Psychology 101 may not be the first place you normally go for dating advice. Here’s a secret though—you can use some of what you learn in class towards your advantage on the guy scene. There are reasons you fall for certain people (besides their cuteness), and once you understand the rules of attraction, you’ll be the master of making guys fall for you.
Think about when you first fell for your guy. What reminds you both of that time (aside from the conniption fit you had every time the phone rang)? Figure it out and you've found the secret to conjuring up that new-love rush. "When he experiences something that he associates with falling in love with you, those intense, sensual memories trigger a positive physical reaction and generate instant longing," says Bernstein.
8. During the big game, spit out a sport stat that will really impress him. He will literally look at you the way he’d look at a toaster if that toaster suddenly shouted “I am a sentient being!” That means, when you’re not working 80 hours a week, buying him beer, cooking him snacks, or pegging him senseless, you should be studying up on facts about his favorite sporting ensembles. In a few years, you could become a “cool chick.” To be a “cool chick” is the highest honor to which a woman can aspire.

* Spend more time listening. Listening is a skill that is more difficult than talking. The ideal conversation is balanced 50/50 where both participants actively listen to each other’s dreams. If you dominate the conversation by more than a 70/30 ratio, men tune out quickly unless you are stunningly beautiful. A great way to find balance is to simply ask the question you were asked and go from there. It’s often times what you don’t say that speaks volumes.
Like when I'm in my regular clothes like he stares at me alot and and I kind of think he likes me but when I'm in my school uniform he doesn't pay any attention to me and he doesn't bother to talk to me or get to know me but then when I asked him out he was like I don't know yet but I feel like if you really did like me he would come and talk to me to know me so we can get to know each other he talks more to the other girls and he talks to me it's like having to get to know each other if we can talk and then I'm going as soon as I'm starting the conversation and it's like he doesn't real want to talk to me in the longest conversation we've ever had is it was about like five minutes and then it just got really crazy and his first girlfriend knew that I liked it and then I tried to be friends with his girlfriend to get closer to him but that didn't seem to work but I don't want to really be a man stealer I want him to want me and I don't want to be his third where I want to be his number one so now I'm like crossed up and I don't even know what to do anymore I just stop talking to him in trying to get closer to him and he just left me alone and I left him alone and it was like that's that but I still really like him then I don't know what to do.

I appreciate that this book is about subtle nuances too. Often we don't know what we do wrong because it's not anything big but a subtle signal, and we don't know why our positive signals are ignored & that's because they are TOO subtle. This advice rang true because I've noted men in general communicate more with action & are generally MORE sensitive than women, meaning they need LOUDER positive signals & SOFTER negative ones. The author refers to this as the "fragile male ego" which is really SENSITIVITY.

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To all those rich men out there… Just so you know… The next time u go to your local grocery store, cvs, bank any of those there are girls like me who would love a simple hello and thank you.. . I live pay check to pay check.. No successful relationships and two beautiful little boys. Im ambitious I wish I can go to school everyday.. But my children need me I’m with someone but it seems it may not last.. He doesn’t work near as much as I do although he does help me with my kids… He acts like he is rich tho.. Constantly messing with my image.. Telling me I’m not skinny enough.. I work 40+ hrs sometimes and take care of all household work while he pretty much sleeps all day. He always tells me I’m a mess up.. Any way.. That’s was more of a rant.. I hear stories of women who treat men who try to do everything for them all the time of the women being horrid and horrible.. My main goal in life is to become a pediatric rn, I want to work with children or the mentally ill.. I want to help people.. I would love to be able to walk out of my house knowing the guy in with can handle the house hold.. Cook mabye clean even.. Idc about money… I don’t care about how much u have I care about love.. All that is just extra.. I mean don’t get me wrong not having to worry about not having money at all it must feel great.. I’m the type that would still worry tho.. I would still want to go to work.. Or go to school get degrees for what I love to do.. Join an organization I would feel free knowing that if I wanted to volunteer I would be able to and I wouldn’t have to worry about not getting my pay check cut and having no money… I look at these women who seem to not have a clue as to how lucky they are to have someone by they’re side ready to help u.. I can’t ask for help from my partner he can’t help me.. He is tired of “helping” with my kids.. All I have is one day…. So the next time u see someone working at ur local stores send a good vibe for me… Do a good deed.. Never judge a book by the cover!

