Sorry for the length, I just wanted to get the entire story on here.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years, living together for 3. I am 20 and he is 21. We seemed to have a great relationship until about a month ago. I was looking at his cell phone and saw alot of messages from a girl he’s known for a long time, I didn’t think anything of it until I saw what the messages said. They had been talking for months I guess and she was saying things like “we should meet up and cuddle” and “I want you, xoxo” calling him babe and things like that. After seeing that I got suspicious and looked in his outbox and saw that he had been talking to her like that also…saying things like “you know I want you but I just can’t have you” and a couple messages actually made it seem as if they were about to arrange a time to hook up. When I confronted him about this he claimed that he didn’t want her and he didn’t know why he said those things, and that he only wanted me, etc, etc. He erased her off his Facebook and his cell phone and as far as I know they haven’t talked since and he swears up and down that nothing ever happened with her. I don’t understand why he would do that, he is totally not the cheating type, and this is an attatched girl with 3 kids who is not attractive in any way. He told our roomates about all this for some reason and now our girl roomate (Angie) keeps emailing this other girl and telling her not to comment on her fiances pictures on facebook and whatnot. Angie also told her to leave me and my boyfriend alone. Then the other girl sent Angie an email back saying that her and my boyfriend kissed and that he was trying to get her to go to a hotel room and that she didn’t feel right about it. She also said to tell him to stop sending her emails and just text if he wants to talk dirty. She also said he gave her our address. When I asked him he got very upset and said that none of it was true and that there had been a rumour going around about the two of them but none of it was true. I really don’t see how it could be true because we when we go to our parents(where this supposidly happened) we are always together, because it’s like a mini vacation for us. So I don’t know if she was just lying because she was mad that our roomate said something to her or if she is really telling the truth. I just feel very confused now, like maybe the reason he hasn’t proposed like we have always talked about, is because he is looking for something better or he isn’t truly happy in the relationship. I have talked to him about this as well and he says he does want to marry me and that he is happy but he can’t afford a ring. Is he just making up excuses? What do you guys think about this? Is he likely to actually cheat in the future?
Also, I’m not saying that I still want a ring from him, I just meant that I wonder if this is the reason he hasn’t propsed before all of this even though we seemed to be going in that direction.
Do you think he cheated or will cheat in the future? If I decide to forgive him how can we work together to overcome this? Any advice, similar stories, or anything is appreciated.
Thanks!
Also, he isn’t stupid enough to give her our address because there is always(no exceptions) someone here because we have 5 roomates and if anyone caught her here I would know about it.
Also, the email the girl sent to our roomate was very immature calling her “fatty” and saying weird things like “nice dogs” and “Im not scared of you” and just really stupid stuff like she was trying to make our roomate mad. This is why I felt that she may have been lying. I dunno

Were only 3 hours away but with work kids school…and normal everyday life we both seem to get so frustrated that we cant be together. He lived him and moved after only 6 months of being together. He moved to be closer to spend more time with his son and me moving now isnt an option but its getting harder and harder day by day to keep us together

I haven’t seen her in three months, but I still think about her every day. Is this normal?

Being home alone is hard, weekends are tough too. What about you?

I feel we had great relationship, I couldn’t financially get us together and I guess she had enough. I know appearing needy is the absolute worst idea, but do I call, send a letter, text, do nothing? What do some of these I books advise and what do sensible people out there advise? Thanx to all who respond, it has been three days.

How long does it take you to wipe your mind away from someone you loved (who broke up with you), before y’all can start a new relationship feeling free of past emotions?

(LONG STORY) PLEASE HELP WITH RELATIONSHIP ADVICE!?
My ex girlfriend and I broke up because of her mean ways. She can say some hurtful things and she acts nonchalant about. She also gets mad when she don’t get her way and she acts very immature and hang up and ignore my calls. She has given me reasons not to trust her in the past and she told me she never cheated but certain things she has done made me feel that way by her hiding stuff.

She asked me to give her one more chance but she plays a lot of games. I told her we cannot resolve any issue when she has this wall up or an attitude. She acts like she wants her a** kissed and I told her I don’t have time for her games.

Other times I have broke up with her in the past, she would call me back and say she is sorry for what she did but she took our relationship for granted many times and she can be a mean impatient, and stubborn girl.

She claimed she would try to be more patient in order for us to have a better relationship but as soon as she does something wrong and if I tell her about she gets a really nasty attitude and she’ll be immature and hang up when it’s something she don’t want to her. She also always try to find a way to turn things around on me she just plays games often. Also even if her and I were together we both wanted to live in different places so we had different ideas on life when it came to a place to settle but I was willing to compromise, but she think the world is centered around her.

I have given her many, I cannot lie I still love her but she acts like she don’t care so if she really cared she would not let all this time go by and decide to contact me in the future if she really did love me she would have tried to contact me to try to resolve it instead of being childish and hanging up the phone, it’s like she say she love me and want a relationship but her actions show like she don’t care at all so I don’t know and I’m tired of her games.

I told her many times it cannot just be me giving all the effort to make this work it takes two and she wants her a** kissed and I told her I am so tired of me always being the one to reach out to you when we have issues, she has this nonchalant attitude and it’s just b.s with her.

