Almost a year ago, my boyfriend and I split. No matter what I do, I can’t let it go. I have spent countless hours crying myself to sleep every night. I always could see me and him being together for a long time. I’m not quite sure why we got along so well. He was outgoing, funny, and always very upbeat, while I’m very quiet/shy, serious, and not very social. I loved it because I could always trust that he was giving his honest opinion to me whenever I asked him something. He always told me the truth even if it wasn’t what I wanted to hear. Most of all what I loved about him was that he always respected me and acted like a gentleman. Never once did he do anything (if you know what i mean) that I didn’t want to do. He always supported me and my interests (going to my volleyball and basketball games, track meets, band concerts) I loved how he always found a way to make me laugh no matter what we were doing. Being shy, I don’t generally have boys flocking around my house or fighting to date me( like that’ll ever happen) but he always told me how beautiful he thought I was. I felt like with him I could talk to him about anything and not have to be embarrassed. I need advice on what to do. We both have said that we still have strong feelings for each other, but I’m not sure what to do. I always feel depressed and I’m always sad. It was truly like loosing my best friend.

This girl is a very proud controlling type. Due to this we had a fight 5 days ago and never spoke since then. Today I wrote a message to her telling her its over. But no reply, nothing. Last time I wanted to break up she was nearly crying so I gave her a second chance…but what does this mean? She ain’t replying….

I’m embracing this uncomfortable feeling of despair and anger after breakup of 5 months ago. It was really bad breakup because my ex just treated me like trash at the end. He has already moved on (of course!) and he is now with a new girl. For last 5 months, I don’t feel like I live my life; I’m taking a leave from school to “heal,” but things just don’t seem to change that much. Because I was doing all my best to the best for him, I feel so belittled and lost confidence as a woman. I know I deserve a better guy as everyone else says, at this moment I feel like I’m nothing and nobody will be pleased to have me. I know I want to change this situation, but I don’t know how. Any positive advice will be appreciated. Thanks.

I am 24, been in a relationship for 3 years now. I am in a fix and very heart broken.
I met him 3 years ago… i made a mistake of not telling him about my past… i didnt feel its a necessity at that time…
A year passed and we were soo good together. I know knew that he was the one. I told my parents and showed him to the world.
i fell ill once and wanted my email to be accessed at an urgency… i gave him my password so that he cud help soon to realise that he might see some old emails, the next i did was jump from my bed and change my password… he was curious , hurt… questioned me… i remained speech less… then gave in to say that it might have some emails that he wud not like… i goofed up… the next few months he was soo disturbed and curious… i was soo scared i will loose him i tried to lie… each time i did i got caught.. finally i told him everything.. he was not the first person i had sex with. But how cud i make him understand that it was me fresh out of college and went into a bad relationship were i was cheated… i didnt even know i wud meet him when i was with the other guy… My mistake… when i met him my ex boy friend and he worked in the same company… i had no clue… when i asked him if u knw xxx, my boyfriend went and befriended that guy just respecting him to be my friend.
We parted for 8 months… he didnt speak for 3 months and then we started speaking but didnt meet for 8 months, he called me his best friend and told me… he cant live with me but he cant live without me too, when we met after 8 months it was magical, we were soo in love and we cud not deny it, he told me he will be ok and we got back together, we went thru a lot of ups and downs as his ego was hurt he says… and even though i loved him to bits… he compared himslef to that old looser. Everyone loves him but i saw he was depressed… but when we were together it was magical.
He told me that he is broadminded enough to accept me the way i am because he knows that we were meant to be
He was in 2 relationships earlier one for 3 years and another for 1.5 both are married ( It was when he was 16- 21).
we spoke about marriage, planned our future, did soo many things together.. our family knows all was perfect… Until 3 months ago he started acting very diff… he wud ignore my calls or speak hurridly and say he is busy… i was hurt and kept asking do u not want he,.. and he said how can u say that… please trust me… and as usual it was magical when we meet and i wud feel sooo guilty to have tought negative ( we work diff timings so meet only weekends)… back to the weekday and he acts crazy again… 2 weeks back i found that he was messaging a girl he be friended.. i was hurt and questioned him.. he said he was sorry and i knw he was feeling very bad… he also told me that he was feeling lost and i wud be the first one to know when he figures out what was going wrong… we had an amazing weekend as usual… come monday again back to square… this time i forced him to tell me what was wrong… he told me not to love him soo much and to start thinking about myself and that he wants to go back to the time when he was alone , no responsibilites and had nothing much to think, he also told me that he maynot keep up his words… my fears came true… and i was shattered… he told me that he was trying soo hard and he cudnot…he told me that he is tired of hurting me… i wud say nothing cos i love him and he keeps hurting me and what if one day after marriage it gets really worse and he hurts me bad and we have to part ways… so he wanted to do it now… before it was late… i was shattered confused and blank.. because for me everything was soo beautiful and never had i ever imagined that this was coming… i shouted at him asking if he didnt think of all this when he made love to me for the past years… i asked what about our plans… promises,.. dreams… i got a blunt answer.,.. i know he was faking to be strong… i know he loves me…and its trying soo hard to let this go…
he told me that he wont throw me away and that he wud help me thru this as he knows it very hard….
He told me that he cud not get the ex boyfriends face out of his mind… and that has been hurting his ego all this he has failed to suceed….

