I’ve always been confused about this. But guys (or gilrs) could you enlighten me on this? Why do some exs still wanna be friends with their ex girl/boyfriend?

It’s been a year since I broke up with my girlfriend. I’ve been out on dates since, haven’t really been in a relationship since though. She was my first love and I loved her soo much… Sometimes I feel like I force myself to be cut off from her.

Is it okay to miss her sometimes? And is it okay to be friends with your ex if she’s willing?

My mother-in-law and sister-in-laws continue to have a relationship with my husband’s ex-girlfriend. We have talked to them about 4-5 times and they continue behind our back. We are no longer involving them in our lives but I feel a bit of guilt because of my children. What to do?

This is an ex that you are still in love with and dream of a reconciliation with, but you have not seen her for two years, you sometimes talk on the phone an via chat messages, Does that change everything or anything?

I am having allot of trouble just getting over a girl i met in august.
Whats your take on this
I can’t ever stop thinking about her! <3 Even though i now shes gone.

and ignored her once she got pregnant so she had an abortion?

And this happened just a couple months before he got with you.

What would you do? Would you stay with him?

Well, my girlfriend and I broke up about a month ago, two days before our one year anniversary. I miss her a lot but I know why she left me I used to be a very bad boyfriend- I would never believe her before others and I would sometimes emotionally abuse her… but I was an immature asshole and I change. I realized that I really did love her, and that you don’t do things like that to someone you love- ever. This is not to say she never did anything- but not as me. Anyhow, I’ve gone through this with her before- her telling me she hates me and all. She’s dating two guys in the one month we have broke up, one she met online and well, the real fear of mine a friends from hers at school. I know you think I should give up, that we both are messed up people, but I know this girl and I know she has a lot more in her heart. We haven’t talked in sometime and she had told me she love but then,she hates me.She asked for her things back, but the way she acts makes me think she still cares about me

I have liked her for before they first started to go out and they went out for about 5 may 6 months before she dumped him.

Hello guys,

Basically, what happened is my ex-girlfriend whose name is Erinne whom I’ve dated and known for 4 years and I broke up 9 months ago. We’re both in college right now. 2 months after our breakup she started liking my ex-friend named Matt. He is basically a jerk because he cheated on his ex-girlfriend before and he is one of those people that treat guys like crap and girls nicely (Like a lady’s man)

Erinne and Matt even went as far as kissing each other and Erinne even spent a night at his apartment. She claimed that she just slept over there because she was still trying to get over me. Between those 9 months and the present today, Erinne and I tried to work things out as friends because I willing to move forward.

During this time Erinne said she didn’t like Matt anymore because he played her and that she didn’t even want to be his friend. Well last week, I found out that she invited him over to her dorm room and Matt and I almost got into a fight. After that I grabbed all my clothes and left Erinne’s dorm room.

I gave her an ultimatum after that, that she would need to choose between me or my ex-friend because people that are players are my least favorite type of people. She finally told me that despite all this there was nothing between her and Matt and that she felt like she was “choosing a jerk over me”. She basically told me I didn’t have the “it” factor anymore.

I admit that before we broke up, we kind of weren’t doing as much as we used to do like going out on dates or anything. Over the past few months I tried to get her to have that passion back because I still do have it for her. I took her out to eat and treated her very nicely. I brought her flowers at work and I even let her cry on my shoulder when she was stressed with things at school or at home.

Well this week is our spring break and we agreed not to talk to each other for the whole week. Last night however Erinne called me and told me it was unintentional and that she called because she was sad and wanted to talk to me. That’s when we started talking about how she wanted us to be friends really badly but I told her that we couldn’t as long as Matt was around. That’s when Erinne told me that she didn’t know why she liked Matt and that she knew what she was going to lose. She also called Matt a jerk. Erinne was crying really badly during all this. I also told her that not talking to each other was a bad idea and that it made things worse. We finally decided that if I couldn’t be her friend and support her decisions then I would have to leave. I eventually told her ok and hung up.

At one point during the conversation one of my friends who was a girl came out and asked me when I was coming back inside to hang out with my friends while I was talking with Erinne on the phone. Erinne just told me “so you’re having a lousy spring break right” and then hung up. Was she actually jealous and does that work in my favor?

I feel really lonely inside and I haven’t got sleep in 2 days. My self-esteem is really low right now and I feel rejected. I love Erinne with all my heart and I know that Matt just wants to get inside her pants. It took me a year to have sex with Erinne and we were each other’s firsts. Is it possible taking all this into account that Erinne really still does love me and do I still have a chance? What should I do now? She still has some of my clothes in her room but she doesn’t want to give them up nor the promise ring I gave her. Is this relationship worth waiting for even if I am head over heels in love still?

