I am in a severely emotionally, financially — and sometimes — physically abusive relationship. I have no family, but I’m afraid the physicial abusive incidents are too few & far between to warrant a stay at a domestic violence shelter as I feel that is more geared toward physical abuse. What can I do?
hello. me and my boyfriend of 8 years broke up about 2months ago. he fell out of love. I am still very much in love with him, and it’s so hard. I basically confessed my undying love 4 him and nothing changed. I want to tell him how i feel, that i still miss him and want 2 be with him, but i’ve seen people do that and it pushes them away even further. It’s just so hard to hold in. How did you deal with your breakup? i was planning on marrying this guy! and if your back together, how did u do it??
So my best friend got me and my girlfriend together a couple months ago. Girlfriend went away to camp and told me she liked another guy, so i break up with her when she gets back. Later she told me she still wanted to get back together and tells all her friends that. She had very strong feelings for me, and i thought i did for her too while she was away. It’s not technically cheating but she did break my heart and I thought it was. She tells me she did nothing with the other guy though and I sometimes find that hard to believe. She destroyed me completely when she told me she liked someone else, so i broke up with her, I guess she was a little immature too. She still tells me she loves me but I can never look at her the same way again. The problem comes in here. My best friend helped me through all of this and she is wonderful! I love her more than any other friend I’ve ever had and she is absolutely amazing. I have hung out with her almost everyday this summer and we have been getting really close. We started developing feelings for each other and made out and fingered her after I broke up with my girlfriend. I confused if what I did was wrong. Technically, it shouldn’t be wrong because we are broken up and I no longer have any strong feelings with my ex and I’m falling in love with my best friend. Can someone help me? Should I ask my best friend out? I am just afraid that my ex will throw a tantrum and stop being friends with my best friend if I go out with her, I don’t want any of that to happen. So what should I do, should I just keep secretly hanging out with my best friend? By the way, my best friend told me she’s falling in love with me too, so it’s not just a one sided thing…. any opinions welcomed! I just need help…
ok, so there was this boy i really liked, and we got to know eachother more and he asked me out after a football game. I was so sur he still liked his ex, buy apparently not, so i said yes. a week went by and he called me and said “lilly, i thought about it all yester day and i feel that i can say this and Actually mean it….I love you”…..(awkward silence)…. i said “thank you, but im not totally sure yet, but i really super dooper like you!!” he was fine with that, he just wanted me to know how he felt. A week went by and we hung out dates etc. and then i invited him to go on a day trip to Atlanta with me, my parents, my sister, and one of my sisters friends. My parents let us walk around (btw we are 14 and both hav the same bday) alone, and he kept being real touchy like always grabbing my waist. We had fun none the less, but i got the feeling he was kindof selfish… Anywhoo, we were sitting together in the backseat on the way home and it was dark, the 2 girls were watching a movie and parents driving. I had my pillow in his lap and was half asleep and i felt him kiss my cheek…..i wasnt really even ready for that but it didnt bother me….but then when i woke up i sat up and all of a sudden he crushed his lips to mine for like 2 sec and then he just looked away. I WAS NOT READY FOR THAT and i told him so. I asked him not to tell anyone bc that was my first kiss and i wanted no one to know but me and him(for some reason deep down i felt ashamed for the kiss????hmmm) he promised and it was done and didnt happen again. A week later he told this guy and it really upset me bc i asked him not to. He apologized and said it wouldnt happen again….i let it slide, and then the next day his ex gf knew which ticked me off alooott and i was talking to him about it and he said “so you can telll your sister, but i cant tell my best friend?” which upset me again bc if his ex is his bff then wat am i?? Then, my family let him come for dinner for Christmas soon after, and i spent 65 dollars getting him something he TOLD me to get him… he said”lilly get me a _____ for Christmas ok??”" I didnt think anything of his dominating nature and control issues. Then he went too far. That night when he opened it he said it was the wrong size….then he asked my mom to take it back and get the right size. She said he could get his mom to do it. I had also handmade him a necklace thing and he mad me fix it for 30 min b4 he left……
I spent my money to get him something and my time to make him something and he got his mom to get me whatever so he didnt have to fool with it, and then had the nerve…..ughhh I broke up with him soon after, he hung up in my face and is now just every other day bugging me about it. I told him he needs to get the fact that i am his friend nothing more. After the breakup he trashed me and said all i got him for Christmas was a _____……It really made me mad, but he just wont get over me still and im ready to move on…..our breakup has lasted longer than our relation ship….
RELATIONSHIP: november 20-december 30
BREAKUP:december 30-february 6
Ok, so I had a girlfriend for two years. We’ve always been in love, but we are differant people at differant stages in our lives. So of course this resulted in our breakup after I had moved BACK to Auburn to be with her. So after that goes down I get my **** together and get back in school, going out to bars and meeting people and just being more social in general. These are all things that hadnt done during the relationship. Anyway 3 monts pass and she calls me out of nowhere. Like a dumbass I call her back a few nights later and this all leads me to where I am now. We are being intimate, we talk a lot, its like a honeymoon, BUT we say we arent “together”( alas there is definite/enivitable emotional investement) . This weekend I am going to a concert and then come to find out today very attractive girl who I have been flirty with happens to be in the same city. I ask her if she wants to meet up with me and shes all about it so its on. Am I obligated to tell my “ex”?
