After her death, I had many divorcees looking to ‘help me out’. I did need help as I have 3 younger kids. One woman who was a friend of my wife and is very attractive was over all the time. Well, we did end up dating. It ended after a few months. She was 49, very attractive, twice divorced, and broke. I mean broke like couldn’t pay her rent broke. I discovered from other women who know her that her showing up at my door after my wife’s death was not an accident. She began borrowing money from me. Larger and larger amounts. She talked marriage (say what? My wife, your friend, just died six months ago) She said she wanted a $10K diamond ring if we got engaged. She wanted to buy a very large, expensive house together. She liked borrowing my Audi.
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I want say something for those who say about us ( ladies wanting rich guy) so many bad things….I’m separated after 12 years of marriage, few other relationships but I have many friends with opinion like mine. Why I want rich guy ? Because I finished with ‘sponsoring’ partner/s when I do my best, work hard night and days (financial specialist within government organisation) to pay bills, golf or horse lessons for my daughter, drive nice car, live in nice home with seeing basic stuff aren’t done by my partner at home, move out means me literally liftin heavy boxes, promises aren’t keep and the only what is done is work ( employment). I’m tired and just want strong, independent guy who will be real partner to share life with. I don’t want weak pu*** who put everything on my shoulders, I’m not materialistic, empty lady but I’m not gonna be in relationship any longer with someone who only take!
Hi, a guy initiated chat over twitter, followed, flirted. I was cool, sarcastic, we had banter & he still pushed the flirting & made me laugh. He asked for my number. We text back & forth, flirting, naughty video calls & voice messages. He asked to meet several times, was super keen. I wanted to, but waited till this point to tell him I had a boyfriend (I know) he was fine, didn’t judge, still talked/text. Then he asked me if I could go to meet him last minute one night. I was working & busy & replied I couldn’t. I wasn’t sure it was meant for me & said I assumed was for someone else. No reply. Text 3 day so later asking what was going on that night he asked to meet. No reply. Text re meeting today & got a blunt reply implying sensible to stop communicating. Not sure why the change…
Help him feel special. One way to charm a guy is by treating him in a manner that makes him feel like he's special to you. When you're talking to him in a group of his pals, pay special attention to him. Make steady eye contact and ask him specific questions. Go out of your way to speak to him when you can and show a strong interest in his life, from his hobbies and his career to his family and friendships.
But there's a trick to buttering up your guy right. You see, men are supersensitive to gushing. It makes them want to gag and run far away. So when you give him props, stick to this tip: The more obscure and exclusive the praise to him, the more genuine it feels. That's why Molly, 31, casually praises her guy's kitchen-cleaning prowess. "Tom is anal about wiping down the counters, so whenever I go to cook and they're clean, I say how much I love it." He may dismiss your flattery with a grunt, but deep down, he's loving every second of it.
Now when it comes to "getting" your man, there is one thing you must not do if you want a man to see a future with you. Do not treat him like some kind of project that needs to be fixed because it immediately brings up the walls. If you have the urge to try to change his clothes, his circle of friends, the way he talks, what he loves to do — don't do it!
* Develop a strong network of friends. You don’t have to have a ton of friends, just enough where you can spend all your time with them as if you didn’t have a man in your life. A rich man worries his woman will smother him if they get too close. Once you have a couple friends to go out with for dinner or shows, you provide a man some relief that he doesn’t have to always entertain you. Develop your own world and invite him in.
Awesome. Totally relate! And true! Gosh and text break ups are uber lame don’t even start haha. Sarcasm a no-no. Agreed. But if it’s like a good guy friend that you always joke with I don’t see a problem! And in the paragraph description, I’m guilty of double and triple texting.. Sigh. If people weren’t such SLOW responders it wudnt be a problem! Lol
One way to make a man fall in love with you is to talk to him about your similar interests, like movies, music, or sports. Don’t be afraid to reveal any talents you have that make you special. When you’re around him, be kind and affectionate, and avoid being clingy or dependent. The more positive you are when you’re around him, the more likely he will be drawn to you. For more advice from our reviewer, like how to use clothes and body language to make a man fall in love with you, read on!
