How Can Somebody Move On Into A New Relationship After A Breakup So Quickly?
My ex and i broke up a month ago.
We were together for a year and half.
We had our ups and downs, but we shared many great memories together. but when we broke up, it seemed all she saw in me were the negative memories and not the positive ones.
I’ve given her the space she wanted after our breakup (we had our share of complications)
I thought giving space would make her miss me or something.
Until I find out shes already with another guy!!?
..Making out and things like that! ughhh. wow.
barely over a month and she moves on so quickly?
how can someone move on so quickly into a new relationship after leaving a long-term one just like that? -__-
especially after she told me (when we were breaking up) that she wasn’t looking for another relationship. she just wanted to focus on work and school and her future.
Low and behold, she quit her job, has no money for school next semester, and is in a rebound relationship just like that…and making out with him and all that intimate stuff like she used to do with me.
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It is quite amazing how fast someone can move on huh? First off I’m really sorry that you have to go through this, it really sucks. Here’s the part you don’t want to hear she might have wanted out for a bit and just used work and school as an excuse to try and not hurt your feelings. I know that is not what you want to hear but sometimes the truth can help you move on faster, or if you do get back together it can help you look at the relationship and see what it may have been lacking. I would guess the reason she has moved on so quickly is to fill the gap that was left when you weren’t around anymore, like you said it is a rebound relationship. Sometimes when you are in a relationship for so long you forget what it is like to be by yourself and so sometimes when you just look for anyone to fill that intimacy gap.
It stinks though. I was started dating my roommate and then broke up with him and moved out. Before I moved out he held interviews for the house and would flirt with all the girls candidates while I was around and then he started dating all of them that were interested in him (such a jerk), so I know how you feel.
Maybe in time she will decide that she misses you, but maybe she won’t. In the meantime you should focus on yourself and doing what makes you happy and working on ways to improve yourself. She may not be the one for you if she can make out with another guy so soon and so easily, but know that everyone deals with breakups differently. I know it’s hard but there are a lot of nice girls out there and as soon as you focus on making yourself happy one will come along. Try not to hold any hostility towards the situation and know that you are a good person and it will all work out in the end. I have a feeling you will find another nice girl soon!
Well it’s a rebound and she obviously is trying to make you jealous. She probably didn’t want space and wanted you to call her and beg her to take you back. Or she might just not be healed and thinks a rebound will help her get over you
Maybe she emotionally had broken up with you long before you two actually broke up. Meaning, maybe she stopped feeling the same about you a while ago. A month is not a really short amount of time. At least she didn’t go out with another guy within a week.
Anyways, you should do the same. Let the past be the past and move on. Go make out with some other girls yourself. Have fun!
Ok buddy you need to start moving on.
Some people heal a lot faster then others, or some people enjoy filling there new free time with new people.
But you worrying or questioning your EX- girlfriends activities is going to get you no where.
Stop caring what she’s doing, keep yourself busy, hang out with friends and family
What she does, doesn’t concern you anymore.
I feel you I was in a relationship for a year then we broke up and 5 months after we broke up I found out that he got Married!!! A**H@!E
She prob. was cheating on u, I found out later that’s what happened.
I hope u get over her its not worth caring for someone who doesn’t respect u enough before sleeping around with diff guys. Ur better off moving on.
Some girls are like that. I have a friend that did something similar to that and it was because she never got over her previous relationship. You both need closure, i think.
some chicks are just dooshbahgss.
she’s not worth it.
get over the bicht.http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;…
well if she can move on that quickly, then shes no good.
forget bout her..or go tell her WTF happen u ..
Good question. The truth is that you don’t want to mess with any woman like your ex gf. Seriously, these type of women are in dire need of attention and affection but can’t seem to find the satisfaction in doing so. Therefore they jump from one relationship to the other trying to fill that ‘void’. Not your fault. You did your best.
So she threw negative things at you for not being good enough? What kind of woman is that? You don’t deserve a girl like her. You deserve a women who respects you for you. A girl throwing negative things at you tells me she is insecure with herself and prefers to live in a fantasy of her own… perhaps a better looking guy? rich guy?
