Anyways, enough about my feelings, the point I’m making is that every message you send your man should be exciting. Now, I know this can be tough, especially if you have the kind of relationship where you communicate daily through texts, and share those little mundane thoughts and updates, but seriously, believe me when I say it’s time to stop. From here on out you want to make sure that every text message you send is captivating and exciting! I’ll touch more on this later.

* When am I going to lose it all? Rich men pay attention to fortunes lost all the time. An example is Eike Batista who is estimated to have lost $33 billion dollars in 16 months as his conglomerate, OGX Petroleo & Gas Participacoes SA lost 90% of its value. Batista is still worth $200 million dollars, but still, that is a frightening fall. Given the paranoia of losing it all, rich men are very methodical in their money management ways. They will allocate at least 20% of their net worth to risk free investments so that if things go to hell, they’ll still live a comfortable life. Rich men realize their wealth is an important reason why they have more selection.


As a sophomore on the varsity cheer squad who has the attention of dumb-as-rocks (but hot) footballer Jake Londgren, Nora Fulbright has morphed socially from “larval state—practically a worm” into a fully formed butterfly. In order to up her PQ, or popularity quotient, brainy Nora switches out of her AP courses and joins the masses. But when Adam—cute, crazy smart, and gives Nora the good kind of shivers—moves to town, how can she get him to see that she is not just a ditzy cheerleader? And that she is not interested in Jake? In Valentine’s sassy debut, readers will groan as Nora messes everything up, and may grow frustrated with her choices (“For a smart girl you’ve had a pretty solid run of stupid”), but if they relate to her plight, they will find her funny, too. Grades 7-12. --Ann Kelley
What makes people attracted is never "badness" (well, maybe the broken -1% will feel attracted to bad people), but confidence, coolness and the sense that you don't have to take care of someone else like a mother/father. People like it when someone acts as if they have their life together, like they have control over their emotions, like they are balanced. Like they won't make their lives more complicated by dating them. A little aloofness also makes things more spicy, as passions diminishes really bad after we get to know each other for long. Women like that also attract the regular guys like crazy.

Sam-you hit the nail on the head again. After divorce at 35, took 7 years to find wife no 2. It’s virtually impossible to find a woman who fits requirements. Virtually all wanted kids and for me to look after them or had kids and wanted me to look after them. Finally found producer partner, not parasite partner. Im now the weak link on mortgage application. This eliminates the opportunistic behavior from women married to rich men and gives both people in the marriage complete freedom. If we got divorced, neither of our lifestyles would change. She doesnt need a penny from me and I dont need a penny from her.
Find out what his status is. Try to gauge if he’s open to a relationship in general. Maybe he’s already got his eye on someone. Maybe he’s just had a horrible breakup and he’s not open to dating at the moment. You will need to respect him, his feelings, and the situation he’s in by not being overly pushy if he isn’t in the mood for a relationship. You may try to wait it out, but only if you're okay with just ending up his friend if it doesn't work out.
Really? You must not follow your “English speaking” men are evolving to finding good natured women that they don’t mind guiding than their own masculine women here. Did you know interracial marriages are (surprise for you) more successful?! People like you living in their own bubble get on my nerves. The fact someone can’t express their thoughts in English doesn’t make them retards; it just means they have another language which you probably won’t know anything about!
Then, suddenly, you’re single, and you’ve totally forgotten how not to be in this frame of mind. This isn’t how to get a boyfriend. The usual cycle is for desperation to kick-start the “Definitely Notice Me Right Now Mode” which gently fades into the more attractive “You Can Notice Me If You Want Mode”. This transition can take weeks, months, even years. But there are three neat little tricks to skip the desperate phase, and gracefully slip into charming nonchalance:
I waited until I’ve read everyone’s comments and points of view and I both agree and disagree with the two. On the one hand here’s a woman whose fully equipped to take of herself. So why spoil and or give her the privileged life when she’s only here for some seasons and a reason. I completely understand due to the fact I experienced it personally. I took care of two guys in my life who used me and left me broke, homeless, and with a background to boot. Then comes to find out they get married to someone who provides stability since I wouldn’t. However, me being a woman myself, what woman don’t dream of being a princess out of some fairytale except those women who’ve accumulated their own, and vice versa.
I’m considered wealthy and successful by scale I suppose but I don’t make $10MM a year or anything. I could within reason purchase most anything I wanted at any point that wasn’t aimed at the ultra rich but I’m a fairly normal MidWestern guy…just living life and enjoy being a businessman (although I didn’t really enjoy being an engineer…we’ll just call it a stepping stone).