I list this signal with some reluctance, and you can probably guess why. I would never advise a grown woman to twirl her hair to get a guy’s attention. It seems equivalent to the oh-so-ridiculous “bend and snap” from Legally Blonde. That being said, women do like to touch their hair. It gives us a rush of oxytocin and, according to research, we do it when we want men to approach us. Furthermore, according to research, men pick up on this and respond accordingly. So, yeah, obviously don’t start twirling your hair in an inauthentic come hither fashion. But if you do find yourself rearranging a curl or sweeping your hair from one shoulder to the other, roll with it.
If you're young, Tori, I think you're best to just keep being special friends as you are now. Wait and see what happens in the future. You don't want to make him feel awkward and under pressure. Besides, both you and him are going to change as you get older. I think you should wait and see if you still find him interesting and attractive when he's a bit older.
As a sophomore on the varsity cheer squad who has the attention of dumb-as-rocks (but hot) footballer Jake Londgren, Nora Fulbright has morphed socially from “larval state—practically a worm” into a fully formed butterfly. In order to up her PQ, or popularity quotient, brainy Nora switches out of her AP courses and joins the masses. But when Adam—cute, crazy smart, and gives Nora the good kind of shivers—moves to town, how can she get him to see that she is not just a ditzy cheerleader? And that she is not interested in Jake? In Valentine’s sassy debut, readers will groan as Nora messes everything up, and may grow frustrated with her choices (“For a smart girl you’ve had a pretty solid run of stupid”), but if they relate to her plight, they will find her funny, too. Grades 7-12. --Ann Kelley
2. Make him a snack after sex. Men love sex and men love snacks! That’s right, immediately after sex, dash to the kitchen. You read that right, goddess! Once he’s pulled out, combat roll out of bed and haul ass to snackburg. It has to be a gourmet snack — bacon wrapped scallops with cream sauce and roasted Brussels sprouts with a side of chicken fingers will do in a pinch.
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Guys aren’t the best at expressing their feelings. So when a guy isn’t texting back consistently, he’s trying to give you a clue. Sure, it would be nice if he had a little more respect for you and just told you openly that he’s not that into you, but alas, that seems to be asking too much. So a lot of guys do what they do best — avoid the problem and hope it will eventually go away when you get the hint.
It’s when men change their attentiveness that women ask questions… And that SHIFT in the man’s behavior was NOT addressed in this article… Every woman knows that being busy and involved in their own lives is a healthy thing to do and a good way to be, but when your bf or fiancée pulls away and gives less and stops texting or responding to your attempts at quick easy connection, yes, sometimes that makes a normally and still independent strong woman ask questions!
Regardless of what your true financial definition of rich is, your mission if you choose to accept is to lock down one of the 1.4 million+ rich people the IRS knows about to marry you. The one tautology about money is that once you have money, you don’t worry as much about not having money. And when you worry less about money, you get to fight more about all the other joys in a relationship.
Anyways, good advice for single women. I think there comes a point in most of our lives where a successful man becomes more attractive to us than a pretty man. Maybe this happens at about 25. I’m attending the wedding this weekend of a friend who is marrying a very successful guy and he is totally smitten by her – she is gorgeous, a fantastic surfer (better than him), a great cook and has a good legal career of her own.
#1 Be yourself. This is the most important thing to do. Just be yourself. When behind a screen sometimes you show the person who you think you can be as a way to impress them. But don’t do it. When they see you in person, they see a completely different person, so what’s the point? Just be yourself when texting him. [Read: 14 steps to take to love being you]
Timing is everything. If any of the four above logistics are in jeopardy, i.e. he’s moving to another city, he decides he can no longer look at my shiny forehead, or I cannot cope with how slow of a walker he is, then there is a chance we will not want to be in a relationship with each other. Beyond that, some guys just aren’t looking for relationships. Maybe he just got out of a three-year relationship with a girl who cheated on him, maybe he is focused on his career, or maybe he is afraid of settling down. Talk about #FOMO again. Or, even worse, maybe he is already in a relationship! With another man! Who knows!
Stephanie is a junior at Lehigh University in Bethlehem, Pennsylvania where she is currently studying international relations with a minor in psychology and political science. When she's not researching and writing assigned articles for Her Campus, she is involved in extracurriculars on campus such as the Kappa Delta chapter, and Student Political Action Committee. Stephanie hopes her future consists of making the earth a more sustainable environment, helping underprivileged minorities, and advocating for women's rights. Additionally, her interests include skincare, tea, and traveling. She also really loves her dog and cat!

