Show him what makes you special. Letting a guy see what makes you such a catch is another great way to increase his affection for you. It will intrigue him and make him want to get to know you even better. For example, if you are skilled at playing an instrument, look for an opportunity to play in front of him. Or, if you are an excellent baker, whip up some cookies and share some with him.[8]
Your comment was awesome. I’ve been single for a long time and would like to settle down. I’ve focused my career goals to a point where I’m comfortable with my life accomplishments, I continue to re-invent myself for purposes of self satisfaction as well as attracted interest for my suitor. I consider myself a woman of substance and look forward to the day when I can be appreciated fully by the man I love. Right now I’m resting in the fact that this day will come soon.

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My daughter is a pretty young lawyer from a middle class family and is married to a handsome young, rich doctor from a wealthy family. All things being equal, what seemed to charm him the most was that, although she had dated many men over the years, she had only been intimate with one man before him. He was actually quite sexually active before he met my daughter(which is why she insisted on std testing before they were intimate!). Anyway, I guess what I’m getting at is that even though she is beautiful, fit, smart, and has many of the other attributes mentioned in the article; I think what made her stand out above the rest to him was that she had respect for herself and in turn, he valued her highly and wanted her to be his wife and the mother to his children.


I suppose this is why I feel ambivalent about the subject. I’ve been on both sides of the story. Who I am today is someone who is motivated to BE someone on my own–I’m the breadwinner, I need to prove to myself I can do this. But I suppose for the women who really want to lock down a rich dude, I can advise. It would be fun to talk about it like that. I never really have before.


Gold digging women are disgusting trash?? What about men who fuck and objectify women with no intentions of caring for her? Women who want financial security vs men who just want a good looking person to bang….What sounds more unreasonable and shallow? “It is amazing the difference in treatment you get when you pull up in an expensive sports car”…Well it is amazing to see the difference between how I’m treated when I’m dressed “sloppily” and in a fat suit vs. how I’m treated when I’m showing a face full of makeup and as little clothing as possible. Men don’t actually love women, they just like what they think women can do for them. Yeah…it goes both ways dude.

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The word dating entered the American language during the Roaring Twenties. Prior to that, courtship was a matter of family and community interest. Starting around the time of the American Civil War, courtship became a private matter for couples.[8] In the early to mid 20th century in the US, women were often visited by "gentleman callers", single men who would arrive at the home of a young woman with the hopes of beginning a courtship.[9] The era of the gentleman caller ended in the early 20th century and the modern idea of dating developed.[8]
But whatever the reason, without number 5, we have no hope of a future. I have faced the facts. The chances of me completing logistics #1-5 are as improbable as finding a vegan-friendly restaurant in the middle of Iowa during the cross-country road trip I am dying to take. Thankfully, I have found the alternative solution: all Black females and all Asian males should date each other! All hail Blasians! Kidding. Sort of. I’m waiting (impatiently), Dev Patel. Is the real solution for me to listen to the advice of my friends in relationships: ‘enjoy being single?’
I suppose this is why I feel ambivalent about the subject. I’ve been on both sides of the story. Who I am today is someone who is motivated to BE someone on my own–I’m the breadwinner, I need to prove to myself I can do this. But I suppose for the women who really want to lock down a rich dude, I can advise. It would be fun to talk about it like that. I never really have before.
13. Be mindful of that ole black magic. At first glance you felt more of an urge to hold his hand than jump his bones? That's not a terrible sign: Physical attraction can deepen as you really get to know and trust each other. But there must be an ember of initial attraction to build from. Without any chemistry, Warren says, you're better off as friends.
If you have something to offer to rich man besides your looks, there is nothing wrong with trying to get a rich boyfriend or husband. In most cases, rich men are career driven and spend a lot of time trying to improve themselves. If you want to be with someone who always pushes himself to the limits, a rich man might be a great choice for you. If on another hand you just want to meet rich men so that you can sit the whole day at home doing nothing and expect him to pay for everything, it is a really bad approach.
Guys aren’t the best at expressing their feelings. So when a guy isn’t texting back consistently, he’s trying to give you a clue. Sure, it would be nice if he had a little more respect for you and just told you openly that he’s not that into you, but alas, that seems to be asking too much. So a lot of guys do what they do best — avoid the problem and hope it will eventually go away when you get the hint.
of course there are problems I encounter in my life but I never thought of it as a problem. being a nice person sometimes get u in trouble such as men easily fell in love with me or they thought I like them but that’s not it. I’m just nice to everyone. EVERYONE. regardless they are rude or somewhat cold towards me. it’s the way u live ur life u know. in fact, I don’t have one guy friend because they will start being awkward or shy around me after a few minutes talking to me. I hate that. how can I be friend with a guy or communicate with them normally if all they think about is they want to be more than friend with me? GOD, THIS IS HARD! I’m not even graduate yet I always get these kind of treatment. how am I suppose to work with men when I enter real life? I mean the work field. this is what concerns me the most as I had encounter with many man that gave their numbers, expecting me to call or message them because I’m not a woman who easily gave their number to a guy they barely know. maybe I’m too friendly but believe me, I have tried to keep it low when I communicate with men but still they easily like me on the spot. u think I like that? absolutely not! I want men to act normal towards me. not suddenly give me special treatment or being shy and smiling sheepishly everytime they talk to me. God, all I ask for is normal treatment.
From now on, be on the lookout for opportune moments to touch him "accidentally." For example, don't ask him for his keys...glide your hand into his pocket and slowly take them out. Don't ask him to pass the salt...reach across him, letting your breasts rub against his arm. Don't walk past him in a crowded bar...press your rear into his gear. According to Tricia, 25, these sneak attacks work like a charm. "If I've been really touchy-feely with Rob, the next morning, he'll be really snuggly," she says. "It's like he wants to be closer to me."

