea. other house. at the time he was 30 yrs old and i was 22 yrs old. So then summer 07 came, And My Boyfriend Finished College and Needed a Good steady job, So he decided to Move to Buffalo NY, And I knew he would struggle by himself, So i thought it was an oppertunity to work on our relationship, it could get serious and maybe just maybe……. we would have the oppertunity to get married. So the relationship was great! And yes, i still kept intouch with Mike, i watched my back like a hawk, you wouldn’t believe it, i got so Skilled at it! And then Will was Catching on, Will decided to go on Myspace as if he was me signing on and find my password by reading through my email, then he signed on Myspace (as if he was me) and got to read my info to mike. Mike an I had a plan for him to bring me to home from Buffalo ( which is like 85 miles away). And spend a weekend with him. So Will found out, and was disapointed, But it was a matter of time till it was ganna happen. I was explaining to Will about Mike, and What Our Weaknesses where in our Relationship and Why im getting Side tracked and distracted. I really Loved Will, But i don’t think hes really been the one to “sweep me off my feet”! Its like you have to ask, to have a suprise or “impress me prove to me your whom i want” if your not one who generously just does it,than thats where theres improvement needed. Where not just talking about being spoiled but common things around the house, remember to take care of things, remember your anniversy…exc…..!
Anyway since then (feb 08) will and I fell apart it was a matter of time till it was over. Mike and I commuincated more Frequentily and I just waited til the Lease ended to start a new relationship (with Mike).. which would be ending July 08. So I got a new apt with my Friend (female) from work. We signed a 1 yr lease, and my Relationship with Mike was making progress. We were doing good until the end of aug. he became Controling and not trusting me. Was very Sketchy about everything i did. And then he came out And then he came out and told me he was having a hard time trusting me. So then we broke up. He would send me these shitty tx messeges. crzy v-mails, And myspace mail. So i blew him off. didn’t respond. that was back in november 08. Until Tonight… i sent him an email saying hi. That got us to talk again. and now where catching up and i feel there is alot to be talked about. Did i do the right thing? or was i just desprete!

I have got a new girl a week ago, she is one of the most coolest person i know. I have been talking to her and she is the best i have never felt like this about any other girl. Her best friend told me to say that i love her and tell her that but i think that it might rush things and i really dont want this relationship to end any time soon. Do you think i should start saying i love you or is it to early?

I’d been with my boyfriend for 2 years but we had alot of problems – he was irresponsible with money and drank too much and we argued alot. I moved to my mum’s and let him stay in my house until he found somewhere else to live. I know it was stupid but we carried on texting each other, I did really miss him but cant decide whether we should give it another go or not. I had to come back and stay at the house for a couple of nights to sort my stuff out (as my mum’s is 250 miles away) and we both ended up crying and said we’d try again, now we’ve started rowing again. I feel like I cant live with him and I cant live without him

I’ve decided to go back to my mum’s and not stay in touch for a couple of months then see how we both feel, but I know I will be desperate to ring or text him. Its so complicated and I’m devastated and so is he. Any advice would be much appreciated

I realize that I knew he was married from the beggining but i continued. Now that things have developed more I feel very guilty and don’t know how to end this because I feel something very special for him. I really don’t know what his true feeling toward me are but he keeps approaching me more and more. This realationship has been going on for about 5 months but I recently found out something that shocked me guess what his wife is about 4 months pregnant. I just don’t understand what he wants from me cause everytime we make out he seems to enjoy it as i do. I dont know if he just wants that or if he truly loves me. I need some advice on how to end this relationship.
He has been married with his wife for a year. First child

He is my manager but everything happens outside of work.

Hi all

I am a 35 year old man from the U.K. My girlfriend broke up with me 3 weeks ago after living with me for a year. She is 10 years younger than me. This is the 3rd time she has split with me over the space of two years. This time I know that it is the end and I am really struggling to cope. She says that she is no longer attracted to me. I have really low self esteem and I suppose I am quite needy and this reason has made the split and my negative feeling even worse.

What makes it terrible is that we both work together and this is obviously incredibly difficult. Some of the time I am quite optimistic about the future but mostly I am having negative thoughts such as;

What if she is with someone else? (the thought rips my heart apart)
Will I ever meet someone or will I end up alone?
At 36 will I ever meet someone to settle down with and have a family?

How can I improve my self esteem and self worth because unless I like myself nobody will like me

I have read lots of advice on the internet and I have tried to follow it. I have got rid of stuff that reminds me of her. I have started drumming lessons, something I have put off for years, I am spending time with close friends and family and I realise that with time it will get easier but that doesn’t help me now!

but it still hurts, every day. I feel I have nothing to look to the future for. Please can someone help and give me some words of comfort.

