Sorry for the length, I just wanted to get the entire story on here.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years, living together for 3. I am 20 and he is 21. We seemed to have a great relationship until about a month ago. I was looking at his cell phone and saw alot of messages from a girl he’s known for a long time, I didn’t think anything of it until I saw what the messages said. They had been talking for months I guess and she was saying things like “we should meet up and cuddle” and “I want you, xoxo” calling him babe and things like that. After seeing that I got suspicious and looked in his outbox and saw that he had been talking to her like that also…saying things like “you know I want you but I just can’t have you” and a couple messages actually made it seem as if they were about to arrange a time to hook up. When I confronted him about this he claimed that he didn’t want her and he didn’t know why he said those things, and that he only wanted me, etc, etc. He erased her off his Facebook and his cell phone and as far as I know they haven’t talked since and he swears up and down that nothing ever happened with her. I don’t understand why he would do that, he is totally not the cheating type, and this is an attatched girl with 3 kids who is not attractive in any way. He told our roomates about all this for some reason and now our girl roomate (Angie) keeps emailing this other girl and telling her not to comment on her fiances pictures on facebook and whatnot. Angie also told her to leave me and my boyfriend alone. Then the other girl sent Angie an email back saying that her and my boyfriend kissed and that he was trying to get her to go to a hotel room and that she didn’t feel right about it. She also said to tell him to stop sending her emails and just text if he wants to talk dirty. She also said he gave her our address. When I asked him he got very upset and said that none of it was true and that there had been a rumour going around about the two of them but none of it was true. I really don’t see how it could be true because we when we go to our parents(where this supposidly happened) we are always together, because it’s like a mini vacation for us. So I don’t know if she was just lying because she was mad that our roomate said something to her or if she is really telling the truth. I just feel very confused now, like maybe the reason he hasn’t proposed like we have always talked about, is because he is looking for something better or he isn’t truly happy in the relationship. I have talked to him about this as well and he says he does want to marry me and that he is happy but he can’t afford a ring. Is he just making up excuses? What do you guys think about this? Is he likely to actually cheat in the future?
Also, I’m not saying that I still want a ring from him, I just meant that I wonder if this is the reason he hasn’t propsed before all of this even though we seemed to be going in that direction.
Do you think he cheated or will cheat in the future? If I decide to forgive him how can we work together to overcome this? Any advice, similar stories, or anything is appreciated.
Thanks!
Also, he isn’t stupid enough to give her our address because there is always(no exceptions) someone here because we have 5 roomates and if anyone caught her here I would know about it.
Also, the email the girl sent to our roomate was very immature calling her “fatty” and saying weird things like “nice dogs” and “Im not scared of you” and just really stupid stuff like she was trying to make our roomate mad. This is why I felt that she may have been lying. I dunno

Were only 3 hours away but with work kids school…and normal everyday life we both seem to get so frustrated that we cant be together. He lived him and moved after only 6 months of being together. He moved to be closer to spend more time with his son and me moving now isnt an option but its getting harder and harder day by day to keep us together

My girlfriend went to a concert and kissed another guy while i wasnt there. she lied about it when i found out. until i showed her complete proof she admit it.

SHe was on E at the time and i told her not to.
She agrred not to.
but she did it anyways and didnt tell me
and says thats the reason she cheated because she was so messed up.

What should i do break up or keep her.

i love her a lot and she said it was a mistake

I resently broke up with my boyfriend. Yesterday actually. For the past two weeks he’s treated me horribly though. Some days ignored me completely. We didnt see each other at all!
But yesterday I saw him in town and asked what was up. He ended it. I was upset because I love him. Still do. But I know he didn’t treat me right and I deserve better.
But I can’t stand being alone. And now that’s over I don’t know what I’m going to do. My best mate has a serious relationship and always choses him over me. Which I understand since I’d did the same with ryan (my ex).
I don’t really know what I’m asking here. Tips on getting him back? Any tips on Feeling less lost? Advice in general would be good. Xxx

I have a friend who I have known since 6th grade and now he is 27 has no job, and his girlfriend supports both of them.

He hasnt had an actual job since he was 20. He has tried being an insurance agent , but failed, he has tried having his own computer repair business and failed.
I hate to see him like this and I could imagine the strain on relationship.

He likes his GF a lot and you can tell he appreciates her, but at the same time is feeling very insecure and a high level of embarrassment from years of failure.

What advice can I give him?
Also I should mention he is not a deadbeat, he is ambitious, but sometimes I would say his ambitions stretch beyond his means.

