The deal is, she is in a relationship with a guy who she claims was just a rebound, he isn’t “her type”. But yet they have had sex multiple times and she is still with him after 3+ months. She refuses to break up with him… But keeps telling me that I shouldn’t have my best friend sleep over (who happens to be a girl). Because until she stops sleeping over she will break up with him? FML

ive been on one date with my girlfriend and we got on great but we never touched we went to the cinema and after went for a drink and a walk whats the best way for a guy to get physical with his girlfriend meaning holding hands kissing ect im 17 and she is 16.

My girlfriend broke up with me not too long ago due to a little temper problem on my part. I never physically hurt her, but words were less than kind. We met recently to, I guess give some closure, and we cried together and she said she didn’t want to leave me, but had reached her breaking point. I am currently seeing a counselor to help with my insecurities and anger and she knows this. She also remarked how she thinks I had changed for the better already. Anyway we kissed, she cried, and said she loved me, before we parted ways. She said she still wants me in her life. I want her back so bad it physically hurts. I know from past relationships that I should give her time and live my life, to I guess show her what she is missing without me, but what else can I do? Is there hope? Im so torn up. Thanks….
PS. i have told her repeatedly i wanted to change, and have begged her forgiveness. Some things I said were quite bad.

i called my ex last night and told her that i loved her and that i made a mistake breaking up with her. i know that she still loves me and is holding on to me, waiting for me to come back. but i am with this other girl and i already met her parents and they really like me. my ex’s parents still dont know about me even after being with her for a year. my girlfriend and i hooked up a few days after i broke up with my ex. i am torn between them. we’ve been together for a week and a few days. i love my ex with all my heart. but my new girl really means a lot to me. if i really think about it i want to be with both of them i guess. im so confused. its basically deciding who i want to marry. i feel like whoever i choose, is going to be the one that i spend the rest of my life with. ahhhhhhhhh. im so lost. my ex told me that i need some time for myself to think things through, and that i know what to do, and that im just afraid to hurt someone, ….. which is true. i dont like to hurt anyone.

I’m going to try to keep this short.

I met my girlfriend through facebook oddly enough. We talked on the phone for 3 weeks every night for at least an hour per night. We hit it off on the phone in the beginning, we felt a strong connection on the phone and everything felt so right. We met in person for the first time for dinner and a movie and it sucked. We had nothing to talk about (we had already talked about everything on the phone), plus the awkwardness of having the person you had only seen in pictures prior being right in front of you now.

Another element to this story is I have not had a real girlfriend before. She knows this. So naturally I am inexperienced in being intimate, etc and I hate it with a passion. I always feel awkward when I try to do anything intimate with her, and have to keep reminding myself that it’s ok to kiss/touch her, she’s my girlfriend. We met again a week later and it wasn’t much better, but it was better. We played Wii for several hours and seemed to have fun, we started bonding a bit and I felt myself relaxing more (she has complained that I am too stiff, but this comes from my insecurity and nervousness from never having a girlfriend). Later that evening I was helping her clean before I left to go home and she wrapped her arms around my neck, presumably wanting to do some kissing, etc. I transformed it into an awkward hug because I was a nervous whimp, and she was noticeably turned off by that. She commented that I don’t know how to be sensual with her.

We had some turbulence and drama this week when I broke up with her on a whim (bad mistake) and then immediately took it back. Not that easy. She was hurt by this and said she needs some time to think about it. I’m coming to her house this weekend for her birthday, I’ll be meeting a lot of her friends for the first time. She is using this opportunity to make her final decision about whether me and her are going to work, namely if our “in-person relationship” improves. She told me to relax and not worry about it, but how can I?? I love this girl, and really care about her, and she feels the same about me. But she said she’s worried we may be meant to be good friends rather than a couple. She bases this on our bad in-person relationship, which I attribute to my inexperience with having a girlfriend. I wish she would just give me the time to loosen up and get more comfortable around her before making a decision about me based on our only third meet up.

How can I get more relaxed with her and get more intimate without being insecure and awkward? This is probably my last chance to prove to her that I’m boyfriend material, at least for her anyway. I don’t want to be tossed into the dreaded friend zone.

Ok, so my girlfriend recently cheated on me with another guy who she is currently with. Let me just say that this girl is the first girl I’ve ever loved and I like her a lot. We had a ton of good times together and she brought me up when I was down. She told me that I did nothing wrong and that I am a great guy who deserves the find the girl of my dreams, but I think she is the girl of my dreams. How can I get her back and get her to dump her jerkoff boyfriend? Please help me I love this girl too much to let her go.

she views my page like 25 times a day its kinda strange!! wtf are wrong with some chicks?

We started dating 4 years ago. I was young and foolishly cheated on her. We have had an off and on relationship up until 3 months ago, when we began dating exclusively again. She has a “control freak” personality. “control freaks” need to feel empowered, so they overcompensate because they fear rejection and weakness. She has inner anxiety about the need to be perfect, the need for things to be in her control, she can be very critical of others as well as herself, and she can be very defensive. How can I start to reconnect with my girlfriend and break down these walls?

Alright so I have heard bits and pieces of my girlfriend of two months past relationships and experiences. But today she told me everything because she wanted to put a stamp on how much she really loves me

So she had a boyfriend of two years. He told her he loved her, don’t know if that was just to have sex but she seems to think that he was in love with her and he was in it more for then just sex. Like two years I have to agree but how to you randomly fall out of love with someone. Especially someone as sexy and amazing as her.