Make Guy Fall For You


Ben, 27, thinks it goes beyond whether or not you send those monkey emojis: “I definitely think there are unwritten rules to texting. A lot of these rules are generated by society and pop culture, and dictate how we converse with one another. I think these rules are also reflective of the relationship you have with someone. The frequency and type of text definitely differs between friends, work associates, girlfriends/boyfriends, best friends, crushes, siblings, parents, etc.
Now when it comes to "getting" your man, there is one thing you must not do if you want a man to see a future with you. Do not treat him like some kind of project that needs to be fixed because it immediately brings up the walls. If you have the urge to try to change his clothes, his circle of friends, the way he talks, what he loves to do — don't do it!
Been there, done that. I don’t honestly know if you can ever be 100% sure if a woman loves you for you unless you pretend to be “poor”. I clicked on this article for the same reason you did. Gold digging woman are disgusting trash. I have done “social experiments” on them. Like pulling up to a coffee stand in an old beat up car and asking a woman on a date. It is amazing the difference in treatment you get when you pull up in an expensive sports car. Yes almost all of them are gold diggers. I had a poor girlfriend who I helped tremendously. Paid her medical bills, took care of her vehicle needs, nice vacations. She let her true feelings out telling me that I was a “piece of garbage selfish A$$hole” when I wouldn’t pay off her student loans and send her to alcohol rehab. Not that I couldn’t afford it, but I hate being treated like an ATM machine. I have these problems and I am only 35 years old, an average 5’9″ tall, good looking and well built from working out all of my life. I have come to the conclusion that woman don’t actually love a man, they love what they perceive they can gain from him, or what he can do for her. Then you have to get a prenup and everything else. That is why so many men, moneyed or not are going MGTOW. I hate to tell you, but you will never be able to buy this woman’s happiness with money, she will bleed you dry. That is the kind of woman that I had, and I was much happier when I sent her down the road. I know the kind of closeness and love you are talking about wanting from a woman, but this one, unless she has an epiphany, will never give it to you. I have friends with old fashioned foreign wives that love them through thick and thin, truly for better or worse, for richer or poorer I have seen it with my own eyes, it does exist. You may have to start over. Good luck and God bless. As for me, time to hide the wealth again and find a down to earth farm girl.