Thank you so much in advance

Glenn

my ex-boyfriend and i call it off today..yep Valentines day . We both decided to break up because he was under stress at home and school and i understood where he was coming from and i made it easier on him to just agree to break up. We were both each others first boyfriend and girlfriend and freshmen in high school. I really did love him but today he confessed that the only people he would ever love is his family and i didnt really take it personally and i understood as well. he also said that we [the relationship] were going to end someday. He got to a point we he talked about home and how he said he was an a**hole to his family and how his mom think he hates her and i was just there trying to make him feel better. Him and his dad wants to move to Wisconsin where his dad side of the family is and i hate that and he told me if he was then he was going to miss me. Before we started to talk about this he came over today and we just hang out and i guess he just felt like it was wrong leading me on and he told me and that just made me have more respect for him. I am going to miss him and thats what makes me sad and want to cry. Im going to miss texting him, waiting for him after school and hanging out whatever we can and the memories we had. Im not mad at him for breaking up with me on Valentines Day. We dont have any classes and when we were dating we didnt see each other in the halls unless you wait for a while. So i guess thats good and he told me before we left that can we be friends and not ignore each other in the halls. i said yes and we hugged goodbye. I know he feels bad but i said dont worry about me im okay but the truth is that i was crying a river inside. Im not going to date and the reason besides him being stressed was that he wasnt ready i guess..he said he wanted to wait. i deleted all the messages from him except his number. i do believe everything happens for a reason and i dont regret dating him. in 10 days we would’ve been dating for 4 months. Again i did love him very much and i guess i will always love him and if he doesnt move then we still have 3 years old high school left.. and maybe down the road whatever life takes us i hope we can try again. Can anyone else help me get over him or any adivce?
Thanks

i need some advice! i [officially] ended my relationship on monday. the dude put me thru so much grief….never called me, stopped hanging out as much and said really rude things when he was annoyed. he just stopped putting any effort into the relationship. throughout the time we were together, even at our 4 month point i almost left him. it kept occuring until i broke up, where i would feel like breaking up but didnt actually do it. i started talkin to someone about a week before i told him i’m done. [he didnt call me all that week anyway...]. this guy isnt just some random dude i decided to rebound on…he is amazing. he has all the qualities i am looking for, and takes his life seriously. is it bad for me to keep hanging out with him? so far we’ve only done group things, but he contacts me everyday and we kiss/hold hands..i think its turning into something. i reallllllly like him and see alot of potential. is it ok to move on this fast?
BTW..i’m 24…new guy is 25.
my ex was 27- stopped working, moved back with his parents and basically just wanted to sit on my couch. he told me he wanted a future with me, yet acted so bizzare and phlegmatic- never wanted to do anything or be spontaneous. he’d text instead of call. i felt like i wasnt even in a real relationship.
i was hesitant to hangout with the new guy, but he is one of my good friend’s best friend from 7th grade. he is really honest, mature, funny and very sweet towards me.

i am 18 and started dating and older women shes 39 at first it was a good then 6 months later she started getting bitchy she doesnt like me visiting my friends or go out and if i do she starts yelling at me and its embarissing and she slaps me in the face and i cant do anything about it because i cant hit girls i would get thrown in jail and she tells me if i call the cops on her she was gonna hurt herself and blame it on me i dont know what to do all she wants to do now is have sex everyday when she comes home from work and im tired of it i feel like she doesnt even notice me no more. i really need help on what to do im desperate give me some advice please?

Ok, I have this guy friend who has recently (in the past 4 months) started to display a side of him that is disconcerting. He is always depressed about not having a girlfriend, and often gets so angry about things in his life that he wants to punch a wall. I have gotten into several fights with him lately, and all of them stem from him making me feel like I am incompetent. It’s come to the point where I don’t even want to tell him anything going on in my life because he’ll have this “all-knowing” opinion of what I need to do, and how I’m might be making a mistake.
A couple of weeks ago he displayed some behavior that really shocked me. He swore at me when I wouldn’t tell him something that I didn’t think was a big deal. I knew he would be critical of the subject, so I just told him to let it go. He was so angry at me. It scared me a little. He apologized and I’ve forgiven him, but I really don’t feel like he is as good a friend as he thinks he is.
I know our relationship isn’t healthy and I need to separate myself from him, but I know that when I tell him he’s going to get really mad. It scares me a little. I’m afraid that I’m seeing signs of someone who could possibly become violent in the future. Am I being paranoid? What should I do?
Some things I forgot to add: He is always telling me how beautiful I am, and it makes me uncomfortable. He knows I don’t like him that way. He says he tells me it because it’s true, but it’s all the time.

Hey everyone first of all I am 21 so it’s a little embarassing that I have to look for advice on how to do this online but all my friends are not being great help at this time. Here’s the deal, I’ve been living with my boyfriend for the last year and 9 months of our 2 year relationship. Everything is good and he is a great man and I still love him very much. The problem is I don’t know if I’m IN LOVE with him anymore. Also, I see our lives going in different directions I plan on moving to Chicago to attend Graduate school in a year, he said he would go with me but I know he will not like it he would really like to stay in the country. I respect that he would be willing to go with me but I feel if he does he is going to be resentful. I want to end things I’m just not really sure how to. To make it even worse our lease is not up til May, and I don’t think it’s fair to wait that long to end things, so how do you live with someone after you end the relationship? I want us to be friends and for the living situation to be tolerable but I’m not sure how he will react to me ending things. Please give me good advice like I said I still deeply care about this man but I just don’t think there is anyway for us to work our relationship out and even if there was I don’t think I want to.