Everything between us is fine… he knows how much he means to me and that i have never done anything to hurt him ever…
i have no clue whr my past is….
Only because he has not been able to get that gusy face off his mind , it has stopped him from all his plans and our dreams… as he is disturbed…
i am addicted to him and i want him for life… everyone knows i cant move on and so does he… but i feel sooo guilty and i have been staying silent… we speak , but i knw he is helping me get off… i cant he will fail… i want him…and ready to do anything… ready to help him…
he said he wanted to speak to someone elder than us about this… an uncle we fee

How is it that some people will come to regret ending a marriage or long term relationship and yet others cannot be bothered, get into a relationship quickly and are happy?

My boyfriend of a little over a year broke up with me over the weekend stating that he felt as though we were more like friends and that he’s felt this way for a while. He told me that I was perfect for him and that he didn’t know why his head was telling him to do this. We celebrated our anniversary a month ago and he said at that time he didn’t even love me. I knew that something was wrong for the past month and asked him about it often but kept being told that everything was fine, that he was just stressed out with work and his health.

I love him so much and miss him a lot and can’t understand what it is that I did wrong to make his feelings for me change. He says I didn’t do anything but I must have as people don’t just decide they don’t love one another anymore for no reason. He says that he feels like he lost his best friend and that he’d like for us to be friends if and when I’m able to do that.

What do I do? I love him with my everything and want him in my life but I know that I’d never be able to handle hearing about a new love interest, a new relationship or see him with someone else.

How do I get over this? I can’t remember who I was without him. I just want to stop crying all the time. I don’t know how much longer I can do this for.

My gf of almost 2 years I’m 26 she’s 22 just decided she was no longer in love with me and wanted to be single. She obviously has moved on and decided to tell me in a text. How do I when I’m so hurt?

ok soo Id even know whyy I said yes to him about asking me out. See I liked this other guy but was pretty sure he just wanted to be friends so I thought it was ok to forget about him. But whenever my boyfriend calls I think about the other guy.. and when I day dream I think about the other guy!!!! I just CANT help it!! I’ve only been going out with my boy friend for 4 days now and he is OBSESSED with me or something… It’s annoying me…. sorry but it is… should I wait a month and then break up because I don’t wan other people thinking that I date for a week and then it’s over??? Also my boy friend ALWAYS always tells me that he loves me ….. but I don’t love him!! What’d I do!! I think I got into a big jam….. and I keep thinking about what on EARTH to do?!!!!!!
hes also been telling me that hes going to stay with me as long as possible…. but uhh he didn’t give me a say in this???? lol

Ok so I broke up with my girlfriend about a month ago because her mom
refused to let her date me. We still text for a couple of hours everyday and I defintely still like her (she CLAIMS she still likes me but I’m highly doubtful). Anyway for some reason I can’t stop liking her as hard as I try (it bothers me when it seems like she’s flirting with other guys). So how do I move on and start liking someone else? I’m not just going to ignore her texts/not talk to her anymore because that would ruin any future chance of me dating her but I would really just like to accept my
place as a friend and not be bothered by people flirting with her

My ex and I dated for 7 years. We were each others firsts. We grew up together, went to college
together, and now he lives in the duplex above me and my 3 girlfriends. We honestly had a really good relationship. Trustworthy, and no jealousy. Well he broke up with me.( so obviously it was not that great..) The reasons were that he has never been single so he doesn’t know what he wants. He said he loves me, but there is no passion. We were both crying, and it was really hard. I found out the day be broke up with me, he took another girl, whom he works with, to dinner. She is a really nice girl, but not really his type I don’t think. I guess you can say I was devastated. Its been 5 long days with no contact. The only thing is the Facebook stalking, and I am sure he stalks me too. I just want to know the chances that he’s on this little binge of being single, and when he wants a relationship, it will be me. BUT. I will not wait for him. I am trying to move on, but there is a little hope in the back of my head that’s keeping me waiting. Its really easy to say **** him, but its hard since he knows, and respected everything about me. We were in love. And I am still in love with him. I just dont know how you can turn 7 years off. Please help on what he could possibly be thinking right now, if he will regret it, or if there is a chance between us at all. I truly am in love with him.