Run into him "by accident." Make him feel like your connection is kismet. It is no secret that men enjoy the thrill of the chase, so instead of making it obvious that you are pursuing him, find ways to bump into him "by chance." For instance, if you know he likes to spend his weekday afternoons studying at the local coffee shop, consider stopping by there yourself. When you see him, feign genuine surprise and see if you can strike up a conversation.
"The reason a guy gets hooked on one woman is not because she is *just sexy*, or *just playful*, or *just certain*, or *just feminine*, or *just bursting with integrity*, but because she possesses a unique combination of traits: the girl who is warm, has integrity, and can charm his family, then rips his clothes off in the bedroom and is a sexual goddess; the girl who is playful with his friends, can debate politics like a pro, but knows how to enjoy a lazy Sunday watching movies and eating pizza; the girl who is independent, kicks ass out in the world, but is feminine and loving with her man. Women like this cause an alarm to go off inside a guy's head and heart. Keep her, he thinks. This one's amazing!"

I list this signal with some reluctance, and you can probably guess why. I would never advise a grown woman to twirl her hair to get a guy’s attention. It seems equivalent to the oh-so-ridiculous “bend and snap” from Legally Blonde. That being said, women do like to touch their hair. It gives us a rush of oxytocin and, according to research, we do it when we want men to approach us. Furthermore, according to research, men pick up on this and respond accordingly. So, yeah, obviously don’t start twirling your hair in an inauthentic come hither fashion. But if you do find yourself rearranging a curl or sweeping your hair from one shoulder to the other, roll with it.