Update: A few hours ago Erinne called to let me know that she still wanted me to be her best friend because she still wants to keep me. I asked her if she could cut out Matt but she still said no because somehow she still likes him even though he’s a jerk. I want to win her back so should I bite the bullet for her and do it and wait for Matt to somehow screw her over and comfort Erinne or should I reject her offer and stand aside and watch Matt try to become her best friend and finally get what he wants. I don’t respect him at all because even after a month after his ex-girlfriend broke up with him he still remained friends with her even though they dated for 2 years. Matt also admitted to Erinne that he still wanted sex with his ex-girlfriend which I know is a trick to basically get Erinne to have sex with him right? if he’s talking with her about all this stuff. What should I do now. This is one of the toughest decisions I’ve had to make!

-Torn College Student

If it helps she lied to me a lot…

Hello guys,

Basically, what happened is my ex-girlfriend whose name is Erinne whom I’ve dated and known for 4 years and I broke up 9 months ago. We’re both in college right now. 2 months after our breakup she started liking my ex-friend named Matt. He is basically a jerk because he cheated on his ex-girlfriend before and he is one of those people that treat guys like crap and girls nicely (Like a lady’s man)

Erinne and Matt even went as far as kissing each other and Erinne even spent a night at his apartment. She claimed that she just slept over there because she was still trying to get over me. Between those 9 months and the present today, Erinne and I tried to work things out as friends because I willing to move forward.

During this time Erinne said she didn’t like Matt anymore because he played her and that she didn’t even want to be his friend. Well last week, I found out that she invited him over to her dorm room and Matt and I almost got into a fight. After that I grabbed all my clothes and left Erinne’s dorm room.

I gave her an ultimatum after that, that she would need to choose between me or my ex-friend because people that are players are my least favorite type of people. She finally told me that despite all this there was nothing between her and Matt and that she felt like she was “choosing a jerk over me”. She basically told me I didn’t have the “it” factor anymore.

I admit that before we broke up, we kind of weren’t doing as much as we used to do like going out on dates or anything. Over the past few months I tried to get her to have that passion back because I still do have it for her. I took her out to eat and treated her very nicely. I brought her flowers at work and I even let her cry on my shoulder when she was stressed with things at school or at home.

Well this week is our spring break and we agreed not to talk to each other for the whole week. Last night however Erinne called me and told me it was unintentional and that she called because she was sad and wanted to talk to me. That’s when we started talking about how she wanted us to be friends really badly but I told her that we couldn’t as long as Matt was around. That’s when Erinne told me that she didn’t know why she liked Matt and that she knew what she was going to lose. She also called Matt a jerk. Erinne was crying really badly during all this. I also told her that not talking to each other was a bad idea and that it made things worse. We finally decided that if I couldn’t be her friend and support her decisions then I would have to leave. I eventually told her ok and hung up.

At one point during the conversation one of my friends who was a girl came out and asked me when I was coming back inside to hang out with my friends while I was talking with Erinne on the phone. Erinne just told me “so you’re having a lousy spring break right” and then hung up. Was she actually jealous and does that work in my favor?

I feel really lonely inside and I haven’t got sleep in 2 days. My self-esteem is really low right now and I feel rejected. I love Erinne with all my heart and I know that Matt just wants to get inside her pants. It took me a year to have sex with Erinne and we were each other’s firsts. Is it possible taking all this into account that Erinne really still does love me and do I still have a chance? What should I do now? She still has some of my clothes in her room but she doesn’t want to give them up nor the promise ring I gave her. Is this relationship worth waiting for even if I am head over heels in love still?

Update: A few hours ago Erinne called to let me know that she still wanted me to be her best friend because she still wants to keep me. I asked her if she could cut out Matt but she still said no because somehow she still likes him even though he’s a jerk. I want to win her back so should I bite the bullet for her and do it and wait for Matt to somehow screw her over and comfort Erinne or should I reject her offer and stand aside and watch Matt try to become her best friend and finally get what he wants. I don’t respect him at all because even after a month after his ex-girlfriend broke up with him he still remained friends with her even though they dated for 2 years. Matt also admitted to Erinne that he still wanted sex with his ex-girlfriend which I know is a trick to basically get Erinne to have sex with him right? if he’s talking with her about all this stuff. What should I do now. This is one of the toughest decisions I’ve had to make!

-Torn College Student

Hello guys,

Basically, what happened is my ex-girlfriend whose name is Erinne whom I’ve dated and known for 4 years and I broke up 9 months ago. We’re both in college right now. 2 months after our breakup she started liking my ex-friend named Matt. He is basically a jerk because he cheated on his ex-girlfriend before and he is one of those people that treat guys like crap and girls nicely (Like a lady’s man)

Erinne and Matt even went as far as kissing each other and Erinne even spent a night at his apartment. She claimed that she just slept over there because she was still trying to get over me. Between those 9 months and the present today, Erinne and I tried to work things out as friends because I willing to move forward.

During this time Erinne said she didn’t like Matt anymore because he played her and that she didn’t even want to be his friend. Well last week, I found out that she invited him over to her dorm room and Matt and I almost got into a fight. After that I grabbed all my clothes and left Erinne’s dorm room.

