His aortic valve has been leaking for several years but has gotten very bad now. He had 2 strokes 7 years ago. He has been having heart pain and shortness of breathe for several weeks. We went to his cardioligist and she said he is only using 40 percent of his heart right now. He passed out at his stress test and they coulld not find find his blood pressure.They wanted to hospitalize him at that point but he refused. He came home and put together all of his finances after he was released to leave after a few hourss when he felt and looked better. They gave him iv liquids and his ekg was horrible. He has been recommended now to have the surgery within a few days and he will not until after spring break so he can spend time with his 10yr old son since he gets him at that time due to his previous divorce. Im very scared but he think he can just relax until then and be ok. He is the type of person that likes to control everything and he is trying with this too. He has recently been asking me to drive and drop him off at the front of a store rrather than walk 10 feet. The doctor told him..if he makes it through surgery then he would have a long recovery due to his progressing heart disease, age and hes not in a good condition. His blood pressure hass been low and I thoought that was good but apparently its not at this point. He wont listen to me on going in immediately. Do you think he doesnt believe hes going to make it through surgery? Why would someone wait? He set up all his finances and told me everything I would need to do if he dies. His arteries are clogged as well so they would be doing bypass as well at that time. Hes just laying around and not doing much and I think he believes if he continues to do that he would be ok atleast til after spring break. Please someone give me advice. Im his oldest daughter and I have been taking care of him since divorce since he is dlightly disabled from strokes. He is on lisopril, metropol.namenda, coumadin, cymbalta, hydrochloriazide and aricept. Some meds where from strokes due to help blood pressure and some are to help his deterioration of his brain and help with the short term memory loss.

This is gonna get long xD, So, here’s the deal, I haven’t taken dating seriously until i have been with this particular girl. We have been dating for about 8 or 9 months now and its been very serious. She is 19 and i am 20. She has had many ex’s in the past but i have only had a few. So while we were together we fell deeply in love and talked about plans to live with each other and get married, we were perfectly happy with each other and wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. We have both had bad pasts and felt that the only thing that made our lives amazing was the fact that we had each other. We still got into fights occasionally, like every couple does right? but we would make up quickly because we couldn’t stand being without each other, although i did find it kind of odd when she fought about money when being with her is worth much more than any amount of money i can imagine. But her argument was that she loves me, but love alone doesn’t pay the bills, and it’s not like we were low on money, so i was a little confused but i get it now. She told me a couple days ago that she had a kid, and i had no idea up til that point. She had him because she found out 5 months into her pregnancy that she was pregnant. But anyways, she put him in the foster home because she had already broken up with the father months before she found out about the pregnancy, and he told her he didn’t want the child. So she moved out of state, away from her family to have the child, no one knew except for a couple of close friends. She left him in a foster care because she couldn’t support him. Now she has court next month to decide if she wants to keep him or put him up for adoption, and she hasn’t told me because it was the past, and she wasn’t planning on keeping him and that’s why it wasn’t gonna affect our future with each other, and that she was scared of what i would think about it, plus it was a bad part of her life she wanted to forget and move on with. But now she had a change in plans, she wants to keep him now, and i support her, because i truly love her, and i told her I will do everything it takes for us to gain custody of the child ie. have a sustainable environment for him, and that I will raise him as my own. But she is trying to break up with me now, I told her she can’t do it herself and i will help her but she disagrees. She’s saying that she doesn’t want to drag me down because of a mistake she made before we got together even though she still loves me more than anything, this is just her kid we are talking about and its hard to let go of something like that. So i finally understood why money was so important, before she met me, she always planned on getting her child back and worked hard for him, but when i came along it all became about me because I was “the one” to her, and she decided at one point that I was more important, and that she wanted to start fresh with me. But now that isn’t the case, even though I really do want to be with her, and help her raise her child, we both are still young. And she wants the best for me, and she thinks that it’s the best that I move on, even though I don’t want that. So I want to ask, should i move on? Is she right? I really do love her but shes trying to break up with me, and says for me to never talk to her again and there is no way I can get through to her about us doing this together, she just says i should give my heart to another girl, because I’d be better off. Or am i right to keep trying for something i love more than my own life?