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My Advice: Go out of the environment you would typically find yourself in, strip yourself of everything that shows you are financially secure, i don’t mean look poor, but have a natural and modest look. Go for charity walks, Go to places where you’ll meet people doing things for a positive cause, mix up, take interest and enjoy the activities and just be you. Hopefully the right man will come along.

Texting A Boy You Like


Nora's smart BUT she wants to be popular. So when she moved schools, her plan: never admit to anyone that she's actually smart, dumb down her subjects from AP classes to regular ones, join the cheer squad, and date the hottest, most popular, and possibly one of the dumbest guy in school, Jake. But when Adam enters the equation, her plans changed OR has to change.
I don't know whether I like this guy or not and one of my friend also have crush on him but he doesn't like this girl and he alsof told me notrim to friend with her.Whenever he sees me he tried to smile at me and of course I also smile back at him and sometimes he really feel so shyam that his face turned very red and he looks really cute.Everyday I text with him but not everyday whenever I have free time.
Well everyone has their own kinks and fetishes. I’m sure there are plenty that would honor your request of soiling you. There is something that might be stopping it from happening. You say you want some guy to give you the life you deserve. There are few men, rich and poor, that are attracted to anyone who has an entitled attitude. What makes you deserve it anymore than the next girl? What have you given to this world that is so unique and valuable that you are owed anything? Unless you change your thinking and learn to live in gratitude and looking at life from the position of what can i give vs. what can I take, you will never achieve what you want. You only deserve to get what you put in. The universe has a remarkable way of always balancing things out over time. Unfortunately, it is no different for you than anyone else.

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Of course, things always get complicated when you try scripting your future. The day before school begins, Laura is playing soccer with her little brother when the ball goes astray. It's kicked back by a stranger and hits her in the head. Enter Adam, new to town and possibly better looking than Jake. It's instant swoon for Laura and she senses that there's interest on Adam's part.
So you figure you've explored every inch of his mouth with yours? Truth is, the one area that's often ignored is the roof of his mouth, which is one of the most ticklish parts of the body, says Hess. So the next time you're lip-to-lip, flick your tongue once or twice in an arc along this area (any more might send him into a fit of giggles). Katrina, 33, has found that this move works wonders on her husband. "When people kiss, they always go for the tongue," she says. "But the first time I ran my tongue along the roof of my husband's mouth, he was like, 'Whoa!' Now I know that if I ever want get a rise out of him, that's what I need to do."

