Relationship advice? Boy issues?
Ok so here is my story. I have been seeing this one guy for 3 years now (TJ). We dated for a year and then he broke up with me. We then kept seeing each other on and off because he got pretty jealous when I seen other guys. Well last December I just couldn’t take what we were doing cause it didn’t seem like a relationship and that’s what I wanted. I ended things with him (TJ) and started seeing this guy named Paul. We went out for maybe a little over a month and it was great. But then TJ emailed me saying that he wanted me back and all this mushy stuff, he said he wanted to be in a relationship and it was a long email which made me cry cause he’s never really told me how he felt. I feel so comfortable with TJ since i’ve been with him for awhile now. So I ended up going back out with TJ and I’m sure I hurt Paul’s feelings. Well now about 5 months later things just aren’t working out with my ex TJ because he still doesn’t treat me like it’s an actual relationship and I miss Paul. Paul and I don’t really talk much anymore. I text him on my phone the other day and we talked and he is on my myspace page but we don’t really message each other.
Well… I was wondering if anyone thought it would be okay to email Paul and see if he wanted to go for a bike ride or something?? I’m just scared I guess what he would say or if I should even try! I really like Paul and I do miss him, I just know I probably hurt him and I don’t know if he’d give me another chance.
Thanks for your advice!
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the first and foremost thing you need to do is to make up your mind whether it’s TJ or it’s Paul. Give yourself sometime to think. after that if it’s Paul that you really want, then go for him. tell him that everything about you and TJ has now ended. make sure to tell him that you just really miss him that’s why you want to get together and ask him out; if he still like you he will give you and your relationship another chance. be sure not to waste the second chance coz this might be the last.
hope i was able to help. ö
Get to know them better. This is not a task only to be accomplished through dating. The more you get to know him or her, the more you can tell if you like them as a friend or something else. Just talk and do fun activities with the person.
Stop and consider why you like the person. There are many physically attractive and smart people out there. But if you see something beyond that really catches your attention, you’ve marked this person as unique and probably like them. Why else would they stand out from so many?
Consider how many times you think about the person. If you find yourself thinking about this person several times a day, and they are happy thoughts that possibly make your heart beat faster, then you probably like them.
Think how often you laugh at their jokes etc. When you like someone, you will find yourself laughing at things even if they aren’t that funny. This is a natural attempt to make them feel appreciated.
If the one conversation between you and the person is stuck in you head and you cant stop telling people about it. this means it was important to you, and you probably like the person.
Consider how much you try to be near them. If you’ve planned your walking speed to catch a glimpse of them as many times of the day as possible, there is a good reason for that.
Think about how you feel if you touch him or her, by accident or on purpose. If you’re still thinking about brushing shoulders several hours ago in school, then that is a special thought and you probably like them.
If you feel you’re ready for a relationship, and are confident enough for a positive response, then just go ahead and ask them out. If you’re unsure of their feelings for you, there are several wikihows on how to tell if someone likes you.