My friend has liked this guy for months now and he’s finally said yes to going out with her, ive never seen her so happy. Problem is he’s known as a cheater and has cheated on his past two girlfriends who happen to be my best mates! So she was over the moon and was planning on seein him today, but yesterday she saw him holding hands with a girl a year younger than him and hugging her, the girl he was hugging has a boyfriend but still.. and she went to say bye to him and he completely ignored her and ran off. Then today he called her a dog and when someone sed she wanted to kiss him he said ewww no as if she’s a dog! I told my mate who was going out with him what he said and she’s heartbroken and crying. Now he claims that he was drunk when he said it? But he wasnt. What should i do? What advice can i give my mate. She really likes him but he’s no good :L

this is where it starts getting hard… he’s leaving for army basic training in a few weeks so everything is really sensitive already. He has this “addiction” with being and needing to be #1. This wouldn’t usually be any kind of problem, but the only way he feels that he can accomplish being #1 while he’s in training is to “erase” everyone here at home. He feels like no one is able to help him and that he has to do it on his own even if that means that i might not be here when he gets back.
I’ve told him so many times that i will be here always and that I don’t see myself with anyone but him. He knows how much i love him. He says that he’s confused on what he should do, but that he knows he loves me very much.
He decided last night that we shouldn’t be together, but that he wants to be close friends still. I know he loves me i just can’t understand why he doesn’t want me to be here to support him while he’s gone and thinks it would be easier if i was “erased” this normal? HELP!

Im dealing with a painful breakup I still love this man.But it doesn’t seem to be going any were. He dosn’t want a commitment .We live in the same apartment building.This makes it very hard for me because I see him every day and its tearing my heart out.

I have decided to move to a different city and leave this all behind me .I will not contact or tell him were Im living.

Would you suggest this to be a good thing to do on helping me heal my broken heart?

I’ve been going out with a guy for 1yr. This guy is divorced and has 2 kids. At the beginning of our relationship everything was good, as in every relationship I guess. The guy was even thinking in moving in with me way before I thought about it but then months into the relationship I was feeling a little insecure because I was noticing that whenever I would playfully hit him or bite him he would do the same. It’s like he would never let himself so I was feeling like maybe he would turn out to be some type of abuser; so I went behind his back to ask the ex about him and she said no, that he never beat her so when my boyfriend found out what I did he broke if off with me. I think he felt betrayed but ever since then we got back together but it’s like he doesn’t fully trust me now and he said that because of this trust issue he has with me that he can’t move in with me right now but I think it’s just an excuse and maybe he’s not that into me; yet he tells me “I love u” all the time.

I’m just curious.
Since I’m dealing with mine, I would like to know some things that you guys on Y!A did.

Any advice, and tips would be wonderful.

And stories are always interesting to read as well.

Thank you for your time.

This is not for me but for one of my close friends who found out her boyfriend was seeing other girls behind her back. She’s isolated herself at the moment and I, with other friends, want to cheer her up but we don’t know what to do or say to make her happy again. Any advice?Thanks!

my boyfriend of 7 months broke up with me last night over one text. the text said “ive been thinking. we need to break up.” thats all. i replyed, “over a f***ing text? how classy.” he never responded. i called and called and he never picked up. im completetley devasted. we were talking about getting married after my 18th bday (this was his idea, not mine). i also have a bunch of family problems and he said they best way to solve it would be to get pregnant with his baby and we could start our own family together. i thought this was a bit extreme but it proved to me just how much he loved me and how commited he was to me. i love him so much. i don’t think i can get over him. im homeschooled and he goes to a private school so i wont get to see him around. he was the only person i had. im completley alone now. all ive been thinking about is wanting to die. i have no one. all my friends are on his side. no one is talking to me. my family hates me because they are devout catholics and they found out i lost my virginity to him. im so overwhelmed. ive began cutting myself for the first time. this breakup was the last straw to my shitty life.

My recently X-boyfriend and I still live together after the breakup. In fact, we are moving to Chicago next week. After we broke up, he told me that he still wants me to come but I feel torn. It hurts to live with him and try to deal with the breakup. We are still having sex and it’s so strange. He says we are friends yet he still doesn’t want me staying out too late, monitors my interactions with our friends and still has sex with me (kisses galore). So, what’s going on? To me, it feels like we are still together but then he refers to me as a friend and my whole world turns topsy-turvy. Last night, we decided to give it another shot but I still feel so awkward and I don’t know how to feel about the past couple of days.

I just broke up with my boyfriend of almost 2 years. We were close friends for 5 years before dating too. He is in counseling and has a lot of issues with relationships and feeling love in a “normal” way, probably due to some significant trauma in his childhood. That has been hurtful for me (him not being able to say I love you) but I’ve dealt with it. Last night he told me he’s decided he definitely doesnt want children. I work with kids now and I’m pretty sure I want them in the future. We decided to break it off. We both cried. We both want to be together. It just seems like the kids thing is going to be an issue and no use in putting off the inevitable longer and making it hurt more. But this morning, thinking of it…. it’s destroying me. I miss him. We plan to be friends and still talk, but I want to be with him. I want to cuddle with him and have things back to normal. He’s going to pull away from me now to deal with this (I know he will) and all I want is my old John back. How do you deal with a breakup when you both still want to be together?
Edit: I’m 26yo and he is 41yo. The age gap isnt an issue, but we are both old enough that kids is something that will be an issue sooner rather than later…. I’m not sure he’s going to “mature” and change his mind.