There's a catch though: If you want to snag his immediate interest, the change has to be guy-visible. "To activate his desire, it has to be a departure from your everyday look," says David Buss, PhD, author of The Evolution of Desire. Maybe take a break from your jeans routine and strut around in a miniskirt. Wear a noticeably higher heel. Or ditch your bra for a day and put a little extra bounce in your step.
My boyfriend and I took a break for a couple of months. We saw each other last week, and everything was just great ! And invited me to go to the beach with his daughter in the morning. However I had plans that day, with my Mom. But I asked for a raincheck. Anyway few days later asked him, if he wanted to go have ice cream and he replied “that he was in park with his daughter and then going to a restaurant. ” Then I answered, “At church, leaving soon, Where is the restaurant ? Seems like a funny name for a place. Lol.” Haven’t got a response since. I hope he didn’t think like if I was inviting myself, because I didn’t mean that. I just wanted to see him. And nothing else. What do I do ? Please help, I want to take the proper steps. Haven’t heard from him since Saturday and it’s Monday.
I don’t know how I have never read your advice columns before, but these have made me feel like I know more than ever before. So I have been talking to this guy that I met online in January. We have not met yet because I was away at school and only just got home. He initiated the relationship and used to be incredibly attentive to me. He would text me, sext me, call me…it was great. All of a sudden he says we are moving too fast and now he rarely texts me at all. He doesn’t answer my texts some times and it makes me crazy because he claims to want to talk to me more and meet me but I don’t know what to think. Please help.
Hi, a guy initiated chat over twitter, followed, flirted. I was cool, sarcastic, we had banter & he still pushed the flirting & made me laugh. He asked for my number. We text back & forth, flirting, naughty video calls & voice messages. He asked to meet several times, was super keen. I wanted to, but waited till this point to tell him I had a boyfriend (I know) he was fine, didn’t judge, still talked/text. Then he asked me if I could go to meet him last minute one night. I was working & busy & replied I couldn’t. I wasn’t sure it was meant for me & said I assumed was for someone else. No reply. Text 3 day so later asking what was going on that night he asked to meet. No reply. Text re meeting today & got a blunt reply implying sensible to stop communicating. Not sure why the change…
Treat him with respect. This is the most important thing of all. Men hate being around someone who emasculates them, and a good man won't take long to leave such a person. Don't be afraid to help your man feel good about himself. A little known secret is that men are just as insecure as women. If he's with his friends or family be open to opportunities to let your man look like "the man". It will win his love and respect.
Men tend to be less adept at recognizing symptoms of depression than women. A man is more likely to deny his feelings, hide them from himself and others, or try to mask them with other behaviors. And while men may experience classic symptoms of depression such as despondent mood, loss of interest in work or hobbies, weight and sleep disturbances, fatigue, and concentration problems, they are more likely than women to experience “stealth” depression symptoms such as anger, substance abuse, and agitation.
I, ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for quite sometime,,,,the problem with him is that he replies to my texts whenever he feels like,,,he doesn't pick my calls,,,,when he finds missed calls he doesn't call back,,,,we had an argument the other day and i went as far as abusing him,,,then it was yesterday when i apologised to him and he forgave me but he hasn,t change,,,,he still ignores my texts and doesn't pick my calls,,,,what should i do,,,i love him so much,,,,i Don,t want to loose him,,,,,

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well i like this guy but some days hes saying stuff like i love you and being nice and playful and those days where he is just quiet. his friend who is a girl helps me to find more about him and he only has ever had 1 girlfriend and he hasn't dated anyone since they broke up which was last year. The girl who is talking to him for me (btw she is only mentioning me in conversations to see what he says she is not asking him out for me..thats weak.) she said that one of her other friends had a crush on him and he said he isn't into her and is not wanting to be in a relationship and this was a while ago not far. But its so hard to tell because she also said that when this guy talks to girls, but not like that she says that to the girl it feels like he likes her to but hes only being friendly. i'm losing hope and i have no idea if we can ever be a thing. i think he is only being friendly but thinking back of all the things he said to me i think he is kind of interested i guess.

Well there’s this guy that I really like but he already has a girlfriend and I already told him I liked him and he said he didn’t like me as a gf but he said that I was kind and all but. I still want to go out with him and all, is there anyway he still likes me or he probly might go out with me because I’m clueless and broken hearted that he said that I need help and tips/guides

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Despite what you may think or your past experience — you may never know just how much a man really does want to please you if he is able. In fact, the problems show up when he no longer thinks he can please you. Men are very simple creatures. They demonstrate their value by solving problems and fixing things (and occasionally they may make the mistake of trying to fix you).
From now on, be on the lookout for opportune moments to touch him "accidentally." For example, don't ask him for his keys...glide your hand into his pocket and slowly take them out. Don't ask him to pass the salt...reach across him, letting your breasts rub against his arm. Don't walk past him in a crowded bar...press your rear into his gear. According to Tricia, 25, these sneak attacks work like a charm. "If I've been really touchy-feely with Rob, the next morning, he'll be really snuggly," she says. "It's like he wants to be closer to me."
Make him feel needed. Doing things to make your guy feel needed may increase his feelings of affection for you. Asking him to help you with something or even just asking for his advice can make him feel needed and important. For example, you might ask him to help you move some furniture in your bedroom or ask him to help you make a decision about your car insurance.[11]

