I don’t really understand it. He will blow her off, tell her he doesn’t wanna be with her, and they break up at least 2 times a week. But what keeps her going back to him, she’s been through several mental breakdowns, hyperventilating and all that. I can’t see he go through this, it’s ridiculous, she says she loves him, but i don’t know how to get her to see past that. Help!

We broke up months ago and some time ago she told me the reason why she broke up with me….. She thought of me like an Older brother. Why’s that?

Well, I have known my guy friend for almost about 3 years. Not only him but also his family. I grew to be good friends with his mother and sisters before I met him. But now that we WERE like best friends I am trying to forget about him. Not only him but his little brother who was also a good friend and at the same time keeping a good realtionship with the mother and sisters. Lets just say its been a bumpy road being both of the brother’s friend. So any advice? Help.

I have a friend who has a controlling and manipulative boyfriend. She is on the verge of breaking off the relationship, but he keeps talking her out of it. Can someone point me to some websites she can use to help her make up her mind if the realtionship is healthy or not?

Ok, so this might be a little long so bare with me please. I am a guy, (17) and my best friend is a girl (16). But age really doesn’t matter. I used to go to school with her and then I had to go to another school. Well we reunited on facebook and became much better friends than we were when I used to go to school with her. We have been talking only online for about a year and a half, and we have became really close in that ammount of time. I would def call her my best friend. I can share everything with her. She is the only person I’ve ever been able to do that with. We think about things that most people wouldn’t even be interested in or care about. There is a lot of things that we just connect on. And I have really began to like her like her. I’m not stupid though. I know you dont fall in complete love just talking over the computer, so don’t think that I’m thinking that way.

Well, before you know that you have to understand that I have never had attention from girls. I’ve never had a girlfriend and its really pathetic. And its something that bothers me so bad cuz it feel like I will never meet a girl that is going to like me. It literally eats me up inside.

Well, I have always held in my feelings for her in fear that it may mess up our friendship, and I really couldn’t afford that. It would just mess up my life so much more. So I’ve never said anything. Well we often talk about her relationship with this guy at her school. She has been off and on with him for almost a year. And I give her advice about what she should do when he makes her angry and ect. And of course I am jealous but I have always gave unbias advice. And when she keeps going back to him it kills me. I dont know the guy so he might be really cool, but man does it frustrate me. Im just really jealous that he gets her.

So lately I havent been feeling 100%. I just have felt like I’ve been in a fog. And my feelings have been all out of whack. Well, idk what I was thinking but I finally gots some courage and told her that I kinda have a crush on her. I told her that she is so important to me and is absolutely amazing. (Because she is) I also told her that I know she doesnt like me and thats ok.

Well she replied basically saying that no, she doesn’t like me like that and I am really sweet and cute and funny and any girl would be lucky to have me. But she is just hung up on this other guy. But I replied and said if any girl would be lucky to have me then why wouldn’t you want me? And I’m not stupid. I know that she is trying to be nice yet say, ” I just dont like you.”

Ever since then I apologized for bringing it up and that I was sorry that it messed up our friendship. And she said it hasn’t messed up our friendship, but I know it has. Things just havent been the same. Its only been 4 days since I told her but I can tell things have changed. And ever since then its almost like I’ve been thinking about her so much that I have started to like her more. And it hurts to know that she doesnt like me back.

She doesn’t go out much cuz her parents are SUPER strict. They don’t let her go out with people.

So…what I’m asking for is just a little advice about any of this. How to maybe make her like me more (although I’m afraid I’ve already been placed under the ‘just friends’ label), or maybe help me find away to repair this friendship that I have screwed up. Any opinions on this will help. Thanks so much.

moving a thousand miles away. we were rly close last summer, and then for the past 6 months we’ve been dating and basically inseperable. with him moving we decided it would be best to break up. he’s been rly depressed about moving.

anyways, his mom txt’d me and told me to come to his bday/going away party tomorrow. y do u thnk she told me this, and not him? does he want me there or not?

also, we’ve both been at the town fair for the past 2 days, and we know we’re around each other, but he like wont make eye contact with me, and wont talk to me. so my friend went over and told him to come talk to me. but he just flipped her off and said “he had a bad headache” then he sat there by himself for about 10 minutes with his head down…

i rly want to at least get a hug from him before he leaves on sunday. becuz i dont know if i’ll ever see him again.

wat should i do ? please help.

by the way im 13

I have been going out with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years and we love each other so much, while i have a best guy friend whom i know for almost 5 years. I am very close to both but each in a different way. This year my best guy friend kept on complimenting me on how good i look and how i have changed and other stuff, i just thought that he was being nice until he asked me if i was going to break up with my boyfriend because he has been wanting to go out with me since ages. I used to have a major crush on him a long time ago but i didnt show it becasue i didnt want to ruin our friendship. My current boyfriend loves me so much and i love him so much too but now i am confused, it is like loving to guys at once. Help, what do i do?

On friday she broke up with me at lunche (1:30) and at our track meet around 8:20 i found out that her and my friend are going out with each other and i started to cry,can anyone tell me what to do?

