[10 POiNTS] am i doing the right thing …?
me and my ex girlfriend were together for ten months, told each other we were in love with each other, had everything in common .. she had a lot of bad relationships in the past .. but in her words “i came out of nowhere and repaired her broken heart ..”
two months ago, our “perfect” relationship ended because all her ex boyfriends made her feel lonely .. and now that she found a man who has everything she’s looking for .. she isn’t use to it right now because she’s use to feeling lonely ..
“I will always have love for you and care about you no matter what .. you know that .. i just need some time and space for myself right now .. if we both move on, i will still have a lot of love for you.”
I decided to give her space and we talked occasionally for a month .. well, the last time i talked to her was last week, and we had a nice long conversation .. but the next day, i decided that i couldn’t be here for her right now .. as much as i want to be .. i can’t .. because i have so much respect for her and i love her with all my heart that i’m willing to give her time away from me because .. i am her ex boyfriend ..
she contacted me and i ignored her message .. because i feel like i’ll be in the way in where ever she’s going .. i can’t be there as her friend right now ..
i’m her ex boyfriend .. i can’t .. any guy who tries to talk to her will probably feel threatened by me because we’re friends ..
i don’t know .. i can’t really explain it .. but am i doing the right thing ?
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The truth is, she’s not over one of her exes and she is still hurting, its harsh but true, you’re her comfort because she knows you’ll be there so she’ll want to talk to you to make herself feel better. I think you should be with somebody who knows what they want and has made up their mind that you’re the one they want to be with and most importantly someone who is really ready to move on and has a higher self-esteem
yes, you are doing the right thing…
but being too friendly or too close to her is not what you need right now, you should give yourself time and space of your own…
go out, have fun life is short…
You dated her for 10 months…and after almost a full year of having her “dream boyfriend” she decides she isn’t used to it? After almost a year? I don’t buy it.
sometimes when u love something u have 2 let it go
i commend you on giving her her space, but if you love her and are inlove with her and she still says she loves you give her time,but once she starts to date other guys move on and i’m super sorry,you seem like a really nice guy and theres not too many of you out there so just wait for him and be patient if you truely love her. see how things are in a little bit and if she doesn’t call you or have any interest in talking or seeing you then move on i know thats hard to take when your inlove with someone but if shes hurting you and she doesn’t love you its time to move on and be happy and joyful again,good luck and i think your doing the right thing
Wow, you are a seriously strong person who is definitely doing the right thing. You’re thinking of her and not yourself, and trying to help out the guys she’s dating now and in the future. Man, that’s really cool and I have a LOT of respect for you.
Good luck, and hope my answer is ten points worthy =)
10 points!!!!??? REALLY!? WOW!! LOL!
I jest, dude. Seriously, whether or not you did the right thing depends on two things:
1. What is your overall intention with her? Do you plan on trying to get back together with her? If so, you just goofed up big time. You need to make it clear how you feel and be there for her, or when the time comes, she will choose someone else.
2. If you plan on moving on, however, then you did the right thing. So long as you two stay in touch, neither of you will be in the emotional position to move on and find that special someone.
Those two things said, I think you’re better off with #2, personally, but that is a decision only you can make. This girl has MAJOR baggage, and frankly, it is going to take more than a decent boyfriend to fix it. She needs some therapy big time.
In any case, it is a tough situation to be in. No doubt. Do what you think is right, and you will come out on top in the end. Have patience. Good luck!
Lol well that’s a difficult question. Yes and No. your doing the right thing because your trying to keep distant from her so that maybe anothr guy would approach hr easiler & your doin tht with your heart. but I don’t think you should ignore her calls & text messages, if you do that- maybe she’ll get the wrong idea & think your done with her since she isn’t your girlfriend anymore. I think you should talk to her- tell her why your keeping your distant, if another guy happens to come along & be interested in her – (& your fine with that) than give the guy the thubs up, so he knows your a little okay with it all. You don’t have to stay away from her just so another guy would approach her. just tell her you’l be ther for her & that’s the best thingyou can do !
goodluck X.
Yeah you are doing the right thing… to a point. If she REALLY REALLY wants to make contact with you, don’t leave her alone. This will only make the whole larger. It is good to give a girl what they ask for because it makes them realise that it may not be what they want. But take it too far and they feel like nobody cares for them. They feel betrayed.