Fellow victims of unrequited love?
Thursday, November 12th, 2009 at
6:28 pm
How do you deal with it?
I’ve had an unrequited love with a friend for over a year now, I see him everyday, it’s hard to get him out my life as I wouldn’t want to lose him.
Any advice?
Feel free to share your experiences and stories as well xxx
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theres really nothing you can do but just let time heal the wound
I’m dealing with my love for a friend I’ve known 6 years, and it’s very difficult. I don’t know if you’ve been sexually intimate with this guy, but I know that makes things 100% worse, so I would advise you to not get physical if you haven’t already (or if you are, to stop right away, no matter how good the sex is!). Now, does he know how you feel about him? I have not told my friend that I’m in love with him in fear of messing up the friendship,so I’m not sure how to advise you there. I completely can relate to seeing him every day and having your heart break
I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. I would just try and focus on maybe loving yourself and working on self improvement instead. Focus the energy inward. Also, maybe make a list of what you love about your friend. Start formulating what you’re looking for in a guy. It will be hard at first but after a while you will realize that some of the things you love about this guy are not as uncommon as you think. You may also start to realize that the attachments you’ve developed may not necessarily be healthy ones. I don’t know if this has helped you, but I hope is has. Just know you’re not alone in this. I wish you the best of luck 
xo
I would cut my losses and get her out of my life…
The way I see it, I was fine before her.. I’ll be fine after her. Eventually, I’ll find someone who appreciates me as much as I do her.
But if she’s there in my life to remind me how much I want her.. I won’t be fine.. And seeing her date other guys, that would just be torture.
Except… the situation I’m in.. I see her every week, so I couldn’t just delete her from my life… Luckily, she still wants to date me (just doesn’t want to be serious with me)… so I continued dating her ’cause it makes seeing her tolerable.. but it’s sort of torture to know that she doesn’t want anything more with me, and I’m quite certain one day she’s just going to tell me “You knew what this was”. I hope I’m working somewhere else if that happens. But hopefully, she actually grows to love me…
In the mean time… I’m working on taking back my heart and keeping it locked up from her.. I know the damage she can do, so I want it back to keep it safe, but it ain’t easy…
edit:
hmm.. I don’t feel so free to share my story anymore… thanks for the TD