Moving on but very bitter, how can i stop this heartache?
Im going to make this as short as possible, For a month now i have been dealing with a breakup. I was engaged to a Marine who i thought i was really going to spend my life with. Ive tried moving on and i just cant seem to get over it. He broke up with me because he didnt want to be with me he said, well actually the night we spoke he was with someone else. He called me whispering, then later he i noticed he moved away because the noise from the background changed! he told me he would cheat on me, that i was a good girlfriend but that he had his need. i told him that i never wanted to hear from him ever and hung up on him. Every word he said to me that night hit me like bullets and to this day i just cant seem to stop crying. He is still coming in June and im afraid that he would come and see me. I dont want to see him because i feel so much anger inside, and i swear that all this has changed me. I use to have different personality but everyone around me says im always angry and pissy,
not the usual me. Ive never had a problem letting someone go, but this break up was unexpected and well i felt like i almost had everything ready for a small wedding, just waiting for him and then it all fell done. I cant look at any guy without feeling disgusted and hurt because i assume each one is a player. and just the other day i was going to go on a date but i called the guy back and said sorry no i cant do it because how do i know your not someone who if i get serious with youll cheat on me? He told me to stop being bitter and mad at everyone because not everyone is the same.
being cheated on is a constant thing for me, how do i move on from this?
If the guys told you that being constantly cheated on is a normal thing, then, I’d suggest you to stay away from all guys for the time being, relax yourself and let your emotions calm down. As you know it, time can cure everything. The next time, when someone tells you that he wants to fall in love with you, please give that a thoughtful anlysis and please do not believe in people that easily, because when you believe in people that easily, it’llalways make you look and feel like a never grown-up baby!
1st-Let me say “I’m sorry for you”. The best I suggest is that you turn to your family and friends for comfort and TRY to ease the pain from your heart . Your world has been turned up-side down and it will take time and effort to turn it right-side up and moving foreward again. Let your family and friends help you with this!
Peace and good luck to you!
well.. i think you should take a vacation.
go to the beach go to hawaii
go anywhere but where you are right now.
you need time away from everyone and you
need to trust in yourself that you will make the right
decision to meet a guy that you believe is the right one
for you. dont let your guard down so soon.
the man is right.. not all guys are the same.. but then again
many are not. many guys are just blind to the fact that
they have a great girl right in front of them. so in my opinion you need to let go of the past, take a vacation, relax your mind and body because you’ve been through hell and back and just take this time to get to know yourself. you cant go searching for a guy.. just wait… mr. right will find you
hope everything goes well
ily
Spend time with your friends and family. The people that genuinely care about you.
You can talk to me anytime too.
SteveC
I was in a somewhat similar situation. I thought I had met the girl I was going to marry. Then things fell apart, words were exchanged, and I was devastated. (She didn’t cheat on me and we weren’t about to marry). I couldn’t look at or trust any other women.
What you need to do is get out of the house. Go on that date. Go out with your friends. Enjoy your life, because it doesn’t last forever! That’s what I’ve done. I bought a motorcycle… I’m going to Spain next year… Taking advantage of the life I have. We can’t dwell in the past… We can only move forward.
I would request from your ex that he leave you alone. If he respects you enough, he will. Seeing him and talking to him will only bring those feelings back to the surface.
And try not to hold a grudge against all guys… Great guys do exist. Hopefully you’ll meet someone wonderful. But if you’re constantly hostile, you won’t be able to.
Good luck.