Why does my girlfriend still brings up things about her ex boyfriend?
Wednesday, November 18th, 2009 at
2:44 am
We’ve been dating for a year. She still brings up her ex boyfriend and certain things that they use to do and things she didnt like about him. Why does she still bring him up even after we’ve been dating for so long? Im tired of hearing about him — even if they are things she didnt like about him. Why does she do this?
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because she isnt over him. what a bicth!
she’s an insensitive bltch
I’d throw her out like yesterdays tiolet paper
1. She is venting
2. She is telling you what upsets her
3. She might not be over him 100%
SteveC
well, you could ask her about it.
either
(A) do you still miss him?
(B) think of me as the upgraded version of him! we’ll make our own memories.
she might just be convincing herself that your not him. its a good thing but yeah Annoying.
talk to her about it, i mean how would she like it if you were just going on about your ex
Maybe just hasn’t been able to let go yet.
she’s not completely over him….
There is only one reason,she wants you to feel jealous.
She wants to make sure that you aren’t going to pull the same stuff he did. She’s still feeling insecure about your relationship becase she was so let down by the last one. If it bothers you, talk to her about it, and let her know how you’re feeling about her. If you’re open about your feelings, she’ll trust you more and you’ll feel more secure about your relationship
There is a couple of reasons. One is that she isn’t over him. I think that the most likely reasons is that she’s happier with you them him, and is trying to let you know that you’re doing things right, or is trying to let you know in a rather round a bout way that you need to do things differently than how he did it. Good luck!
Shes obviously not over him which really sucks for you. But Hey at least you are hearing the bad things and not the good ones cuz that would be even worse. If I were you I would totally talk to her about it and see what you can get out of her. Dont yell or get upset just TALK. Ask her why tell her it kind of bothers you . BE HONEST WITH HER.
She’s boring and has nothing else to talk about or her life experiences are so limited (if she’s young) that she has no other point of reference. Next, you’ll be the ex she can’t shut up about
If she randomly says, “I remember when my ex and I went to Mexico,” that’s odd and I would wonder if she isn’t over him.
However, if it’s in normal conversation and related to the topic at hand, it’s not a big deal. She might even be hinting: “My ex used to smoke, and I hated it.” So she’s saying, “Don’t smoke.” She’s bringing in someone she doesn’t like (her ex) who did something she didn’t like (smoke) to entice you not to do it either. Or she could just be completely ignorant to the fact that it bothers you. Some girls are the type to embellish on the details and say, “I saw that movie with my ex and my best friend.” Who she went with doesn’t matter, but to her, that’s part of the memory. If she’s that type of person, I wouldn’t worry about it.
If you don’t like it, mention it to her. Tell her that you’d rather not hear what she did or didn’t do with her ex because he’s in the past. She probably doesn’t realize she’s doing it.
there could be still some feelings for him, but if you have been going out for awhile, dont doubt that she likes you. you gotta give a girl some time to adjust to new things. she got out of a relationship, i think that alot of girls are diff. than guys when it comes to that. and if that continues, just say nicely “lets talk about something else!”
Because she wants to make you jealous and to see what reaction she can get out of you by telling you about her ex and what went on in their relationship. Tell her thats its a real bummer that she keeps bringing him up and that the next she does bring him up your goig to ignore everything she says. Yea just ignore her when she talks about him. As long as shes not getting a reaction from you she will have no reason to talk about Mr. ex.
Dude, I see this as kinda good thing as she is making sure you know things she don’t like. You know most of the things that irritate women in a guy we don’t know, so by her telling you stuff that she don’t like is giving you a edge pretty much so you don’t do stuff like that…
It usally means she isn’t over him yet. Talk 2 her about it and see what u can do 2 help her get over him.
well maybe it’s because she’s so comfortable around you that she feels you don’t mind her talking about it. You need to tell her it bothers you, i used to tell my boyfriend things about my ex’s aswell until he told me he would prefer me not to talk to him about those things and now i never speak about it. I just never thought he would mind, maybe your girlfriend thinks this too.
I guess it depends what sort of things she is saying. I don’t think that i can see her talking to her current boyfriend about someone who she isn’t over. Usually those feelings are bottled up or told to a friend, not a current boyfriend.
Just confront her about it and if you’re nice enough about it then she won’t mind and you’ll see a difference with what she comes out with. If you feel jealous about it then just tell her that’s why you don’t like her talking about him so much.
Don’t worry though, on past experience this is probably just another way of your girlfriend letting you know the things she does and doesn’t like. Maybe she’s trying to hint something. Or maybe it is just because she feels so comfortable around you that she feels she can talk to you about these things.
Just ask.
so not over him.
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I went out with a girl for a year,she used to constantly talk about her ex-they had been childhood sweet hearts.
In fact I used to count the number of times she used to bring him up!(10-30 times per day)Chris wouldn’t do this Chris wouldn’t do that etc etc.She always used to say she loved me and the sex between us was brilliant.
However I knew there was something going on-so one day I blagged her and told her that I’d read her emails,said I was very disappointed in what I had found and thought she should tell me everything from the start..which she did after bursting out crying..sobbing with the sorry bit…
She had in fact been meeting up with her ex and talking about me.How I wasn’t right for her and could she leave me etc..(the usual snaky ex bf I want you back speal)
Now at the time I was a bit of a…lets say party goer..which she did enjoy when I was with her-I never cheated on her and always thought, we will be ok maybe she just needs to grow up a little yano(she was 24 though) In the end to cut a very long and now boring story short I said to her that maybe she should just f*** off back to Chris because I’m sure they would be much happier together!
She wanted to stay said she was sorry the whole bit…The relationship lasted about 2 more months and then I told her to leave.
Mate at the end of the day They are not over their ex’s or they don’t have the mental ability to accept that constant talking about ex’s is..well..hurtful!
Give her an ultimatum,tell her how you feel and if that still doesn’t work get rid! Life after all is too short to stay with someone who just thinks they Love you!
All the best and Good Luck!