My boyfriend of 2 years recently broke up with me. I was really upset…did anything and everything for him and he made me feel worthless. I’m good looking, I have a great job, and I’m almost done with my degree. He on the other hand has no job, fails out of his classes, and is so negative. After the break up he kept in contact through texts and wants to hang out saying he still loves me and wants me in his life he just needs to be on his own for now. He says he’s not ruling out the future. (I believe him I mean we are only 21 and I am his first gf and our relationship was a lot of fighting) I want to know the best way to make him realize how much of an idiot he is for breaking up with me. (I don’t want to mess around with other guys so don’t say that).

I am going through a breakup right now with someone I love very much. We were together for four months and suddenly out of the blue she feels that she needs to be single and “find herself”. We had/have a great relationship. We rarely fought and we got along great. I don’t get it.
A part of me feels like its not over but who knows?!

Anyway, I feel like I am counting the seconds just to get to the next minute. Its hard to breathe and I am simply…hurting. What are some effective things I can do to help ease the pain?

I’ve cleaned the whole house and did laundry….GAH.

Ok, he was cheating online persay and I found out. He admitted it and begged me not to leave him. We’ve been together for a long time so I decided to give him another chance. he had been having this online afffair from FEB-MAY and now, after all this drama went down, I am having odd feelings about this relationship. I love him with all my heart and I’ve done so much for him. I don’t see why he would do this to me because I give him everything he could possibly want. He said he just wanted to talk to someone, like a pen pal. But pen-pals don’t say the things he was saying, believe me, it was worse than bad. So I don’t know what to do, and I’m wondering if he’s cheated on me physcally. Someone please give me some advice, I feel like I’m stuck in a giant hole that I can’t get out of. Plus I’m afraid that he’ll do it again. What do I do?

Some months after a breakup I began talking seriously to this other guy, whom I had known before but never got to know. We had so much in common. He had just gotten out of a particularly bad relationship and made it clear from the get go verbally that he wasn’t looking for another relationship. I obliged. But as the weeks moved on, his signals were way different than what was originally said. We kissed a couple of times, talked for hours each night and I began to think that he was changing his mind. He admitted that he was torn between wanting to be with me and thinking it was not best for him and decided once again against the relationship. This happened another time, when I stupidly told him that I thought I loved him. I couldn’t understand why he could risk a chance. He made it clear no relationship but the prob now is that he refuses to talk to me…even when he sees me at uni which is every day. I can understand not being with him but I really miss his friendship. What can I do?
That is what I also had tons of problem with the he doesn’t love or want to be with me bit. Because…he admitted to having feelings and wanting to be with me…at one point and time he admitted to spending a couple of days thinking about it but realised that he was scared…or couldn’t handle it.
I had a situation where he was saying one thing and doing a next…then he effectively and totally cut me out of his life. I’m not sure how to adjust.

I’m not fully over him and he wants to get back together. We’ve done this before. It is a long distance relationship and I do love him, but I hate that I only get to see him once or twice a year. I don’t want to deal with it right now but he still wants to be with me. What do I do?

My Husband of 30 years has turned into a different person. He wants to be gone most of the time. Won’t do any repairs or mantinance for our house anymore. Lost intrest in our plans, goals and dreams. Treats me mean and rude has no interest in sex, or just talking to me. He will sleep for a couple of days at a time, and misses work and apps. Spending all our savings and not paying the bills. He has totally changed, I can,t get through to him at all. I love him and hate who he has become. We have been married 30 years. I am so hurt lonely and confused. He won’t go to the Doctor or counciling. The thought of divorce breaks my heart and starting over without him scares me. In order for me to cope I need to know why. He won’t tell me. Can anyone explain; or give comforting advice. Please…

So I’ve liked this one guy for a long time. It’s complicated, he’s asian and I’m white and I’m not sure if he even thinks I’m pretty or not. I told him how I felt and he basically said “thanks”. I talk to him occasionally (mostly over MSN.)

I’ve already been advised to play hard to get but I care about him that I don’t like not talking to him since he’s fun to talk to. Help?

Its really hard coz i love my boyfriend and he has kids to another girl, its something i want to have to share with him but sucks as he has already been through it TWICE.. its hard coming to grips with.. not only that…. i think she still has feelings for him :’(

this hurts real bad, it feels like someone is stomping on my stomach and chest constantly. I try to do other activities to take my mind elsewhere but it doesnt work. It hurts so bad that i cringe. Some days i would be okay and making progress and other days those progress go down the drain. What should i do? damn it hurts.

me n my ex broke up cuz we were headin two seperate directions n she got a new boyfriend n hes nvr givin her the attention she wants n she comes to me complainin

My friend, Jess, is telling me that my boyfriend is telling people that we aren’t dating and that we have never been together and she told me that she heard that from my boyfriend himself. I’m really pissed about it. I talked to him about it and told him the conseqences if he is lying to me and he told me flat out that he isn’t and that I shouldn’t believe them. I heard from more people then Jess. I heard it from about 3 other people and one of them is his cousin. Do you think I should leave him or what? I love him though and he’s my eternal light

We went out for one week, and he dumped me for another girl. I want to try it again. It was only a week. I can tell that he just wants to be friends, but I don’t want that at all.

I’m not too sure on how long he’s known her and I found out about her on the HI5 website and it was confirmed that he was cheating on me with her when I found a card she gave to him expressing what sex was like with him. I realized that it still hurts after all this time when I checked my emails and saw that she contacted me through the same website. She expressed how much she and my ex had fun together in the email she sent me. My ex and her is not together anymore. I am presently seeing someone right now, but it still hurts to know the pain he’s put through becuase we were involved for six years and its hard to get over him and what he’s done to me.

My husband and I have been married for 7yrs. Back when we were dating he broke up with me and began seriously dating this girl. It really hurt me at the time but things didn’t work out and we ended up back together. Since then I have despised this girl. Now his brother is dating her and she is always at family gatherings. It hurts me to be around her. How do I deal? And does anyone else think this is weird? My husband has been great through all of this but I think I’m starting to drive him crazy obsessing over it. Help!