I have a wonderful relationship with my boyfriend of two years, we seem like the perfect couple, and we have talked seriously about getting married… but as of about a month and a half ago, I began cheating on him with a guy from my classes. I was very attracted to this guy (and not just physically) but didn’t intend on doing anything about it. I didn’t feel very bad about it which really bothered me because of the principle of the thing, so I instigated a break with my boyfriend so I could sort things out for myself, but instead the cheating got worse. So now a month and a half in, I am still confused but deeper into cheating. The other guy and I have classes together on a regular basis so theres no getting away from him. I haven’t been a chronic cheater in the past, I’ve only cheated one other time, on a boyfriend with whom I was afraid to break up, but I feel like this situation is different. I really want to stay with my boyfriend… any suggestions?

This question is referring to those relationships where either the woman or the man cheated and their boy/girl friend decided to stay with them anyway and trust them again.

Sometimes in the beginning of relationships, one partner cheats, but has a change of heart and decides to stay with their mate. Do you think that it’s necessary for the cheating partner to reveal the past incident for the relationship to be wholesome? Why or why not?

i made a big mistake! i cheated on my girlfriend and i was really sorry how can i tell my girlfriend that i was really sorry advice?

Now he is texting me he loves me and only wants to be with me. No thanks is my first initially thought. But I do find myself checking my phone to see if he has text me. I get excited when I see he has texted me? What the h*ll is wrong with me? Why do I even care. It is not only the cheating but he is very verbally abusive and sometimes physical why would I possible care about him?

ok let me be a little more detail about my situation. i’ve been dating my boyfriend for 1yr and 2 months and i truly love him but when we started dating i wasnt really interested in him and i was young so i cheated on him. i regreated very much later on when he also cheated on me to get “revenge”. we r currently dating but i just foung out he cheated on me but he says he only did it cuz i did it first. should we just go on in life and for get everything that happen and start new?? im kinda of scare he is gonna do it again even if he says he isnt.

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He spent the whole night crying he wouldnt look at me.He swears on his mothers grave that it was really just a mistake. But now i dont know if i can trust him if i do take him back.

Has anyone been successful in winning back the heart of someone that it took getting caught cheating on to realize how special the person was?

Since people are not perfect, it’s hard to say what each one’s biggest mistake in life will be. So, I wonder if their are any past cheaters that really “woke up” one day and changed how they looked at the person they cheated on before.

1.when ur partner is thinking abt smone else while with u?
2.when ur partner is a criticizer?
3.when ur partner hides things from u?
4.when there is minimal needy conversations happ?
and wat shld one do to rectify?no talking over matters solution plz!!!!!!!!!!!!

I have been married for 2 years and i really am in love with my husband,he makes me so happy. When i met him he was addicted to drugs but proved he could over come it and has done for 3yrs. I am from Vegas but live in California were he is from. He always tells me how much he loves me, that he doesn’t know how to live life without me, he always has his arms around me or will always have hold of my hand. Last month i went back to Vegas alone to visit family & friends and i got really drunk one night with the girls and i ended up sleeping with another guy, im not blaming it one the alcohol and i take full responsibility for the stupid mistake i have made, i didn’t even know the guy. Nobody knows what i have done and i cant sleep properly at night and when he keeps telling me he loves me its like a knife in my heart because i betrayed him the worst way possible, i start crying randomly lately and its because i cant stop thinking about what i have done to my marriage but i really don’t want to tell my husband as im terrified i would lose him even though he always told me the only way he would leave me is when he dies. I feel like i need to tell someone about .eg. my mom or my best friend but i really don’t want to tell him but half me thinks i should. My heart is breaking i hate myself so much for this, any advice would be great?