There was a clear divide here. Two out of three of the 20 – 23 year olds said there is nothing appealing about someone being “hard to get.” David, 20, clarifies, “It makes them seem conceited and uninterested.” Nate, 30, weighs in with the younger crowd on this one, stating that “nothing” is appealing about a girl who is “hard to get.” He advocates the “straight to the point” approach: “I am always one who is aggressive and goes after what I want. You know pretty quickly if someone is into you or if you are into them. Whether it’s via text, at a bar or Steak ‘n Shake, “hard to get” is a thing of the past. I have noticed over past 3-4 years even females have been more aggressive in pursuit.”
My boyfriend and I took a break for a couple of months. We saw each other last week, and everything was just great ! And invited me to go to the beach with his daughter in the morning. However I had plans that day, with my Mom. But I asked for a raincheck. Anyway few days later asked him, if he wanted to go have ice cream and he replied “that he was in park with his daughter and then going to a restaurant. ” Then I answered, “At church, leaving soon, Where is the restaurant ? Seems like a funny name for a place. Lol.” Haven’t got a response since. I hope he didn’t think like if I was inviting myself, because I didn’t mean that. I just wanted to see him. And nothing else. What do I do ? Please help, I want to take the proper steps. Haven’t heard from him since Saturday and it’s Monday.

My guy went from texting every day to going MIA for a couple of days after I told him how I felt about him. I realized in reading this article that when I told him I liked him, it was for him and not for me…so while I would have liked a reply I didn’t need it to feel secure about his feelings. Ok, maybe I was a tiny bit worried about whether he would reply because he could have gone into the freak out phase. You were right, the sexy text did the trick. It took 3 minutes for him to get back to me after 2 days of radio silence. It felt good to give him something nice to look at during his long work day :)
I didn’t have any trick. I just came to him and be myself, joking, and laughed together. I didn’t ask his job, he told me later on. I didn’t see him as a wealthy man. I saw him as a person, just like me. Months later, I met another rich guy. And simply just joking around and laughed. Now I am close to a rich guy too. He is nice guy and polite. Most of this typr of guy has a freakin’ busy life, travelling from country to country. I expect nothing, just have fun, no pressure and just let things flow naturally…
I just came across this article while I am panicking waiting for a response from a man. Thanks, it’s a good read. I met him 2 weeks ago outside a club, and asked for his number, which he gave me. I text him the day after and he replied very fast, but then I noticed he was matching my response times. Our last communication was 3 days ago, I text him today and 4 hours later, still waiting for a reply! He said he would know about something we had discussed on Monday (yesterday) but he never got back to me. We haven’t arranged a proper first date yet, although he has mentioned “we should go out so some weekend”
I dated a rich man for 5 years. It was easier some ways but harder in others. He was so into his work and money that even when he was home he was on his phone and not paying much attention to me. We were in love….kinda I guess. I think we both just really wanted someone to love…or just not be alone anyway. But he payed for everything. And he bought me cars and expensive clothes and jewelry and anything I wanted and we ate at the Best restaurants. It changed me a little. I was wearing only name brands and acted like I was so cool and I was never someone that ever thought I was better than everyone. It was just being in that lifestyle I felt like I could have anything and if I couldn’t I would yell or get someone fired or just be a bitch to get it. But it was what I learned from him and when I realized how I was changing like that I didn’t like it so I actually tried changing him to be more like me and he tried and he’s a total city guy and I’m a country girl so very different people. Anyway I realized that money doesn’t solve everything. He would have done anything for money and I would have done anything for love.
8. During the big game, spit out a sport stat that will really impress him. He will literally look at you the way he’d look at a toaster if that toaster suddenly shouted “I am a sentient being!” That means, when you’re not working 80 hours a week, buying him beer, cooking him snacks, or pegging him senseless, you should be studying up on facts about his favorite sporting ensembles. In a few years, you could become a “cool chick.” To be a “cool chick” is the highest honor to which a woman can aspire.
Brian, any woman worth your time, or any man that is rich’s time would have to be a very understanding woman, but you see the thing is, is if she enters into a relationship with you, that as long as you were up front with a her from the get go about how much time you will or will not have to be able to devote solely to her in your relationship, then she should not have any reason to complain about it. I’m quite positive that if your in what you believe to be a loving relationship, then she should be able to read you enough to know that you probably already wish you had more time to be with her, that it bothers and hurts you just as much. Just because your a man with money, it doesn’t mean you don’t have feelings, if she keeps badgering you about it, then it would be obvious that not only did she not pay attention to you from day 1 of your relationship when you told her clearly that this is how it was going to be, but also that she must not only not care, but not know you as well as you do for her or else she would be able to tell that your hurting too. Any woman worth your time and Love would know these this things. I know that I would.
My daughter is a pretty young lawyer from a middle class family and is married to a handsome young, rich doctor from a wealthy family. All things being equal, what seemed to charm him the most was that, although she had dated many men over the years, she had only been intimate with one man before him. He was actually quite sexually active before he met my daughter(which is why she insisted on std testing before they were intimate!). Anyway, I guess what I’m getting at is that even though she is beautiful, fit, smart, and has many of the other attributes mentioned in the article; I think what made her stand out above the rest to him was that she had respect for herself and in turn, he valued her highly and wanted her to be his wife and the mother to his children.
If your guy loves you, he will appreciate your thoughts on how the universe is expanding and time is moving so fast. He will like the daily updates about which dogs you saw that day, and he’ll especially enjoy the childhood story of how you fell out of a tree in your grandma’s backyard. He will learn to appreciate your mood swings and the long, terrific tales that come with them of the rude girl in chemistry who would not stop kicking your chair. Whatever it is, they want to hear their significant other spill their heart out. They love you and your (bad) storytelling habits.

