It doesn’t hurt to wait a little bit if you’re really worried about coming across as overeager, but don’t adhere to some bizarre rule about “always waiting twice as long as they took to respond” or “always waiting three minutes to respond.” If you want to respond, respond. If you’re keeping your early text conversations focused on the right things (like making plans and carefully showing your interest in them), you shouldn’t have to worry about seeming overeager anyway. If things go well, after a few dates you’ll develop your own texting repertoire between the two of you and it won’t matter.
Now before you attack that idea as sexist, we're really just talking about two people who come together to love, care for and make each other's life even better by forming a cooperative partnership here. The real beauty of a relationship is when two people come together with a desire to give rather than just take. That's when the magic is unleashed.
My Advice: Go out of the environment you would typically find yourself in, strip yourself of everything that shows you are financially secure, i don’t mean look poor, but have a natural and modest look. Go for charity walks, Go to places where you’ll meet people doing things for a positive cause, mix up, take interest and enjoy the activities and just be you. Hopefully the right man will come along.
Respect yourself. If you say no, he should stop. If he doesn't stop, leave. Don't ever be uncomfortable saying no. Don't go against your morals to try to keep a guy. If you feel this is necessary, then either he's not a good man, or he is a good one but simply isn't a good match for you specifically (e. g. he is currently "playing the field" and is up front and honest about it, but you're looking for an exclusive relationship). Don't be uncomfortable saying yes, either. If you feel the time is right, believe in your worth and don't worry that you're "giving yourself away." You respect yourself and you're confident that he'll come back for more! A man who doesn't respect you in the morning never properly respected you to begin with, and a man who doesn't respect your wishes to wait is too impatient to make a good partner. Either way, find someone else.
If he wants a relationship, he’ll make an effort. If he’s not willing to do the work or put in the time, it means that you’re just not important to him. Do you really want to go after a guy who doesn’t see you as a priority in his life? If you’re doing all the work and he never even meets you in the middle, you’re just going to end up exhausted and unsatisfied. Remember — guys who have a real interest know how to make an effort.
According to scientist, psychologist and author Todd B. Kashdan, PhD, “Love is about an expansion of the self whereby another person’s interests, values, social network, and finances become part of your life just as you share your resources with them. Love does not mean that you give up everything for another person. Rather, you possess sufficient trust to give them the keys to everything that you can access.”
Ben: I think that depends on the girl; for example, I loved getting “hey there stranger” from my first serious girlfriend who I took to prom. The words didn’t necessarily mean anything, but between us it was an inside joke or something we always said to each other. So I think the best/favorite text to get from a girl is where they reference an inside joke; it shows they care without actually saying the words, and it’s unique to your relationship.
I just came across this article while I am panicking waiting for a response from a man. Thanks, it’s a good read. I met him 2 weeks ago outside a club, and asked for his number, which he gave me. I text him the day after and he replied very fast, but then I noticed he was matching my response times. Our last communication was 3 days ago, I text him today and 4 hours later, still waiting for a reply! He said he would know about something we had discussed on Monday (yesterday) but he never got back to me. We haven’t arranged a proper first date yet, although he has mentioned “we should go out so some weekend”
Get to know (and understand) what he does. This is something that could dramatically increase your chances of winning his love. Take opportunities to get involved in things he does. Ask him whether he needs any help to accomplish a task. If he discovers that you are keenly interested in his plans, he will see that you care for him and that you could be a good partner.
Yes, humans like to feel needed. No, they don't want to feel as though you might collapse into a boneless snivelling heap if they're not around. "A woman who knows what she likes and makes every effort to get it is very attractive," says Kerner. "In fact, when a woman like that needs someone it makes them feel all the more valuable – because it's as though she needs them specifically, rather than just any old person."
The funny thing about men is that telling them less about your life makes them long for you more. So as much as you might want to share the minutiae of your bitchy workplace or your take on the latest Grey's Anatomy plot twist, hold back. "The hard truth is that from his end, that information is overwhelming and boring," explains Douglas Weiss, PhD, author of The 7 Love Agreements. "Men don't have the capacity to endure great amounts of detail. That's one reason why they don't give you the play-by-play of their lives."