I’m 13 and have been going out with this guy for 7 months. Yesterday he broke up with me. I really want him back. Please help?
Me and my boyfriend .. ( both 18 ) are very attracted to eachother.
We have been dating for about 5 months and we are able to just cuddle and have a conversation, do things with each others families, and just laugh together and be goofy; but it usually leads to something else unintentionally… and it’s both of us equally initiating it.
Is this a sign that we are just insanely attracted to each other
and young with normal hormones OR is our relationship not
truly love?
My boyfriend and i decided to take a break last sunday. it was both of our decisions so i was fine with it. until today. we’ve been together for over 2 years and we’ve taken breaks in the past and i’ve found that its a little easier when i dont see him.
well, we decided it was probably for the best. his reason was so that we dont get tired of each other and unhappy. we havent talked for the past 3 days and i really miss him, it used to be that neither of us could go a day wiht out talking to each other. we talked everynow and then at first, but now we’re not talking at all. i have really strong feelings towards him, and we’ve been through alot togther. i’ve tried moving on but its just hard and the longer we dont talk, the harder it is. do you think he’s feeling the same way? i asked my friend if she thinks he misses me and she said to find out by letting him contact me first. and that hasnt happened. what should i do?
and please no stupid answers. this is a serious thing.
I have been with my fiance for 9 years and been engaged to him 4yrs, im 26 and he is 29 and a firefighter. I love him to death but i come from a huge dysfunctional family of alcoholics whose marriages have ended & some of them have been married many times, they are mostly cops and FDNY, i never wanted my fiance and i to be like them. I was a rebellious teen and done everything i could to rebel as no one would ever stop me, i started drinking at 11yrs old and got addicted to that for 6yrs as it was a normal thing to me I got sober by myself and got an amazing career in the city and fell in love & moved in with my fiance who was always there for me, i suffered a miscarriage a year ago and felt i let my fiance down as he always said how we wanted to be a father and i feel like my life is in the dumps. My fiance and i seem to have lost our communication and seem to fight over anything or get on each others nerves a lot. My fiance and his firefighter crew are friends with my older brothers crew and him and their friend owns a bar and they hang out there a lot and my fiance wanted me to go more with him as we haven’t been out together with friends in a long time although he doesn’t really drink. I started hanging with my family and friends & drinking, i was always a very out going person. My fiance always tells me he loves me and cannot imagine living his life without me in it but in my family we cant seem to go anywhere but we make some sort of scene, trouble tends to follow us & if its not to us its to the people around us, who we are about. A lot of guys hit on me and i always tell them im engaged and then my fiance comes over, snaps and turns on me then my brothers & friends will turn on the guy who hit on me. I am close friends with a guy on my brothers crew and he is friends with my fiance also, i’ve known him years and i seem to open up to him more than my fiance as we get defensive, my friend keeps telling me to not give up on my fiance as it would kill him. Although we fight he will never leave without telling me he loves me and will do anything for me. I know im no good for my fiance and i love him to pieces but i am hurting him and see now that i always have, he would be better off without me, i know i have problems i always have and its killing me but i am damaged and know i should set him free. Advice?
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Well…its hard to put all the details in this but ill try…
Everything that is here is what she told me…she told me because she said she felt guilty
I dated this girl for over 2.75years…We have live together for the past 8 months…by the way I am 20 going on 21 and she is 20 now….Over Christmas break we go into an argument and we decided to take a break, but with me being stubborn, I just said we should just break up….This happened on Jan 07….I refused to answer her calls or call her for a week…Her b-day was on the 9th and I refused to text or call her and tell her happy b-day…(Over christmas break, we lived with our parents. When we came back to school, we made up for the argument that we had…
We have had the best last 3 months possible…until now…she told me that she had done stuff with another man 2 days after I didnt call her on her b-day on Jan 09…She didnt know much about the guy except she went to high school with him…he is 2 years older than her..(kinda like a one night stand)…she let him finger her , touch her boobs, and let him *** in her mouth…He did offer to have sex…she turned it down…or said she did.
Anyway, the next day she sent him pictures of bra & panties, boobs, and vagina…and sent him a video of her fingering her vagina. (she has never done this for me ever)…He also sent her pics and stuff…She also said she didnt really like the guy…she was just feeling upset about our breakup and wanted to hurt me and also want to feel like someone liked her. She told the guy she was packing up for school the next day so he said that they could still be friends with benefits. So I think she got the idea that he was just out to get some…She also added him on her facebook but deleted him before she came back to school.
My problem is should I forgive her?…Really we was not going out, but yet it still bothers me…I blame myself for it…I really love her…But Im not sure if i can forgive her..Remember we do live together…our lease is up next month though…Any ideas on what to do? She kept it from me for 3 months…could she be lieing about more? Any help/ideas would be appreciated.
Also she has said she was sorry and didnt mean to hurt me…she was just afraid I would break up with her if she told me…She said she wants to work it out and stay together