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months. He doesn’t put me as a priority. Hardly texts me during work hours which is fine. I get work comes first. Yet before and after work I don’t hear from him. He always has an excuse. I always have to initiate the conversations. I’ve talked to him about this but just not much improvement. What should I do?
If you have something to offer to rich man besides your looks, there is nothing wrong with trying to get a rich boyfriend or husband. In most cases, rich men are career driven and spend a lot of time trying to improve themselves. If you want to be with someone who always pushes himself to the limits, a rich man might be a great choice for you. If on another hand you just want to meet rich men so that you can sit the whole day at home doing nothing and expect him to pay for everything, it is a really bad approach.

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A guy in my church was madly interested in me, but the church members in my congregation fiercely oppose to him dating me. To them he should choose another who are their friend. He no longer in my congregation, but, he is still interested. The church members lied about me, spread a bunch of lies. He’s good friend with them, but i don’t communicate with him. I called and texted him once, he hasn’t replied back. I occasionally see him. When he sees me i can tell that his world lights up. I believe i love this guy too very much. Everywhere i go i carry him in my spirit. Can i tell him how i feel about him? I want to move on. What do you suggest???
“When it comes to texting and flirting, I always believe that less is more,” Spira says. “If you already have a texting relationship, sending a sweet text saying, ‘Hope you’re having a great day’ or, ‘thinking of you’ will cheer him up while he’s at work. The reason I like to include the word ‘great’ is that most guys have a positive reaction to that word. They’d like to think you’d have a great time with him and that you’re a happy person.”

Be approachable. Don’t close yourself off. Try to set aside time when he knows you aren’t too busy to hang out with him, and let him know that he is welcome to hang out with you. Smile and make eye contact. Try not to seem unsociable or angry unless you actually are; it may make it seem like you don’t want to interact with him, and can be intimidating.
Starting right above his knee, plant a light-as-a-feather kiss there, then work your way up, increasing the pressure of your lips on his skin the farther you go. That's exactly what Lisa, 36, does to get her husband primed for super hot sex. "Women typically think men don't like foreplay, but my husband loves this," she says. "And sometimes I'll prolong the agony by starting over again down at his other knee. He goes crazy with anticipation."
Learn how to give a guy that same feeling of “I have to have her” that he gets when he sees a famous model. Do it by amping up the attraction through the timing and the expressions of your texts. Check the “Text Timing Chart” –it shows you how long to wait before responding, depending on the situation (sometimes it’ s hours and days; other times it’ s right away). You’ ll also see dozens of sample text dialogs showing how to ramp up romantic tension. P. 41-54.
Yale psychologist, John Bargh, has dedicated hours to the art of priming - a memory effect that can make your guy instantly fall in love! Through his studies, Bargh concluded attraction is linked to temperatures. Participants were instructed to hold hot and cold beverages while judging a group of people. Those who were holding warm beverages judged the people as having warm personalities, while those who were holding cold beverages judged the people as having harsh and cold personalities. To make priming work to your advantage, skip out on that frozen yogurt date, and have your guy take you out for a warm coffee instead.
14. Hold out before having sex. Spindel is adamant that you should forego sex at least for a little while. The matchmaker feels that until your guy is ready to commit at least part of his soul, you're better off not committing your entire body. Her rationale: "Ideally you should wait until you've had the discussion about not seeing other people. That way you're sure he's operating more out of love than lust."
The underside of your tongue will feel really good on his most sensitive spots – namely his nipples, an often ignored erogenous zone on men. Its silky texture will feel so sexy on his most sensitive spots – namely his nipples, an often ignored erogenous zone on men. "Although many men are embarrassed to say it – because it seems like something only women should like – they secretly crave to have you pay attention to this area," says Gardos.
I am a guy that is 100% on your side, I don’t pull any punches not because I want to be right, but because I want you to get the guy! This is a win/win because creating and maintaining this kind of attraction is exactly what he wants as well. This is why I wrote the book below, to give you what you want as fast as possible! This is not an advertisement for someone else’s material but a book I personally wrote for YOU, to get the GUY!

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If you think I’m about to channel that horrific Protein World advert, you’re wrong. Don’t worry about losing weight, or waxing, or anything you don’t feel like doing. Instead, just boost your confidence by giving some TLC to the areas you love about yourself. Do you have luscious lips? Treat yourself to an incredible lipstick shade that makes you feel glorious. Proud of your pristine nails? Get a manicure that gives you that invincible feeling. In love with your long, flowing locks? Make sure you keep them looking sleek using conditioning treatments and your favourite products.