So, I met this amazing girl a while ago, but we only recently started dating back in October. She’s a Junior and I’m a Senior in high school, but she’s the best. We’re into the same music, comedy, movies, tv shows, everything. So she’s not only beautiful on the outside, but inside, too. We click so well, and I trust her completely. I think I’m in love with her, but I haven’t told her yet. Life’s generally been great until…

She asked me to come with her to her youth group one time. She’s got guy friends, and I’m alright with that. In fact, I think that’s great. However, I don’t think it’s possible to have “best friends” of the opposite sex for too long because eventually one will have feelings for the other. Anyway, I went with her and she introduced me to one of her best friends. We’ll call him “Tommy.” Tommy and my girlfriend have been friends for around two or three years, so he already has that history on me. He started dating one of my girlfriend’s friends but that ended horribly and he’s been single since. However, recently, he’s been flirting with her. Just in little ways, though; things like telling her they need to hang out more, they don’t see each other enough, she can text/call more, etc. This sent up a red flag immediately, but only because he was flirting with her both physically and verbally at the time as well. I talked with my girlfriend about it and she said that she’s noticed, too, but she kinda doesn’t want to admit it because she likes him as a friend. I told her that I respect her and trust her, but what Tommy is doing isn’t okay. I told her that there are certain boundaries between “boy friends” and boyfriends, and that to me he wasn’t respecting those boundaries and it made me uncomfortable.
I’m not really the jealous type, but this guy upsets me and makes me uncomfortable with the way he’s acting and what he’s saying. She said that she would talk to him, but I can tell she wants to avoid the subject and hopes that it will just go away. I can understand that, though. The same thing happened to me with a female friend, I didn’t want to lose her as a friend so I didn’t say anything. That was a huge mistake.
I told her this, and if she wants to hang out with him, then I trust her. She told me that she used to have feelings for him for about six months a year ago, but that she felt like they weren’t reciprocated and got over him.

I really just want to know how to approach this situation. Tommy needs to back off a little. She’s my girlfriend. I want her to be happy and I can’t choose her friends, I don’t think that and I don’t want her to think that I think I can (haha,). But this guy is crossing lines and that isn’t okay with me.
What do I do, what do I say and how do I act? I trust that she’s over him, but are those feelings more probable to come back because they were there at one point, or is it the opposite of that?

Thank you guys so much.

I went out with my ex girlfriend for almost a year and now she said she’d like a break to fix somethings in her own life. I really love her and because I do I’m trying my best to give her time and space but i feel heartbroken. Any advice on mending a broken heart would be appreciated

(LONG STORY) PLEASE HELP WITH RELATIONSHIP ADVICE!?
My ex girlfriend and I broke up because of her mean ways. She can say some hurtful things and she acts nonchalant about. She also gets mad when she don’t get her way and she acts very immature and hang up and ignore my calls. She has given me reasons not to trust her in the past and she told me she never cheated but certain things she has done made me feel that way by her hiding stuff.

She asked me to give her one more chance but she plays a lot of games. I told her we cannot resolve any issue when she has this wall up or an attitude. She acts like she wants her a** kissed and I told her I don’t have time for her games.

Other times I have broke up with her in the past, she would call me back and say she is sorry for what she did but she took our relationship for granted many times and she can be a mean impatient, and stubborn girl.

She claimed she would try to be more patient in order for us to have a better relationship but as soon as she does something wrong and if I tell her about she gets a really nasty attitude and she’ll be immature and hang up when it’s something she don’t want to her. She also always try to find a way to turn things around on me she just plays games often. Also even if her and I were together we both wanted to live in different places so we had different ideas on life when it came to a place to settle but I was willing to compromise, but she think the world is centered around her.

I have given her many, I cannot lie I still love her but she acts like she don’t care so if she really cared she would not let all this time go by and decide to contact me in the future if she really did love me she would have tried to contact me to try to resolve it instead of being childish and hanging up the phone, it’s like she say she love me and want a relationship but her actions show like she don’t care at all so I don’t know and I’m tired of her games.

I told her many times it cannot just be me giving all the effort to make this work it takes two and she wants her a** kissed and I told her I am so tired of me always being the one to reach out to you when we have issues, she has this nonchalant attitude and it’s just b.s with her.

I still do have feelings for her but I don’t know how many times I can keep taking someone back that continues to show me she don’t care with her actions. If she does call me in the future with an apology should I take her back or just continue trying to get over her and just ignore her if she calls and just continue to move on with my life by continuing to get to know this new girl I really like and she is very respectful and we have a lot in common and we are just getting to know each other but I am not going to jump into a relationship right away with anyone else knowing I still have feelings for my ex. Also my 2 ex girlfriends are American women and I am too but I have traveled the world and I find Europeans to be more loyal and sincere compared to most Americans.