Thanks for this article..I’m.confused :-/ and I’m would love some advice from military perspective. For me I had a really good chemistry with this person. Everything was good….until he was informed about deployment. He told me he doesn’t do well with long distance relationship. I told him I understood his decision since I had that experience and didn’t blame him. But! The problem is that he’s the ONE ?and I told.him I loved him with all my heart. He questioned this expression because we’ve met for only 3 wks already in person, and about 1 month via text. I feel I scared him away :( that was not my intention. He told me he would think about what he wanted to do with our relationship. He left for a trip for 2 wks so I send him a message wishing him to have fun & to wishing he would come back safe. I didn’t hear back from him. A wk prior to sending him this last text I had send him a “good morning text” and I received a zero response :-/….HELP!
Your post made me think of this viral e-mail that went around a few years back from a 25-year old girl looking for a wealthy man ($250,000 will not get her Central Park West so you need half a million to be up to her standards). In response, a banker calls this a bad business deal and a depreciating asset. An interesting read if you haven’t seen it already.
Also false. Meeting new people in any circumstance is arguably my favorite activity. I like meeting new people so much that I become anxious thinking about all of the people I haven’t met. Remember that scene from Gilmore Girls where Rory visits the Harvard University library, which holds 13 million volumes, and she freaks out because she hasn’t read every single one of them? I know, I thought she was an unbearable psycho-nerd too. However, her reaction is consistent with my own when I enter new groups of people. While she has to read every book, I like to meet every person in the group or I feel unsatisfied.
All you need is a cup of coffee or an iced drink for this trick. Take a sip, then press your hot (or cold) lips to his inner wrist, planting little kisses up the inside of his arm. "The veins are close to the surface in this area, which makes it especially receptive to touch," says St. Claire. Plus, you'll be stimulating both temperature- and pressure-sensitive nerves, creating a whole new dimension of sensations, says William Cane, author of The Art of Kissing. Liza, 31, stoked her husband's sex drive with an ice-cold kiss during a picnic one day. "It was really hot out, so I drank some some ice water and then reached for his wrist," she recalls. "He loved it, especially since I almost never use props during kissing. The creativity was sexy in itself."
Ben, 27, is our breath of fresh air. “I’m not one for games,” he says, “and the older I get, the less and less I play them. But I do think it is important to not come off as desperate or clingy when first meeting someone, because you don’t want to spook them.” When can you expect a non-strategized text from him? “After 2 – 3 dates, I usually stop worrying about the time or frequency of my texts as strategic, because I feel that I have a read on them and whether or not we like each other.”
Let him “suffer”. Meet up with your friends tell him you are busy. Don’t bother to explain where you have been. Then he will start to wonder if you are getting bored of him or if you still like him or have somebody else. Play the game well. If he doesn’t say I love you then this guy is not worth it because he is not sure of his feelings. So why bother.
This works especially well when you’re feeling a bit like nobody will want to go out with you ever. Get on the train and look every single man in the eye. Let them adapt from looking at you like you’re a body, and watch the transition when they realise you’re a woman, a person. You’ll see them warm to you in all sorts of different ways. Some men might smile back in a fatherly way, while some might send a cheeky wink your way. Some might look touched, or vulnerable. And a few will look at you with genuine attraction and intrigue. So, what does this do? It makes you feel interesting and attractive and undaunted by new interactions. It makes you feel fearless. And it’s a useful way of learning how to read expressions and see if someone fancies you or not. Stick with it, you’re well on your way to mastering how to get a boyfriend!
On the beauty front, for example. I may age and lose my beauty, but that doesn’t give me an excuse to let myself go. When I am forty, I don’t need to look 20, but I do want to look like a well-kept 40…if that makes sense. I have family members who work 12-14 hours a day, 6 days a week, and yet they still find the time to exercise and prepare the most nourishing meals for themselves. 

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If there’s ever a way of knowing how to make a man fall in love with you and be a flirty tease at the same time, this is it. Men can’t resist a lingering woman’s touch. The next time you’re with him, be it clasping palms, hugging each other goodbye, or just crossing the street, let your touch linger softly for a moment longer than necessary. Your touch would be incredibly exciting for the man you like, and you’ll spark a romantic chemistry in no time. [Read: How to flirt with a guy]
I refuse to admit my own feelings till I know he's completely done with her. My biggest fear is what to do once he is done, if that happens. I've been in plenty of relationships, but I wouldn't know how to be in one with him because he's the longest, closest, male friendship I've ever had and at the same time, and we're deeply attracted to each other.
This one is pretty self explanatory so simply put, it just means don’t over do it. If you blow up your man’s phone with pointless messages, then he isn’t going to look forward to hearing from you. However, if you only send him well thought out, cleverly crafted messages, well those are the ones that are going to keep him hanging off your every word…. Or text rather. ;)