Ben, 27, wants a more creative conversation starter. “If you are actively pursuing someone, you better come up with something better than ‘hey’ or you will lose their interest,” he cautions. But don’t underestimate the guy’s ability to play hard to get: “However, if I know someone is interested in me, and maybe I’m playing hard to get, just saying ‘hey’ after a lull in conversation can let them know that I’m still interested, but still give me the control.”

Lead by example to help him improve. Don’t criticize him harshly when he does something bad or wrong. This will make him feel horrible and he will begin to feel bad when he is around you. Instead, if he does something you don’t like, lead by example to show him a better way to be. You can certainly tell him when you don’t like something he does, but don’t be mean or controlling about it and help him find a good way to change.

What To Do To Make A Guy Want You


* Take care of yourself. Because rich men have more selection, they tend to gravitate towards better looking, fitter women. The one thing every person can do is work on their fitness – facial features not so much. There’s a big fear from men that once he marries his woman that she will chop off all her hair and let herself go. Don’t let your man fear such a thing by eating healthy and maintaining a workout regime that’s beyond his own. When a woman asks a rich man to see whether he’d like to join her at the gym, deep down the rich man is beaming with joy.


Chopstick couples do what each needs to do in a coordinated effort to get the job done, no fixed responsibilities that are the sole job of one person or the other. Sometimes it works out to leverage the strengths of one person over the other, like my husband will go get a needle and thread to fix my pants while baking bread and watching football… and I’ll be reading a PF article and picking ETFs, sitting next to him while doing the laundry. Things get done to both our benefit.
I know when you have friends who are married or who are couples, it can be hard being single. But think of it like this: some of your girlfriends may envy you. Their relationships might look great from the outside, but usually, you have no idea what’s really going on. One girlfriend could be putting up with a cheater or just a loser guy, and may not be brave enough to leave him. Another may not have had sex for years.
6. Be open to what he wants to try in the bedroom. If he says “you’re Benjamin Franklin and I’m a space goat,” just do it! If he wants to cry after prematurely ejaculating, just let him! Then make him a snack. But most importantly, be open to what he wants OUT of the bedroom. In general, just do what he says, always, because one way to make a man love you forever and ever is to pretend you’re a living doll.
I moved to LA after two years in New York, where there are a plethora of guys my age. Unfortunately, though I did go on dates, nothing stuck. Now, I’ve moved across the country. There could be a guy, even a friend of a friend (the perfect set-up!), currently living in New York who would be happy to be my boyfriend, but I’ll never know. Frequently, on the street in New York, I’d walk by a guy I could picture myself dating, and I’d want to blurt out, “What bar will you be at on Saturday, and why weren’t you also at The Jane last Saturday night like I was?!” Which brings me to:
You don’t like my opinion – no problem. There are plenty of sites that will pander to whatever you want to hear… regardless of whether or not its helpful or even damaging to your love life — they don’t care, they just want your clicks so they can sell ad space. I’m doing my best to help women get real results and escape the vortex of bad or harmful advice in magazines, tv shows, movies, books, etc.
So flick the bottom part of your tongue from side to side across these sweet spots. Then, as he gets into it, throw his senses for a loop by switching to the rougher, upper side of your tongue, alternating back and forth. "Nerves tend to go numb when they receive the same type of stimulation for too long," says Gardos. But when you switch from one type of texture to another, you'll keep his senses on maximum alert – which will keep him begging for more.

