I broke up with my ex boyfriend of three years about 4 weeks ago. I found out he was cheating on me, he of course denied it, but then admitted he only made out with the girl, which according to him isn’t cheating. Scary!
Anyways in the past we have broken up about 3 times and each time he would call me and beg me back. I would end up changing my phone number, but would become weak and call him.
First let me say that I definitely don’t want to get back together with him. The way this break up ended was with him telling me he still wanted to be with me, which I refused and then telling me disgusting things like how he only likes f***king the chick he cheated on me with.
I was furious and hurt that he would say this. From there is got really bad and text messaged me horrible messages calling me a loser and that the chick he’s with now is a better f***k than me, etc.
That all happened about a week after the break up and since then it’s like he is happy as can be while I am crushed and so devastated. It seems as though his life is perfect and he can just move on without a care for how much he has hurt me.
I feel like I have never really known the guy I was with for three years. He was my first serious relationship.
He also owes me $5000 (I took out a loan for his financial difficulties) and now it has been this total effort for him to pay the monthly payments. A few days ago I talked to him on the phone for 30 seconds about him putting the money in my mailbox. He was so casual about it and had no care at all that I finally talked to him on the phone.
I don’t get it, how can someone go from saying I love you, I wanna marry you, have kids together to this??
My question is why all the other times I broke up with this guy he would call constantly and try to get me back, but this time he has moved on like nothing. Like he doesn’t even care and I am here miserable. Why is this?
I am contemplating on whether this guy may have been a sociopath.
Let me know your opinions