I have very little friends am sad and to top it off am being picked on?

Tuesday, March 9th, 2010 at 7:41 pm

I’m in middle school and am somewhat shy/kinda a lonerish and have had difficulty finding friends. Two of my ‘best friends’ started picking on me since the second half of last school year. I admit I picked on one of them but stopped over a year ago. I hope he can’t hold a grudge that long. My other friend recently came back from his suspension. While he was suspended me and the first friend I made fun of a long time ago became pretty good friends. But now that the other one is back they started picking on me. They started out fine the first week but began to make fun of me the next week. I have corrected all I could that they made fun of me and tried ignoring them when they made fun of me but it didn’t really work. It worked to some extent but did not stop it. They started calling me names that really could be used against anyone even them. I can tell they have run out of things to make fun of and resulted to making fun of what I did over a year ago. They almost never make fun of me without each other in fact I talked to one of them when the other was absent and he talked to me in a friendly manner.

I started hanging out with a different group of more aquantinces than friends at lunch and it just feels awkward. They recently told me to leave them alone and now I have no idea who to sit with when I try to talk to them. I’d like some friend making advice too. When I asked sorta like the the ‘leader’ of the group if I could sit with them he seemed hesitant and said no but it was okay if I sat nearby. I ended up saying very little and felt very excluded. I don’t have many friends and don’t ussually do stuff with friends, as I have very little, like going to friends houses or going to the mall but would definatly like to start.
I also like a girl but am to afraid to ask because I’m kinda nerdy (only with my grades tho and glasses which I hate) I have talked to her but very minimally and think I’m pretty ugly to be honest. I’d like to be her boyfriend but don’t know if she will like me or not.

Oh and as a side note for my first statement I would like to be friends with the two kids though but I’m not sure it will be possible with all this drama of random hate and constant making fun of me and not making fun of me phases.

So concider this a three and a half part question

1. How do I make them stop making fun of me?

2. I would like advice on getting friends

2 1/2. Who should I sit next to at lunch?!?!?!?!?!?

3. How when and should I ask this girl out

3 1/2. How and will I be able to repair my relationships with those friends and be friends again?
Oh and the two kids keep ruining my chances of possible friends

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One Comment

Tina H says:

March 9, 2010 at 8:12 pm

1. How do I make them stop making fun of me?
There will always be people trying to put other people down. If you can’t get them to stop, then just ignore it. You’re in middle school, these things happen. As they mature it’ll hopefully tone down. And like you said, they ran out of things to make fun of you for. People can’t make fun of someone for the same thing forever, it gets old after awhile.

2. I would like advice on getting friends
Just be confident and friendly. Find people who you have similar interests with, it’s not hard to make friends. Don’t come out of nowhere trying to be somebody’s friend. look for that opportunity.

2 1/2. Who should I sit next to at lunch?!?!?!?!?!?
If you sit with people who don’t want to sit near you, then it’ll be awkward. If you can handle it, try sitting alone or sit by people who sit alone. Maybe you can become friends with them.

3. How when and should I ask this girl out
Don’t even think about asking this girl out yet. You said you’ve only barely talked to her. You need to actually have conversations with her, make her laugh, make her feel comfortable talking to you, become her friend before you even ask her out. once you become friends for awhile, then you can ask her out.

3 1/2. How and will I be able to repair my relationships with those friends and be friends again?
Just talk to them and confront them, tell them you don’t like how they treat you and ask them how they would feel. They’re young and might not understand or be mature enough. If they aren’t, then find other people, they’re not worth your time.

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