He has been with his girlfriend 8 months now. Dont think she knows the full extent of his addiction. Want to help him and get bk together. I miss him so much. How do I raise his addiction? Have emailed a few times to see how we both are but thats been it in the past few months

i love my boyfriend more than anything…. hes all i have… i cant imagine myself with anyone but him and i dont want to be with anyone but him…but things are getting complicated qand everyone says its time to breakup…..i cant do it… we talk about marraige and how wde want to be together forever but is it too unrealistic?? what do i do

I don’t know what to do. Please help me? Here’s what happened.

My boyfriend and I have been going out for 5 months now and we’ve been bestfriends for like 6 years.
He’s 4 years older than me, and his step sister is 3 months older than I am.

Well, whenever I make mistakes, my boyfriend would say something like “Why can’t you do better than this? Look at my sister, she’s better than you.” And all that crap.

One time, when he and I were making out in my apartment, his step-sister called him because she needed help with a job application, and my boyfriend told me “Let’s quit for today.” and he just left me after that.

And one time, we were arguing and he was like “Why are you like this? Why can’t you behave like my sister?” And I screamed at him and said “Why don’t you date her instead!?” And he was like “I wish I could!”. I felt so depressed.

It really pissed me off. We’re okay now but sometimes he ditches me for her and I feel like he’s just using me. What should I do?

I am totally and completely in love with my boyfriend, but he and this girl, his ex, are getting kind of closer. I’ve told him i suspect there’s something going on, & he says he’ll stop talking to her as much, but i don’t know. help please!

Can you tell the signs of an ending relationship, how do you notice that, so you can give up before you get hurt more and maybe save your energy and time?
Just to add:
he refuses to talk, he thinks if we start discussing then it’s for him over

i’m really lost in what to do here,
so if you’re not here to be serious, just go somewhere else please.

but my ex boyfriend and i have been broken up for about a month and a half now,
and we dated for about 1 year and 7 months.
at first we was sooo happy.
and then things just started to really go down hill.
we went to different schools,
and it started to become difficult to see each other,
but i decided to move here, so i could see him all the time,
but then we broke up because all we did was fight.
well, we’ve been broken up for a while now,
and at first, i really didn’t care.
because he was a huge jerk to me,
and now he’s moved on,
and already dating someone else,
i mean, i am too…
but i’m not that happy…
and now i don’t know what to do…
i miss him so much everyday…
because he’s moved on.
and all the time on his Myspace,
it says “bj and Kayla carter.”
THEY HAVEN’T EVEN BEEN DATING A MONTH.
and it really hurts me to see it.
i just miss him so much.

i honestly would leave the relationship i have right now just to be with him again…
it’s so hard without him in my life.
and now i actually realize that.

we’ve broken up many times before,
but we’ve always came back to each other,
i just don’t know what to do,
i’m so lost….

is he really moved on?
is he missing me any?
do i just need to move on…?
do you think we’ll get back together?
is he doing this to make me jealous?

i really need someones opinion about this…

thank you guys for helping me.

btw, he texted me a day before my birthday, and was like, “just wanted to be nice and say happy birthday.” and i didn’t text back, but then he texted back like 5 minutes later, and was like, “sorry, that was my bud. just ignore that.” and i was like, “tell your bud i said thanks.” and he was like, “just ignore it! don’t text me back!”

i was like, “wtf?” lmao.

