Almost a year ago, my boyfriend and I split. No matter what I do, I can’t let it go. I have spent countless hours crying myself to sleep every night. I always could see me and him being together for a long time. I’m not quite sure why we got along so well. He was outgoing, funny, and always very upbeat, while I’m very quiet/shy, serious, and not very social. I loved it because I could always trust that he was giving his honest opinion to me whenever I asked him something. He always told me the truth even if it wasn’t what I wanted to hear. Most of all what I loved about him was that he always respected me and acted like a gentleman. Never once did he do anything (if you know what i mean) that I didn’t want to do. He always supported me and my interests (going to my volleyball and basketball games, track meets, band concerts) I loved how he always found a way to make me laugh no matter what we were doing. Being shy, I don’t generally have boys flocking around my house or fighting to date me( like that’ll ever happen) but he always told me how beautiful he thought I was. I felt like with him I could talk to him about anything and not have to be embarrassed. I need advice on what to do. We both have said that we still have strong feelings for each other, but I’m not sure what to do. I always feel depressed and I’m always sad. It was truly like loosing my best friend.

i have been dating this really hot girl for about 2 months and we have had a great relationship. i honestly think she is the best looking girl i have ever seen, she even used to be a model, any way the other day we were talking and out of nowhere she lets loose a massive fart! i was shocked, she laughed to play it off, but i just found it disgusting! since then i have kept my distance from her and i am undecieded weather or not to break up with her. i don’t think i will ever look at her the same way after that “incident”. please help, what should i do?

Hey all.

This is probably going to be a long post to try explain it, and I know people don’t like reading long posts as they seem boring (Or that might be just me, but I still do to help people!) So I’ll try narrow it down, I hope you can bare with it to answer my question!

So, this was my first girlfriend, and now it has ended, I realise how immature and to put it bluntly, how pathetic the relationship was.

So yeah, I’ll get into the story – I went out with her for nearly 2 years, and it was a bad relationship, I realised this about 7 months into the relationship but I didn’t want to let her go because it was my first girlfriend and I didn’t think i’d get another one and thought i’d have nothing to do. We argued pretty much everyday (Not at the beginning of the relationship but after about 4 month) and we were really obsessive, making eachother promise we didn’t look at other girls/boys or fancy them, things like that. (Sad I know)

Not going to type a lifestory of it all, just giving you an idea of how bad the relationship was, but i’ll get to the question now.

This breakup was about 3 months ago, and after the break up I spent days not sleeping and thinking everything through, and thats when I realised how immature it all was, and I realised I didn’t love her and she didn’t love me, it was just hell, we did have good times and go on holiday together and things like that, but we had no trust or anything.

So..After realising I didn’t love her, she didn’t love me, and I didn’t want to be with her I left it at that and tried to move on with my life, I got rid of all memories of her and thought even more of her personality and who she was and wondered why the hell I went out with her, because I hate her personality now I realise all this.

But after realising all that and moving on, up until now (3 months later) I still randomly, when I’m not doing anything or trying to sleep, get thoughts of her and kind of feel upset, but I don’t understand why because I don’t like her as a person, and I realise it was a really bad and immature relationship..So my question is – Why am I still thinking about her and being upset? She seems to have moved on, but I don’t know because I made sure I have no contact with her, but why can’t I move on? (Even though I want to because I know the relationship was bad and I don’t even like her)

By the way if it helps, we are both 18, and also – I’ve learnt a lot since then, I was kind of stupid, I’m not obsessive as the ‘Making eachother promise’ bit hints anymore! just wanted to point that out lol

And Bloody hell when I previewed this I didn’t expect it to be this long lol sorry about that – I’ll be surprised if I get any answers when it’s this long!

me and my fella had a 2 month break from our long relationship. we just got bored!! but he missed me, came back and things are good again.we have been dating and i feel like a teenager again.but i feel it is best to meet up only 2 or 3 nights a week for firdt two months and date, instead of every night as b4, cos that is what went wrong to begin with.do you think I am right here??

