My boyfriend has been having an online relationship with other women, what should I do?
Tuesday, October 27th, 2009 at
8:27 am
I logged in to his msn ( nosey I know) but I was able to see messages he had sent other people. They watched each other on cam, masterbated with each other and this has been going on for at least a month. The most hurtful thing was that when I logged into his msn i noticed that i was blocked.
I ended the relationship as I think its a form of cheating. Now he wants me back and im not sure what to do. I still love him but can i ever trust him again?
I’ve been with him for 4 years,
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yuk. dump him.
No I mean if he cheates in that way… don´t trust him. He´s a piece of shit look for a men that is worth to be with you.
Don’t go back with him he is a idiot !
Open up to yourself find new men.
There are men that will actually
love you.
No, you can’t trust him again. What he has given you is not love. You don’t know what it is, yet. Get your own act together and take care of yourself, first.
Make yourself less available to him. Love and trust go together, you can’t have just one or the other. We all are either coming from love or fear, there is no third source. If you don’t trust him, you are coming from fear.
I wouldn’t go back. If he does that on the internet it’s a likely chance that he could do that physically. You will only get hurt in the long run.
Look for someone else
I’m glad you ended the relationship because you don’t deserve to be cheated on. I know you still love him but it sounds like he does not understand the boundaries of a healthy relationship. When you love someone and are in a relationship with them, you don’t go on the internet and use your web cam to masturbate and do other crude things. I think you deserve much better than this guy. If you do decide to take him back, it will be very hard for you to trust. You will probably find yourself checking his computer. That is not how a trusting relationship should work. Put a parental block on his computer so he wouldn’t be able to access those sites.
Log in to his Im again, pretend to be him, be rude to all of the other mistresses, and he’ll wonder why they hate him. Lol it’s a game, if he is playing it, why shouldn’t you?
Good luck.
Why do you love someone who has shown he doesn’t care about you?
If you cannot trust, you cannot love – so you feel maybe some attachment or attraction – but that really is not enough.
Sign 1 : you are blocked. Why on earth would anyone block a person that he/she says he/she loves?
Sign 2 : the other person, and especially the images… eww
I think you should tell him to stick his wants where the sun don’t shine, and find a real man, who knows how to treat a woman, and isn’t a backstabbing coward.
Wow, d i c k move on his part, don’t take him back, hes obviousily not worth it, and you will get over him eventually. Trust me, any girl can do better then that
How can you trust him again? It is a form of cheating and it’s not cool at all. You did the correct thing is breaking up with him. It’s going to be hard because you love him. You obviously knew something was up if you logged onto his MSN. Sorry about everything that has happened.
it’s not physically cheating in person, look at it like this it was a live fantasy, you should try it and see if he likes itand I’m willing to bet he will get his mind right.
Use your head, girl! He wants sex and emotional ties with other women, and the convenience of having you around. You still want him back? He’ll be your boyfriend until the next time logs into IM.
wow! he’s kind of a sicky. haha. I mean i’ve talked to other girls before but never cheating wise. I always talked about my gf actually. haha. but i’d say no. Once a cheater, always a cheater!!
Wow thats messed up, but if you decide to go back give him rules like, you have to have his passwords and you don’t want him talking to know one he does not know… Be stricter with him just in the beginning to see his reaction, if he loves you he will make it work…. Best of luck
nope cyber cheating is still cheating.
DUMP HIM (good job) and find someone better!
you trusted him the first time…and look what he did..
its good that you ended it. i know how it feels to still love someone…but look out for yourself. you’re probably going to end up hurt in this way again..don’t risk it. however hard it is..you have to try and move on.
He went online because he needed something he wasn’t getting. He didn’t tell you about it because he didn’t think you’d react well or be able to accept his needs.
You can either try to understand his needs and accept him, or give him the brush off, or take him back without understanding and go through the whole cycle again.
Communication is essential to any lasting relationship.
Do NOT take him back.
No you can not trust him. You are already out of it – why risk another break-up. He wants you back only to satisfy his hurt ego of rejection not for love. Best of luck.
don’t give him any chance to meet with you…….. i know it will be painful for you say break up…… but he is not good guy………… i use YAHOO and MSN messenger,,,,,,,,, since 2000 to till now…. and i never did that……i respect each people those who are my online friend……… really he is such an……..! sorry i don’t want to use any bad word in here about him…….. so leave him…… it will be good for you…..
no. the trust is gone. u will never have a good relationship with him again. it will just be doubt in the back of ur mind, that is not good for u.
If you forgive him and take him back he will just do it again because he knows that you will forgive him again.
Girl, i know exactly what you are going through.
My EX and i stress EX-boyfriend of 2 1/2 years did the online relationship, but through Craigslist. They sent each other pictures and had even made plans to meet up at a hotel. He was going to pay her and everything. I also found ads that he had posted and replied to about married couple threesomes…gross stuff and the worst part was he was using my computer to do all of this and he lied about it and denied all of it, until i logged into his email and showed him the evidence.
It is totally a form of cheating. We’re not talking about him whacking off to porn on the screen, we are talking about 2 people communicating and doing sexually explicite things with each other and if they are willing to do it online, they’d most likely do the same things in person. Don’t get back with him.