Long Time Boyfriend *Almost* Cheated and now I am confused about our relationship. Advice Please?
Sorry for the length, I just wanted to get the entire story on here.
My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years, living together for 3. I am 20 and he is 21. We seemed to have a great relationship until about a month ago. I was looking at his cell phone and saw alot of messages from a girl he’s known for a long time, I didn’t think anything of it until I saw what the messages said. They had been talking for months I guess and she was saying things like “we should meet up and cuddle” and “I want you, xoxo” calling him babe and things like that. After seeing that I got suspicious and looked in his outbox and saw that he had been talking to her like that also…saying things like “you know I want you but I just can’t have you” and a couple messages actually made it seem as if they were about to arrange a time to hook up. When I confronted him about this he claimed that he didn’t want her and he didn’t know why he said those things, and that he only wanted me, etc, etc. He erased her off his Facebook and his cell phone and as far as I know they haven’t talked since and he swears up and down that nothing ever happened with her. I don’t understand why he would do that, he is totally not the cheating type, and this is an attatched girl with 3 kids who is not attractive in any way. He told our roomates about all this for some reason and now our girl roomate (Angie) keeps emailing this other girl and telling her not to comment on her fiances pictures on facebook and whatnot. Angie also told her to leave me and my boyfriend alone. Then the other girl sent Angie an email back saying that her and my boyfriend kissed and that he was trying to get her to go to a hotel room and that she didn’t feel right about it. She also said to tell him to stop sending her emails and just text if he wants to talk dirty. She also said he gave her our address. When I asked him he got very upset and said that none of it was true and that there had been a rumour going around about the two of them but none of it was true. I really don’t see how it could be true because we when we go to our parents(where this supposidly happened) we are always together, because it’s like a mini vacation for us. So I don’t know if she was just lying because she was mad that our roomate said something to her or if she is really telling the truth. I just feel very confused now, like maybe the reason he hasn’t proposed like we have always talked about, is because he is looking for something better or he isn’t truly happy in the relationship. I have talked to him about this as well and he says he does want to marry me and that he is happy but he can’t afford a ring. Is he just making up excuses? What do you guys think about this? Is he likely to actually cheat in the future?
Also, I’m not saying that I still want a ring from him, I just meant that I wonder if this is the reason he hasn’t propsed before all of this even though we seemed to be going in that direction.
Do you think he cheated or will cheat in the future? If I decide to forgive him how can we work together to overcome this? Any advice, similar stories, or anything is appreciated.
Thanks!
Also, he isn’t stupid enough to give her our address because there is always(no exceptions) someone here because we have 5 roomates and if anyone caught her here I would know about it.
Also, the email the girl sent to our roomate was very immature calling her “fatty” and saying weird things like “nice dogs” and “Im not scared of you” and just really stupid stuff like she was trying to make our roomate mad. This is why I felt that she may have been lying. I dunno