Please don’t criticize.I’m 17 I live with my boyfriend(32yearold)he doesn’t hit me but he makes me cry everysingle day calling me names saying I’m a mistake and the b-word.he tells me he’s sorry and I always forgive him.if I leave him I have no place to go and my mom wished I was dead.the rest of my family is in another country.any advice would be greatly appreciated.thank you for your time

So me and my girlfriend (i’m 16, she’s 15) have been going out for a few months. I was at her best friends party with her and everbody was playing spin the bottle, my girlfriend and i sitting side by side, and i said i wasn’t playing. So it comes to my girlfriends best friend and she spins it and its me, but i didn’t know it. So she sits on my lap and leans in, and so i panicked and accidentally kisser her back, and my girlfriend is super ticked at me now. I have sat her down and talked about it, telling her it was the biggest mistake of my life but nothing i do makes it any better. So any advice as to maybe what i should do, say, buy, write…? Please help me! i love her so so soooooooo much and i don’t want her to break up with me.

i called my ex last night and told her that i loved her and that i made a mistake breaking up with her. i know that she still loves me and is holding on to me, waiting for me to come back. but i am with this other girl and i already met her parents and they really like me. my ex’s parents still dont know about me even after being with her for a year. my girlfriend and i hooked up a few days after i broke up with my ex. i am torn between them. we’ve been together for a week and a few days. i love my ex with all my heart. but my new girl really means a lot to me. if i really think about it i want to be with both of them i guess. im so confused. its basically deciding who i want to marry. i feel like whoever i choose, is going to be the one that i spend the rest of my life with. ahhhhhhhhh. im so lost. my ex told me that i need some time for myself to think things through, and that i know what to do, and that im just afraid to hurt someone, ….. which is true. i dont like to hurt anyone.

Im having such a hard time with this one… i dont even know where to begin. I was best best friends with this boy for 9 years. During that time i never looked at him “that way”, and I was also in a (pretty much only) serious relationship with somebody for 8 years before him. The boyfriend I had then was one of the greatest guys you could ever meet… never hit me, treated me badly… and actually in that relationship I was the one who would be more likely to throw a ‘hissy fit’ (being the girl i am i guess).

Things got old… and I ended up falling in love with my friend. Weve been together for about a year now. During this time a lot of bad things happened. We both have a drug problem, one which existed before we got together. His drug of choice, howere, kind of switched to mine… and we got high together. Slowly… I was blamed for his drug usage (by his friends, family, etc… they all think im the crazy one). Although what really happened was that we sort of fed off of each other and its harder to quit drugs when we’re both doing them. Although I am trying to work on my drug problem… this particular question is more based on the relationship, and I want answers to be more directly for the ‘abusive’ part.