I still do have feelings for her but I don’t know how many times I can keep taking someone back that continues to show me she don’t care with her actions. If she does call me in the future with an apology should I take her back or just continue trying to get over her and just ignore her if she calls and just continue to move on with my life by continuing to get to know this new girl I really like and she is very respectful and we have a lot in common and we are just getting to know each other but I am not going to jump into a relationship right away with anyone else knowing I still have feelings for my ex. Also my 2 ex girlfriends are American women and I am too but I have traveled the world and I find Europeans to be more loyal and sincere compared to most Americans.

I am not saying all Americans are bad but realistically it’s harder to find a partner here because so many people take relationships for granted and over there in Europe more people are more sincere overall when compared to most people here in America. My last 2 girlfriends are American so I need to try to something new so I’m currently talking to a European woman and she is very respectful and I know there are good and bad women in every place but I think it’s easier to find a European partner compared to an American one because not all but most Americans are very selfish and it’s all about them, very few of us have values when it comes to knowing how to treat a person when in a relationship and my last two ex’s took our relationship for granted.

Like I said overall Europe is where I’ll be moving to anyway and most of those women are more respectful, not selfish, and more loyal and sincere compared to majority people here. The European woman I am talking to now she is a sweetheart and I really like her and she is so different.

We are now getting to know each other but my ex girlfriend my try to contact me again because when I broke up with her before she has done that and I just am tired of her hurting me but I really want to continue getting to know this new woman. I guess I’m just trying to deal with all my emotions right now.

I need you all to tell me how to get over my ex faster too, and also if she decides to contact me in the future should I continue to try to get over her and ignore her calls if she calls me or should I answer the phone and give her another chance if she decides she wants to contact me and apologize for her actions, please tell me what to do about this situation? Thanks

telling him i’m pregnant isn’t goning to work because we are far away.

my girlfriend has been trying to talk to me but i have ignored her i think she s still with this other guy that she cheated on me with why do u think she ’s trying to talk to me do u think she’s ganna give up trying it i don’t know if she still loves me it was very hard for me to accept the fact that she cheated on me now i feel a lot better but i still think about her

Love??? I’m old enough and been thru enough that I shold know the answer to this but honestly, I don’t know that I do. Without rushing……….

My boyfriend and I just got back together. We broke up because he was overwhelmed with college, new job with long hours, & family problems. His reaction to it all was to break up with me because he felt he wasn’t giving me the attention I deserved. It didn’t help that we lived 2 hours away.
Now we are back together and I am going to school to get my license in massage therapy. It’s close to where he lives so we would be able to see each other a lot more. But it’s only been a few weeks. I asked him if this is a good time for him to be in a relationship- said he was ready. I told him I don’t want him to get so overwhelmed with things that he would feel like he had to break up with me again. He said he wouldn’t do that ever again. So I guess that things should be all good and happy- which I’m sure they will be. But I’m still just not sure that he’s ready. What’s the best way to confront him about it? What should I say to him? And please elaborate – short answers get a thumbs down.

Long story, I’ll try and shorten it up but here goes..

A fellow coworker of mine (we are RAs in the dorms of our college) got out of a fairly serious relationship that lasted 3 years just last March. While we had been pretty good friends since we worked together and worked out together, I found myself in the aftermath of her relationship as the person she came to for comfort and when she just needed to cry. Not long after we started to develop feelings for one another, but it was too soon after her breakup and we went back to our hometowns in May for summer..

I told myself I would just take a break and not worry about it, give her the time she needed, but over the summer she texted me all the time. I went off the Europe to study abroad for the summer and she would send me texts saying things like “have fun with those European ladies but don’t forget we have a date when you get back to school,” and she eventually sent me an email confessing to me that she had feelings for me..

However, when we got back for work and school, I found that she was avoiding me to an extent. We would hang out but she always had to have her friends around and it was somewhat awkward. When we would be alone she would just play on her computer/phone and not really talk much to me. I finally asked her what the deal was and pushed for the date that she had essentially begged me for over the summer to no avail. She told me that she did indeed have feelings for me, but she didn’t want a boyfriend and wasn’t sure when she would want a boyfriend again. I was a little upset because I felt she had essentially tried to sabotage my European vacation and keep me from womanizing so I wouldn’t forget her on my once in a lifetime trip.

We still hang out a lot but never alone. She is always cutting me down and playfully hitting me, which I usually take as flirting. She talks about me to her friends all the time and makes sure to invite me wherever they go. But she won’t go on the date she wanted or really give me a shot at anything more than a friendship even though she treats me much more different than any of her other guy friends.

While I enjoy being around her still, I can’t help but feel that resentment sometimes or get over my feelings that I have for her. I just think it’s really unfair to me that she would tell me she has feelings for me when I’m 5,000 miles away but not act on them when things get real and in person. I feel like I should move on but I’ve put so much into this that I don’t want to walk away, and I still do enjoy her company. However, at this point I don’t think we could ever just be friends after all she has done and what we’ve been through. My friends say I should just go cold turkey, but I work with her and have to see her regularly throughout the week (my job pays my room and food so it’s worth a lot).

I just don’t know what to do, it wears on me a lot and when I ignore her at all she constantly texts me and asks what’s wrong or if we are still friends. I’d like to think that hanging out with her regularly like I do will eventually win her over if she really does like me, but I just don’t know what to do at this point.

I’m really sorry about the length of this question but I really couldn’t think of a way to shorten it. Maybe I’m venting a little too.. ANY help would be GREATLY appreciated from anyone who has dealt with something similar or just knows how these things usually turn out. Thank you!