This is why the book had some good advice & was worth the read - the basic idea is how to communicate who you are, how you feel, and what you expect accurately & in a way that is understood by men. So it's not about changing who you are so much as really communicating it more clearly. If you're the kind of girl whose friends & family & co-workers wonder why you're single because they think you're the bees knees, but for someone reason men you meet/briefly date aren't valuing you the same way, then this might be a helpful read. You're probably not sending the signals which communicate who YOU are correctly; you're leaving false & bad impressions. So the book is really about being MORE yourself with communication that others understand & which creates the desired effect.
Your comment was awesome. I’ve been single for a long time and would like to settle down. I’ve focused my career goals to a point where I’m comfortable with my life accomplishments, I continue to re-invent myself for purposes of self satisfaction as well as attracted interest for my suitor. I consider myself a woman of substance and look forward to the day when I can be appreciated fully by the man I love. Right now I’m resting in the fact that this day will come soon.

True, I have no blog and am a consumer of PF blogs only, a point not lost on me and that I freely give to Sam (backup a couple posts and read my comments), however, I call bullshit when I see it Janey. Though I disagree with Sam on occasion, I make an effort to give him a hat tip as well for the massive effort he puts into his posts-this isn’t lost on me.
You may think falling in love is something that just happens, but the truth is, there's actually a science behind love. No longer do you have to worry if your love interest has the same feelings as you do, because you will now be equipped with all the hidden secrets that make a guy fall deeply in love. Of course, we can't guarantee that these tips will 100% work on your particular guy, but they will definitely increase the chances of him falling head over heels. If you're sure he's The One, and you want him to feel the same way about you, keep reading to discover the hidden, psychological tactics that will make him fall in love with you!
It’s when men change their attentiveness that women ask questions… And that SHIFT in the man’s behavior was NOT addressed in this article… Every woman knows that being busy and involved in their own lives is a healthy thing to do and a good way to be, but when your bf or fiancée pulls away and gives less and stops texting or responding to your attempts at quick easy connection, yes, sometimes that makes a normally and still independent strong woman ask questions!
While making plans, be as direct as possible. During their focus groups, Ansari and Dr. Klinenberg also noticed a texting trend they dubbed the “secretary problem,” where potential couples would spend so much time trying to “pencil each other in” they would burn out and the spark would fizzle before the first meetup. We asked Vanessa Marin, licensed marriage and family therapist and Lifehacker contributor, how to avoid the “secretary problem,” and she said it’s all about being specific:
there is this guy that i like and hes a twin. i really like him a lot. everyone tells me that it looks like he likes me but when we talk about it he says that hes still not over his ex. he compliments me in every way possible but this girl told me that he said he only liked me as a friend and that it looked like his brother was the one that liked me. what can i do to find out if he likes me even if hes still not over his ex. And what can i do to make him like me? thanks for reading
* Women who know what they want are most attractive. Nothing turns a rich man on like a strong woman who is successful in her career or business. The woman who goes for glory piques the most interest. Rich men constantly search for those who they can find their equal or superior. She doesn’t have to be rich. Instead, she can be superbly talented in something that he is not e.g. musical instrument, language, singing, dance, art, etc.
Before you hit send on your phone it’s important that you read the text message you’ve typed up. Check it for clarity, spelling and tone. Read it at least five times; you’d be surprised how easy it is to overlook the simplest mistakes. Besides, if you send him a powerful message that then has to be followed up with a spelling correction or explanation, the original message you’ve sent is going to lose it’s bite. So don’t sell yourself short, read your messages before sending. 