Sorry for the extremely long explanation, i just want to give as much insight as i can and thanks for any replies.

like what are some songs similar to your not sorry by taylor swift
because like i need songs about like moving on after a breakup or after you get your hear broken

my boyfriend of 7 months broke up with me last night over one text. the text said “ive been thinking. we need to break up.” thats all. i replyed, “over a f***ing text? how classy.” he never responded. i called and called and he never picked up. im completetley devasted. we were talking about getting married after my 18th bday (this was his idea, not mine). i also have a bunch of family problems and he said they best way to solve it would be to get pregnant with his baby and we could start our own family together. i thought this was a bit extreme but it proved to me just how much he loved me and how commited he was to me. i love him so much. i don’t think i can get over him. im homeschooled and he goes to a private school so i wont get to see him around. he was the only person i had. im completley alone now. all ive been thinking about is wanting to die. i have no one. all my friends are on his side. no one is talking to me. my family hates me because they are devout catholics and they found out i lost my virginity to him. im so overwhelmed. ive began cutting myself for the first time. this breakup was the last straw to my shitty life.

-In an open relationship with him for four years due to my frequent abroad studies. Whenever I was around him he’d make me feel special, as if I was the only girl he loved.

-Yes, sex was involved.

-Before we got into an official relationship, mutual friends were telling me that he was also seeing another girl. They never had sex, I know this for a fact.

-This girl wanted a serious relationship with him. He told her didn’t want that at the moment, two months later he gets with me–officially.

-He’d tell me his feelings toward me and stayed faithful through it all. One night I get drunk and kiss another guy, I felt so ashamed and spilled everything to him. Of course he breaks up with me and puts on his Facebook status: “The Sex was great.”

-A month later he gets another girl friend, not the girl whom wanted a commitment. They break up six days later and everyone said it was because of the girl who wanted a commitment, he tried kissing her.

-Now he puts on his Aim Status: “I will never forget you.” Everyone says it’s toward the girl who doesn’t want a commitment, ’cause she has been ignoring him lately.

Everything he said to me, did it mean anything at all? All the sweet candy coated words? PLEASE?

I am so hurt because I love and miss him so much. Advice? He hasn’t been talking to me at all even though I’ve apologized more than 3 times.

i had to move away and i had to break up w my girlfriend. its been a month and some weeks. and i met someone who was there for me and comforted me because i was in a completely new state all by myself. and i just started talking to her. and i just told my ex…..was this wrong of me? did i move on too fast? i mean, the new girl isnt a girlfriend yet, just talking to her. advice is appreciated. thanks.

my ex and i are now on talking terms and we were talking for hours at a time and its bringing back memories and im a mess what do i do?

My MIL. HAS BEEN HORRIBLE. Gossiping about me.Criticizing..BUT had recently invited my child to spend the night & when he got there, they changed their minds & he refused to leave so she got angry & said she was going to send him to school without his homework done… WTF? He looked so excited to go there.. she invited him 3 days prior (only the second visit since his dad left) His heart was broken! He called me 45 minutes later & asked me to come & get him. He was so obviously upset. I asked him why he decided to come home & he said “She was mean & her & grandpa were screaming at eachother”
I haven’t spoken to her since (4 days)
I don’t intend to.
NOW: MY HUSBAND & I WERE GOING OVER OUR FINANCES & HE CUSSED ME OUT FOR SPENDING TOO MUCH…Mind You I bought NOTHING at Christmas or Birthday etc. without discussing. I gave him an accounting for every penny spent (checks,cash etc) SAID HE’S SIGNING ALL CONTROL TO HER! WTF. She had to sell her home because she cannot CANNOT manage money!

I’ve been seeing this guy for about 3 months now. We’ve gone on several dates, and we’re practically boyfriend/girlfriend – just not “official,” I suppose.

I stay the night at his house, and he’s told me how much he cares/likes me. He hasn’t pushed me into ANYTHING, and I really like him.

Well, yesterday was his birthday – and I spent the morning with him. I gave him his gift, and then I left. It’s his 22 birthday, so I knew he’d go out with his friends and drink. He called me at 11:30pm last night, but I was sleeping.

I went on facebook today – and saw a comment from this girl that said “Happy Birthday, sorry I couldn’t see you today.” Then, I saw another from this other girl that said “Hey, can we sleep together more often .”

I am so hurt right now, but I don’t know what to do! I know he’ll call me later, but what should I say? I mean, we’re not “official” but I thought we were, you know, pretty much there. He’ll probably ask me to hang out, but I feel really bad. What are the right things I should say?

What would you do?
Yeah. There was a lot of kissing, flower-giving, cuddling, romantic dinners…

One of my good friends is in so much pain and anguish. I am reaching out to them and offering what I can to be there as a friend.

It is due to a failed relationship in which they were deeply in love,but the trust and faithfulness was shattered. Not by my friend but by the other party.

Can you help me to comfort them by posting some really good advice for them here in this question. They will read it and hopefully draw strength from it.

Thanks people
Wow! Some really good advice here. I do hope they read this. Thank you to all of you!! :p