hello. me and my boyfriend of 8 years broke up about 2months ago. he fell out of love. I am still very much in love with him, and it’s so hard. I basically confessed my undying love 4 him and nothing changed. I want to tell him how i feel, that i still miss him and want 2 be with him, but i’ve seen people do that and it pushes them away even further. It’s just so hard to hold in. How did you deal with your breakup? i was planning on marrying this guy! and if your back together, how did u do it??

Ok, so I had a girlfriend for two years. We’ve always been in love, but we are differant people at differant stages in our lives. So of course this resulted in our breakup after I had moved BACK to Auburn to be with her. So after that goes down I get my **** together and get back in school, going out to bars and meeting people and just being more social in general. These are all things that hadnt done during the relationship. Anyway 3 monts pass and she calls me out of nowhere. Like a dumbass I call her back a few nights later and this all leads me to where I am now. We are being intimate, we talk a lot, its like a honeymoon, BUT we say we arent “together”( alas there is definite/enivitable emotional investement) . This weekend I am going to a concert and then come to find out today very attractive girl who I have been flirty with happens to be in the same city. I ask her if she wants to meet up with me and shes all about it so its on. Am I obligated to tell my “ex”?

Has anyone been successful in winning back the heart of someone that it took getting caught cheating on to realize how special the person was?

Since people are not perfect, it’s hard to say what each one’s biggest mistake in life will be. So, I wonder if their are any past cheaters that really “woke up” one day and changed how they looked at the person they cheated on before.

I have been dating a girl for a year a few months and she is not a good conversationalist. We also have nothing really to talk about. I am a huge conversationalist, so does anyone have any suggestions on how to start something new? We have tried asking questions but we ran out of those as well. Help!

I have had bad relationships in the past and was mentally abused by my step mother and i have been in relationships were ive been used, cheated on, lied to and abused. I am in a relationship with A GREAT guy now and I DONT WANT TO SCREW IT UP so who could I talk to to help me anyone knwo any counselors or help websites online at all? If ANYONE can help me please do. Thank you.

I’m so worried that me and my boyfriend aren’t going to work, or even if we don’t, I’m going to die alone and never have a good relationship ever again.
If you’ve cheated, did your relationship work out after or did you have a good relationship ever again after that?

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So, my boyfriend of over a year broke up with me a little over a month ago. I was devastated at first, and have just, over the past couple of days, began to strengthen. There’s way too much to the story than most of you would care to read, so I’ll shorten it. Because of weakness, I would start conversations with him periodically. And then my best friend enlightened me, disgusted, saying how mad she was that he is getting an ego boost out of my (although it’s not entirely obvious) obsession. That’s really what made me change my point of view. Now i’m starting to look at everything the way she said.. How much he gains by depriving me of communication long enough for me to cave and talk his ear off. I’m starting to suspend any question about whether he still loves me, if we’ll get back together, blah blah.. And start focusing on how terrible he’s acting, indirectly. It makes me realize that he’ll start conversation he wont continue just to watch me administer quick, lengthy responses. How he won’t talk to me for a few days, knowing I’ll eventually give in and talk to him. Sort of taunting me. I know it’s very little to go off of, but is this paranoia, or do my accusations have substance?

Additionally, I’ve been told that he dislikes me confronting him. Yet, he insists he wants me to not hold back in what I’m thinking of. That’s so… confusing. He told me, even after the breakup, that I don’t have to bottle everything inside of me. Yet, he doesn’t like me confronting him. That doesn’t even make sense.

Also have gathered a few facts: Few days before breaking up, I was afraid he was going to breakup with me, and asked him how much he loved me. He said, “More than I should”. Then told me he fell out of love, when breaking up with me. Yet, he told my best friend minutes after breaking up with me, that he still has feelings for me.

It was a long distance thing. And I’ve been planning to see him for Christmas, to try and sort things out. But it’s mostly like when the police are searching for just a body: I’m just expecting closure.

Do you have advice for me? Any at all.. I will take it.

I am lost and at odds. My boyfriend of three years just left today for Ohio where he is going to law school. I couldn’t go with him because I have a year to finish in my undergrad.

How do people who have had distance in their relationships adjust. We have been living together for the past 2 years, and this change is having a major toll on me.

If you have gone through something similar how did you deal? What did you and your significant other do to keep your bond strong? Any words of Encouragement?