Researchers at the University of Liverpool found that we're more likely to go for people who look similar to us because we perceive certain facial attributes as clues to personality. Laughter lines, frown lines, wide smiles, restrained expressions are all indications of what a person is like – sociable, friendly, shy, emotional – so we seek out people who look as though they'd be compatible with us.
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I totally agree with Brooke. Here is the quote from this article that I find most sexist: ‘Orient your mind towards giving him what he likes, not on what you want to get from him’ . The implicit suggestion here is not to expect anything in return. So send him sexy photos, keep it light and fun to entertain and please him, but when it comes to giving the woman what she wants, i.e. to be heard, loved and respected, then that woman is labelled as ‘needy’. How very convenient for men! A good relationship is about give and take, and men would and should be expected to be respectful towards their women and respond to texts. I am not talking about obsessive and demanding texting, of which men are also guilty, but normal communication between two people who treat each other with love and respect. If a man is not responding to you, then he does not respect and does not appreciate you. You need to move on.
Sadly, the stereotype of the smart girl who thinks she must play dumb to be popular isn't a fiction. In this book, Laura Fullbright is an extremely smart girl who decides when she changes high schools that she'll hide her past academic achievements so she can become popular. She joins the cheering squad where her gymnastics experience makes her a valuable addition. Her best friend Krista who has been with the same guy since she was twelve, is pushing Laura to go out with Jake who is good looking, but dumber than a box of rocks. She's tempted. After all, hasn't her goal this year to be popular and shouldn't that include a hot boyfriend?
I have a little bit of a dilemma… I have met this guy during one of my trips last year. He was fun to be around and exchanged numbers before I left. We have been messaging in WhatsApp for the last 2,5 months on regular basis… exchanging photographs, talking about daily life etc. last Sunday I had a rough road trip with my friends and I was a bit depressed as I had to send my car on a freight truck to the mechanic. Anyways I wrote him few lines explaining what happened to me. I saw he read the text but has not replied yet. At the moment my anxiety and insecurities are getting the worst out of me. Feeling a bit depressed as he has not acknowledged my bad day or sent me text saying hope I am okay. In the past he did when I hurt my shoulder. He is an archeologist and does private culture and history tours and at times lecturing.
So thats not the bargain you want. Fine. But thats the whole point. The women in question are not looking for you. What makes you think a financially well off person would not want a younger spouse and kids? Some certainly do. So its back to what you said; good communication, and knowing what you want. In this case, a wealthy guy who wants to be the breadwinner and provider. There is nothing wrong with that, just like there is nothing wrong with a woman that wants to have kids. Not adopt kids when she is too old to properly take care of them, but to have her own biological children when she is young enough to enjoy them.
He and I dated for 9 years. I never thought he would ever ask me to marry him. He kept telling me he wanted to “keep his options open” many would have left him. But I saw his abilities and admired him for them. He was never rich, however was a good steward of the money he had. We did finally marry. but dove straight into financial ruin as he tried to pursue his own business.
#29. MAINTAIN his interest – Marriage is a LONG-term relationship, which means that you will consciously have to make efforts to keep his interest. You won’t be able to keep his interest if he knows EVERYTHING about you, and nothing changes. This is why it’s important to learn new things, new skills, and to create a life outside the relationship so that you have things to keep and spark his interest.
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I met a guy and we met on a Friday night which is rare to begin with. He then preceded to ask me out Saturday night so all was good. We went out the next 2 weekends and started to talk about my personal life. I am in a situation similar to a situation that he just got out of with a 5 year GF. As soon as he found out my Mom lived with me he told me he needed time. A few days time is what he said he needed, but I couldn’t let it go, I kept hounding him and text bombing him. He has not replied to any of my texts for a week now. Is there any chance of getting him back?
Sometimes women tend to forget that men are human beings and they also have feelings like any other person. Even though every relationship has its ups and downs, successful couples have learned how to manage the challenges they face during their relationship.Challenges come with a lot of emotions not only for women but also men.They hang in there, tackle problems, and learn how to work through the complex issues of everyday life. All relationship problems start with poor communication. If you are willing to listen to you partner and be part of the solution and not the problem, then your relationship will automatically work out for both of you.
