What are some signs your the girl on the side?

What is the best way to turn a girl “friend” into a girlfriend? I know she already sees me as just a friend and isn’t attracted to me the way she would be to a boyfriend. Is there anything I can do and if so, what is it? Thank you.

Just a little background…known her for 5 months, goes to an out of state college, I may have made the mistake of being too “friendly” in the beginning and now only seen as a friend. I haven’t told her I like her but she MIGHT know.
By the way, she has already told me that if I visit her at college she just wants to hang out as FRIENDS. I also talk to her about 24 the tv show which she does with her girlfriends, lol. I think I might be screwed. But anyways, she knows Im not gonna visit her at college next month (I think she was expecting me to or something), but we might hang out in June when she gets back. Should I even hang out with her? I mean I like her as a friend but also want more but NOT right now….but in 2 years when she is done….

I keep on telling her how ill change and that i realized exactly what not to do in a relationship, i love you etc etc….Everyone says not to call. But i want her to think i care. Ive sent flowers, sobbed to her, ignored her and evreything… but she still says she doent know if she wans to be with me…and shes confused. Yet theres another guy in the picture now who is her best friends, boyfriends best friend, and they all dont really like me. And shes telling everyone were done, but me she says were on a break and that she just doesnt know cause she feels there nothing left for her to give anymore, because of stuff thats happened in the past.. I bought her a trip to mexico for her bday before we broke up that were suppost to leave on in 2 weeks, and she said she has no money etc.But i said getting away would maybe help us work stuff out, but if she doesnt go shouldi pretty much know its done? and what should i say to her etc. I want her back so bad… HELP

My boyfriend was at a friends house and he got drunk he asked a girl to kiss him but she didnt only because he had throw up on him is that still cheating? Should i break up with him or should i give him the benefit of the doubt? please i dont want to be hurt but i dont know if it is cheating?

such as to dump her 1st love that care and loves her very much…
or
thought that yourself a bi and fall for another girl then dump your long term boyfriend…
or
confuse what love is and dont know whether you really loves your boyfriend and eventually dump him for another person.

any girl experienced 1 of this misery?

Theres this girl that I really like only known her few weeks.
The problem is she has a boyfriend. now the bigger problem is she aslo likes me. and the other night she stayed round mine. and we kissed and other stuff but not all the way.
Now problem she wants to be with her boyfriend not me or thats what she said anyway. She said sorry for kissing me and stuff.
I asked her if she regreted it and she said i cant answer I have a boyfriend. though she eventually said she didnt regret it but it was still a mistake and that she had boyfriend who she wannted to be with.
She aslo told one of her friends before that if she wasnt going out with her current boyfriend that she would go out with me.
what do i do ?

i’m a lesbian, i just broke up with my girlfriend. my friends are setting me up for a date with this girl and they told me that she gets shy when it comes to dates. help me here! i really want to make this work!

ok so…

a guy liked me.
i couldnt say no so i said yes.

we go out but im not really interested.
hes REALLY shy and he didnt really do anything. but i know that he tried his best to overcome his shyness by like hugging me and stuff, but i just kept not doing anything… we were REALLY akward.
i was also pretty shy in making moves and stuff, and i even told him that he should jsut break up with me cause im just not good enough.

while we were “going out” we barely talked…lol. some relationship huh?
hes only kissed me once. on the cheek (being heavily pressured by my&his friends)

we went out for like a year…but it didnt really even seem like we were going out.
i finally break up with him. people said he was really sad but i dunno.

when people ask him if hes still interested in me, he goes i dont know.
people also say that we should just go out again cause we act exactly alike and people even believe that we seriously belong together.

after the break up, i start liking him..i asked him to sadies last year, as my last resort to possibly get back together with him, but he had to go to a funeral. he seemed upset he couldnt go…

afterwards, we havent really spoken an actual convo. we had a few talks here and there but nothing really … conversational.
i go to the same church with him, and i see him every week.

i’ve had two boyfriends after the breakup, and he knows about them. but STILL, im regretting breakin up with him and wishing i can start all over again.

we still barely talk… i dont know if he likes me anymore.
my friend asked me once that if i can get back together with him, would i? i said yes. because i know now how to be in a relationship, i know how to actually be a girlfriend and i wish i knew all this before.