Texting has become a part of every day life, so much so that people rarely jump on the phone anymore—especially at the beginning of a relationship. But a lot can get lost in translation when you’re writing things out vs. talking in person and there are a lot of texting mistakes that are easy to make in the heat of the moment. Luckily, Project Everlasting author Mat Boggs has helpful insight into texting a guy to share with us. Check out his video to learn about the things you may be doing without knowing it.
4. Nix the ex talk. On the first few dates, Brooks advises her clients to excise the desire to tell the new man all about the previous boyfriend. If your ex was fabulous, your date will feel he can't measure up. But if you bash your ex too much, your date could think, Whoops—she might be talking about me that way in a few months! Similarly, you should be wary of a man who can't stop talking about his former paramour. If he's still hung up on her, his heart has no room for you.

Adding my 2 cents (via “smartphone” so forgive typos)… I have to agree with much of Sumi’s advice. I just started dating a very wealthy man. Thing is, I wasn’t looking for a rich guy. I was looking for an equal – similar level of education and intelligence, ambitious but not completely wrapped up in the rat race, reasonably attractuve, and independent. A few months ago I met someone like this, who also happens to be the very wealthy owner of an MNC and an inherited family fortune – which I didn’t learn about until the 3rd date. But I still don’t care about his money. I work hard for mine and love what I do. I have a nice but small trust fund courtesy of a father who worked his way up from nothing, which I invest for retirement and have never repent even a dime of. 2 master degrees (which I paid for myself), my fierce independence and self reliance (also courtesy of dear old dad), and taking care of myself seem to have “won” me this man’s admiration and girlfriend status. I can say this in all honesty: his intelligence, confidence, witty conversation and the confidence he carries himself with are devastatingly sexy to me! And his charming good manners and consideration have endeared him to me. I couldn’t care less if I never see a red cent if his. It’s the Man inside I want to continue seeing.
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Show him what makes you special. Letting a guy see what makes you such a catch is another great way to increase his affection for you. It will intrigue him and make him want to get to know you even better. For example, if you are skilled at playing an instrument, look for an opportunity to play in front of him. Or, if you are an excellent baker, whip up some cookies and share some with him.[8]


Sometimes texting habits are a guy’s way of defining the relationship. A guy who texts back on the reg is interested. A guy who only texts you last minute when he’s horny is only interested in being your hookup buddy. A guy who doesn’t text back until you repeatedly hit him up has no interest at all — he’s just trying to get you off his back. If he never texts back then that silent treatment is your slap in the face to move the hell on.

Most people enjoy little signs of positivity, especially in the morning, a “good morning” text being one of them. This text essentially means you thought of them first thing when you woke up. Yes, that’s right, before caffeine and teeth brushing. Guys may act like they think texts like these are stupid and cliché, but in my experience, when they’re accustomed to it, they start to miss them when they’re gone. If you want to mix it up a bit a "have a good day "text can also have the same effect.


I’ve been going out with a guy for about three months now. He always tells me he really likes me, he’s very jealous and buys me flowers everytime he sees me. However, he has a tendency to “disappear”. By this I mean he will switch off his phone and go a whole day without talking to me and then say he was a bit busy. Recently he’s started to ignore my messages too .. What does this mean ?? What should I do ??
Respect yourself. If you say no, he should stop. If he doesn't stop, leave. Don't ever be uncomfortable saying no. Don't go against your morals to try to keep a guy. If you feel this is necessary, then either he's not a good man, or he is a good one but simply isn't a good match for you specifically (e. g. he is currently "playing the field" and is up front and honest about it, but you're looking for an exclusive relationship). Don't be uncomfortable saying yes, either. If you feel the time is right, believe in your worth and don't worry that you're "giving yourself away." You respect yourself and you're confident that he'll come back for more! A man who doesn't respect you in the morning never properly respected you to begin with, and a man who doesn't respect your wishes to wait is too impatient to make a good partner. Either way, find someone else.
I simply find this so amusing! What a truly funny article! At 38, I truly had no idea, either men or women were dating simply based on ones financial portfolio! All of the wonderfully amusing, yet sadly not at all original tips, on dating are and do truly apply to dating in general. So successful or more successful men and women are a catch and you’ve got to be a great fisherman or women or your true (suger daddy?) motives will be snuffed out and fast! Your own breeding and lack of maybe money or simply ambition to do anything other than marry some that you gals certainly could have (with hard work) made yourself is really a bit slutty!
So, I’m Asian, just wanna point that out there xD Him and I used to be in the same school in Singapore, but now, because of something that happened with my parents, they had to move back to the Philippines along with me. We are both Filipinos btw. We were just friends, but kinda close friends. It’s been more than 6 months since I saw him. A few friends of mine messaged me and said he liked me to but I didn’t believe them. Then they messaged him to prove themselves right, but he denied every word of it. I thought I was over him so I messaged him to apologize if he misunderstood the situation or felt uncomfortable. But it’s been almost 2 months (I think) and he hasn’t replied back. He has read it though. Please, I need your help. I just realized, I still haven’t moved on.
Help him feel special. One way to charm a guy is by treating him in a manner that makes him feel like he's special to you. When you're talking to him in a group of his pals, pay special attention to him. Make steady eye contact and ask him specific questions. Go out of your way to speak to him when you can and show a strong interest in his life, from his hobbies and his career to his family and friendships. 