Don't be afraid to make a move. Let's be real: a good man doesn't desperately need any person; he would like to meet a good person. If he's a good man, he will appreciate the compliment to his attractiveness, at the very least. But remember that compliments are usually given to acquaintances - people who are intimate usually have a more honest connection, with playful teasing and banter. Think of good relationships between brothers and sisters, parents and children, especially couples - they're always joking, laughing, teasing, flirting in a positive way. A woman who is always complimenting may simply be boring and look desperate. Even if you are old-fashioned and never want to be the woman who asks a man for a date, you can still go out of your way to talk to him, and arrange to be with him. Don't overdo this, however; unless he is already attracted to you before the encounter, the more obvious it is that you've put a ton of time into the encounter without his direct encouragement, the more desperate and less attractive you look. Work on building attraction first.


Gold digging women are disgusting trash?? What about men who fuck and objectify women with no intentions of caring for her? Women who want financial security vs men who just want a good looking person to bang….What sounds more unreasonable and shallow? “It is amazing the difference in treatment you get when you pull up in an expensive sports car”…Well it is amazing to see the difference between how I’m treated when I’m dressed “sloppily” and in a fat suit vs. how I’m treated when I’m showing a face full of makeup and as little clothing as possible. Men don’t actually love women, they just like what they think women can do for them. Yeah…it goes both ways dude.

How To Know A Guy Likes You


If you want to text a guy you like, send him a message bringing up something the two of you talked about or did together recently, or pick something totally random, like “If you could only eat one food for the rest of your life, what would it be?” Ask questions about his interests so you can get to know him better, and talk to him about the things you do on your own time. If he doesn’t respond much, he might be busy, so try not to overanalyze short messages or the time it takes for him to respond, and take a break from messaging him if he isn’t saying much.

Texts To Send A Guy To Make Him Want You


Men can detect that the office interaction is a little sour or frigid. How to become great, gorgeous and sweet, and use flirting, charisma and creating the setting, so that men might make passes at you at least once a day and have suitors in the office occasionally walking around you. Take care of your body with good nutrition, hygiene and exercise; why not? Use a beautician and fashion stylist to optimize your looks.
Similarity may also play a role here. Wherever you meet him, the gym, the library, or class, if you both frequent the same spots, you’re likely to run into each other again. This also means, if you hit it off one night, make sure to let him know you want to hang out again, since, (now we know!) the more you see each other, the more likely you are to fall for him, and him for you! But, no, please don’t stalk him.
Telling your man that you think he’s hot will give him a little confidence boost throughout the day, especially since he knows you’re thinking of it. This is definitely geared toward people already in relationships so it won't sound so out of the blue. A few examples could be "you looked cute in your Snapchat you sent me" or "how did I get so lucky?" Make sure you're sending texts not only he's comfortable with, but you're comfortable with as well. There's definitely a difference between "ay daddy *insert heart eyes*" and "wow you look good."
Thanks for this insightful post... Yup, sure feels like a double or even triple bind. I'm supposed to be emotionally available, but also strong and brave and self reliant and have all the answers and be able to deal with everything fearlessly...and heaven help me if I express doubt, fear, anxiety, shame, what if I say "I feel from being orphaned in childhood I am unlovable and unloved.." Wow..that will get you stared at as a basket case, a damaged person...
* When am I going to lose it all? Rich men pay attention to fortunes lost all the time. An example is Eike Batista who is estimated to have lost $33 billion dollars in 16 months as his conglomerate, OGX Petroleo & Gas Participacoes SA lost 90% of its value. Batista is still worth $200 million dollars, but still, that is a frightening fall. Given the paranoia of losing it all, rich men are very methodical in their money management ways. They will allocate at least 20% of their net worth to risk free investments so that if things go to hell, they’ll still live a comfortable life. Rich men realize their wealth is an important reason why they have more selection.
Well first rich man know they are rich and they feel there are lots of you and only a few of them. They are people like any other. They feel insecure, try their best, and are intimated by other rich men. But if your not rich, then your not in their stratosphere, your simply a playtoy. I am in my mid 30s have have dated and been engaged to billionaires and rich men.. The best advice is their advice in the financial realm. Tips on investing has created a small empire for me. I could say I am rich now .. Was homeless and definitely qualify past the 7 mark net assets all because I hung around the rich men. Romantically am I full filled no!!! Rich men are hard to date .. But being rejected and used by rich men has taught me how to become wealthy myself. Now that I am wealthy I could care less about a rich man. Case in point. Take their advice and move on. Date for love. Use them ( take their financial advice ) and move on. That’s what they will do to you. Date for love not for money. But if you date rich men, do take their advice and become like them and move on … After all you become who you hang out with.

