Me and a girl dated for a week and broke it off. She broke up with her bf of 6 months 2 weeks before we went out and from the start she said she wasn’t confident with boys. I told her I could show her a better side and she and I got together. We broke up because she wasn’t ready for a relationship she said. Her friend also told me this today, and they both told me I’m a really awesome guy and she herself told me she’d regret it. But she says she still has to get over it. She told me not to wait for her either. She said who knows when she gets over it, but if when she does we are still in touch, she will reconsider.

She also loves talking to me she said. She says that I connect with her and know lots about her personality that she is afraid to show. She says she loves talking to me and insists we keep in touch and keep a friendship. I asked her if it was me, she said no, it’s me. Not you at all. You’re a great guy, I just have trouble with relationships especially since the break up has left me with lots of lingering thoughts.

I don’t know… I really like her, should I stay friends with her and hope for the best? Or is she telling me nicely to **** off? This is a plethora of mixed signals. Her friend even tried to get me to hang out with them today. I told them I needed space and time.

Help?

I’ve always been confused about this. But guys (or gilrs) could you enlighten me on this? Why do some exs still wanna be friends with their ex girl/boyfriend?

I have liked her for before they first started to go out and they went out for about 5 may 6 months before she dumped him.

My wife does not know that I know she kissed another man at her friend’s bachelorette party. Should I confront her on this? I know about it through an email of hers I wasn’t supposed to see. My understanding is she asked the bride who the eligible bachelors were and then raved about how great the kiss was to her friends. This event took place the night before I joined my wife for the reception dinner. We’ve been married 3 years and also know she has signed up for a couple of online personal sites. Our sex life is not great and she claims I need to be more romantic. I’m not denying this fact but if she is able to kiss a stranger and not sure what else happened, could this be a one time only meaningless event or an indication that other hookups ocurred during the last 5.5 years of our relationship and 3 years of marriage? I love her very much and will certainly give her reason to question my trust in her if I confront her about this. Please help.
The email did say that a lot of drinking was involved but that in my mind is still not an excuse. My wife and I were at a party recently and this woman was clearly hitting on me. My wife joked about it after refering to her as my girlfriend. Should I falsely confess that I kissed this woman to see if my wife confides in me? How then would I be able to tell her that I really didn’t kiss this woman and my wife would totally question my knowledge of why I would want to tell her such a thing? I”m thinking of approaching the bride(also my wife’s best friend) to see if she can give me some insight here. Is this a good idea? I’m also paranoid now because a few times since the Summer my wife has reporedly been out with co-workers for drinks and ended up crashing at their place. One time my wife even got a hotel room because she claimed her friends left her at the bar. Am I supposed to believe her that nothing happened?
Thanks to everyone who added their comments. Very much appreciated! I think I’m going to see where the ‘being more romantic’ and ’spicing things up at home’ approach gets me. Not that her behavior is excusable if she was unhappy with things at home. I’m hoping it was a drunken, stupid thing that happened and she may have perhaps showing off to her friends. We do tend to bicker about things on so many levels … money, sex, the thermostat … but what couples don’t. Not trying to be naive … just hopeful. Thanks again.

Well me && this guy were almost gonna get in a relationship but we agreed to friends with benefits so like we are dating just without a label but its honestly not working out for && idkk how to tell him.
anyy advice??

Looking to start over and make new friends that are unconditional friendships.

I dated my boyfriend for a year I absolutely loved him to pieces. But after a while, he started being distant and not returning my calls for days (claimed he his phone wasn’t working), then finally after this went on for on and off three weeks, and I decided to call it quits since it seemed that he was trying to break up with me via lack of communication. He wouldn’t answer my calls in order for me to break up with him and he was never home when I went round, so in the end I was forced just to leave him a note saying that I was sorry it never worked out and I wished him all the best.

I never got any reply from the note.

Less than two weeks later, I noticed that his facebook page now stated him as being “in a relationship” on the news feed.

I was distraught.