She went through depression getting over him. She tried everything to take her mind of him, smoking weed, and ciggerates. And then she turned to guys without thinking. She had four drunk experiences where she didn’t really fight temptation because she thought it might make her forget about them. But no she just felt horrible and didn’t feel good about any of them. She said the sex was horrible because it didn’t mean anything if she was not in a relationship because they didn’t care about her.

So her ex came back to her, told her he loved her and he made mistake and all of those of course she never got over him, she took him back. Then all of sudden a month later once again he broke up with her. Told her he needed to be single again and needed time. But wanted to be with forever. Her being confused wanted him to maybe get jealous or think that she was just there for him whenever he wanted to come and go.

She ended up telling him about the four guys she slept with in the time they were apart. And he spit on her, started calling her dirt and all kinds of names and told her to get away from him. She punched him the face four times apparently.

One big reason why she was upset and I didn’t add in the story was the fact that when he dumped her the first time. He actually slet with her best friend and started going out with her.

The last time they were together she was with her ex. She was technically seeing another guy. So she was kind of cheating but she didn’t like this other guy like that. Although according to them they were dating.

So anyway she poured on all this to me today. And I could understood what happened to her and she made mistakes that she really really regrets. Her mom lost a lot of respect for her, and put her on birth control. Her mom and her are very close again now, and since I have came in her life completely put all this behind her and have made her feel incredibly happy and she fell in love again.

Even though she did some things that a girl that is skanky would do shes now. She is so sweet, and caring, and she acts so mature and a really good girlfriend. She can’t get enough of me and has been completely loyal and that’s why everything she dumped on me caught me off guard.

Her story got worse and worse but her as person just got better and better. She really wants a future with me, and loving me a much more mature guy has completely changed her dating outlook. Shes one of those girls who wants one of those story book endings in a relationship. Shes a good girl that made some mistakes, all because am idiot broke her heart.

I can’t believe she told me all this but it just means she truly loves me and she completely trusts me. I made no secret to her that I was not interested in girls who sleep around or anything like that. And I have acted the same towards her, although I hate hearing about any other guy being with her.

I just want some opinions, I really don’t think shes a skank because shes so true to me. She literally wants to be in constant contact, shes clingy if anything. Maybe she just needed a mature older guy that treats her right?

im just going to do this in a factual time line type format so it might be a little boring but maybe it will keep me from rambling
decemberish 2008 Broke up with my ex girlfriend
april 2009 met and began dating my current girlfriend
april or may 2009 told current girlfriend i was no longer talking to ex
september 2009 ex girlfriend found out about current girlfriend
september 2009 i sent ex girlfriend a message telling her i was sorry and i didn’t want to lose her(my big mistake is i wrote this message very fast to make ex feel better and it ended up sounding more like a love letter than an I want to be friends letter. It was about 5 sentences long.)
september 2009 ex forwarded my letter to my current girlfriend(at this point i confess that i have been talking to her and i had been lying about it)
october through december 2009 fighting constantly usually turns violent.(I never hit her)
jan-feb 2010 fighting goes back and forth sometimes we have a really good time together but more often than not we are fighting
end of feb to beginning of march things level out but get really bad at times

basically things are slowly getting better but as soon as things start to look okay they get worse than before. The main problem is she no longer trust or respects me(which I know i dont deserve and i have to earn) and she is embarrassed by me and sometimes i dont think she likes me anymore. She cant even really look me in the eyes anymore. I know i have to deal with the abuse because she is still hurting so bad because all she thinks about is how bad i hurt her. I know i can handle it Im just scared its never going to better no matter how hard I try. She has told me Im doing a really good job and she just needs time. We almost took a break sometime in february when we were fighting really bad and she told me she had a crush on one of her guy friends and found him very attractive. I stayed very calm through this whole situation and the break was her idea but she ended up begging me to not take the break and said she wanted to keep trying. I dont know what to do. Neither of us can let go but we both hate the current situation. We talk about wanting to get married but i wonder if its just us trying to hang on to something thats gone. And I know this is all my fault and im a scumbag idiot. No need to tell me. and since all this happened other things i did that pissed her off but were never really a big deal have started coming back up as huge fights.
wow thanks for the good responses. Im not leaving anything important out. it would take pages to go over every little thing she is mad about but all the worst stuff that is most of the problem is here. and i am completely over my ex. i have no desire to talk to her ever again.

I have a friend that is going out with this guy she really likes and she dosent want the relationship to `finish. What does she do to keep it going?????? Guys HELP!!!!!!!!!

Lately she hasn’t been talking to me but like once a day and we havn’t hung out in a while and everytime i ask her if we can hang out she says shes too busy but shes always able to hang out with her friends and go to school events and stuff idk if i should break up with her or not…

i discovered that my girlfriend who lives with me has been cheating on me for the past 8 months and she confirms this .i have beg her to stop cry but she is saying she cant do it because i say so that she will do it at her own time what can i do to stop this man to continue fucking my girl and how do i make her stop this affair

I really like this one guy, and we’re friends, but he has a girlfriend. She’s my friend too, and I’m happy for them, but jealous too. But I also know for a fact that she’s cheating on him (like I always guessed she would). What do I do? Should I tell him?