You also need to up your cardio. Fat tissue encourages your body to convert testosterone to oestrogen. Burning blubber helps reconfigure your hormones, so food turns into muscle not ‘moobs’. But the most potent weapon in the war on chest-based embarrassment is heavy metal. Lifting weights ups testosterone levels, which helps rebalance your hormones.
I’m considered wealthy and successful by scale I suppose but I don’t make $10MM a year or anything. I could within reason purchase most anything I wanted at any point that wasn’t aimed at the ultra rich but I’m a fairly normal MidWestern guy…just living life and enjoy being a businessman (although I didn’t really enjoy being an engineer…we’ll just call it a stepping stone).
Texting someone back takes less than a minute. Some guys act like texting is such a huge hassle and asking too much, but look at the reality of that thought process. Your phone alerts you when you get a message and that notification doesn’t go away until you check the message. Even if he doesn’t have time at the moment, it’s not like he can just forget that red bubble staring him in the face. When he does open the message, texting back usually takes less than a minute. Would any guys like to explain once again how that’s asking too much?

Surely, it's okay no be insecure and feel the need to have a good reputation. Valentine was able to successfully pull off a good development for Nora. This is nothing but a cliche story, if you ask me. Nora is in desperate need to get everything she wants. She finds her self in so many 'swaps' because of trying to achieve her a goal which is to get as close as possible to Adam.

If it never seems to happen, remember there's no rush, especially when you're young and fancy-free. Some people have a new snogging partner every week, but you have to ask yourself whether you want a fling or something more meaningful. If it's the latter, you might have to be patient before you hook up with your prize catch, but when it does happen, it will be worth the wait!
Guys who are actually interested will make time for you. Everyone’s busy AF, but if a guy actually cares, he’ll do whatever it takes to be in your life. That means he won’t leave you hanging on a text. He’ll text back because he actually wants to talk to you. Seeing your name light up his phone will make him happy, not annoyed, and he’ll be more than happy to shoot over a few words to keep the conversation going.

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The greatest appeal that many men working toward their wealth have for me is that they have a growth-oriented mindset built into them already. I’ve seen too many complacent people who just want to work and then come home and watch TV or drink or something. I’m the type of person who will work all day, maybe have an hour of leisure time, and then go do more enriching activities, whether it’s more work, a hobby (such as learning musical instruments), or stimulating conversations. I like that “rich” people who are self-made seem to value improving themselves and the world around them.
Ladies, if you think there is a magic formula to give you better chances of a man falling in love with you, you’re absolutely right! There are certainly things you can do on your part to give you better odds at having that hottie fall madly, deeply in love with you. Here are some tips you can implement into your life to help your preferred man go gah-gah for you.
I’ve been going out with a guy for about three months now. He always tells me he really likes me, he’s very jealous and buys me flowers everytime he sees me. However, he has a tendency to “disappear”. By this I mean he will switch off his phone and go a whole day without talking to me and then say he was a bit busy. Recently he’s started to ignore my messages too .. What does this mean ?? What should I do ??
You would think that with the proliferation of dating apps, it would be easier to find The One. Or at least, The One I Can Settle Down With. But after a year of swiping on Tinder, Bumble, Bite, Coffee Meets Bagel and going on dates, I’ve realised I’m no closer to getting into any sort of relationship. Hookups? Oh yeah, these apps will definitely connect you to the nearest available D faster than you can order McD’s. But getting a boyfriend? Like Charlotte, I’m exhausted. Where is he?
Hi, ok so I was at our normal sports bar for football and they happen to have another boyncer there helping. Totally not my type but he caught my eye. We made eye contact all day but never talked. As me and my friends were walking out he came all the way out to the parking not in front of my friends to ask for my number. I was completly shocked! I normally do not meet or talk to guys when out and wasnt really looking fir any relationship. But i was like wow to go through all that ill give him a shot. We texted small talk that night at he disappearred….. The next week saw him again, hesaid he was glad i came in….he dropped that night and lost my #. I also changed mine.
Respect yourself. If you say no, he should stop. If he doesn't stop, leave. Don't ever be uncomfortable saying no. Don't go against your morals to try to keep a guy. If you feel this is necessary, then either he's not a good man, or he is a good one but simply isn't a good match for you specifically (e. g. he is currently "playing the field" and is up front and honest about it, but you're looking for an exclusive relationship). Don't be uncomfortable saying yes, either. If you feel the time is right, believe in your worth and don't worry that you're "giving yourself away." You respect yourself and you're confident that he'll come back for more! A man who doesn't respect you in the morning never properly respected you to begin with, and a man who doesn't respect your wishes to wait is too impatient to make a good partner. Either way, find someone else.