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It’s a complicated world. Wealth is great, but dignity perseverance and hardwork is more satisfying than searching for a rich man. I’ve dated 3 billionaires according to my countries standard… I felt like a furniture most of the time..when around them. Il rather marry a working class average man now, and get all the love and attention when I get back home to him. Then work together on him becoming a billionaire.
Well there’s this guy that I really like but he already has a girlfriend and I already told him I liked him and he said he didn’t like me as a gf but he said that I was kind and all but. I still want to go out with him and all, is there anyway he still likes me or he probly might go out with me because I’m clueless and broken hearted that he said that I need help and tips/guides
A boyfriend is a male friend or acquaintance, often specifying a regular male companion with whom one is platonic, romantically or sexually involved.[1] This is normally a short-term committed relationship, where other titles (e.g. husband, partner) are more commonly used for long-term committed relationships. A boyfriend can also be called an admirer, beau, suitor and sweetheart.[2] The analogous female term is "girlfriend".

Show him what makes you special. Letting a guy see what makes you such a catch is another great way to increase his affection for you. It will intrigue him and make him want to get to know you even better. For example, if you are skilled at playing an instrument, look for an opportunity to play in front of him. Or, if you are an excellent baker, whip up some cookies and share some with him.[8]
Having a boyfriend or loving husband is a wonderful part of life – but so is being single and dating! Learn to enjoy your single life; it has benefits that marriage doesn’t. Being in a committed relationship is wonderful, and sometimes it’s even more wonderful to dream about it than actually work at it 🙂 So, let your dreams of finding a good boyfriend sweep you away. But always use your brains when you’re actually “interviewing” men for the role.
Can someone pls help me,I think I’m in a relationship right now I like this guy and I’m starting to have feelings for him,he likes me also its too obvious and he also starting to say that his feelings for me is going stronger but he never said to me that he loves me I want him to say that to me without asking him if he loves me..I don’t know how to make him says that to me
Oh my Goodness! I just saw my comment from three years ago! I was reading the post on how to start a blog and stumbled on this post. Congratulations on your growth Mr Financial Samurai! I have gone on to date two rich men since my previous comment and I can say that all the points you made are true! What you failed to mention though is the complacency that being on such a relationship can sometimes bring especially if you are very young and neither established nor certain of what career path you want to take. I’m glad that I’ve been able to keep myself motivated and save obsessively otherwise I would have lost 3 years. I’m still in a relationship with 1 of them but I have decided to sponsor myself in graduate school in the USA even though my boyfriend always dismissed the idea due to distance. Like you said, he has the means to fly down whenever he wants! I’m Nigerian BTW and our men have the ‘Provider’s mentality’.
15. Go with the flow. The real key to making it as a couple, says Warren, is that both people are willing to compromise. If one or both partners must always have their way and are threatened by even small changes, trouble will soon be brewing. For example, if he suddenly has to work late on a night you were hoping to cook him dinner, be understanding of his need to be flexible and have him come over for coffee instead of the main course. Of course, he should be really sorry for the change in plans and should want to make it up to you.
Look someone in the eye 75 percent of the time and you may be able to trick his brain. Why? The brain remembers the last time someone looked at him like that and it remembers that feelings of love were in the air. That triggers a release of phenylethylamine (PEA), a chemical cousin to amphetamines secreted by the nervous system when we first fall in love. It’s also what makes our palms sweat, our tummies flip over and our hearts race.
What makes people attracted is never "badness" (well, maybe the broken -1% will feel attracted to bad people), but confidence, coolness and the sense that you don't have to take care of someone else like a mother/father. People like it when someone acts as if they have their life together, like they have control over their emotions, like they are balanced. Like they won't make their lives more complicated by dating them. A little aloofness also makes things more spicy, as passions diminishes really bad after we get to know each other for long. Women like that also attract the regular guys like crazy.

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