Funny Texts To Send A Guy You Like


The only way to know for sure it to talk with him about it. No need to spend time and energy trying to guess at what he means when he says something ambiguous. Find a good time to chat with him, tell him how you’ve been feeling, and ask him if he feels the same way. For example, “I have really enjoyed getting to know you over the past few months, and I am interested in pursuing a dating relationship with you. I thought you might feel the same way, but wasn’t sure. Are you interesting in going out to dinner sometime?

I’m a nurse also and haven’t slept with, or pursued a doctor. That’s ridiculous. Now, my construction husband believes – since I.ve been diagnosed with breast cancer and shad bilateral mastectomies – that he can go on discreet affair dating sites and frequent strip clubs. So are all construction guys douche bags? HaHa- probably. And he just lost a respectable, respectful, loyal and intelligent NURSE!


Maybe that’s true. But personally, with rich/successful guys, asking for money is like the WORST thing you can do. Even if your kids are like dying or you have to live on the street. You should be REALLY careful (and really just avoid altogether) asking for financial help of any kind. Just drop hints you’re struggling financially and if he really cares about you, HE will make the decision to give you money (and really the decision needs to be his). This is SO important.
Awesome. Totally relate! And true! Gosh and text break ups are uber lame don’t even start haha. Sarcasm a no-no. Agreed. But if it’s like a good guy friend that you always joke with I don’t see a problem! And in the paragraph description, I’m guilty of double and triple texting.. Sigh. If people weren’t such SLOW responders it wudnt be a problem! Lol
Ever notice how much it bugs you when someone does not get back to your text right away? You need to know an answer to a question but they leave you hanging! Often the guy is oblivious to your need for a text but… sometimes he isn’t. Silence is also a form a communication. But you don’t get it! and you send a 2nd text back or a 3rd or maybe you just get on the phone and scream “I am needy!!!! Give me the freakin answer!!!!”

Follow the Golden Rule. That means apply the same rules to yourself that you'd apply to others, including him. Real men do in fact notice this; they just don't scream it out. For example, if he tells you he has a girlfriend and things are not working out, Stop! and think ladies and gentlemen that this could be a "test" on how you would handle the situation, so stand your ground and cut off communication (hint: "Golden Rule"). Don't go on about how you "don't NEED no man!" or about "men this, men that" if you don't want him treating you the same way. DO, on the other hand, treat him--and others--with respect, dignity, and honor. Others will notice, too, and who knows--if they know you want a good, real man but don't yet have one, they just might introduce you to one!


Be yourself. If you're not, then how else would you know if he likes you for who you are? If you are pretending to be someone you are not, you will feel uncomfortable every time you are around him and that is the last thing you would like to happen. If you are uncomfortable around him, it would probably be hard to talk to him and if you can't talk to him, it will be hard to keep a relationship.

