I’m not sure that I can believe him when he tells me that he’s not cheating. Because one time he told me that he wasn’t flirting around, and I caught him in public, and on facebook. It bothered me because he promised that he wasn’t doing it, and that he wouldn’t do it ever again. I don’t know whether to believe him or not. What should I do.

This friend and her boyfriend broke up not too long ago-he actually walked out on her. They fight constantly, and she frequently calls me up crying about how she doesn’t know if they can make it together. They were going to marry a couple of months ago-then he wasn’t sure. Then he wanted to get married immediately. I advised her to wait a while (she’s only 22) before making such a big commitment, but I guess they’re going to go ahead this time. I give up. What to do?

Hey all.

This is probably going to be a long post to try explain it, and I know people don’t like reading long posts as they seem boring (Or that might be just me, but I still do to help people!) So I’ll try narrow it down, I hope you can bare with it to answer my question!

So, this was my first girlfriend, and now it has ended, I realise how immature and to put it bluntly, how pathetic the relationship was.

So yeah, I’ll get into the story – I went out with her for nearly 2 years, and it was a bad relationship, I realised this about 7 months into the relationship but I didn’t want to let her go because it was my first girlfriend and I didn’t think i’d get another one and thought i’d have nothing to do. We argued pretty much everyday (Not at the beginning of the relationship but after about 4 month) and we were really obsessive, making eachother promise we didn’t look at other girls/boys or fancy them, things like that. (Sad I know)

Not going to type a lifestory of it all, just giving you an idea of how bad the relationship was, but i’ll get to the question now.

This breakup was about 3 months ago, and after the break up I spent days not sleeping and thinking everything through, and thats when I realised how immature it all was, and I realised I didn’t love her and she didn’t love me, it was just hell, we did have good times and go on holiday together and things like that, but we had no trust or anything.

So..After realising I didn’t love her, she didn’t love me, and I didn’t want to be with her I left it at that and tried to move on with my life, I got rid of all memories of her and thought even more of her personality and who she was and wondered why the hell I went out with her, because I hate her personality now I realise all this.

But after realising all that and moving on, up until now (3 months later) I still randomly, when I’m not doing anything or trying to sleep, get thoughts of her and kind of feel upset, but I don’t understand why because I don’t like her as a person, and I realise it was a really bad and immature relationship..So my question is – Why am I still thinking about her and being upset? She seems to have moved on, but I don’t know because I made sure I have no contact with her, but why can’t I move on? (Even though I want to because I know the relationship was bad and I don’t even like her)

By the way if it helps, we are both 18, and also – I’ve learnt a lot since then, I was kind of stupid, I’m not obsessive as the ‘Making eachother promise’ bit hints anymore! just wanted to point that out lol

And Bloody hell when I previewed this I didn’t expect it to be this long lol sorry about that – I’ll be surprised if I get any answers when it’s this long!

I usually can get a woman to like me because I have blue eyes. I’m 31 and not interested in any woman under 28 and the oldest I’d date a woman would be in her late 30’s. My last girlfriend I met on MySpace, but she lived in town so we dated for about a year. She was 7 years older than me.

The type of woman I like is usually a little short since I’m only 5′8. I like them to have a little big of chub, but not a whole lot. I like them to be either white or maybe a little tan, but still white. The most important thing I look for in a woman is being caring, and not drinking or using drugs.

Any advice for me? I have little to offer since I’m now on disability for mental health issues, but I do get a check. I’m also going to a technical college for cooking. I don’t drive so that seems to cut out a lot of women. I’ve not had to much trouble getting a woman, it’s just keeping them that is the problem. If they can overlook my faults, I can over look any of theirs. I just want a woman with a good and kind heart. How do you suggest I go about finding one? The last woman broke my heart after less than a year of dating. She talked to me on the phone for a while after we broke up and that seemed to keep the pain inside me longer. I have no animosity towards her, but our horoscope said we would clash. I don’t like horoscopes since that. I am an Aquarius and she is a Taurus.

Any advice?

I also am a yo yo dieter and need to lose a few pounds again. But I’ll start working on that.
Hi Ginny, I did the whole bar scene in my 20’s. I did “score” with a number of women, but they seemed to be serial daters. I’m looking for a girlfriend to love and be my best friend. But I might try MySpace again. Facebook mostly just has my friends and family on it. Thanks for answering my question.

My boyfriend and I are very happy. He is completely faithful and always has been, and the same goes for me. One night I made the mistake of asking him how many girls he’s been intimate with. The number was about 3 times what I imagined (and I imagined it quite high). Now I find myself picturing him with all these girls and it makes me sick. How do I stop this before I ruin an awesome thing? You can’t change your past right?

I want to know if i have a chance of getting my girlfriend back, and if so how. We have been going out for two years. She is beings complicated. She tells me she still loves me and has feelings for me, but she wants times to grow on her own. She tells me she wants to be friends, and that it is possible it will lead back into a relationship. Should i just stay best friends with her now? Can i do anything to ge ther back? thanks

I am thinking about trying to work things out with my cheating ex. We have 2 little boys. He claims that he wants to be with me and it won’t happen again, that in the time we have been apart he has changed and seen that the grass isn’t greener. He sounds genuine for once and I would love our family back together. Our relationship was on and off for 15 years and we keep finding our way back to each other and both agree if this were to happen it’s for the long hall. How can he gain my trust again. I am willing to forgive and move forward but how does the trust come back????

My friend has been telling that he is going back out with his ex girl,my friend and her are real cool and the ex girl has been telling my friend that they have been together fro a couple of days now.I;m not sure what to do??

do couples who breakup ever have the chance of getting back together again?
honestly, you can make it work, im against people who say, only to break up again.. if u still love that person why not get back together with them.,. u can make it work, u just have to try and keep working at it, why give up?

we just broke up saturday and ive been having trouble coping with it. we were together for a year and a half. she was 15 and i was 18 when we started dating. i am now 20 and she is 17. she is going into her senior year of high school. i went to a college last year and we stayed together. i am now going to a community college for financial reasons and am going to be home the entire year. when we broke up she told me that shell always love me and we had a very passionate kiss before i left for good. i texted her for the first time since the breakup and she said it was too soon to talk about becoming friends and texting again. i then got very annoying and started texting her saying i was sorry and i wish i had done things differently. we talked on the phone for 10 minutes and nothing was accomplished. i then thought it was best to write her a short letter saying i agree with the breakup and i wish you the best and hopefully we can be friends in the very near future. i brought the letter to her house and gave the letter to her sister. it was just a short letter saying that i agree with the breakup(when i really dont) and i hope we can be friends in the very near future. and hopefully work my way back to being her bf SO WHAT IS MY NEXT MOVE?