I am not saying all Americans are bad but realistically it’s harder to find a partner here because so many people take relationships for granted and over there in Europe more people are more sincere overall when compared to most people here in America. My last 2 girlfriends are American so I need to try to something new so I’m currently talking to a European woman and she is very respectful and I know there are good and bad women in every place but I think it’s easier to find a European partner compared to an American one because not all but most Americans are very selfish and it’s all about them, very few of us have values when it comes to knowing how to treat a person when in a relationship and my last two ex’s took our relationship for granted.

Like I said overall Europe is where I’ll be moving to anyway and most of those women are more respectful, not selfish, and more loyal and sincere compared to majority people here. The European woman I am talking to now she is a sweetheart and I really like her and she is so different.

We are now getting to know each other but my ex girlfriend my try to contact me again because when I broke up with her before she has done that and I just am tired of her hurting me but I really want to continue getting to know this new woman. I guess I’m just trying to deal with all my emotions right now.

I need you all to tell me how to get over my ex faster too, and also if she decides to contact me in the future should I continue to try to get over her and ignore her calls if she calls me or should I answer the phone and give her another chance if she decides she wants to contact me and apologize for her actions, please tell me what to do about this situation? Thanks

so im 18 years old…i don’t have everything like everyone says! i recently broke up with my boyfriend becuase i felt he was losing contact with me even though he lives a couple blocks away from me L0L Well i actually felt that he was cheating on me (NO im not insecure it has happened with previous bf &&& i felt that vibe &&& sooner or later i found out…i guess it’s just a gift) any who, after i broke up he told me he was feeling the same way (USually when a guy doesn’t want to break up he’ll beg you to stay right?) well according to him WRONG! he left doing him and i left, WELL doing me! HE said that he doesn’t have a well paying job, barely makes enough, can’t buy a car and get his license b/c he can’t afford his tickets so that’s why he also doesn’t have time for me! I THINK it’s all bullshit!!!!!! I mean if he really didn’t have time for me why even waste his damn time in the first place in a relationship he couldn’t handle…OKAY before we got together we were friends..NOW it seems to me that our friendship has been ruined because of this relationship!?! i mean he was the one begging to get with me in the first place…I THOUGHT ewwwww gross im not getting with you we’re just friends! UGH sooner or later he got me alright! AND now that he got what he wanted i guess he can say NEXT!!! OMG i feel like crap & i don’t even feel sad or anything, TRUTH is i had the same SHIT happen to me REPEATEDLY (excuse my french! hehehe) i can’t seem to date a guy longer than 2 months! WTH is wrong with me? i try my best in being a good friend as well as Girlfriend i really AM myself with them honest..NOW i hate guys with all my passion!!!! THEY just seem to be all the same and now i base it on EVERY guy..here’s the thing i used to LOVE this guy with all my heart (one before this guy) and we never broke up! kind of distanced apart! i guess you can say HE BIT THE DUST!!! lmao
and ever since then i CAN’T TRUST no FOOL!!!! idk if i should give relationships a break and PLAY them like they play me or what?!?

PLEASE help me!

i also seem to always let a guy get the best of me! i see my sister and bff and friends of mine happy with their bf’s and me? well I STRUGGLE with them…MAYBE i’m meant to be a single woman for the rest of my life?!? Eh..IDk

i try my best on love and i just can’t seem to find it! UGH (im not concident) but every guy that i know wants to get with me but i know they are wrong for me!!! WILL i ever find MR. RIGHT?!? ugh sometimes i think he doesn’t even exist..
I MEAN WHAT’S in their HEAD??? WHat do they really think?

my mom always tells me…IF THEY REALLY LOVE/CARE for YOU THEY’LL COME BACK

but so far…NOTHING!!!!

idk what to do anymore…

any advice would help ladies…
OR GUYS what do you think goes on in their heads SINCE well you are a GUY! LOL

i’m really lost in what to do here,
so if you’re not here to be serious, just go somewhere else please.

but my ex boyfriend and i have been broken up for about a month and a half now,
and we dated for about 1 year and 7 months.
at first we was sooo happy.
and then things just started to really go down hill.
we went to different schools,
and it started to become difficult to see each other,
but i decided to move here, so i could see him all the time,
but then we broke up because all we did was fight.
well, we’ve been broken up for a while now,
and at first, i really didn’t care.
because he was a huge jerk to me,
and now he’s moved on,
and already dating someone else,
i mean, i am too…
but i’m not that happy…
and now i don’t know what to do…
i miss him so much everyday…
because he’s moved on.
and all the time on his Myspace,
it says “bj and Kayla carter.”
THEY HAVEN’T EVEN BEEN DATING A MONTH.
and it really hurts me to see it.
i just miss him so much.

i honestly would leave the relationship i have right now just to be with him again…
it’s so hard without him in my life.
and now i actually realize that.

we’ve broken up many times before,
but we’ve always came back to each other,
i just don’t know what to do,
i’m so lost….

is he really moved on?
is he missing me any?
do i just need to move on…?
do you think we’ll get back together?
is he doing this to make me jealous?

i really need someones opinion about this…

thank you guys for helping me.

btw, he texted me a day before my birthday, and was like, “just wanted to be nice and say happy birthday.” and i didn’t text back, but then he texted back like 5 minutes later, and was like, “sorry, that was my bud. just ignore that.” and i was like, “tell your bud i said thanks.” and he was like, “just ignore it! don’t text me back!”

i was like, “wtf?” lmao.