This guy added me on Facebook about a year ago and then messaged me on my birthday to ask me out for coffee.. At the time I was dating someone else and had to decline based on that and told him I appreciated the invite. A few months ago that boyfriend and I parted ways and a couple weeks ago I messaged that guy on Facebook and we started chatting for hours at a time online and eventually via text and seemed to really hit it off.. This last week we hung out several times and had a lot of fun. It seems he is into me by the way he talks and acts around me and I’ve made it clear I’m into him. However, since we hung out he hasn’t been the one to text me first and has been really inconsistent at times with when he eventually got around to texting me back. Either he takes up to 24 hours to reply or sometimes doesn’t reply at all. When we hung out he stated he had a lot on his mind right now and has been a bit stressed out with work. He works out of town on a 7 on 7 off schedule and seems to obviously have a lot of catching up to do with family/friends/life in general when he is home, so again I can understand the busy aspect of things.. I’m not a needy person, but I do text him maybe once a day just to say hello and to say that I hope he’s having a good day or that he was on my mind.. I feel like I’m getting some mixed messages now about whether or not he wants to be talking or even moving forward with hanging out. I’ve noticed at times that he has been active on social media after not responding to my texts right away.. I am somewhat inclined to straight up ask him if he still shares my interest in hanging out more and if he sees me as a possible girlfriend, but again it comes down to appearing needy or coming across too strong too early in the game. Is it better to be forward and ask straight up? Or should I just ride it out, stop messaging him for a while and see what happens? Could this just be an indication of his texting habits and maybe I’m reading into it too much?
"It's absolutely true, but it's not without conditions," says Jeffrey Bernstein, PhD, author of Why Can't You Read My Mind? "You have to make a strategic effort to trigger that craving in him once you're in a relationship because the spark in your bond won't last if you neglect it." For that reason, Cosmo has discovered the seven key make-him-ache-for-you strategies that specifically jump-start your guy's desire. Be warned: Once you use them, he'll be sticking to you like white on rice.

How To Make Your Man Love You More


I have just seen this post. Well, I am currently dating a rich man for about a year and half now. The point is I was never looking for him, we have just met in the most strange way ever… However, I want to warn you. Dating a rich guy is very stressful. He is up all the time, his phone is always ringing, the skype is all the time on, the plain is always waiting for him and you sometimes just want everything to stop and to have him for yourself. I sometimes just want he is normal guy I can have normal life with. Anyway, yes, he always has his baggage packed and he is always ready to go. We are all the time breaking up and making-up. He proposed me 6 months ago but I am still not ready for it. I am thinking what is my life going to be like? Do I want to be just a rich man’s wife. The fact is I am 12 years younger, I am also very successful in what I am doing and I don’t want to give up of it. Believe me, it is really hard to date a rich man. Yes, you go to the best places, get expensive gifts and ecct. But, what is most precious to the rich men? The time? They can’t give you the time you as a woman deserve because they are constantly working, traveling and talking on the phone… I have the most beautiful, handsome and interesting guy but I stuggle dealing the lack of his time everyday.

Ladies, if you think there is a magic formula to give you better chances of a man falling in love with you, you’re absolutely right! There are certainly things you can do on your part to give you better odds at having that hottie fall madly, deeply in love with you. Here are some tips you can implement into your life to help your preferred man go gah-gah for you.
Starting right above his knee, plant a light-as-a-feather kiss there, then work your way up, increasing the pressure of your lips on his skin the farther you go. That's exactly what Lisa, 36, does to get her husband primed for super hot sex. "Women typically think men don't like foreplay, but my husband loves this," she says. "And sometimes I'll prolong the agony by starting over again down at his other knee. He goes crazy with anticipation."
Yes, I think these are all important. I found the guy who values all of this, including my uniqueness, which he let’s me know very often. It took me a while, but he is there next to me right now (we’ve been together for over a year). We recently had a talk about out past ‘not so working relationships’. I was saying how guys would leave me after 1 or 2 weeks and he said: “I think those guys were expecting you to be sb you were not, whereas for me you seemed to be sb else and when I got to know you, you turned out to be exactly how I wanted you to be.” And this is ladies what you should be looking for, nothing less. A guy who genuinely wants to get to know you. That one is really interested.
So flick the bottom part of your tongue from side to side across these sweet spots. Then, as he gets into it, throw his senses for a loop by switching to the rougher, upper side of your tongue, alternating back and forth. "Nerves tend to go numb when they receive the same type of stimulation for too long," says Gardos. But when you switch from one type of texture to another, you'll keep his senses on maximum alert – which will keep him begging for more.

