Advice For Giving Advice About A Relationship?
I can not explain fully the entire story, but i will in a nutshell;
A person close to me was 17 when he had his first serious girlfriend. She is controlling and manipulating, and everyone can see this. The boy was suffering from depression, and she had without a doubt contributed to this. Although they fought every two weeks and broke up several times, they never really ended their relationship. Finally after 8 months, they broke up and took back all of their possessions left at each other’s houses. About 1 month later, they began to talk again and are now not technically going out, yet they obviously act like a couple, and can be described as “friends with benefits.” It is hard because this girl says she loves him so so much and she probably does, but she can be very vindictive and controlling and has caused a lot of grief to him and his family. I really wish he would see other girls, but she is so convenient. She gives him what he wants, she drives him around and she pays for things. I Know he doesn’t really love her, but he is just so lazy that she is easy to be with. She doesn’t make him happy, and he is a different person now he is back with her. It is so heartbreaking and i miss him so much. What advice can i give to help him? And what is your take on the situation? Everyone says she is no good for him but he just wont listen !
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There is no easy way to tell someone something bad about their partner (& you honestly can’t know if he loves her or not unless he actually tells you that). My personal view is that you don’t say anything unless he asks for your advice or point of view, & just be there for him when he needs you. If you still feel you need to tell him for his health & his own good or he has asked you, simply tell him what you really think. Keep it simple & to the point. Don’t play the blame game with either of them, just tell him what you think the situation is like. Just a word of warning, if you talk to him about this you could end up losing a friend. Nobody wants to hear bad things about their partners even if those things are true. If he is not ready to hear it, you will be seen as the baddiee. Good luck!
Hon, I’ve been in a similar situation as you, and I think there’s probably no easy answer.
I think the best thing to do is gently broach the subject so that he knows how you feel, and then let it go.
Emotional
wow thats one hell of a situation u care for him and i think you have feelings for him but the way ur concerned about is one virtue not many people have so all i can help you by this you have to let him have his own life try to talk to him but if he does not listen you have to cut him off and forget him because believe me i have been thru this myself and cutting her off is the best thing that has happened to me because if you dont in the long run u will get ur heart hurt
It’s his choice honestly. He may just choose her because she is not requiring so much dedication in a relationship, with all the perks. So maybe you should move on, if he can’t value “u” for being the carring person you are, maybe you do deserve better. Because when it comes to love their is no easy answer, and you can’t force someone to be happy, they have to feel it, want it, and be willing to share it.
Best of luck