If you and your boyfriend (or girlfriend) broke up on what were not amicable terms (I was pissed because he broke up with me on AIM) and he says “I’ll still be here if you need me,” but you decide we’re broken up and I cannot have to need someone more than they need me. But he decides about 5 months later to send me an e-mail saying how much he hated our relationship after about 5 months, and we went out for 11 months. So you respond and he sends you another crappy e-mail, telling you about crap that you never even knew about, and then says that he never wants to talk to you again and that you should never contact him again. Then a month after that he says “I forgive you, I have no more hate for you in my heart.” Should I even dignify him with a response.

I am a senior in high school and my entire junior year, I was dating this guy. It was the most serious relationship I’ve ever had, and we were each others first loves. He was kind of a “schoolboy” and he got mad if I didn’t go to school or if I got high or drunk. So during our relationship, I didn’t do any of those things for him. We broke up because we were kindof suffocating each other with jealousy. He was actually the one who broke up with me. Our breakup was pretty dramatic, and after it happened he started skipping 2-3 days out of the week. He also started doing drugs. He would do things to get me jealous and he even made another myspace and added me as a girl, but I realized he was behind it so I deleted it. He had a new girlfriend but for a long time he continued playing games with me, acting like he still loved me but then pulling away. To be honest,I did the same thing without realizing till later. People kept telling me that he would talk about me and so I approached him about it twice and he finally stopped. Anyways, I cut him off totally for a few months and things got better. Now, we’re both in relationships, but we remain friends. A few weeks ago I didn’t want to go home so I stayed the night at his house and we just talked and listened to music. Then we ended up getting really drunk and we didn’t do anything sexual but we fell asleep holding each other. But anyway, he still skips but now it’s almost every day, and he’s not going to graduate on time. & now I realized that I too skip a lot(not as much as he does though) and I might not graduate on time either! Although I am doing what needs to be done to graduate, while he just stopped coming to school.

Do you think it has something to do with what went on between us, or do we just both have similar problems?

PS: people have said that it seems like he’s trying to deal with our break up through drugs because he still loves me, but I’m not sure because he seems like he really cares about his girlfriend.

& No, I’m not into drugs anymore. Just him. So please don’t be rude.

I’m a 22/m and I “counsel” alot of my “girlfriends” through their relationships and then once I get in to their problems pretty deeply I start falling for them and end up getting hurt when they have “success” on their part. Their success becomes my downfall. I believe that the most important detail in any relationship is communication…and I basically just tell it how it is and am very open…….but communication is a two-way door…….what ever they tell me I always parallel it with my own life and to make a long story a little bit shorter I end up basically crushed when our lifestyles seem to be yearning for the same thing.

I’m 29.She 25. I’ve been with this girl for about 3months. Wehave great chemistry and and we both say we love each other. We used to have sex everyday. Recently see said she wanted to take it slow ,cus we were moving to fast. Saying we don’t know a lot about each other. . I thought about it and she was right I didn’t know her fav food etc.. She said she wanted me to go with teh flow. She said she wanted to be with me ,and didn’t want to see other people. Again she says she’s in it for the long run ,but it really hurt when she dropped our relationship backwards. Like I said she claims to love me and want to be with me. Mind you I asked her countless times to be straight up with me ,and just end it if she didn’t want to make it work and be with me. So do I roll with this are do I end it before getting hurt again? I know my feeling ,but do i believe her when she says she loves me and pronanly will end up with me forever. Any ideas or thoughts? Some advice or anyone with similar situations.
This has been going on for the past month. She told me the other night that when we met she was still pretty messed up from her ex-psycho boyfriend. He used to always be so messed up to her, say nasty stuff etc. Never hit her. We met a 1 ½ months after she placed a restraining order against him. Now she tells me that I am such an amazing great guy that when we met how could she not give us a chance. I am very sweet to her and good to her She tells me all the time how great I am to her. Expect recently she has be3en quite. I guess that y problem she doesn’t really talk to me like she used to and I get concerned. She also states that she just wants to be able to do things for herself because when she was with him she was unable to do things she enjoyed (gym, relax alone time) She is a very intelligent women. She has been studying a lot also lately. She is taking the GRE’s . So maybe that could be why as well. I just don’t want to lose this amazing girl. What did i do wrong