okay so this relates with a cheating question i just posted. my boyfriend and i had a really rough start in our relationship…but i decided to believe that he could change. this could work and he’s the one for me. he ended up cheating on me on new years with my best friend..and i stayed with him..ever since then. i think it took him that realize that he’s actually with a great girl. and he’s turned into an amazing boyfriend for the past year. we’ve been together for a year and 10 months. so basically i let this get too far. i actually fell in love with this good guy he’s turned into. but i’m starting to realize even THAT isn’t really that good enough for me and that the reason i’ve been giving him chance after chance after chance is because he’s like my safety blanket and i was really insecure. but now that i did let it get this far i’m finding it really hard to let go. i just broke up with him about a week ago and i’m miserable. i don’t wanna go running back again because i know i made the right decision for myself and i’m actually really proud of that. but he’s my first love and no love is like your first love. i’m really scared to see where life takes me now i guess.

any advice opinions?

I please need advice on this situation i am in so i can resolve it once and for all.I have been talking with this guy for almost a month now.
That I met on the internet.
I believe we have fallen in love with each other but he is very wishy washy one day he wants me in his life the next he avoids me like the plague.I have given him more chances then i have anybody but he still continues to do this.I have asked him why he does this he told me he has self doubts and fears Love & Commitment.I have more then once stated how I feel but i feel he is not getting the picture because he keeps on doing the same thing over and over.He also told me he has a history of cheating.I have broken off the relationship but keep taking him back hoping things will change because i have deep feelings for this guy.he said he is in love with me but still remains wishy washy.please advise me on what to do?
i am really tired of being hurt by this guy
no we havent met

my ex-boyfriend and i call it off today..yep Valentines day . We both decided to break up because he was under stress at home and school and i understood where he was coming from and i made it easier on him to just agree to break up. We were both each others first boyfriend and girlfriend and freshmen in high school. I really did love him but today he confessed that the only people he would ever love is his family and i didnt really take it personally and i understood as well. he also said that we [the relationship] were going to end someday. He got to a point we he talked about home and how he said he was an a**hole to his family and how his mom think he hates her and i was just there trying to make him feel better. Him and his dad wants to move to Wisconsin where his dad side of the family is and i hate that and he told me if he was then he was going to miss me. Before we started to talk about this he came over today and we just hang out and i guess he just felt like it was wrong leading me on and he told me and that just made me have more respect for him. I am going to miss him and thats what makes me sad and want to cry. Im going to miss texting him, waiting for him after school and hanging out whatever we can and the memories we had. Im not mad at him for breaking up with me on Valentines Day. We dont have any classes and when we were dating we didnt see each other in the halls unless you wait for a while. So i guess thats good and he told me before we left that can we be friends and not ignore each other in the halls. i said yes and we hugged goodbye. I know he feels bad but i said dont worry about me im okay but the truth is that i was crying a river inside. Im not going to date and the reason besides him being stressed was that he wasnt ready i guess..he said he wanted to wait. i deleted all the messages from him except his number. i do believe everything happens for a reason and i dont regret dating him. in 10 days we would’ve been dating for 4 months. Again i did love him very much and i guess i will always love him and if he doesnt move then we still have 3 years old high school left.. and maybe down the road whatever life takes us i hope we can try again. Can anyone else help me get over him or any adivce?
Thanks

I am 28 and from California, i have been engaged to my fiance for 5yrs and have a 8 year old daughter from a previous relationship with my ex fiance who is 25. When i first met my ex fiance i was mesmerized with her she is so beautiful and a beautiful personality. I asked my ex to marry me as i never really saw my ex only my kid & she agreed but because my ex was 17 when she had our daughter her parents couldn’t handle it and they moved to Las Vegas so i almost didn’t see my daughter that much and we ended up breaking up, my heart was ripped from me as i had lost two of the most important people in my life. She moved back 5 years ago but i was already with my now fiance, my ex and i have mutual friends. Two months i dropped by her house to pick something up for my kid and my ex and i started talking and then something just happened and we where kissing, she pulled back and said she couldn’t do it and i left, the next day i went to talk to her and ended up telling her i loved her and never stopped loving her which i haven’t and she said she was always loved to me & we ended up having sex. So far we have slept together a bit but she said that it cant go on as too many people could get hurt, the thing is i am crazy about this woman and i have been for since i met her, i get jealous when i see her around other guys and when they hit on her, i don’t even want to touch my fiance anymore she is so stuck up and fakes a love with my daughter and tries to outshine my ex with mine & my ex’s daughter. My daughter is the image of her mom and its hard to look at her at times without seeing her mom in her but she’s my angel. My ex is all i can think about, she is an amazing mother to our daughter, at times i just stand or sit there watching her and my friend said i always have a certain look in my eye and a certain smile just for her that they never see when i look at anyone else. When she is around all i can do is look at her and smile, when i get her own her own i cant stop kissing her and when she gets afraid if someone is gonna see she pulls away but i pull her back to me and just kiss & look at her,im f*cking crazy about her. I know what i am doing is being a complete prick but im in love with her and know i am risking everything but she makes me so happy. Any advice?

I have been married for 2 years and i really am in love with my husband,he makes me so happy. When i met him he was addicted to drugs but proved he could over come it and has done for 3yrs. I am from Vegas but live in California were he is from. He always tells me how much he loves me, that he doesn’t know how to live life without me, he always has his arms around me or will always have hold of my hand. Last month i went back to Vegas alone to visit family & friends and i got really drunk one night with the girls and i ended up sleeping with another guy, im not blaming it one the alcohol and i take full responsibility for the stupid mistake i have made, i didn’t even know the guy. Nobody knows what i have done and i cant sleep properly at night and when he keeps telling me he loves me its like a knife in my heart because i betrayed him the worst way possible, i start crying randomly lately and its because i cant stop thinking about what i have done to my marriage but i really don’t want to tell my husband as im terrified i would lose him even though he always told me the only way he would leave me is when he dies. I feel like i need to tell someone about .eg. my mom or my best friend but i really don’t want to tell him but half me thinks i should. My heart is breaking i hate myself so much for this, any advice would be great?