I ended up here because I’m trying to “fix” my dating life, and I’m really not stuck up but a thought crossed my mind: rich men and beautiful women are in a similar category, in that both easily attract the wrong types of partners. I fall in the beautiful woman category (no, I’m not conceited but it just is what it is) and I have the hardest time dating, so while sitting at my desk feeling a bit deflated I thought, “You know, gold diggers probably try to snatch rich men all the time, while jerks try to get pretty women into bed all the time”.
#22. Be calm when he is stressed – When a man is stressed it can be a HUGE problem, because he acts out of character, is unpredictable, may lash out at you, and may withdraw.BUT, instead of blaming him and arguing, just be calm and let the storm pass. He needs to know that you UNDERSTAND him in that area, and doesn’t need a woman who makes it all about “herself” when he has something stressful going on.
As single millennials, the “Should I text him first?” inevitably pops up in my friend group chats from time to time, followed by thorough deliberation. This time, I went straight to the source for the answers to what, if anything, is appealing about “the chase” when it comes to texting, what the game is about, and how to play. Five guys, ages 20 – 30, opened up about what goes through their minds before they hit send.
Like when I'm in my regular clothes like he stares at me alot and and I kind of think he likes me but when I'm in my school uniform he doesn't pay any attention to me and he doesn't bother to talk to me or get to know me but then when I asked him out he was like I don't know yet but I feel like if you really did like me he would come and talk to me to know me so we can get to know each other he talks more to the other girls and he talks to me it's like having to get to know each other if we can talk and then I'm going as soon as I'm starting the conversation and it's like he doesn't real want to talk to me in the longest conversation we've ever had is it was about like five minutes and then it just got really crazy and his first girlfriend knew that I liked it and then I tried to be friends with his girlfriend to get closer to him but that didn't seem to work but I don't want to really be a man stealer I want him to want me and I don't want to be his third where I want to be his number one so now I'm like crossed up and I don't even know what to do anymore I just stop talking to him in trying to get closer to him and he just left me alone and I left him alone and it was like that's that but I still really like him then I don't know what to do.
Find out what other people think of him. Ask around about what this guy is like. If his friends seem honestly happy about the idea of him being in a relationship, that is a good sign. Ask mutual friends about what they think about him and try to get to know his friends or coworkers as well. However, judging a guy entirely on what other's think is not the best way to go. People may have a bad idea of him for the wrong reasons; it's best to get to know him yourself too.
I have a question. It’s similar but with a few different factors. I’ve been dating this guy for 7 months now, and we’re currently in a long distance relationship. We were dating and in the same place for 2 months, and now we’ve been long distance for almost 6 months. I’ve seen him once in this long distance time, and I’ll be seeing him again in two weeks. He’s from South Africa, but he currently works at a school in the Middle East, where I was working. A lot of my friends stayed there too, so I know many of his friends and coworkers. We really fell in love and he suggested we stay together and do the long distance thing. And he’s paying for me to come to his brothers wedding in two weeks in South Africa. He’s been planning for our future for next year, where we’re looking for schools to work at in a different country. When we’re together, everything’s great, and he’s kind and sensitive and attentive. But when we’re apart, I sometimes feel like he forgets about me. When we part initially, he’s very attentive with messages and texts and skypes and letters. He’ll say things like “you are my everything” and “I miss you” And will want to know when we’re skyping next. But after a while, especially with this longer separation (4 months), he just got really busy, and then I felt left behind. At least a text or two in the day but nothing major, no more fluffy stuff really– that only very occasionally. He likes me to send him sexts and pics and will ask for them, but sometimes he doesn’t even reply to those! We’ve had a few arguments about it because I don’t understand why he can’t find the time to send little messages anymore or even respond to the messages I send. He seems to be fine with this kind of a relationship, but since we never see each other, I want to talk more, but it makes me seem needy and makes him pull away if I bring it up. What do I do wrong? Why did he get all distant? is he trying to imply that he’s over it and doesn’t want me to come on this trip? But he sends me emails about jobs for next year, but he forgets to text “I love you.” I don’t understand! And how do I then adjust my texting style?
Treat him with respect. This is the most important thing of all. Men hate being around someone who emasculates them, and a good man won't take long to leave such a person. Don't be afraid to help your man feel good about himself. A little known secret is that men are just as insecure as women. If he's with his friends or family be open to opportunities to let your man look like "the man". It will win his love and respect.
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