how to deal with a long distance breakup? is it better to deny all contact forever?
I had this long distance thing going that basically didnt work out and was not going to ever NOT be long distance so i saw no point in staying. I do find myself looking at her profile sometimes, and texting her just to see how she is doing. Even though we broke up, i feel like this is holding me back from REALLY liking other girls i should probably be interested in. The thing that sux is that i know we will date new people soon and it will BREAK my heart if i found out she is dating a new guy. I feel like the best thing to do is to delete her from my life completely. i keep on looking forward to when she visits home for summer, but im so aware that its gonna be pointless to be hanging out with her because we are NOT gonna go anywhere together so we might as well become strangers. I FEEL… what do you peeps think?
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Let it her go
Delete her from your heart/head
Open Your Heart for someone new.
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well when I was in a ldr I delete everything of him and then i begin to started talking to him again so now we r friends
I had the same thing going on with this girl. I drove to see her a few times and she promised to come see me, then I got busy with school and we broke up. I still text her from time to time and still have feelings for her but you have to move on. Just keep your close friends around you and dont think about her. Stay off the computer and get out with friends and talk to some girls. Dont talk to girls to date, just talk and get to know them and when the right one comes along then you will forget about your past flame and start with this new one. Good luck
I have been EXACTLY where you are at this moment. The best thing to do is drop her from your whole life. It’s the best way to get over her. It tool me almost 4 months to get over this guy I was with when we broke up because he moved to Wisconsin. I even knew he had a new girlfriend because she told me herself that she was with him. Anyways, it’s the best way. It helps to let go, it makes things a whole lot easier. Trust me, I know.
arghh..I feel your pain. It’s easy for me to say YES JUST GET HER OUT OF YOUR LIFE…but for some reason ‘HOPE FLOATS’ and I think that’s what you are counting on…but think like a male…If it’s always going to be long distance, let it go. In fact, you would be better NOT to ever see her again unless your circumstances change. AND…it’s gonna take a LONG time to get over her…
Well….Long distance relationships never work. You really shouldn’t be that sad about it. You never got to see her, and she never got to see you. Just find somebody else.
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i’m kinda going thru da same thing. talk to her about what happened and try getting closure and thats the first step to move on im not saying you’ll move on just like that. itll take awhile but it helps and if you miss her and like her that much try giving it another try..but good luck to whatever you do
I’m basically on the same boat. Dont deny all contact…. I honestly dont know what you should do…. sorry….
Long distance relationships never work. Thats prolly why you two broke up. You need to forget and move on or else its going to eat you the rest of your life. there are plenty of more fish in the sea. Definitly deny contact forever… or you are just going to miss her more. You shoulnt care if she dates another guy because she is not yours anymore. Its like she is not in your life aymore. Move on. Find anothe gf
Lol, I posted a question about how do I get an ex long distance girlfriend from harassing me the other day.
I feel your pain dude, I’ve been there, alot of us have!
Thing you’ve gotta realise though right now is, it’s not the girl its just the emotions, you’ve associated them to her… it’s really not her.
Like for instance if you ask a girl “why do you like me” chances are she won’t say your eyes, your muscles blah blah, she will say something along the lines of ” the way you make me feel”
Get my point dude?
I think you may need to move onto the next chapter in your life, turn the next page and see what adventure lies ahead.
It’s hard I know, but we love and live.
Goodluck buddy.
I had a long distance relationship once, it was about a year long.
As much as it hurts, I deleted him from my contacts. I didn’t tell him that I was not going to ever talk to him again, I just deleted him. After, I started talking to people I knew, made friends, and got better. Then after that I stopped thinking about him. It’s been years since we talked, I don’t even remember his email anymore.
Put it in your mind that she’ll be happier to see you happy with someone else.
if your not mature enough to relize those things NEVER work. i donno what to tell you.
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Hmm…sounds like you really still like her and you are definitely not over her. But if you are not getting back together, you should stop looking at her profile and not concern yourself with her anymore because she’s not your girlfriend. I know that sounds harsh but like you said, you should cut her out of your life. I’m sorry it didn’t work out :/ But there are plenty of amazing, gorgeous, datable girls out there that you can find. Just don’t give up, and good luck!!!
i went through a long dist relationship for almost 2 yrs. we broke up and it was the hardest thing ever! he wanted to be friends n we tried but i didnt wnt to, for many reasons, one being that it was just too hard to see him as just a friend. once he went to bootcamp i deleted his number, and as much as i miss him and as much as i really loved him (my first and so far my only love) i had to move on so i stopped all the contact.
you’ll heal eventually. and youre already hurtin so let it go, move on, and youll slowly heal
dont let it break u
God I feel so bad for you becase I just went through the same thing, although it wasn’t long distance it doesn’t always have to be. If your still feeling strongly for her, and you KNOW garuntee things will never work out and she understands that too then the no contact rules should be put in place. Its hard very hard, I dont deny it but after a month or two things will get better. It will hurt the both of you, you should know that though she’ll probably hate not talking to you anymore and when you talk to someone for so long its all you ever want to do. If you feel like it holding you back though and you cant be friends then click the NC link I have at the bottom. BUT if you think you can be friends and jusr chat like friends then keep her friendship its always easier to have someone then no one, even if it just a friend, just make sure things dont slip back into the bofriend/girlfriend rut, keep it pg
and point out to her when things go too far. Oh and dude it ALWAYS hurts to see an ex with someone else, I’m waiting for my last ex to become official with this guy I expect is dating her, and I’m just preparing myself for that pain where for a second your heart stops… but on the other hand a friend of mine told me it hurt like crazy when he saw his ex with someone new for the first time he saw he with him, and after that he was completely over her, and it never bothered him again, so maybe sometimes its a good thing, almost like closure, because you know shes happy and moved on so now you can as well. Good luck bro 
same thing happened to me man.
i think he broke off contact with me.
it broke my heart because he was my first love and he’s still my best friend,
but i know everything happens for a reason.
if it’s in the Lord’s will for you two to end up together, you will.
you never know what could happen in the future.
until then, have fun with your teenage life (er however old you are.)
i know breaking off contact may hurt at first, but it will allow you to heal.
still continue to be friends but dont constantly remind yourself of this.
you wont heal right and you’ll be upset all the time.
things will work themselves out. i promise.
love and blessings,
-faith
Jeremiah 33:3
“Call to Me and I will answer you”