One sure fire way to stop your man choosing to leave you is to convince him that the very act of making a choice doesn’t actually exist. A lot of research from the field of neuroscience suggests that the activity responsible for action occurs before the conscious awareness of that action occurs. This suggests that we are not responsible for our actions, we are only aware of them afterwards so are creatures of pure reflex and passivity at the most fundamental level.
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Don’t date outside of your own intellectual sphere ! (Every friend and family member will wonder why your playing with CHILDREN AT EVERY EVENT at the “kiddie table” w/ play dough if they are speaking quantum mechanics with the other adults at the “grown up table!”… Otherwise if your not able to at least inject any intillectual thoughts on a subject zip it because not only will his friends & their spouses who can keep up and know exactly when to speak & when to simply listen SEE RIGHT THROUGH YOU BUT HE WILL TOO! (God willing for him sooner than later!)
Now I know that text fighting isn’t something that you’d intentionally actually do, but it happens way too often in relationships. Couples will actally fight over the text message. In order to reach reconciliation to solve the fight, you can’t do it over text. You actually need to get on the phone and talk. But when fighting over text, it causes both of you to not actually want to talk to each other, and especially the guy. So, it can look something like this…
OK so my thing is a long distance thing and we are not together although he did spit a petty good game. We know eachother through mutual friends and just started talking I wasn’t interested at first so when we went 2 weeks with out talking it didn’t bother me… But recently we expressed our feelings for eachother. He was going to come and visit me in the next couple weeks and on new years eve I was a little excessive in texting him with no response… We talked on new years day and everythinight seemed fine… We had some interaction on social media the following days but he hasn’t responded to any of my texts… He hasn’t called me like did I scare him off??? He works in the oil field so he works 144 hours in 12 days… He has been on nights this past work so he Is sleeping during the day and I know he is probably exhausted… Did I scare him off I like him a lot and he liked me a lot I thought… I mean he opened up to me and we had so really deep talks… He even talked about moving here… But then we haven’t talked in 7 days of the phone and we haven’t had any contact on social media in like 5 days… I commented on a photo and said he should make it his profile picture and he did… But I’m just so lost and confused why is he ignoring me??? What happened I’m a very passionate person did I scare him off I hope I didn’t lose him my brain is going 100 miles an hour… HELP ME PLEASE!!!
Via the process of operant conditioning, the crafty balancing of reward and punishment in response to certain behaviours, he will soon learn to be faithful and committed to you. It’s important to balance this with deterring of unsuitable behaviours too. If he wants to spend time with his friends and not you, if he wants to get an early night rather than stay up all night talking, make sure he regrets it considerably. Call the police and tell them he’s got a bomb, or release a wild leopard into his room as he tries to sleep. He won’t find early nights so relaxing after that.