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An interesting article. I won’t go into details or start any arguing, but my first thought was what an idiot has written this article, especially the second half – the advices for women. The article made me laugh. Where does your experience come from? Some of the advices as I think are exactly the opposite of what the woman should do. When I tried to show interest at dating sites and asked men questions about their jobs – they just disappeared or avoided answering. If the woman goes away for 3 months as it was adviced to follow her goals or goes away to parties alone with friends all the times – I doubt any man, not only a rich man, will be happy with, when she returns back no wonder if she finds some substitute at her place. Wearing comfortable clothes as advised like jeans and trainers won’t attract anyone. If I wear that and I do, men just don’t turn their heads. But if some less atractive woman passes by in short skirt and high heels she is still looked at. One important thing was missed, rich men want only women under 30 or under 25, if you are older than that the chances are deminishing increasingly. It seems these advices saying that the woman should be independent to attract a man concern the middle class men which are well off. Would be more helpful if the article described how to find a man who is rich for good human qualities and good traits of character or the one who preserved these traits of character in spite of getting rich and wasn’t spoilt by wealth.
Expensive hobbies, memberships, travel, affluent neighbors and friends, keeping up appearances requires a lot of income which means you pay a lot of taxes. Meanwhile, yoga, exercise, music, movies and living under tax radar (below $35,000) with tax exempt income in a comfortable paid up home with no debt means you pay NO TAX. I don’t resent paying taxes because I haven’t paid any since 2011 and I have never received any public assistance. Net worth, not income is the key to long lasting wealth and a 401K is taxable income when it is withdrawn so at some point investing in real estate as a tax shelter and holding stocks that pay some dividend keeps you tax free.
I love your answer JustMe. I am a female and went on from being a nurse to getting my doctorate in nursing- DNP. Being any type of nurse certainly does not constitute being affiliated with being a hooker. It sounds like the original female surgeon poster is lonely and in pain from being hurt in her own relationships. She is clearly lashing out in a demeaning manner. I hope she finds what she is looking for…and as for a surgeon, I’m sure she knows she made a very ignorant, rude and generalized statement stemming from her own experiences.
Hello, are there any nice.kind,sincere, animal loving GENTLEMAN on here that would like to chat with a kind,caring,honorable, animal loving woman, Him 58+ me 51 country girl fields & horses here. I see the gold digger comments & yes there is a LOT of that going on but take it from the female bread winner in all my long past relationships, there are just as many or more male ‘gold diggers’ out there as female gold diggers. But I have been rich & I have been poor & struggling & wondering where every dime is coming from & worrying how you will call the vet if one of your beloved animals needs one & always having to be stressed over the next bale of hay is no way to live & good hard working men who can afford horses & that are willing to help a woman who owns them, well lets say IMPOSSIBLE to find. If i love an animal more then life itself, you would have to think caring for my man & loving him more then life itself if he does the same for me is a given, so ‘gold digger’ hardly. You just have to find a way to stop struggling or die young from the stress of it & a male companion to add to the stress is not happening period, they all want to have sex as one person here said, sex is the least important thing , companionship & caring comes first ( this is where the gentleman thing would come in) & those are almost impossible to find anymore. i would love to have a nice older gentleman that had the means to care for me & my beloveds properly is all & we could make each others lives nicer, someone to sit with & just be with & do fun things with, you can’t do a lot of fun things being broke all the time, being broke sucks. Of course a man for me would be a bit older & even possibly retired or close to it. Men my age all want to have sex with their daughters & well lets say i need a more mature man that that anyway . If there is anyone that wants to chat .
The main reason that I don’t go after openly rich guys is because I believe that men who use their money in a flashy way are womanizers that attract their female-equivalents of whores and gold-diggers. I’m sorry for this negative stereotype of the dynamics of men/women, and I realize not all flashy men are bad, just like not every hooker or gold-digger is a bad person either, but I believe these extreme traits usually come from the less desirable characteristics of the opposite sex. 

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I’m with a wealthy guy and I love him so much! He basically hand picked me at 18 (he’s um; twice my age); I had no idea he was wealthy or anything, until about a year and a half later. Yes, always on phone, always busy, very hardworking and little patience for people who can’t meet up to his standards. He’s met my parents, also. He said a long time ago a girl would have to be very understanding to be with him. I learn a lot from him about running a business, wealth, etc. There is truly no one in this world like him and I really enjoy his company! Plus, some of the nice things he has are just fun sometimes!