**BTW. we were both in our first relationship. this is like…8th grade. but now im in highschool. not a fresh.lol.

so whats a song that suits this situation, about a girl STILL liking her ex after being in multiple relationship and shes not sure if he likes her back. and they havent talked in a LONG time. and she feels as if she wants to start all over again, but i dont want the song isnt very confident and straightfoward.

because i see lyrics like “i want to start all over. i miss you.” and it seems really head on…im still unsure about my feelings so something thats a little unsure and less straightfoward would be nice.

maybe some lyrics like “i still dont know how i feel” “its been a long time since we talked” “why am i like this? its been over a year…” “we dont even talk. so why?” “i want to be able to talk to you comfortably again”

try to make it RnB only please.hahaha please include sample lyrics
sorry for the freakin long description…LOL. didnt notice how long it was.
were still VERY AKWARD. i havent really conversed with him in a year..

Hey!!! Ok to cut a long story short, me and my best friend ( a guy) have both started out on new relationships which are going great – we’re having great fun doing the double dating thing etc, but recently Ive noticed my friend – Ben, has been withdrawn and moody, so I spoke to him last night about it. Basically his ex has been contacting him recently – hes been ignoring her, as she had cheated on him when they were together, made life really hard for him and basically broke his heart. But shes in touch a lot recently and he becomes a different person at the mention of her name – he is full of hatred for her and says that his current girlfriend is now asking about her and that if his ex gets in between them he will put her in a box once and for all. Ive never seen him act like this, so I know that she must REALLY be getting to him, I told him he should just continue ignoring her, but he says shes just drawing him out and he knows he becomes a scarey person over her, but he cant take anymore of her intefering.
Does ANYONE have any advice with this? Ive tried the – shes not worth it – dont let it intefere with your new girlfriend talks etc etc, but this woman seems to have scarred him previously so bad that hes now lost all reasoning – Im worried about what he could do… please help!! (also – before people tell me I should keep my nose out – hes been my best friend for the last 20 years and Ive seen him through everything as he has for me)
oops! Sorry should have said – shes only texting and ringing his mobile. He had changed his number previously, but she got that easy enough – they know lots of mutual people – too many for him to go around telling everyone not to give her his number, so changing it really wont help

Hi, so im in this situation that is breaking my heart and I need some help. i went out with my ex for about2 years, and we feel in love, we had our problems but we always sorted things out, the biggest problem was that he lived 3.5 hours away from me and he couldnt see me alot. however, we still managed to work it out. within a year and a half into our relationship i brok it off because my school got busy and i felt that i couldnt do much while dating him. he was the greatest thing that ever happened to me and i love him till now. after the breakup he tried to get me back and i said ok we will try it out again, and we started seeing each other, and he was like as soon as i come up ill ask u out and everyhting will work out and i was happy, but then one night we got into a fight about him not seeing me much and he said in order for us to make it work i would have to move up there and i said no, so he decided that for now we would remain good friends and we would wait for each other and not see other ppl and for me to finsh school. we talked about getting married and having kids and we even picked out our kids names. but one afternoon we start talking and im still not over the fact that he choose not to be with me in this time, he said that we could always get back together in the future and that it is always apossibility, he then tells me he is dating another girl and its only been 2 months since he ended it for good with me. as soon as he told me this my heart started raising and i started to cry and my heart was breaking in so many pieces. it was as if somoen had just stabbed me. i cant beleive after everything he said to me he goes off and dates another girl so soon, im not even over the fact that we are not together and hes already with this other girl, he tells me also that she doesnt make him happy like i use to and that he loves me still and carries my picture, how can u love someone so much and then date another girl. he said he would never stop loving me and he will always consider the fact of marrying me in the future, but why is he dating another girl so soon if he loves me now and still. i dont know wat to do im still clearly in love with this guy and i was going to give him my life and do anything to make him happy. can someone please help me please tell me what i can do to get over this pain, this entire process has made me hate guys and i also got very depressed and it lead me to getting very very sick. i love him dearly and he constantly tells me he loves me while hes with this other girl. how can u possibly say u love someone and want to be with them, but date someone else. i told him i would take him back if he just came back and he said he loved me more than life but right now hes trying this new realtionship. i dont know what more to do, all i do is cry and i dont let other guys talk to me. according to many guys im a hot girl and i get alot of guys hitting on me but i turn them all down, i just cant stop thinking about my ex. i tell myself everyday that ill meet someone better but i cant get over him, i want him to be mine and i want to marry him and it hurts soo much that hes with someone else so soon. i dont know wat else to do , ive tried everything and nothing works i just end up in my bed crying and asking myself wat i could of done to make the relationship work. i understand i was the one the broke it off but hes still in love with me and im still in love with and it clear that she doesnt make him happy, so why is he with her. how come he with her and im still in pain. how can i get over this pain. i feel like i have been betrayed and i cant trust anyone anymore, i had ahard time trusting guys before but now its worse. i went out with him for 2 years we break up and after 2months he starts dating this other girl but tells me he loves me, how can he do this to me..