Becareful when you meet these types of women. Run away as far as you can!
I used to ask myself how women can move from one relationship to another so quickly within 1-4 weeks after a break up. I discovered that the majority of women prefer to forget their previous relationships and focus on the ones they have now. As disheartening as this may seem, women move on very quickly. It’s like you become a nobody and a woman becomes a ’somebody’. I don’t know how women do it but they find a way to shift their mindset so quickly. Trust me, you don’t want to know why or how they do it. It’s not worth your time.
My advice would be to spend some days recovering from the breakup. Focus on your goals… focus on yourself. After my ex broke up our 5 yr relationship 2 years ago… I worked out everyday. I played sports. I worked hard. My female friends noticed it… and they couldn’t believe I actually went from a skinny guy to a very handsome muscular guy.
And everytime I play v-ball with my female friends…. they flirt… they stare… they gaze at me. Even more, I met a lot of female lifeguards who wanted to date me. Life couldn’t get better.
My point is that there are other women out there. All you have to do is have that ‘independence’ and finding ways to motivate yourself to become a better person. Have you always wanted to talk to a girl who you felt was attracted to you but you just didn’t know? Now’s your chance to do that.
Forget your ex… I’m sure there are other women who are FAR MORE PRETTIER than your ex gf. My advice… start talking to those women but expect nothing.
I’m talking to 4-5 women right now. Not on a date or anything but I caught their attention… they caught mine.
Many fish in the sea, my friend… many fish in the sea. Your ex gf is just a rotten fish anyway.
She probably lost feelings for you, i know that seems harsh but its probably the case. She just didn’t want to hurt you so she made excuses to cover up the truth, like putting work first and all that. Or maybe shes just using this guy to get over you, keep her mind off things? you’ll never really know unless you talked to her, that is if you wanted to know what was going through her mind. Seems to me, though, that this girl is a liar
Forget about her.. find someone else who deserves you
Don’t sweat it, Dude. The best thing to do in this case, is to act completely un jealous about it. Just act like you are cool with her moving on because you are moving on too. Chicks do that. She may be doing this to make you jealous. Trust me, she is thinking of you when she is with this guy. And she is also comparing everything this guy does to you. Give it about another month, then call her to just say “hi.” Don’t bring up her new guy and if she brings it up, just say “great.” But act like you’re doing well. In the meantime, go get a date yourself. Hit the gym, hang out with some friends. Just don’t call her.
There are only two possibilities for this question.
One of them you nearly answered yourself: it is likely that this is a “rebound” relationship. Keep in mind that rebound relationships may not always be serious: they may be casual flings. It’s not uncommon for someone who has been involved in a long-term relationship to “hit the town” and enjoy a casual romance or two…you see this frequently with newly divorced people. So I wouldn’t worry too much over the “seriousness” of her current relationship.
The other possibility is that she lied to you about the reasons for your breakup and she had someone else already “waiting in the wings” as it’s been called: someone she was already semi-seeing while involved with you. When the two of you broke it off, she would just “switch over” to the other guy.
Either way, I think you are doing yourself a disservice by running around in mental circles trying to figure it out. I know you care about her, but it’s obvious that your girlfriend has clearly moved forward – for whatever reason – and you should do the same.
The best of luck to you.
She is trying to get over you by being angry at you. She got desperate and now has a rebound. The relationship will not last long. She will still be thinking about you as she has not given herself time to heal and be herself. If she has moved on that quickly she has a serious flaw. I doubt that she has moved on. She needs companionship and is going the wrong way about. You should be looking at this as a positive, she obviously misses you and feels the need to fill that void. Where you do not need to replace her. You can move on and be a stronger person.
1. She could’ve found this guy while in a relationship with you, and she could’ve started liking him.. But wanted to wait a little bit after you guys broke up to date him, so you wouldn’t think she left you for him. (I’ve been in that situation.)
2. She didn’t really care that much about you.
3. She could have still cared about you after you broke up, but this guy could’ve came along and made her fall for him, and sometimes when that happens, it makes us girls forget about the guy before.