I gave her an ultimatum after that, that she would need to choose between me or my ex-friend because people that are players are my least favorite type of people. She finally told me that despite all this there was nothing between her and Matt and that she felt like she was “choosing a jerk over me”. She basically told me I didn’t have the “it” factor anymore.

I admit that before we broke up, we kind of weren’t doing as much as we used to do like going out on dates or anything. Over the past few months I tried to get her to have that passion back because I still do have it for her. I took her out to eat and treated her very nicely. I brought her flowers at work and I even let her cry on my shoulder when she was stressed with things at school or at home.

Well this week is our spring break and we agreed not to talk to each other for the whole week. Last night however Erinne called me and told me it was unintentional and that she called because she was sad and wanted to talk to me. That’s when we started talking about how she wanted us to be friends really badly but I told her that we couldn’t as long as Matt was around. That’s when Erinne told me that she didn’t know why she liked Matt and that she knew what she was going to lose. Erinne was crying really badly during all this. I also told her that not talking to each other was a bad idea and that it made things worse. We finally decided that if I couldn’t be her friend and support her decisions then I would have to leave. I eventually told her ok and hung up.

At one point during the conversation one of my friends who was a girl came out and asked me when I was coming back inside to hang out with my friends while I was talking with Erinne on the phone. Erinne just told me “so you’re having a lousy spring break right” and then hung up. Was she actually jealous and does that work in my favor?

I feel really lonely inside and I haven’t got sleep in 2 days. My self-esteem is really low right now and I feel rejected. I love Erinne with all my heart and I know that Matt just wants to get inside her pants. It took me a year to have sex with Erinne and we were each other’s firsts. Is it possible taking all this into account that Erinne really still does love me and do I still have a chance? What should I do now?

Does it have any chance that we will bring back our relationship again? If she is not ready for a relationship.

I’m trying to keep her close to me. She gave me her number. We were texting and I spoke to her once over the phone. We’re friends on myspace. She told me that she thinks about me often, but we don’t communicate anymore. What will spark her interests again?

Hello guys,

Basically, what happened is my ex-girlfriend whose name is Erinne whom I’ve dated and known for 4 years and I broke up 9 months ago. We’re both in college right now. 2 months after our breakup she started liking my ex-friend named Matt. He is basically a jerk because he cheated on his ex-girlfriend before and he is one of those people that treat guys like crap and girls nicely (Like a lady’s man)

Erinne and Matt even went as far as kissing each other and Erinne even spent a night at his apartment. She claimed that she just slept over there because she was still trying to get over me. Between those 9 months and the present today, Erinne and I tried to work things out as friends because I willing to move forward.

During this time Erinne said she didn’t like Matt anymore because he played her and that she didn’t even want to be his friend. Well last week, I found out that she invited him over to her dorm room and Matt and I almost got into a fight. After that I grabbed all my clothes and left Erinne’s dorm room.

I gave her an ultimatum after that, that she would need to choose between me or my ex-friend because people that are players are my least favorite type of people. She finally told me that despite all this there was nothing between her and Matt and that she felt like she was “choosing a jerk over me”. She basically told me I didn’t have the “it” factor anymore.

I admit that before we broke up, we kind of weren’t doing as much as we used to do like going out on dates or anything. Over the past few months I tried to get her to have that passion back because I still do have it for her. I took her out to eat and treated her very nicely. I brought her flowers at work and I even let her cry on my shoulder when she was stressed with things at school or at home.

Well this week is our spring break and we agreed not to talk to each other for the whole week. Last night however Erinne called me and told me it was unintentional and that she called because she was sad and wanted to talk to me. That’s when we started talking about how she wanted us to be friends really badly but I told her that we couldn’t as long as Matt was around. That’s when Erinne told me that she didn’t know why she liked Matt and that she knew what she was going to lose. She also called Matt a jerk. Erinne was crying really badly during all this. I also told her that not talking to each other was a bad idea and that it made things worse. We finally decided that if I couldn’t be her friend and support her decisions then I would have to leave. I eventually told her ok and hung up.

At one point during the conversation one of my friends who was a girl came out and asked me when I was coming back inside to hang out with my friends while I was talking with Erinne on the phone. Erinne just told me “so you’re having a lousy spring break right” and then hung up. Was she actually jealous and does that work in my favor?

I feel really lonely inside and I haven’t got sleep in 2 days. My self-esteem is really low right now and I feel rejected. I love Erinne with all my heart and I know that Matt just wants to get inside her pants. It took me a year to have sex with Erinne and we were each other’s firsts. Is it possible taking all this into account that Erinne really still does love me and do I still have a chance? What should I do now? She still has some of my clothes in her room but she doesn’t want to give them up nor the promise ring I gave her. Is this relationship worth waiting for even if I am head over heels in love still?