So, I met this amazing girl a while ago, but we only recently started dating back in October. She’s a Junior and I’m a Senior in high school, but she’s the best. We’re into the same music, comedy, movies, tv shows, everything. So she’s not only beautiful on the outside, but inside, too. We click so well, and I trust her completely. I think I’m in love with her, but I haven’t told her yet. Life’s generally been great until…

She asked me to come with her to her youth group one time. She’s got guy friends, and I’m alright with that. In fact, I think that’s great. However, I don’t think it’s possible to have “best friends” of the opposite sex for too long because eventually one will have feelings for the other. Anyway, I went with her and she introduced me to one of her best friends. We’ll call him “Tommy.” Tommy and my girlfriend have been friends for around two or three years, so he already has that history on me. He started dating one of my girlfriend’s friends but that ended horribly and he’s been single since. However, recently, he’s been flirting with her. Just in little ways, though; things like telling her they need to hang out more, they don’t see each other enough, she can text/call more, etc. This sent up a red flag immediately, but only because he was flirting with her both physically and verbally at the time as well. I talked with my girlfriend about it and she said that she’s noticed, too, but she kinda doesn’t want to admit it because she likes him as a friend. I told her that I respect her and trust her, but what Tommy is doing isn’t okay. I told her that there are certain boundaries between “boy friends” and boyfriends, and that to me he wasn’t respecting those boundaries and it made me uncomfortable.
I’m not really the jealous type, but this guy upsets me and makes me uncomfortable with the way he’s acting and what he’s saying. She said that she would talk to him, but I can tell she wants to avoid the subject and hopes that it will just go away. I can understand that, though. The same thing happened to me with a female friend, I didn’t want to lose her as a friend so I didn’t say anything. That was a huge mistake.
I told her this, and if she wants to hang out with him, then I trust her. She told me that she used to have feelings for him for about six months a year ago, but that she felt like they weren’t reciprocated and got over him.

I really just want to know how to approach this situation. Tommy needs to back off a little. She’s my girlfriend. I want her to be happy and I can’t choose her friends, I don’t think that and I don’t want her to think that I think I can (haha,). But this guy is crossing lines and that isn’t okay with me.
What do I do, what do I say and how do I act? I trust that she’s over him, but are those feelings more probable to come back because they were there at one point, or is it the opposite of that?

Thank you guys so much.

What is the best way to turn a girl “friend” into a girlfriend? I know she already sees me as just a friend and isn’t attracted to me the way she would be to a boyfriend. Is there anything I can do and if so, what is it? Thank you.

Just a little background…known her for 5 months, goes to an out of state college, I may have made the mistake of being too “friendly” in the beginning and now only seen as a friend. I haven’t told her I like her but she MIGHT know.
By the way, she has already told me that if I visit her at college she just wants to hang out as FRIENDS. I also talk to her about 24 the tv show which she does with her girlfriends, lol. I think I might be screwed. But anyways, she knows Im not gonna visit her at college next month (I think she was expecting me to or something), but we might hang out in June when she gets back. Should I even hang out with her? I mean I like her as a friend but also want more but NOT right now….but in 2 years when she is done….

Fortunately, this has never happened to me, and hopefully it never does. I guess I’m asking this question for a women vs. men viewpoint on forgiveness when it comes to this matter.

I predict that men will be more forgiving than women just because I know how catty and jealous women are towards one another by nature and men seem to brush it off easier. I could be wrong. I don’t know why we do some of the things we do as women, and I don’t condone getting it on with other people’s boyfriends, but mistakes do happen and everybody has feelings, right or wrong? What do you think?

I mean at the end of the day, do you feel that it is about the intentions of a person, that makes it easier to forgive? Or is the action just automatically unforgivable, and is it the worse thing you can do as a woman? I’ve talked to people who have cheated and have been cheated on, but I don’t often hear, “Yeah, I was trying to sabotage their relationship“. It was either because there was too much alcohol involved, because someone had a rough childhood and grew up to be promiscuous and angry. It’s always something, but rarely is it “I wanted to ruin their relationship”. They just want to satisfy their own feelings like everyone else in the world. Also how do you feel about people falling in love with unavailable men/women? Are those people just supposed to turn their feelings off when the husband/wife reconcile? Lots of different questions, but answer what you can. Thanks!

I have liked her for before they first started to go out and they went out for about 5 may 6 months before she dumped him.

My friend recently went through a break-up and she can’t seem to get over him. They text a lot with each other and today she got a text from him saying “i love you” even though he has a gf. They’ve went out a few times and broken up and then got back together a few times but this time it’s different. I want to help my friend get over him because I know she really wants to but she just doesn’t know how. Any advice, tips, etc.?

This guy and I are former colleagues: he left the company earlier this year, but we’ve stayed in contact. I was always interested in him, but backed off when I found out he had a g/f. He broke up with her earlier this year, and we almost hooked up about a month later, but decided to cool it and stay “just friends” for the moment, so he can work through his break-up (a 2yr live-in relationship). We’re in almost constant contact, and hang out at least once or twice a week. He compliments me all the time, and a few days ago, while watching a dvd at mine, he did the whole “cinema stretch” move, and put his arm around my shoulder, which he hadn’t done since that one time a month after his breakup several months ago. I took it as a good sign, and curled up into him, but there was no follow through – no further moves, and no kiss.
Huh? Am I reading him wrong, or missing something? Is he interested, or not? Guys, would you pull this move on a girl you’re “just friends” with? And why the lack of follow-through?

A friend of mine suddenly lost her bestfriend in a tragic road accident early this year, and had broken up with the boyfriend soon after that. The boyfriend didnt seem to understand that she was not herself eversince she lost her best friend so they fell out. It was a double blow for her, losing the two of the most cherished persons in her life. What should I do? It breaks my heart to see her so depressed. She is taking anti-depressant and all seem well on the surface, but I know that she is hurting inside. I would appreciate any answer. Thanks.