Sorry for the length, I just wanted to get the entire story on here.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years, living together for 3. I am 20 and he is 21. We seemed to have a great relationship until about a month ago. I was looking at his cell phone and saw alot of messages from a girl he’s known for a long time, I didn’t think anything of it until I saw what the messages said. They had been talking for months I guess and she was saying things like “we should meet up and cuddle” and “I want you, xoxo” calling him babe and things like that. After seeing that I got suspicious and looked in his outbox and saw that he had been talking to her like that also…saying things like “you know I want you but I just can’t have you” and a couple messages actually made it seem as if they were about to arrange a time to hook up. When I confronted him about this he claimed that he didn’t want her and he didn’t know why he said those things, and that he only wanted me, etc, etc. He erased her off his Facebook and his cell phone and as far as I know they haven’t talked since and he swears up and down that nothing ever happened with her. I don’t understand why he would do that, he is totally not the cheating type, and this is an attatched girl with 3 kids who is not attractive in any way. He told our roomates about all this for some reason and now our girl roomate (Angie) keeps emailing this other girl and telling her not to comment on her fiances pictures on facebook and whatnot. Angie also told her to leave me and my boyfriend alone. Then the other girl sent Angie an email back saying that her and my boyfriend kissed and that he was trying to get her to go to a hotel room and that she didn’t feel right about it. She also said to tell him to stop sending her emails and just text if he wants to talk dirty. She also said he gave her our address. When I asked him he got very upset and said that none of it was true and that there had been a rumour going around about the two of them but none of it was true. I really don’t see how it could be true because we when we go to our parents(where this supposidly happened) we are always together, because it’s like a mini vacation for us. So I don’t know if she was just lying because she was mad that our roomate said something to her or if she is really telling the truth. I just feel very confused now, like maybe the reason he hasn’t proposed like we have always talked about, is because he is looking for something better or he isn’t truly happy in the relationship. I have talked to him about this as well and he says he does want to marry me and that he is happy but he can’t afford a ring. Is he just making up excuses? What do you guys think about this? Is he likely to actually cheat in the future?
Also, I’m not saying that I still want a ring from him, I just meant that I wonder if this is the reason he hasn’t propsed before all of this even though we seemed to be going in that direction.
Do you think he cheated or will cheat in the future? If I decide to forgive him how can we work together to overcome this? Any advice, similar stories, or anything is appreciated.
Thanks!
Also, he isn’t stupid enough to give her our address because there is always(no exceptions) someone here because we have 5 roomates and if anyone caught her here I would know about it.
Also, the email the girl sent to our roomate was very immature calling her “fatty” and saying weird things like “nice dogs” and “Im not scared of you” and just really stupid stuff like she was trying to make our roomate mad. This is why I felt that she may have been lying. I dunno

I’m always honest with him as to who I talk to, but I didn’t tell him I had slept with the guy he knows I speak to as “friends”. It’s only happened once but it happened and i feel I need to tell him. Do you tell him in a suttle way or bluntly say something like that to a person that loves you. I don’t feel the same for him as I used to, and I wonder if it’s because i feel something for this other guy. The thing is my 7 yr. boyfriend is or was now for 3 weeks an alcoholic and wants to change now that I feel it’s too late. What should I do. In everything I do I see this other guy who makes me laugh and we did start out as friends but it became more one night when my boyfriend and I had split up. We’ve had problems this whole time we’ve been together and most of it was because of the drinking, but now that he wants to stop I wonder if telling him will make him depressed and want to start drinking again. I think it’s still to early to tell he’s only been sober for 3 wks.

My girlfriend went to a concert and kissed another guy while i wasnt there. she lied about it when i found out. until i showed her complete proof she admit it.

SHe was on E at the time and i told her not to.
She agrred not to.
but she did it anyways and didnt tell me
and says thats the reason she cheated because she was so messed up.

What should i do break up or keep her.

i love her a lot and she said it was a mistake

I feel really bad, but i didn’t know he had a girlfriend. He didnt tell me, and he was the one who made all the moves on me. We’re friends but not good enough for me to bombared him with questions about who he’s with or not, i didn’t feel like it was any of my business to ask, and it’s his problem that he did that to himself, I’m single i can kiss a guy if i want to. But the thing is, when we were kissing and stuff, we were laughing and he smiled A LOT. and every time i’d move away he’d sit there saying ‘fine’ and be all quiet and stubborn for like 2 minutes before he was pulling me back over to him. I mean it seemed like he really liked me, only for me to go home later that day and find a message he sent to me saying “what happend today can’t happen again, i have a girlfriend who i care about very much and dont want to lose over a dumbass mistake.” Why was he smiling so much around me then if it was a ‘dumbass mistake’? Do you think he likes me and is confused or something?
I know cheating is wrong and if we were to ever go out he’d probably do the same to me, so don’t answer this question warning me of what might come if we do hook up. But he hasn’t talked to me since the message he sent me, and I’m just a little confused about the whole thing. I mean, he seemed like he really really wanted to be kissing me when he was, so what does that mean? (and please don’t say ‘it means he’s scum of the earth’ or something, i mean realistically, do you think this guy sorta digs me? I mean why would you kiss someone you don’t like, multiple times mind you.