Yes, humans like to feel needed. No, they don't want to feel as though you might collapse into a boneless snivelling heap if they're not around. "A woman who knows what she likes and makes every effort to get it is very attractive," says Kerner. "In fact, when a woman like that needs someone it makes them feel all the more valuable – because it's as though she needs them specifically, rather than just any old person."
If you think kisses on the hand are only for men courting women in the 1940s, then you haven't tried this one: Place the tip of your tongue on the webbed area at the base of his fingers, then slowly slide your way up the side. This move will give him goose bumps because this area is very sensitive — but, like the nerves of his inner ear, it rarely gets much attention, says Olivia St. Claire, author of 302 Advanced Techniques for Driving a Man Wild in Bed. Then, to make him completely crazy, take the tip of his finger between your lips. "It's suggestive of what I could be doing down below," says Fran, 39. (Hello, foreplay!)

Sam-you hit the nail on the head again. After divorce at 35, took 7 years to find wife no 2. It’s virtually impossible to find a woman who fits requirements. Virtually all wanted kids and for me to look after them or had kids and wanted me to look after them. Finally found producer partner, not parasite partner. Im now the weak link on mortgage application. This eliminates the opportunistic behavior from women married to rich men and gives both people in the marriage complete freedom. If we got divorced, neither of our lifestyles would change. She doesnt need a penny from me and I dont need a penny from her.
A book which is founded on ideas about good communication & keeping integrity is one whose advice I feel I can trust & recommend. It has a "win-win" approach that doesn't degrade men or women - how to get what you desire/need while giving someone else what they desire/need too. Building mutually satisfying relationships is the goal, not manipulating your dream man into marrying you (blech - what an idea!).
Respect yourself. If you say no, he should stop. If he doesn't stop, leave. Don't ever be uncomfortable saying no. Don't go against your morals to try to keep a guy. If you feel this is necessary, then either he's not a good man, or he is a good one but simply isn't a good match for you specifically (e. g. he is currently "playing the field" and is up front and honest about it, but you're looking for an exclusive relationship). Don't be uncomfortable saying yes, either. If you feel the time is right, believe in your worth and don't worry that you're "giving yourself away." You respect yourself and you're confident that he'll come back for more! A man who doesn't respect you in the morning never properly respected you to begin with, and a man who doesn't respect your wishes to wait is too impatient to make a good partner. Either way, find someone else.
If you and your guy have mutual friends, your chances of having him fall in love with you are greater. Subconsciously, we are all wired to trust those who others can vouch for. This is why so many people meet the loves of their lives through mutual friends. If you have a couple friends who can put in a good word for you, your guy will be more willing to give love a chance!
The smartest way to find a good boyfriend is to start with yourself. Get emotionally, spiritually, and physically healthy by looking inward (and upward!) first. You don’t need a man, but your life may be happier with a partner. You don’t have to be in a relationship to be filled with purpose and joy, but your experiences will be deeper and richer if you have someone to share them with.
Unfortunately, depression in men often gets overlooked as many of us find it difficult to talk about our feelings. Instead, we tend to focus on the physical symptoms that often accompany male depression, such as back pain, headaches, difficulty sleeping, or sexual problems. This can result in the underlying depression going untreated, which can have serious consequences. Men suffering from depression are four times more likely to commit suicide than women, so it’s vital for any man to seek help with depression before feelings of despair become feelings of suicide. Talk honestly with a friend, loved one, or doctor about what’s going on in your mind as well as your body. Once correctly diagnosed, there is plenty you can do to successfully treat and manage male depression and prevent it from coming back.
Look someone in the eye 75 percent of the time and you may be able to trick his brain. Why? The brain remembers the last time someone looked at him like that and it remembers that feelings of love were in the air. That triggers a release of phenylethylamine (PEA), a chemical cousin to amphetamines secreted by the nervous system when we first fall in love. It’s also what makes our palms sweat, our tummies flip over and our hearts race.
@Eric, ask yourself and please be honest (I know that you like being straightforward) if that woman was indeed the one* (let me clarify the one, wouldn’t want you to think that I am stuck in a Disney Movie ending). The one: being a woman that you would consider as a serious long term partner, that you would be proud to introduce to your family and with whom you could see yourself having children. Would you really risk losing the relationship by blaming not responding to a text because you are busy.

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