I have asked him over and over for sex and he just blows me off. What do you think is going on? We have been together for almost 2 years and the problem keeps getting worse. He rubs up against me and hunches on me from the backside then he just gets up and leaves and goes to work every morning. Is he some kind of closet pervert?

You see I was previously married when I met him but going through a divorce. I was still sleeping with my ex when my current boyfriend & I started our relationship. Insecurity or I don’t know why I did it when I had feelings for my current boyfriend and not my ex. Then eventually I broke away from my ex husb but my current boyfriend is having a hard time forgiving me because he thinks this was going all the whole time. He was in Indiana and I was in Colorado. I am now currently in Indiana and have relocated to show and prove to him that I really do love him with my 2 kids. When we met and even after it was like 2 peas in a pod we have everything in common, would talk for hours on the phone I’d fly out to IN or he’d drive up to CO. It was like a perfect match I had always wanted a man like him. No drugs no alcohol just hard working, affectionate and loving. Wonderful man from what he showed me. I know i did wrong but I am truly sorry. I cry everyday and he’s seen me and says look I don’t want to hurt you but I can’t control how I currently feel and what I think.

He’s changed drastically towards me he sometimes says he’s confused on what he feels towards me other times he says he doesn’t feel anything for me anymore that I killed it. This is a man who said he’d die without me that I was everything to him, his life, his world. How can a love that was so strong and big have died overnight in a period of a month? He’s not affectionate at all or complimenting, he’s told me you act like nothing happened you hurt me a lot maybe time will change the way I feel and think but maybe not. He’s told me that I haven’t done anything to change my physical aspect because I am a little overweight and I’d make changes to my body but I’ve fallen into a semi depression but I’m willing to do whatever it takes to show him that I have soleheartedly repented. I have asked God for forgiveness but I don’t know what to do about my boyfriend. Another thing that bothers me is he is so mysterious and protective of his blackberry he won’t let me even touch it and he carries it wherever he goes. He says work is separate from our live when he makes work related calls he has to be outside in the balcony or away to where I won’t hear his conversations. Could he have someone else on his mind? I asked him straightout and he said you shouldn’t be asking me but no I have never cheated on you even now I haven’t. Then why does he act like he’s hiding something.?

I’d appreciate any advice. I just feel so sad and I don’t know what to do anymore. I just got here to Indiana on July 27 and we just moved in together. He said we should’ve waited and given each other space and time to see if he’d miss me and want this as much as I did. But I moved things along because I wanted to SHOW him not tell him how much I love him and how much he means to me. He always tells me had I loved him I would’ve never done this to him but he’s wrong I am human and made a mistake I’m a good person and woman but how can he realize and see it?

Thank you :”””””””’(

I broke up with him, and haven’t moved out yet, neither one of us have the means to live alone yet. But now he is being really nice and i feel like a made a mistake. is that possible? How do i get through this?

I dated my ex boyfriend for 2 years and we have been broken up for about 9 months and so i have a new boyfriend. However the sex with my ex was awesome! and my new boy its not as exciting. so i have been sleeping with my ex when i am drunk around him and i dont feel like i am cheating, but i know it is, i just feel like im using him for sex. how bad is this?

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So basically, I’ve decided that everything doesn’t match up anymore and I think I have to break up with my boyfriend of 1 year and 3 months. I never broke up with anyone before, and I’ve tried to before with him, but I just can’t do it and break away. He’s my first real boyfriend and I lost my virginity to him so of course it’s going to be hard.

But… I have to do this. Any advice? Tips?

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I am furious and upset…don’t know what to do over my boyfriend.?
I am 39 and have been dating a 44 year old man for about 3 months. He lives in a city about 100 miles away, so we see each other every other weekend. About 2 weeks ago, I went to spend the weekend with him. One evening while out, his ex-girlfriend saw us and he chuckled about it, saying he had gotten a dirty look from her and then proceeded to tell me about their relationship…dated for 1 1/2 years, broke up last Oct. She cheated, lied, damaged his property a couple of times when she was angry and wound up breaking his heart. Fast forward a few days later and I find out she’s been calling him, telling him she still has feelings for him although she is with another man. And in the entire 8 month she and my guy have been broken up, not once has she contacted him. Two of his friends have told me she is just the type who would see him with another woman and try to cause trouble because she thinks he should still be home crying over her…and that they doubt nearly 100% that she is truly interested in getting back with him. He tells me he is torn…he still has feelings for her but yet, he cares about me also. I cannot believe at my age I am in the middle of this teenage-drama stuff, but I do not know what to do, what to say or what to expect. He has been distant to me since she’s been in the picture, although we still talk, text and were together this past weekend. Up until she started this up with him, I couldn’t ask for a more loving and attentive man. Now he just seems so distracted…ugh.
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I should clarify to say that not once during the 8 months they’ve been broken up has she attempted to contact him…until she saw him out with another woman.
1 day ago

So do I back away from him until he knows exactly what he wants? I hate this…
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My boyfriend has the emotional stability of a teaspoon (he’s a genius, so I guess it comes with the trade) who is totally infatuated with me. I wish I was exaggerating, but I’m not…he follows me everywhere and does everything that I do and becomes depressed when I am to busy to hang out (believe me, our mutual friends have told me). The thing is, I don’t like him at all anymore, and I am ashamed to say that I go through great lengths to avoid him. I know this isn’t fair to either of us, but I really don’t want to break his heart. I know I have to hurt him, but what is the best way to break up to ensure minimal damage?

My boyfriend travels out of state for work…Im worried that he will be tempted to cheat..it drives me crazy! I dont know what to do??

this is where it starts getting hard… he’s leaving for army basic training in a few weeks so everything is really sensitive already. He has this “addiction” with being and needing to be #1. This wouldn’t usually be any kind of problem, but the only way he feels that he can accomplish being #1 while he’s in training is to “erase” everyone here at home. He feels like no one is able to help him and that he has to do it on his own even if that means that i might not be here when he gets back.
I’ve told him so many times that i will be here always and that I don’t see myself with anyone but him. He knows how much i love him. He says that he’s confused on what he should do, but that he knows he loves me very much.
He decided last night that we shouldn’t be together, but that he wants to be close friends still. I know he loves me i just can’t understand why he doesn’t want me to be here to support him while he’s gone and thinks it would be easier if i was “erased” this normal? HELP!