This question is referring to those relationships where either the woman or the man cheated and their boy/girl friend decided to stay with them anyway and trust them again.

Im a 28yrs old full time firefighter and was engaged to the love of my life who i met 9yrs ago engaged for 3yrs, she comes from a dysfunctional family of alcoholics who also work in the FDNY, she always works hard to be nothing like them, she has a great job in Manhattan. I was literally dying to marry her even though she wasn’t pushed on it as her siblings,aunts & uncles marriages never lasted and some married at least 3 times, but some how she got convinced and agreed to get married next summer. She had a miscarriage last year at 4 months, i had an accident in work when a ceiling collapsed on me and she went into a depression as i always went on about how much i wanted to be a father and she kept telling me she let me down when she didn’t, she also lost a brother, nephew and her mom & dad. Everyone adores my her but many know her as a is a tortured soul although her whole family seem that way, she became very destructive and hung around her family a lot more, she was like a different person. We both use to be really close and couldn’t stay mad at each other when she would look at me i see how much she loved me, It felt like we were distant with each other since December and we had many arguments, she had stopped going to many get togethers with our friends and it feels like we where never together anymore when im off she working ,vise verse, it was breaking my heart, she completely took herself away from everyone. She told me last week that she needed time alone and that she was no good for me, that she knows she’s hurting me and i am better off having nothing to do with her. Despite me telling her i will be there for her, help her and begged her, she said hurtful things and cussed me out, she moved in with her brother, it feels like my heart has been ripped out of my chest, thing is my crew are friends with her brother & his crew so im going to see her a lot & her brother told me she said the hurtful, cuss things to make me not want her back and let her leave. I love this woman with everything i’ve got and we use to be mad about each other now it feels like im losing her and im not ready to give her up,she can be quite stubborn. I don’t want to lose her as she is the love of my life but i don’t know what i will do without her. Any advice?

Ok so I broke up with my girlfriend about a month ago because her mom
refused to let her date me. We still text for a couple of hours everyday and I defintely still like her (she CLAIMS she still likes me but I’m highly doubtful). Anyway for some reason I can’t stop liking her as hard as I try (it bothers me when it seems like she’s flirting with other guys). So how do I move on and start liking someone else? I’m not just going to ignore her texts/not talk to her anymore because that would ruin any future chance of me dating her but I would really just like to accept my
place as a friend and not be bothered by people flirting with her

i made a big mistake! i cheated on my girlfriend and i was really sorry how can i tell my girlfriend that i was really sorry advice?

ok let me be a little more detail about my situation. i’ve been dating my boyfriend for 1yr and 2 months and i truly love him but when we started dating i wasnt really interested in him and i was young so i cheated on him. i regreated very much later on when he also cheated on me to get “revenge”. we r currently dating but i just foung out he cheated on me but he says he only did it cuz i did it first. should we just go on in life and for get everything that happen and start new?? im kinda of scare he is gonna do it again even if he says he isnt.

My ex and I dated for 7 years. We were each others firsts. We grew up together, went to college
together, and now he lives in the duplex above me and my 3 girlfriends. We honestly had a really good relationship. Trustworthy, and no jealousy. Well he broke up with me.( so obviously it was not that great..) The reasons were that he has never been single so he doesn’t know what he wants. He said he loves me, but there is no passion. We were both crying, and it was really hard. I found out the day be broke up with me, he took another girl, whom he works with, to dinner. She is a really nice girl, but not really his type I don’t think. I guess you can say I was devastated. Its been 5 long days with no contact. The only thing is the Facebook stalking, and I am sure he stalks me too. I just want to know the chances that he’s on this little binge of being single, and when he wants a relationship, it will be me. BUT. I will not wait for him. I am trying to move on, but there is a little hope in the back of my head that’s keeping me waiting. Its really easy to say **** him, but its hard since he knows, and respected everything about me. We were in love. And I am still in love with him. I just dont know how you can turn 7 years off. Please help on what he could possibly be thinking right now, if he will regret it, or if there is a chance between us at all. I truly am in love with him.