Like say a guy has been through 4 relationships, and never cheated. Would you still be worried about him cheating in the future?

if you catch someone cheating in a relationship, how do you approach them to tell them you know?

I asked this guy I’ve been talking to if he thought that cheating was the end of a relationship or if it could strengthen the connection. He said that he wasn’t sure that it was a matter of perspective but that it could break a relationship.

Does this mean he’s cheated in the the past? Or that he has been cheated on?

Me and my girlfriend have been going out for 11 months. We are serious, in college, and we even talked to eachothers parents about getting married. I love this girl to death shes beautiful, gorgeous, shy, cute, funny and dorky lol. We have been through a lot of things that made us stronger. Though something horrible happened today. I was at a friends house he had a get together and I drank a little. I was laying on the couch when my friend Rachel wanted me to go with her to get somethin from upstairs because she said she was scared. I NEVER thought of her doin anything with me she was a close friend. She started hitting on me and I said stop, then she took her top off and pushed me on the bed. She went straight to my pants and gave me head. I feel like utter ****, I feel like nothing, empty. I couldve stopped it but I didnt. I betrayed the girl Im going to marry, and I wish I could take it back. Im not talking to Rachel anymore. What should I do, I cant lose her and I made a mistake…
have never been in a more serious relationship then this and I really want to marry her. I dont wanna lose the girl of life because I did one extremely idiotic mistake. Im even praying to god for what I have done, I really dont want to lose her. Please help me.
Robert A and Dave Yours Truly, you guys are really helping me out. I really did not want this to happen and regret it sincerely. I talked to Rachel and told her I do not want to talk to her at all anymore, and I do not even want to see her. I told her dont wave hi to me, and deleted all ways of contact. My cell phone contract ends in a week so Im also getting an new number she wont get. I think Im going to take your guys advice and just forget this ever happened. I really dont want a stupid thing like this ruin something so much more amazing. Im 19, so after sitting down and thinking I realized I am still kind of young and I would rather have this happen now then when we were more serious in the future, or even worse when we get married. Im going to stop drinking and anytime a girl trys anything Im going to stop it. Ive truley learned from my mistakes, and I think all you guys should learn from mine lol. Dont let a dumb thing ruin the best thing thats ever happened to you.

with my sister…. >.> should i be like mad at her or like ugh……?

i confuseded…?

what should i do?
im the Guy and the GF cheated on me with my Sister

for people who didnt get it

my girlfriend and i have been together for about 10 months now and i really really do love her, more than anything and i know what i did was wrong, a huge mistake, and i would do anything to take it back

so me and my girlfriend were pretty much fighting and i went to see an old friend of mine, we just hung out like usual then we started making out then she gave me a hand job and then a bj but i stopped her before anything else happened,

yeah i know im a total dick head and an arse hole but i have learnt from my mistake and i will never ever do something like this ever again but i dont know what to say to her to just maybe give me a second chance

she is my whole world and i dont want to lose her

my girlfriend has been trying to talk to me but i have ignored her i think she s still with this other guy that she cheated on me with why do u think she ’s trying to talk to me do u think she’s ganna give up trying it i don’t know if she still loves me it was very hard for me to accept the fact that she cheated on me now i feel a lot better but i still think about her

Me and my boyfriend have been together for a long time now, but this is just eating me up inside and i really need some answers to help me feel better. i love my boyfriend with all heart he completes me and he is my everything. in the first month of our relationship i had went out with my ‘bestfriend’, her boyfriend, and her boyfriends friend. she told me to tag along with them so her boyfriends friend wouldnt be too bored so i did. well the whole time i was out with them the friend kept trying to hit on me but i just kept telling him to stop because i have a boyfriend but he didnt. also my bestfriend and her boyfriend were trying to pressure me into kissing him and stuff too. they kept saying it doesnt matter its not lilke you been with your boyfriend for a long time anyway(some bestfriend right? :[).by the end of the night me and my boyfriend got in a fight over the phone, and out of anger i kissed the friend! it was so stupid of me and i regret it so much! i didnt kiss him because i liked him or because i wanted to i just did it because i was mad that night, later that night i let him hold my hand and i let him kiss all up on my neck, but our lips only actually touched that one time (i know that doesnt make it any better but it makes me feel better =/). it was so stupid and immature of me i would do anything to take it back but i cant. my boyfriend is my world and i would never want to hurt him. this was the beginning of our relationship when my feelings for him werent as strong. i would NEVER do anything like that again! should i tell him? should i jeperdize our relationship and friendship for something so dumb that happened a long time ago? i think if i were to tell him, it would be even worse because of the fact i kept it from him for so long. or should this just be my little secret? i know if my boyfriend cheated on me in the start of our relationship i wouldnt want to know. it would hurt me so badly. by the way hes 19 and im 18.
i actually learned a lot after that night. i learned how much i really care about my boyfriend because of how torn apart i was after i realized what ive done. it all just made me think a lot. please guys help me. i need positive answers i dont need to feel worse.

how did things work out… is it true once a cheater always a cheater… don’t ppl just sometime make mistakes