im thinking about breakingup with my boyfriend and i wanna know the best way that i will be able to breakup with him but still show him that i want to have a goodfrienship with him like i did before

I recently asked for help from you guys about broken heart. Thanks to everyone that replied with great advice. I have a question that been eating me up. The reason my ex broke off with me was that I was starting to show anger about things going wrong in my life. Lost job and fell into a depression. Which I was picking fights with her for no reason. Not physical fight of course. When my ex broke up with me she said she understands what I’m going through, she was in a situation before in her life. But that she’s in a good place in her life now, she can’t go through it with me. This from a girl 4 days earlier was so in love with me. I called her 6 weeks after the break up to see if she wanted to give me another chance. She said that she didn’t feel the same way for me no more and that she has worked for three years to be where she is in her life. What did she mean by those comments? Was she saying that I was going to just bring her down? I thought when two people really love each other they stick by each other especially when I got sick with my depression? This girl I mean loved me so much, How can she say that she once in a while still thinks of me but is over me. Please respond.

We started as a fling and open relationship but we need to be honest with each other. then we become really close and become a couple officially.
problem 1: I lied to her about sleeping with another person during our open relationship
Problem 2: I have 2 kids and i still keep in contact with my ex fiancee
Problem 3: We lived in a different city
problem 4: I lied to her about talking to her friend behind her back because i needed advise.
problem 5: I talk bad to my ex fiancee about our problem
problem 6: I am not open about my relationship to my family and friends
problem 7: i never sacrifice for her.

I have feeling for her and i love her. But i have done to many mistake and some of the problem; it wasn’t intentionally due to my situation with my kids. Please help, i need advise…
What if i want to change? we just started to express the way we feel for each other 2 week ago. We been together 8 months.I dont know how to go through my life without her. She is so good to me. can anybody advise me?

My Husband of 30 years has turned into a different person. He wants to be gone most of the time. Won’t do any repairs or mantinance for our house anymore. Lost intrest in our plans, goals and dreams. Treats me mean and rude has no interest in sex, or just talking to me. He will sleep for a couple of days at a time, and misses work and apps. Spending all our savings and not paying the bills. He has totally changed, I can,t get through to him at all. I love him and hate who he has become. We have been married 30 years. I am so hurt lonely and confused. He won’t go to the Doctor or counciling. The thought of divorce breaks my heart and starting over without him scares me. In order for me to cope I need to know why. He won’t tell me. Can anyone explain; or give comforting advice. Please…

He asked her out and they got really serious. He’s sort of a bully and she’s trying to get him to stop, but it’s breaking her heart. She’s bawling her eyes out and asking me for advice over IM as I’m typing this, what do I say. I don’t want to let her down. She’s saying that life is pointless without Kevin. I’m worried about her, I think it could be urgent.

In other words, is the 2nd breakup less painful than the 1st?