Im 19 and never really had much experience with girls. Usually with girls it doesn’t really workout. I know it isn’t good, but i just like curtain things with girls, and i dont like to stray so i dont have a very high number of girls that i am attracted to, and the ones that i do like don’t usually like me, or are taken.

Well thats a little back ground on me. but i recently had a little relationship about a month ago. and it lasted like two weeks or so. idk it seemed too good. she was the type of girl i could picture myself marrying someday, and i felt pretty strongly too her. i think that maybe if it would have lasted longer i might have fell in love. anyways it didn’t work out because i was kind of her rebound. she broke up with her ex of 1 year, like a month or two before and i guess when i started talkin to her she was kinda vulnrable. i grew up with her and we liked eachother as kids then she moved away and i got incontact with her when she moved back. she told me that she really likes me and that she just isn’t ready for a relationship and needs time.

So my problem is that, its really hard to be friends with someone you like. im 19 and she is 17, so we obviously don’t go to the same school, and dont see each other at all unless we meet up. and so i don’t text her often, i usually start the texting but sometimes she does. and this is like once or twice a week. and sometimes we will go a week or two without texting. but when i do text her i feel like we run out of things to talk about because we avoid a lot of topics, i have asked her if i waited could we go out, and she responded that she would like to, but can’t make promises. but the problem with that is that idk how long it could take she was talkin about months and maybe a year.

I feel very LONELY and UNHAPPY and its not because of her, its because i didn’t really know what i was missing and so i wasn’t as lonely till i got with her. but i mean a year is a long time to feel like shit, and when i do stop talking to her for a while i wont think about her as much and its not as bad, but then she will text me and i will start thinkin about her again. and i feel lonely and unhappy, and i have nothing to do when i dont have college. i don’t really have any close friends most are distant or accuantenances.

I think that maybe what i need to do is get closure from her? and i have been thinking ALOT about it and it feels too open buti still want to talk to her and its hard not to. but i figure i could talk to her about it, and tell her that i want to stop talking and that maybe a few months or later if she wants to get together we can if i dont meet anyone else, or she don’t meet anyone else. but that will be really hard for me to cut off from her, and on the other hand i could just kinda tough it out, and try to join some clubs or something idk to pass the time i really want to be happy, and feel better. its not suicidal or anything, i just feel unhappy and its not her fault. but i just need to either get some closure, or try to keep up the talking and idk make it work.

So i just want some advice on what to do, i know its long so thanks so much for taking the time to read it.

Im 29 and was with my ex fiancee for 6 years, engaged for 2, we also have a 4yr old son together. My ex fiancee was the woman of my dreams and i lived to be next to her, every time i seen her i fell more and more in love with her, everyone knew that. She always takes my breath away and i always felt so proud to be with her, i was over the moon when she was pregnant with our son. Last month i found out that my close friend -who is married with 2 kids- and my fiancee were having a affair which had been going on for two months, she told me about it, as soon as i found out i couldn’t even look at her and left her. When i found out i lost the head and punched the wall, i started screaming at her and i found it hard to look at her my heart is broken. She was crying hysterically saying she is so sorry and that she needs me begging me not to leave, her body was shaking and she was screaming at me not listen to her & not to leave, i never seen her like that before. My old friend that she slept with, i also work with him but mostly in different parts of the country and we don’t speak anymore, every time i see him i wanna put him in hospital. Every time i went to pick up my son my ex would try talking to me but i didn’t wanna hear it & i turned on her and told her to f*ck off, now when i pick up my son she makes sure she isn’t there and i don’t really see her anymore and as stupid as it seems i miss her. A lot of my friends have grown to dislike her a bit but i am still in love with her. My son looks like her & it can be hard to look at him sometimes, he keeps asking why mummy & i don’t live together anymore and deep down its killing me. She is from the states but her family own business here and she just came back to the UK two days ago with our son & i really want to see her but i keep holding back. Two weeks ago when i seen her last i couldn’t take my eyes off her and we kept making eye contact, i want to spend my life with her. I love her so much and I don’t think im ready to give up on us, but a part of me when i look at her i feel hate for her. Any advice?

my boyfriend and i broke up in june and got back together in september, I am going back to school, he does not want to live back in the same town where we were and where i am going to school, anyhow he says that he loves me but he is still hurt and pissed at me, this is the second time that i have broke his heart, i do know that i really love him, why wont he come back to me officially and why is he doing this, i have learned my lesson. when we are together(he lives in another town) it is awesome times and he tells me that he loves me so much and that i am beautiful, and all he wants to do is hold and love me. he also tells me that he is coming for me, well i am ready, why not now?
i need a guys advice on what to do and what is he thinking

i dated this guy for a year and a half and i was and still am really in love with him but last night he broke up with me he said he was tired of me he was my longest relationship and it was his longest to we went through so much together how do i get over him any advice im really hurting and i cry alot how did you get over a long relationship and be able to move on
thank you guys so much

I cheated on my boyfriend with his ex-bestfriend, and my boyfriend heard rumors. He confronted me about it but I denied it already. I feel guilty and I really want to tell the truth but I don’t know how! Help?