Me and him used to go out, and in the past Ive had a lot of trouble with falling in love and out of love with him. I feel myself falling for him again though, and I don’t want to keep on feeling like this. He’s basically a really close friend of mine and someone who I cant really avoid (as he’s my best friends brother). Has anyone got any ideas on how to just see him as a mate. Any advice is much appreciated. Thank you

Sorry for the length, I just wanted to get the entire story on here.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years, living together for 3. I am 20 and he is 21. We seemed to have a great relationship until about a month ago. I was looking at his cell phone and saw alot of messages from a girl he’s known for a long time, I didn’t think anything of it until I saw what the messages said. They had been talking for months I guess and she was saying things like “we should meet up and cuddle” and “I want you, xoxo” calling him babe and things like that. After seeing that I got suspicious and looked in his outbox and saw that he had been talking to her like that also…saying things like “you know I want you but I just can’t have you” and a couple messages actually made it seem as if they were about to arrange a time to hook up. When I confronted him about this he claimed that he didn’t want her and he didn’t know why he said those things, and that he only wanted me, etc, etc. He erased her off his Facebook and his cell phone and as far as I know they haven’t talked since and he swears up and down that nothing ever happened with her. I don’t understand why he would do that, he is totally not the cheating type, and this is an attatched girl with 3 kids who is not attractive in any way. He told our roomates about all this for some reason and now our girl roomate (Angie) keeps emailing this other girl and telling her not to comment on her fiances pictures on facebook and whatnot. Angie also told her to leave me and my boyfriend alone. Then the other girl sent Angie an email back saying that her and my boyfriend kissed and that he was trying to get her to go to a hotel room and that she didn’t feel right about it. She also said to tell him to stop sending her emails and just text if he wants to talk dirty. She also said he gave her our address. When I asked him he got very upset and said that none of it was true and that there had been a rumour going around about the two of them but none of it was true. I really don’t see how it could be true because we when we go to our parents(where this supposidly happened) we are always together, because it’s like a mini vacation for us. So I don’t know if she was just lying because she was mad that our roomate said something to her or if she is really telling the truth. I just feel very confused now, like maybe the reason he hasn’t proposed like we have always talked about, is because he is looking for something better or he isn’t truly happy in the relationship. I have talked to him about this as well and he says he does want to marry me and that he is happy but he can’t afford a ring. Is he just making up excuses? What do you guys think about this? Is he likely to actually cheat in the future?
Also, I’m not saying that I still want a ring from him, I just meant that I wonder if this is the reason he hasn’t propsed before all of this even though we seemed to be going in that direction.
Do you think he cheated or will cheat in the future? If I decide to forgive him how can we work together to overcome this? Any advice, similar stories, or anything is appreciated.
Thanks!
Also, he isn’t stupid enough to give her our address because there is always(no exceptions) someone here because we have 5 roomates and if anyone caught her here I would know about it.
Also, the email the girl sent to our roomate was very immature calling her “fatty” and saying weird things like “nice dogs” and “Im not scared of you” and just really stupid stuff like she was trying to make our roomate mad. This is why I felt that she may have been lying. I dunno

I’m always honest with him as to who I talk to, but I didn’t tell him I had slept with the guy he knows I speak to as “friends”. It’s only happened once but it happened and i feel I need to tell him. Do you tell him in a suttle way or bluntly say something like that to a person that loves you. I don’t feel the same for him as I used to, and I wonder if it’s because i feel something for this other guy. The thing is my 7 yr. boyfriend is or was now for 3 weeks an alcoholic and wants to change now that I feel it’s too late. What should I do. In everything I do I see this other guy who makes me laugh and we did start out as friends but it became more one night when my boyfriend and I had split up. We’ve had problems this whole time we’ve been together and most of it was because of the drinking, but now that he wants to stop I wonder if telling him will make him depressed and want to start drinking again. I think it’s still to early to tell he’s only been sober for 3 wks.

i caught my sister bf kissing another girl..should i tell her?

Here is our situation. My live in boyfriend of 5 years recently had a one night stand with a girl in a class he is attending for a professional trade. this question is not in regards to should I stay with him. We have already decided to work it out and he is willing to do what I ask to regain trust (eventually). We are bumping heads about his remaining in the class that the girl he cheated with is still attending. On one hand, we stand to lose household income and damage his career if he drops the class. On the other hand, our relationship is in serious jeapordy if he stays in i, as he cheated with the girl in question during what was supposed to be class time (the class got out early one day, he went to her house and slept with her). So, there is the issue we are facing. he is willing to give up the class, much to the dismay of his family and friends. But should he? Would it help or just do more damage at this point?

i like my ex boyfriend and he really likes my best friend but she doesn’tt like him but i do and i want him to notice me again what will i do ?

