My boyfriend of 2 years recently broke up with me. I was really upset…did anything and everything for him and he made me feel worthless. I’m good looking, I have a great job, and I’m almost done with my degree. He on the other hand has no job, fails out of his classes, and is so negative. After the break up he kept in contact through texts and wants to hang out saying he still loves me and wants me in his life he just needs to be on his own for now. He says he’s not ruling out the future. (I believe him I mean we are only 21 and I am his first gf and our relationship was a lot of fighting) I want to know the best way to make him realize how much of an idiot he is for breaking up with me. (I don’t want to mess around with other guys so don’t say that).

I’ve been with this person for the passed 5 years and in the beginning everything was great. it only took a couple of months before the problems began. I’ll admit that I’ve made mistakes within the first couple of months but it’s been a long time since then and he still doesn’t trust or have faith in me. He’s only just started to question my loyalty as well. What I need to explain is that I don’t leave the house by myself. I rarely go anywhere at all. I’ve respected the fact that he wants to be the soul breadwinner but his reasons are that he’s worried I’ll just leave him for someone with more money. And it’s not just that. He compares me to his ex-girlfriend and other girls that have screwed him over expecting me to do the same. It’s been this way for 5 years and I’ve just about had it. I’ve never broken up with anyone and therefore do not know how to say something as bad as divorce. Let’s keep in mind that I’ve never cheated on him physically or emotionally. Please, someone help?

Ok, so this might be a little long so bare with me please. I am a guy, (17) and my best friend is a girl (16). But age really doesn’t matter. I used to go to school with her and then I had to go to another school. Well we reunited on facebook and became much better friends than we were when I used to go to school with her. We have been talking only online for about a year and a half, and we have became really close in that ammount of time. I would def call her my best friend. I can share everything with her. She is the only person I’ve ever been able to do that with. We think about things that most people wouldn’t even be interested in or care about. There is a lot of things that we just connect on. And I have really began to like her like her. I’m not stupid though. I know you dont fall in complete love just talking over the computer, so don’t think that I’m thinking that way.

Well, before you know that you have to understand that I have never had attention from girls. I’ve never had a girlfriend and its really pathetic. And its something that bothers me so bad cuz it feel like I will never meet a girl that is going to like me. It literally eats me up inside.

Well, I have always held in my feelings for her in fear that it may mess up our friendship, and I really couldn’t afford that. It would just mess up my life so much more. So I’ve never said anything. Well we often talk about her relationship with this guy at her school. She has been off and on with him for almost a year. And I give her advice about what she should do when he makes her angry and ect. And of course I am jealous but I have always gave unbias advice. And when she keeps going back to him it kills me. I dont know the guy so he might be really cool, but man does it frustrate me. Im just really jealous that he gets her.

So lately I havent been feeling 100%. I just have felt like I’ve been in a fog. And my feelings have been all out of whack. Well, idk what I was thinking but I finally gots some courage and told her that I kinda have a crush on her. I told her that she is so important to me and is absolutely amazing. (Because she is) I also told her that I know she doesnt like me and thats ok.

Well she replied basically saying that no, she doesn’t like me like that and I am really sweet and cute and funny and any girl would be lucky to have me. But she is just hung up on this other guy. But I replied and said if any girl would be lucky to have me then why wouldn’t you want me? And I’m not stupid. I know that she is trying to be nice yet say, ” I just dont like you.”

Ever since then I apologized for bringing it up and that I was sorry that it messed up our friendship. And she said it hasn’t messed up our friendship, but I know it has. Things just havent been the same. Its only been 4 days since I told her but I can tell things have changed. And ever since then its almost like I’ve been thinking about her so much that I have started to like her more. And it hurts to know that she doesnt like me back.

She doesn’t go out much cuz her parents are SUPER strict. They don’t let her go out with people.

So…what I’m asking for is just a little advice about any of this. How to maybe make her like me more (although I’m afraid I’ve already been placed under the ‘just friends’ label), or maybe help me find away to repair this friendship that I have screwed up. Any opinions on this will help. Thanks so much.

I gave advise to someone the other day about getting over someone…..and now I find myself having trouble.
I have written about him before…..I dated him for more than a year….I found myself falling for him, though I don’t know why.
Guess it was the hot body, great looks, and he was remarkable in bed. Only prob was he is a loser! Complete pothead, did coke, at 34 years old STILL lived with mom and dad….and with his two kids. He had no aspirations in life, barely any education!!!
I really don’t know how I got soooo into him…but his charm was there for sure. I am a college educated professional, and attractive. Even though I know he was so wrong for me I still can’t stop thinking about him and wondering whom he is seeing now.
I really tried to help him out with his children. He used me in so many ways…and broke up with me right after Christmas !
I was completely heartbroken. I actually think he waited til after Christmas so he and his kids would get gifts from me! Help!
So far…the women give the best advise!
One guy said flirt…and I plan on it!
Dan S. is a bit insensitive..I have never been known to go for guys with big dks and no brains! I guess I just had a heart and a guy that knows how to work his charm! Okay…I’m human!