I got over him, got my life together with a fantastic new man and I am very happy with my life now. However, I recently met my ex again in a coffee shop. I spoke to him for about 10 seconds because I had to run back to work. Basically all he said was “hey, it’s me, the jerk. lets just forget about everything. phone me, i don’t want to loose you as a friend’ and gave me a number to catch up with him on. I defiantly do not have any feeling for him and never in a million years would i date him again. I was wondering if anybody on here could give me advice – should I give him a call? What should I say? I don’t want to seem like a pushover.

thank you for your time

I feel yes and no…..depends on the individuals what do you think?

One of my friends has a girlfriend but they had a baby together a year ago. They always disagreed on issues but now more so than ever. We all go out together and I try to be supportive except my friend approached me one day and tells me that she admitted to him that she likes me. I always thought she was attractive but never crossed that line cause I’m not that type of a guy. However, they’re not married, we’re all in our early/mid 20’s, and I officially like her back. Now I look forward to seeing her instead of him. I can’t stop thinking about her and I’ve picked up on when she sits next to me, or look at me thinking I don’t notice. I’ve decided to not tell her and let things play out cause I don’t want to interfere, but at the sametime it’s eating me up inside. When we get close talking or sit next to eachother, I want to lean in and kiss her. We always have fun, I’m adventurous, she knows that and she tells him. He’s cheated & hit her before too, he’s told me. Ihave feelings now too

This week, I ran into my ex-boyfriend, whom I broke up six months ago, twice. However, my automatic reaction was to ignore him and move on (i.e. ‘duck and hide’) – I just couldn’t say ‘hi’ to him or look at him at all. I know he saw me and was a bit ‘startled’ at my new reaction as I just swiftly walked on (we were side-by-side). I couldn’t help but associating him with the painful past (right after we broke up, everything just collapsed – I failed my CPA exam; I suffered some sort of depression and lacked energy and focus; with the recession last year, I nearly lost my job as I went through the entire exist interview but was lucky at the last minute as I managed to obtain a transfer to another department).

We remained close after our breakup; he would still call or message me everyday, checking up on me. Soon – as the communication slowly died off as he later told me that he was seeing a new girl. Of course, like all exes, I wasn’t impressed but was forced to be happy for him. And of course, things started to change when I became more disappointed (as I admit that I still had feelings for him) – he was no longer around and he would only message me at work to see how I am doing but at his convenience when he was bored at work. But when I send him an email, asking for some computer advice, I would never receive his reply. Compared to the past, he was one-day late in ‘happy birthday’ text message – he claimed that he was working out-of-town with poor internet access but to me, it was a ‘lame’ excuse as he was in the same situation last year but he was on-time – I felt he’s doing it on purposely, just trying to ‘distant’ himself yet still ‘friends’. There were a few ‘odd’ offline messages from MSN of ‘how’s work?’ which I didn’t bother reply because with the lack reply from that initial email, there’s no point in replying back to him – I just don’t want to get disappointed again and open up old wounds. For me, my motto is that you either do things properly or don’t bother doing them at all if you can’t do things properly.

Yes, I’ve managed to crawl through the dark tunnel very painfully and I admit I am better off without him however, he remains a reminder of my downfall. I can’t help but to think lately that if we didn’t hook up in the first place, maybe all the disaster of last year won’t have happened. I wished everything could have perhaps stayed the same (i.e. stayed as friends) and just wished it never happened at all. But somehow – after all this ordeal – I’ve lost a friend. I wished we could be friends but just can’t and don’t know how and why and not even sure whether we could. In fact, I am scared of dating again as I don’t want to potentially lose more friends in the end because of last year’s episode. Any comments and advice?

My ex-boyfriend are I are really good friends now after we split up in May this year. However, whenever I text him to just see what he’s up to that night, he tells me then keeps reassuring me that he ISN’T drinking that night. Why is this?

I know there are a lot of people out there that want to know the answer to this. Therefore I am asking in order to get other peoples opinions.

my best friends boyfriend broke up with her and now she still likes him “2 out of 10″. and i like him a “10 out of 10″ (ive liked him for a year). we both started liking him around the same time and i just never told her that i liked him too. she still doesnt know that i like him. what should i do? and by the way they broke up about a month ago and are still very good friends.

Be honest, and yes I know the dating rules. If you could and knew she would not find out would you?