I think the big concern I have is that I always, constantly tried to make him happy… feel good. And i LOVE making the people i love feel good… so it doesnt bother me. And this boy is very passionate and lovey dovey… it sucks me in. But its funny, if he isnt 100% okay, he wont be… its like he has to take care of himself first before making me feel good. But he sorta masks it to make it seem like I am his number 1 priority. Perfect example… I had a night planned for the two of us… and this was just after a lot of bullshit went on in our lives (lost job, went homeless, had to move to my parents, etc) And so I planned this whole night out, and i was totally broke at the time but i managed to do some small jobs in order to get the money together to go out. The night turned out to be a disaster… we were treated very poorly by the customer service (i dont want to get too specific so as to give away my identity to maybe him?…) it really was a disaster that was truly not my fault or his. I felt really bad… but the average person would shrug it off and maybe be pissed.. but still have the whole “its the thought that counts” thing in the back of their head. Insead he ended up taking it all out on me, by picking out something I did that was unrelated and blowing up on me. Then one thing lead to another… and as soon as you knew it (btw he was drunk) was throwing sandwiches at me after i bought him dinner… ugh… so much stuff. The stories are endless but i guess to sum it up… if something doesnt go right… it some how turns into my fault. He’ll come home from work after working 12 hrs. And i’ll be wating for him, thinking “geez he worked his ass off today, the poor thing” and ill do stupid stuff like put on some special pair of underwear, or make him dinner… whatever… and then when he gets home (this event actually did happen) I go to let him in, and he barges through the door flipping out and grabs the cigarette i was just about to smoke outside, and he takes it inside. When i go to get another cigarette, he screams “cant you just get the fukc off my ass for 10 FUKCING MINUTES.?!?” (this is without me saying one word to him) Its like he hasnt considered the fact that i actually have been thinking of him and how hard he worked… or doesnt even GIVE me the chance to show him that I appreciate his hard work and now want to comfort him or whatever. God… I was never like this and I dont know what happened. Comfort him? Geez, its like im embarresed to even say it like that.I was unemployed throughout most of our relationship.. had a job and lost it quick basically due to my horrible addiction.I was to graduate from school last semester but didnt, also due to drugs. The drug problem is something ill save for another post… but basically I KNOW i havnt be the greatest cup of tea. But hey, the major i picked is very difficult to find a job in. I am finally employed now, and a lot of times (especially when talking about splitting the cost of something which i cannot afford) he’ll imply that i just dont work hard like he does. Although other times he’ll say “it doesnt matter what job you have… anything will help.” He gets semi psychically abusive… but the most painful is the emotional abuse. i just dont know how to get away from it. There is so much to him that i am totally in love with. When i’m not with him i miss him… and when I am with him i keep getting reminded of the horrible things he does to me. Just now he did something that really hurt me. I was really alone tonight (christmas eve). Partly its due to the fact that my family has been against our relationship so much to the point that they dont want my drama around (totally understandable)…. also a lot to do with my
the main advice i was looking for was… HOW to stay away. Every time i do it i end up checking my fone every 5 minutes… its like nail biting. I KNOW damn well i need to do it… but i get so depressed and start going crazy in my head. AND then i start looking for any reason to get back with him for the sole reason that it hurts too much… im weak and i need to figure out a way to do that
i was fourteen and in a relationship with someone else when i met him… it didnt take 8 years to fall in love with him… i was just good friends with him back then. Then things changed…
i am not in denial… i know exactly what the problem is. I know i have a drug problem… but that is another whole problem which just happens give more details about my problems in general. Obv… yes… i need help with the drugs and have been in outpatient more than once for it. But thats not really answering the question.
theres no way i’m afraid of rejection from another guy. the big problem is sticking WITH breaking up with him… becasue its hard when youre depressed about something to avoid looking for reasons to go back. There are plenty of guys out there, ive had another boyfriend who was really nice… i dont have battered woman syndrom… although yes it is a habbit. It seems like everyone is telling me what i already explained…. I already know what the problem is… i need to fix it and im having a hard time doing it. I just did break up with im… im laying here nodding out happy with myself right now… but tomorrow when i wake up sober im going to call him and i know it… and im worried that ill just keep doing it. I need to preoccupie myself but i feel like theres nobody left. I dont know…

I have been in a long distance relationship with my fiance for almost 4 years now. She came and lived with me for 3 months until I had to leave to iraq. Then 4 days later she was going to leave to head back to her home and finish up college. 2 days before she left she meet with a guy that she had meet online and chatted with for nearly a year. She cheated on me with him. A week after me finding out she cheated on my she decided right now that she just wants to be by herself, because she can’t decide if she wants to be with me or him. She said she still wants to call herself my fiance and is still going to wear her ring but just needs time to decide if she wants me or him. SHe told him about me after i found out about them and he said he will wait for her also. At the beginning of our relationship she said we couldnt have sex until we were married and I was fine with that becuase I had a good feeling about her. Well she had sex with this guy on the first day they were “physically” toget

This man that I have loved from afar for over 30 years and then finally came into my life, has so many other agendas that I cannot complete with everything, not the excuses, etc. He says he loves me and I believe in his world that he really does. But I am so tired of trying to make this work on my end, and the rejections that I recieve. I gotta let it go —– help!!!!!

i discovered that my girlfriend who lives with me has been cheating on me for the past 8 months and she confirms this .i have beg her to stop cry but she is saying she cant do it because i say so that she will do it at her own time what can i do to stop this man to continue fucking my girl and how do i make her stop this affair

You’re in a good relationship, two years under your belt.
You’re 19 and it’s your first ‘partner’.

If you enjoy being with this person and love them very much, but you know that there are plenty of other things to see and do before marriage. Where does this relationship end?