I have been going out with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years and we love each other so much, while i have a best guy friend whom i know for almost 5 years. I am very close to both but each in a different way. This year my best guy friend kept on complimenting me on how good i look and how i have changed and other stuff, i just thought that he was being nice until he asked me if i was going to break up with my boyfriend because he has been wanting to go out with me since ages. I used to have a major crush on him a long time ago but i didnt show it becasue i didnt want to ruin our friendship. My current boyfriend loves me so much and i love him so much too but now i am confused, it is like loving to guys at once. Help, what do i do?

My boyfriend broke up with me because of somethign he heard that wasnt true. someone told him i cheated on him while he was in rehab and id idnt, and he wont believe me so im moving on. It’s his loss. Anyways, its only been 2 weeks and he already has a new girlfriend and he wont even talk to me. I guess i dont try to talk to him either, but he tells everyone he is over me and hates me and is all bitter about me. I just want to end things on a good note.. and i want him to know the truth that i didnt cheat. Is there anything i can do? Should i just give it time and take him his stuff and try to talk to him? Should i write him a closure letter? I just really want to move on and its hard to move on knowing we broke up over a lie and i keep thinking what if he was the one and now its over because of a lie? I know he still has to love me and care, i just dotn get why he is being so bitter? But all i know is that i deserve better than this, but i cant move on until i have closure..

On friday she broke up with me at lunche (1:30) and at our track meet around 8:20 i found out that her and my friend are going out with each other and i started to cry,can anyone tell me what to do?

I recently broke up with my boyfriend, and I’m so glad I did. I didn’t like him like I used to, and he was a CHEATER. Now, he’s begging me to come back, using the “I’m so miserable I bawling my head off…” treatment. Urgh! I want to make him so miserable he cries for real, that stupid, lying, mean jerk of a boyfriend! I want for him to be jealous…What’s the best way to do it? And no rude comments please!

I keep on telling her how ill change and that i realized exactly what not to do in a relationship, i love you etc etc….Everyone says not to call. But i want her to think i care. Ive sent flowers, sobbed to her, ignored her and evreything… but she still says she doent know if she wans to be with me…and shes confused. Yet theres another guy in the picture now who is her best friends, boyfriends best friend, and they all dont really like me. And shes telling everyone were done, but me she says were on a break and that she just doesnt know cause she feels there nothing left for her to give anymore, because of stuff thats happened in the past.. I bought her a trip to mexico for her bday before we broke up that were suppost to leave on in 2 weeks, and she said she has no money etc.But i said getting away would maybe help us work stuff out, but if she doesnt go shouldi pretty much know its done? and what should i say to her etc. I want her back so bad… HELP

I have liked her for before they first started to go out and they went out for about 5 may 6 months before she dumped him.

My friend recently went through a break-up and she can’t seem to get over him. They text a lot with each other and today she got a text from him saying “i love you” even though he has a gf. They’ve went out a few times and broken up and then got back together a few times but this time it’s different. I want to help my friend get over him because I know she really wants to but she just doesn’t know how. Any advice, tips, etc.?

I’m spending some time away from my girlfriend, just to think what’s best for the both of us. I said a week, it’s been 3 days, already know what I am going to do… It’s hard, REALLY hard but I decided I can’t be with someone I can’t trust. She talks to guys behind my back, and although she may not be doing it, it still bugs me because she lied to me before, and I can’t deal with it. It eats me up inside like you wouldn’t believe. So, my question is, how can I break up with her “nicely”. Like make her feel better at the same time? Would flowers be bad or good? A card? Haha I know it’s crazy, I just HATE making people sad/mad and I don’t want her to hate me. Just what is the bestest nicest sweetest friendliest way of letting her go…? I hate seeing her upset and sad and stuff. It’s just really hard cause I care about her and do want to be with, but I can’t. So ladies, how would you want your boyfriend to break up with you if you absoloutely had to go through it.
Excuse me Katie? I wasn’t asking if you thought I should stay with her. You don’t know her. Does she sound like shes “the one” for me? Obviously not. Do you find it entertaining for guys being hurt by girls or something? Did some guy hurt you and now it’s “all guys are assholes”? I’m asking for the best, nicest way to leave her, not a reason to stay with her. Sorry if that soudns mean, but I made my decision and what I asked in the first place is the only thing I’m interested in!
Haha, I’m sorry but I just re-read your answer. “be with her and act like nothing is wrong”?? Are you joking me? Why in the world would I play games with her? Not only that, why would I do that to myself? You’re a strange one…..

i’m a lesbian, i just broke up with my girlfriend. my friends are setting me up for a date with this girl and they told me that she gets shy when it comes to dates. help me here! i really want to make this work!

I want to move on with my life. We dated for two years and six months ago we broke up. One months later she got a new boyfriend I still think about her all the time. I just want to move on. She still calls me I never call her because she broke up with me and I’m still pissed she got into a relationship so fast after we broke up from such a long relationship. I felt like she is always thinking about herself and never my feelings. She wants to be “friends” but why do I want to be friends with someone I loved and broke my heart. What should I do?

A friend of mine suddenly lost her bestfriend in a tragic road accident early this year, and had broken up with the boyfriend soon after that. The boyfriend didnt seem to understand that she was not herself eversince she lost her best friend so they fell out. It was a double blow for her, losing the two of the most cherished persons in her life. What should I do? It breaks my heart to see her so depressed. She is taking anti-depressant and all seem well on the surface, but I know that she is hurting inside. I would appreciate any answer. Thanks.