Is it okay to keep pictures of my ex boyfriend?
Monday, November 16th, 2009 at
6:46 pm
I’m a 26 year old mom with 4 kids between 11 years old to 4 years old.I keep pictures around the house of my ex boyfriend because he is the father of all of my children.I just started seeing a new guy but I was wondering if it is acceptable to keep pictures around the house of my ex boyfriend while being in a new relationship?
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well if hes father then i guess kind of ok but try to find another father figure for children
I think you should maybe keep one or two but in an agreed upon place. Not out in the open.
Not really. If its a picture of him and the kids I would put it in their room. If its just pictures of him or him and you I would put them away.
It is more than fine to have the kids dad in pictures. I would actually incourage it for the kids sake.
I would say yes untill you meet someone else. Unnecessary bad feelings for the next boyfriend if you do
Keep some for the kids, but don’t have them in the bedroom or places it would be more for U
If it is of you and/or the children with him, that’s totally acceptable, but if it’s just him on his own, that is kind of wrong.
of course it is okay… the kids need pics of their father…
if its for your kids sake.. there should be nothing wrong with it. if your still in love with him, ehh i can see the problem.
yes. but if the new guy see’s the pics, tell him who it is!!! dont be afraid!
If you want to move on and start a new life, then it’s not a good thing to keep souvenirs of him.
um not around the house
No problem , is good for your children ! and if you like also ! ( i hope you understand my english…. i’m brazilian )
I would keep them yes, but keep them up around the house out in the open.. NO… It will just cause problems.. I promise!
why do you want to keep pic. of him is you gays already broke up its your choice any ways but my openion is no…;)
I don’t think its a good idea cuz then what would the other guy think u know I guess u can always say the father died but that’s ur choice
Absolutely. He will always be a part of your life becuase of your children. We are all adults! Your new bf should not care and feel jeaoulous of a picture.
No thats cool, your kids need that sought of stuff.
he has been a part of your life, why hide it
Ask yourself if it’s okay for your boyfriend to keep a picture of his ex-girl in his wallet. In you want another guy in, then you will have to ‘kick’ your ex out.
weather you like it or not the ex boy friend will always be a part of your life he is the father of your children and if that guy dont like it to damn bad .
i would say that it would be ok if you had them in the kids room not like in the living room and hallways that way the new boyfriend know that you don’t have any feelings for that guy anymore
if the kids want pictures of him,then yes
it is ok if you want to do that, at least until you get into a serious relationship with somebody else.
Well, to say it but, that is kinda creepy a certain matter. But really, yeah it is ok, as long as your new boyfriend doesn’t see them. In any matter, you should just keep like 2 pictures and not a whole bunch of them to at least when your kids want to know who their dad is or was, they can see for themselves. But anyways, good luck in your new relationship, and may it last.
If the pictures are really for your children, don’t feel guilty. If they are a little for you as well, perhaps consider if your new boy had picture of his ex around…that would make me feel like crap.
If the pictures are of you and him, that’s probably no good. But if they are of him and and your children, you having nothing to worry about.
Of course it’s ok. That was a part of your life. If you want to keep them then keep them. Don’t throw away a part of your life because someone else doesnt like it.
I don’t see the new relationship working out to well like this…..but that’s just me….
I think it is ok. The kids need it. I would have most of his pics in areas of the home where the kids would see them and not the poeple who shouldn’t see personal things. Also remember, if the guy can’t understand that its just pics of their Dad, then he ain’t worth it.
I think no. I mean, maybe if they are pics of your ex and your kids. Then I don’t see a problem with that since he is their father. But as far as just pics of him alone laying around the house, I don’t think that’s ok. I mean, if you are at a point in your life where you feel ready to move on from your past relationship and you are currently in a diff. one, then you should be able to get rid of those pics. Cause i would hope that you didn’t move on to another person until you were completely ready to let go of your past relationship. Good luck with it all!! =]
Of course it is okay to keep pictures of your children’s dad around the house–he is their dad and an important part of their lives. If your new boyfriend has issues with that…he’s got a problem…
If you’ve got one in your bedroom–that might be a bit odd…but then again, it is my personal opinion that if you have children in your home–you should not be entertaining gentleman callers in your boudoir anyhow… I really don’t believe in exposing ones childrens to romantic interests because it is hard on kids to have people sail in and out of their lives.
I would say take the pictures of him and put them in the children’s room if you dont feel comfortable having them out.However, your new guy needs to know this is their father, esp if the pics are of him and the kids. Also you could make a collage of all the pictures of him and kids and have them hang it on the wall in there own room. Plus its something u guys can work on together.
If you want to keep some pictures and memorabilia for yourself I would suggest getting a box and hiding it in ur closet, I know so many people who have the “EX” box and its a good way to hold on to the good memories.
If it is pictures of you and him, NO. If it is him by himself, NO. If it is him with the kids, yes, but keep them in their rooms. Not displayed all over the house.
If you want to move on in a new relationship, it will be hard to do so with pictures all over your house reminding you of your old one.
I personally advise against having this ex-boyfriend’s photo all over your home. Yet, I also think that there has to be some kind of a balance: After all, we all have pasts; and if this ex is part of yours and a part that you hold dear or don’t wish to be disrespectful of, I think one discreetly placed photo of the ex in the kitchen would be just fine.
The reason why I advise the above is because individuals that you are dating might just presume that you have an ongoing involvement with another man (and the fact that this man is the father of all of your children might not, even if it does come to the surface, make any difference to some.)
i think it’s ok. it’s apart of your memories.
A picture of the kids with their father, in the kid’s room, is good for their sake and your new boyfriend should deal. A picture of the kids with their father, hanging over the living room couch, that could be a bit awkward. A picture of your ex-boyfriend, sitting by the side of your bed, means you’re still hung up on him. Kiss your current boyfriend goodbye. Basically, are the pictures there for your kids, or for you?