Long story, I’ll try and shorten it up but here goes..

A fellow coworker of mine (we are RAs in the dorms of our college) got out of a fairly serious relationship that lasted 3 years just last March. While we had been pretty good friends since we worked together and worked out together, I found myself in the aftermath of her relationship as the person she came to for comfort and when she just needed to cry. Not long after we started to develop feelings for one another, but it was too soon after her breakup and we went back to our hometowns in May for summer..

I told myself I would just take a break and not worry about it, give her the time she needed, but over the summer she texted me all the time. I went off the Europe to study abroad for the summer and she would send me texts saying things like “have fun with those European ladies but don’t forget we have a date when you get back to school,” and she eventually sent me an email confessing to me that she had feelings for me..

However, when we got back for work and school, I found that she was avoiding me to an extent. We would hang out but she always had to have her friends around and it was somewhat awkward. When we would be alone she would just play on her computer/phone and not really talk much to me. I finally asked her what the deal was and pushed for the date that she had essentially begged me for over the summer to no avail. She told me that she did indeed have feelings for me, but she didn’t want a boyfriend and wasn’t sure when she would want a boyfriend again. I was a little upset because I felt she had essentially tried to sabotage my European vacation and keep me from womanizing so I wouldn’t forget her on my once in a lifetime trip.

We still hang out a lot but never alone. She is always cutting me down and playfully hitting me, which I usually take as flirting. She talks about me to her friends all the time and makes sure to invite me wherever they go. But she won’t go on the date she wanted or really give me a shot at anything more than a friendship even though she treats me much more different than any of her other guy friends.

While I enjoy being around her still, I can’t help but feel that resentment sometimes or get over my feelings that I have for her. I just think it’s really unfair to me that she would tell me she has feelings for me when I’m 5,000 miles away but not act on them when things get real and in person. I feel like I should move on but I’ve put so much into this that I don’t want to walk away, and I still do enjoy her company. However, at this point I don’t think we could ever just be friends after all she has done and what we’ve been through. My friends say I should just go cold turkey, but I work with her and have to see her regularly throughout the week (my job pays my room and food so it’s worth a lot).

I just don’t know what to do, it wears on me a lot and when I ignore her at all she constantly texts me and asks what’s wrong or if we are still friends. I’d like to think that hanging out with her regularly like I do will eventually win her over if she really does like me, but I just don’t know what to do at this point.

I’m really sorry about the length of this question but I really couldn’t think of a way to shorten it. Maybe I’m venting a little too.. ANY help would be GREATLY appreciated from anyone who has dealt with something similar or just knows how these things usually turn out. Thank you!

I lived in France for one year, where I met my boyfriend who then decided to join me in Canada to begin a life together here.
But he recently told me that he slept with his ex-girlfriend one night before arriving here and showed absolutely no remorse when he told me. I don’t know if i’m making the right choice in starting something with this guy, we’re even talking about marriage…but I don’t know if that would be a huge mistake.

What should I do?

so i met her last saturday and we spent 8 hours talking on her doorstep, we then did the same sunday for about 6 hours. we seem to get on really well. she says she really likes me and that she would like us to get serious but im really scared when it comes to serious relationships. im 20 and shes 22 and im not used to being in relationships. where should i go from here?