Broken Hearted and Need some More Advice?
I need some advice and understanding on how to get over someone that did something so cruel. I was married for 4 years, yes a little rocky, I never hit her or anything like that, her family and I did not get along. She has narcolepcy and we moved to chicago where my family is from florida. Then one day came and I was rushed to the emergency room and they found I had a brain anurisym and it was starting to rupture. They told me I needed emergency surgery but being that my wife had narcolepcy, I didnt want her to come back and forth from the hospital and with no help. I was worried about her, so I discharged myself from the hospital against the doctors orders and drove her and myself back to florida, where she has family and I was made to believe that we would have more help there. Her sister recently divorced and was texting her alot telling her she wished that my wife was single so they could have it like it was long ago, by going out and big plans. Anyways 3 days before my surgery in florida, she left me. I went and had surgery and when I got back home, I was served with a restraining order and then on christmas eve divorce papers. I am back in chicago now and doing better. They gave me a 5% chance to live and I did it fully and 100% perfect. But I am so missing her and cant get her out of my mind and I dont know what to do anymore because I know she wasnt right. I sit here feeling worhtless, I put on some weight because I wasnt able to do anything for the last 8 months while recovering. I sit on the computer hoping she comes on on emails me or calls and nothing. Please give me advice, I feel so lost without her even though all she did. I know there are two sides to every story and I was not perfect. But I always took care of her and I always provided for her and I always loved her. I put my own life on the line to make sure she was safe and back home incase something happened to me. Now she doesnt ever call, she changed all her numbers, she emailed me once telling me to move on with my life. I never hit her, yes I did call her some names in times of heated fights of hurt. But even if I wasnt inlove with someone or we grew apart, never would I leave someone I once loved like I was left. Am I wrong for still loving her and missing her? I am so down in the dumps and my life really feels over. Nothing makes me happy anymore, I sit here all day and night wishing, praying and hoping for a mirracle and people think Im nits because the way she left me and then to do all she did while I was trying to recover. I never got a normal clear chance to recover. It was and still is the hardest thing I have ever been through and all alone to boot. I undersatnd all you all are saying and I thank you, but it is so hard for me, she never gave me any type of closure that I so desperatly need. After all to me she was my wife, my life, my world and my love. I put my life on the line for her to not even look back and do this, who could do this to another person, I will never understand. By the way I am now 41. I was also wondering does Karma really happen????? I am just curious seeing the way she left me and carried on with her life between her and her sisters fun and games and to act like I never meant anything at all. And to think I was her husband and to me that meant the world.
Wisen smart, to be honest with you, it sounds like you have had some men issues to say anything like that about my situation. The restraining order was placed because her family told her to make a restraining order or they would disown her, second of all at court it got dropped because she lied about everything to get the temporary injunction. But thanks for the advice. LOL

My girlfriend broke up with me 2 months ago. She started talking to another guy. But the whole time she was talking with him she told me she still liked me. But i never told her i wanted to get back with her because i needed a break too. And now they have stopped talking because i told her i wanted her back. But she wont get back with me because when ever shes with me she thinks she likes him more but when shes with him she likes me more. So what can i do to show her that i am the right choice? And how do i get her to forget about this other guy?

I was with my boyfriend for about two years. We broke up about 4 months ago but didn’t really change much up until a couple of weeks ago when he decided he didn’t want to hang out with me that much anymore. So, he stopped answering my calls or anything like that. He only calls me when he needs something like the other day he calls and asks if I can come pick him up from this concert since his buddy drove and he didn’t like it so I go because I love him. He hangs out with other girls and doesn’t consider me to be his gf but I am so lonely b/c I stopped hanging out with my friends when I met him 2 years ago and my friends aren’t just gonna take me back after I left them like that. Any advice?

I have just broken up with my first boyfriend, and I’m finding myself in a lot of emotional pain. Perhaps the most difficult part is that we still care for each other, and we had to break up due to geographical reasons (I’m moving across the globe in a week, and neither of us have the funds to visit each other often). I have tried surrounding myself with other friends at this point, and that has helped a little. Tonight we were going to watch a movie, but I don’t want to watch a chick-flick or anything dealing with finding one’s true love.

Any advice? I’m 19, by the way.

how did you deal with it.. how did it affect your life? did you make any changes? how did you get over him/her? what was the hardest part?

She said her life is too hectic, lots of family issues and problems she needs to solve. Her father passed away 2 months ago and she is under a big depression. Now she wants to let me go eventhough we are exbfs and exgfs. She has done this before and ussually calls me up a few days later. Like we are not done with our calling for each other. I just started no contact today bc she asked me to move on. I respect her so im doing this.

How do you deal with emotional issues of breakups? time heals? analyzing? get another?

any suggestions?

I still love and care about her, but right now she is not into me.

I love my husband, but I fear that things may not work after all. We have been fighting alot latley and I have tried and tried to wirk things out. Everytime I try to talk things out he gets angry and said there is no problem, or that he dosen’t want to talk about it. Not only that I want to have children, and with out going into detail, I don’t believe I want to have them with him. It has nothing to do with him but his family. (I am 20 he is 22, been married for 3 years) Anyways I want to brake things off, but I love him and I fear how bad it will hurt. Any advice or true life storys? What does a broken heart feal like?