So me and my Ex boyfriend dated for 2 months. i broke up with him twice because… well i wasnt ready to date yet. And see the first breakup we only dated a week. Then we were good. and i broke up w/ him like 3 months ago. I cant stop thinking of him. Even though he is a jerk! and well see he is a football guy so like he is self centered around ppl but when it is me and him alone he is good. But he is very clingy around me, and most of the time insecure about the guys i talk to / hangout with. but he can be a good guy .. deep down. he was my best friend… Anyways after the breakup i cant stop thinking bout him! and now i was going to tell him im crazy about him and wanna try again, but now he is going out w/ one of my best friends!!! How do i get over this jerk, move on, and get him jealous!?! i wanna make him be like wow i want her back. I wanna get even since he is goin out w/ my bffl. Help please!!!!
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HEY! i didnt break up w/ him for the hell of it ok! i wasnt sure of my feelings, plus he wanted a break to! so it isnt just my fault! we were both into taking a break. and then we got back together but he was being to clingy and im 15!! and i wasnt sure of my feelings! ok ppl so im not a crappy person! and now im sure of how i feel, and he just dated my Fuckin best friend! What the hell am i suppose to act like!? every things ok when its not!?!?!

My ex and me moved in together and we were together for a long time. A few years ago he started acting different. Now he’s telling me I need to get a job and get a place of my own because were not together and haven’t ben for awhile. I don’t want to have to get a job waht should I do?

He said he loved me 2 weeks after we were dating, broke up and now he’s always around me asking for hugs and flirting? So weird.:P

This question is for all the people who have been in the most difficult situation.

I am with my boyfriend who loves me more than anything in the world. We are fine together and i do love him.. its just when I am with this other guy, i feel the butterflies i havent felt in a long time. I lose interest in my boyfriend, and all i can think about is him..

There are 2 men on my mind and im afraid to hurt my boyfriend, and to make a mistake if i leave him..

How do you know which man is the right one ? what would you do if you were in my position? The other is not waiting around forever so sooner or later im going to have to make a decision.. and someone will end up getting hurt..

love

I broke up with my ex a year ago. We agreed to stay friends, but we never really talked after that. The other day, I decided to text him and found out that he’s moving back to Korea in August.

I still have feelings for him, and the thought of probably never seeing him again breaks my heart.

We’re supposed to hang out one last time next week. Should I tell him how I feel?

My bf and I have been together for over five years. Over the summer, things really were bad between us. He really hurt me more than I’ve ever been hurt before! Although things are much better between us now, I am still sad and hurt over what he did to me. I now live over 1,000 miles away from him, although he plans to move down here as soon as he gets the money.
Now that the majority of the pain has gone away, and we’re far apart, I’ve starting to look at other men. I’ve meet a very nice, intelligent man, who is a future doctor. I am very attracted to him and I think him, I.
I’m confused as to what to do at this point. Should I break up with my bf? (I was seriously considering it before I met someone else.) Go for this new man? Or should I stick it out the way it is?
I really do love my bf. He’s my best friend. But things just aren’t the same anymore-I can’t stop thinking about what he did.
I must mention that the new guy is 23 and I am 32. I’m not uncomfortable with it though.

I gave advise to someone the other day about getting over someone…..and now I find myself having trouble.
I have written about him before…..I dated him for more than a year….I found myself falling for him, though I don’t know why.
Guess it was the hot body, great looks, and he was remarkable in bed. Only prob was he is a loser! Complete pothead, did coke, at 34 years old STILL lived with mom and dad….and with his two kids. He had no aspirations in life, barely any education!!!
I really don’t know how I got soooo into him…but his charm was there for sure. I am a college educated professional, and attractive. Even though I know he was so wrong for me I still can’t stop thinking about him and wondering whom he is seeing now.
I really tried to help him out with his children. He used me in so many ways…and broke up with me right after Christmas !
I was completely heartbroken. I actually think he waited til after Christmas so he and his kids would get gifts from me! Help!
So far…the women give the best advise!
One guy said flirt…and I plan on it!
Dan S. is a bit insensitive..I have never been known to go for guys with big dks and no brains! I guess I just had a heart and a guy that knows how to work his charm! Okay…I’m human!

he told me he had to because of family problems. i didnt buy it. and a few days ago i find out it WAS TRUE! and i feel bad, because i asked him if there was another reason maybe three or four times over a period of a month, but he kept changing the subj. then i wrote him a message on myspace, askin why do you hate me, and all that crap, and now i feel even worse. my cousin sent him a message to not read that one tho.

my cousin is one of his best friends, aprntly but he trusts my cousin way more than me and i didnt do anything that i realized to betray his trust. he told her some really sad stuff, that made even ME sad.

(he broke up with me over the phone, the signal was weak ans i didnt hear y. =[[)
hes not answering his phone, or getting on myspace. whic scares me, cuz he ALWAYS has his phone and gets on myspace. (to my cousin) he said he really waswanting to run away. i dont know what to do!! i havent seen him since wed. ive been sick. so what should i do??!
were not stalking!!!
im just really worried!
he was one of my best friends before we got together, and then broke up over a month and a half ago!!!!!

I have been going out with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years and we love each other so much, while i have a best guy friend whom i know for almost 5 years. I am very close to both but each in a different way. This year my best guy friend kept on complimenting me on how good i look and how i have changed and other stuff, i just thought that he was being nice until he asked me if i was going to break up with my boyfriend because he has been wanting to go out with me since ages. I used to have a major crush on him a long time ago but i didnt show it becasue i didnt want to ruin our friendship. My current boyfriend loves me so much and i love him so much too but now i am confused, it is like loving to guys at once. Help, what do i do?