Been there, done that. I don’t honestly know if you can ever be 100% sure if a woman loves you for you unless you pretend to be “poor”. I clicked on this article for the same reason you did. Gold digging woman are disgusting trash. I have done “social experiments” on them. Like pulling up to a coffee stand in an old beat up car and asking a woman on a date. It is amazing the difference in treatment you get when you pull up in an expensive sports car. Yes almost all of them are gold diggers. I had a poor girlfriend who I helped tremendously. Paid her medical bills, took care of her vehicle needs, nice vacations. She let her true feelings out telling me that I was a “piece of garbage selfish A$$hole” when I wouldn’t pay off her student loans and send her to alcohol rehab. Not that I couldn’t afford it, but I hate being treated like an ATM machine. I have these problems and I am only 35 years old, an average 5’9″ tall, good looking and well built from working out all of my life. I have come to the conclusion that woman don’t actually love a man, they love what they perceive they can gain from him, or what he can do for her. Then you have to get a prenup and everything else. That is why so many men, moneyed or not are going MGTOW. I hate to tell you, but you will never be able to buy this woman’s happiness with money, she will bleed you dry. That is the kind of woman that I had, and I was much happier when I sent her down the road. I know the kind of closeness and love you are talking about wanting from a woman, but this one, unless she has an epiphany, will never give it to you. I have friends with old fashioned foreign wives that love them through thick and thin, truly for better or worse, for richer or poorer I have seen it with my own eyes, it does exist. You may have to start over. Good luck and God bless. As for me, time to hide the wealth again and find a down to earth farm girl.
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Hi, ok so I was at our normal sports bar for football and they happen to have another boyncer there helping. Totally not my type but he caught my eye. We made eye contact all day but never talked. As me and my friends were walking out he came all the way out to the parking not in front of my friends to ask for my number. I was completly shocked! I normally do not meet or talk to guys when out and wasnt really looking fir any relationship. But i was like wow to go through all that ill give him a shot. We texted small talk that night at he disappearred….. The next week saw him again, hesaid he was glad i came in….he dropped that night and lost my #. I also changed mine.
The only thing I love more than writing is cheese... and hot dogs... and Netflix... and boys who are good at winking. I am a huge John Mayer fan, I refuse to wear a bra if I don't have to, and I'm essentially an insomniac who takes sporadic naps. I am addicted to filling up my cart online shopping and then realizing I am a broke college student and closing out the page. My greatest talent in life is being able to say all 50 states in alphabetical in under 20 seconds... my parents are very proud of me, as you can imagine.
LOL, whatever. Most men I know are lazy as hell while their wives coordinate nearly every part of their lives. That includes my husband who acts like he’s doing me a big favor if he puts a load of his own clothes in the washer. AS IF washing his own clothing should be considered some sort of gift to me. He’s lucky that he’s intelligent, caring, and adorable.
There was a clear divide here. Two out of three of the 20 – 23 year olds said there is nothing appealing about someone being “hard to get.” David, 20, clarifies, “It makes them seem conceited and uninterested.” Nate, 30, weighs in with the younger crowd on this one, stating that “nothing” is appealing about a girl who is “hard to get.” He advocates the “straight to the point” approach: “I am always one who is aggressive and goes after what I want. You know pretty quickly if someone is into you or if you are into them. Whether it’s via text, at a bar or Steak ‘n Shake, “hard to get” is a thing of the past. I have noticed over past 3-4 years even females have been more aggressive in pursuit.”
With great difficulty. I was and still am trying to find answers, researching, reading the mentality behind it. I mean could he be so insecure to think that I could not love him for him? And I did not appreciate not having my back the most….. I still really love him, I don’t care about dinners and trips I get those anyway on my own in my line of work.
Sometimes we search too far to get a boyfriend, we don’t realize if the closest person could be someone who can be the best boyfriend for us. I started the relationship with my spouse from a solid friendship. At that time I didn’t realize if he’s the one. I was too busy to find a boyfriend at other places. Till one day I realize if he is the best one, and thanks God he has the same feeling with me 🙂 <<