The only thing I love more than writing is cheese... and hot dogs... and Netflix... and boys who are good at winking. I am a huge John Mayer fan, I refuse to wear a bra if I don't have to, and I'm essentially an insomniac who takes sporadic naps. I am addicted to filling up my cart online shopping and then realizing I am a broke college student and closing out the page. My greatest talent in life is being able to say all 50 states in alphabetical in under 20 seconds... my parents are very proud of me, as you can imagine. 

Now this boy being fresh out of high school too had no money! His parents, were the same financial situation as my own. So what was the difference between this boy and all others? He was a wonderful friend! But I also noticed, he climbed in the company quickly! He was smart, efficient, intelligent, and became the favorite of his bosses quickly. He had wonderful work ethic while at work, but was always late, not just by 5 min but sometimes an hour late to work EVERY DAY!! He got away with it because, he was so good at everything he did at work. he had a Midas touch. I latched onto him, not only because he was my best friend, but also, he was like following an ambulance with the lights on and blaring clearing the road for any one behind the ambulance.

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I’m a nurse also and haven’t slept with, or pursued a doctor. That’s ridiculous. Now, my construction husband believes – since I.ve been diagnosed with breast cancer and shad bilateral mastectomies – that he can go on discreet affair dating sites and frequent strip clubs. So are all construction guys douche bags? HaHa- probably. And he just lost a respectable, respectful, loyal and intelligent NURSE!
All you need is a cup of coffee or an iced drink for this trick. Take a sip, then press your hot (or cold) lips to his inner wrist, planting little kisses up the inside of his arm. "The veins are close to the surface in this area, which makes it especially receptive to touch," says St. Claire. Plus, you'll be stimulating both temperature- and pressure-sensitive nerves, creating a whole new dimension of sensations, says William Cane, author of The Art of Kissing. Liza, 31, stoked her husband's sex drive with an ice-cold kiss during a picnic one day. "It was really hot out, so I drank some some ice water and then reached for his wrist," she recalls. "He loved it, especially since I almost never use props during kissing. The creativity was sexy in itself."
Have a life. Desperate, dramatic, and clingy relationships are often rooted in a feeling of need and desperation for a man to fill your life. Even if you have low self-esteem, work over time to build it. Pursue your goals and be focused, explore your passions, have an interesting life, do things that take you outside your boundaries. Don't put up a tough exterior to get over shyness; gradually learn to build trust with a network of people, so that your boyfriend isn't the only person you open up to and share your life with. Also remember to trust yourself first. If you can't trust yourself, you are likely to not trust your man.

If you’re wondering how to find a boyfriend, sweetie, get in line! There may be plenty of fish in the sea, but who wants to date a fish? We want boyfriends, and we want good ones, now! I’ve done loads of research, and put myself through a grueling dating boot-camp, so I can help, at least a little. Here are 8 ways to find a boyfriend. Are you ready? 

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Try to make him his best self. Everybody wants to be with someone who makes them a better person. It makes us feel good about ourselves and reassures us that we can be good people if we try. Make this guy the best version of himself by encouraging him to do the things he loves and giving him the space to do those things. However, don't push too hard. If he tells you dot back off, listen.
What makes people attracted is never "badness" (well, maybe the broken -1% will feel attracted to bad people), but confidence, coolness and the sense that you don't have to take care of someone else like a mother/father. People like it when someone acts as if they have their life together, like they have control over their emotions, like they are balanced. Like they won't make their lives more complicated by dating them. A little aloofness also makes things more spicy, as passions diminishes really bad after we get to know each other for long. Women like that also attract the regular guys like crazy.
A book which is founded on ideas about good communication & keeping integrity is one whose advice I feel I can trust & recommend. It has a "win-win" approach that doesn't degrade men or women - how to get what you desire/need while giving someone else what they desire/need too. Building mutually satisfying relationships is the goal, not manipulating your dream man into marrying you (blech - what an idea!).

I used be the type of girl who got worried when a guy didn’t text back but now I don’t care cause I realised if a guy is really into you he will text you and we all get busy. I used to look at my phone at times hoping he would read my brain signals. The first think I have learnt with my new job is texts can be distracting especially when you’re in the middle of a line of thought trying to do your duties at work. You want to text back but you don’t respond as you get caught up in whatever you’re doing and the texting can drag on, sometimes you’re tired you want to respond but your so stressed out that you just want piece and lastly it can be hard at times, I know with myself I admit I have been faced with this dilemma one to many times if a guy is that into he will text you when his free. Eric I think this logic applies to both men and women .Thanks to your straight out truth I have come to not care so much as I did before if a guy liked text me because what is worrying going to do nothing and really ladies do we want to spend time messaging the guy who doesn’t put any effort at all and just cut our loses before we realise he is just not that into me or wait until the right one comes along who makes the effort and is really into us.

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But whatever the reason, without number 5, we have no hope of a future. I have faced the facts. The chances of me completing logistics #1-5 are as improbable as finding a vegan-friendly restaurant in the middle of Iowa during the cross-country road trip I am dying to take. Thankfully, I have found the alternative solution: all Black females and all Asian males should date each other! All hail Blasians! Kidding. Sort of. I’m waiting (impatiently), Dev Patel. Is the real solution for me to listen to the advice of my friends in relationships: ‘enjoy being single?’

10. Treat his friends the way you treat your friends: smile politely, laugh at their jokes, and let your hatred for them slowly consume you from the inside out, like cancer. If you win over his former fraternity brothers, you’ll win his heart. And once you have his heart, you can keep it locked in the trunk of your car. So make plenty of snacks and, when in doubt, just pretend you’re a lamp.
So, I've been talking to this guy for a couple of weeks. we have known eachother for awhile though but never talked to each other till recently. He was dating this girl for 2 years and they broke up 6 months ago , he messgaed me on instagram asking if i wanted to hangout sometime so i gave him my number! well we started texting for awhile but he isn't very consistent with texting and when we finally hung out i brought up how i always tect him for and he leaves me on read but then reply's to what i said couple days later. his reason was with school and work he has to work off his phone and my messages get pushed back and he would forget to reply, when he realized he forgot he had said it was too late to respond so i wouldnt bother. the next week he didnt talk much saying he had been, which i new he would be with what he had going on and moving out of his apartment that week. well he was active on snapchat at some concert so i thought i text him again and he never replied but still active on social media. i don't know if i shouldn't worry about it and text him again or just forget about it, maybe he isn't interested. i need help everyone i ask doesn't carer they just tell me i don't know. and i really need help figuring out what should i do.
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