What To Do To Make Him Love Me


I have a little bit of a dilemma… I have met this guy during one of my trips last year. He was fun to be around and exchanged numbers before I left. We have been messaging in WhatsApp for the last 2,5 months on regular basis… exchanging photographs, talking about daily life etc. last Sunday I had a rough road trip with my friends and I was a bit depressed as I had to send my car on a freight truck to the mechanic. Anyways I wrote him few lines explaining what happened to me. I saw he read the text but has not replied yet. At the moment my anxiety and insecurities are getting the worst out of me. Feeling a bit depressed as he has not acknowledged my bad day or sent me text saying hope I am okay. In the past he did when I hurt my shoulder. He is an archeologist and does private culture and history tours and at times lecturing.
I like that this post gets it out of the way. Love and all that other stuff is good and all that for DATING, but for marriage? Money now enters the picture when it didn’t matter so much before. Especially if the woman wants kids. I think a lot of you guys are completely forgetting that fact. Only women can have kids, so if a woman wants to be rich (or at least have enough money to never worry about money again) and have kids (and actually be there for them), what is she meant to do?
So now this is starting to sound like the wrong story for this site right? Wrong. Him and I continued on. Following the secrets of the book “his needs, her needs” My husband trusted me, when we finally claimed bankruptcy, he was free from his ruin and we began again on $4000.00 TOGETHER! We committed to live debt free ( this is key!!) Moved in with my mom! I barely worked at all through out this whole process. I was sick with a undiagnosed illness that lasted years. he was tested at the unemployment office. They showed him his tests and it showed he could choose ANY career he wanted. He score in the 200th percentile on all categories! He picked computers. They accepted his choice and told him they would pay for his training, but before he started training, he got a job In Information technology. Like the days of when I met him originally, he moved up quickly like an ambulance blaring and and clearing the way for anyone behind him. the difference this time? he made enough to buy groceries and pay bills and save a bit.
I don’t know about you ladies, but there are few things that bother me more than the one or even two-word text message. You know the ones I’m talking about. “Hi” or “What’s up?” They make my skin crawl! Maybe it’s because they come across as lazy or give the impression that the sender is bored and only texting for their own entertainment, or maybe it’s because they don’t make me feel, well, anything really… asides from irritated.
Yale psychologist, John Bargh, has dedicated hours to the art of priming - a memory effect that can make your guy instantly fall in love! Through his studies, Bargh concluded attraction is linked to temperatures. Participants were instructed to hold hot and cold beverages while judging a group of people. Those who were holding warm beverages judged the people as having warm personalities, while those who were holding cold beverages judged the people as having harsh and cold personalities. To make priming work to your advantage, skip out on that frozen yogurt date, and have your guy take you out for a warm coffee instead.
I’m so confused. I’ve been dating a guy once a week for about 3 weeks. He usually texts all throughout the day, happy things, stuff that upsets him about his job, asks me how my day is, etc. Initiation is probably about 60/40 me, or relatively equal. When we go out, it’s amazing. Like I’ve found some one who really really gets me. And he’s said the same. He says things like, “your gorgeous”, “you’re wonderful,” ” I want to see you many more times”, etc. I was vey happy with the way things were progressing. He’s a very introverted person, who suffers from depression and migraines, so I know he has “off” days. I try to give him space, and was really excited when he invited me over to his house to watch a movie. A lot of our texting had become pretty sexual at this point, so I was pretty sure that would happen. And it did. Once at night, and again in the AM. We chatted a bit and then I hit the road. When I said goodbye he flashed me a really weird look, but I tried to ignore my gut. After all, we’d had sex like 10 minutes earlier, and after we did, he took me out back to show me the boat he’s building, his pride and joy. Later that day (5 hrs later?) I texted him a funny reference to the movie we watched the previous night, and got no response. So around 930 that night, maybe 12 hours after I last say him, I texted to say “I’ve noticed you haven’t been responding like you usually do, is everything ok?” Thinking maybe he had a migraine, or was depressed and might want to talk about it (as he has done before). It’s now been 24 hours since I sent that text, and there’s been dead silence on his end. I don’t understand. I’m not going to text him, at least for a week, to make sure I’m not bothering him. But I’m a mess. I’m really worried that I did something wrong, or worse, that I was used for sex. Which really would be surprising, since he was really emotionally vulnerable with me prior to that night/ morning. Even after we first had sex. It’s as if something went wrong in the 15 mins between getting out of bed and into my car. Do I just give up and move on? It seems like either 1) he’s dead 2) his phone is broken, (clearly both are highly unlikely) or 3) he was really good at pretending to be vulnerable and open, with the end goal of having sex and kicking me to the curb. I totally feel used, and that is a terrible feeling. The fact he ignored me when I was checking in (in a lighthearted manner) to make sure he was ok is sooooo not “his normal”…but it’s currently his reality apparently.

#22. Be calm when he is stressed – When a man is stressed it can be a HUGE problem, because he acts out of character, is unpredictable, may lash out at you, and may withdraw.BUT, instead of blaming him and arguing, just be calm and let the storm pass. He needs to know that you UNDERSTAND him in that area, and doesn’t need a woman who makes it all about “herself” when he has something stressful going on.

Okay, so OkCupid girl hasn’t responded to your last text for two days. What do you do? Dating expert Joan Actually at the Zoosk YouTube channel suggests you shoot them a text that doesn’t beg for an answer to feel things out. Send something like “Just finished Making a Murderer on Netflix. It’s crazy!” or “On my way to the water park. So excited!” If you get any questions or other responses, they’re probably still interested. If not, it may be time to move on. When it comes to throwing in the towel, Nerdlove shares his golden rule:


Stop going to those stupid parties. Expand your personal zeitgeist. "Nice guys" are putting on guerrilla art shows, working with the NRDC, riding in mountain bike rallies, and campaigning to get morons tossed out of Congress. Why not join one of these groups and make a little difference in the world? The men you meet will sometimes be startlingly hot, but who cares? You'll have time to get to know 10 or 12 of the buggers and decide which one really does deserve you.
Men are in a "double-bind" when it comes to expressing emotions. Although men may not always know what they're feeling, there's one thing they’re sure about: They’re convinced they’re in a major double bind. Society encourages men to express their feelings, but when they do, their partners are often petrified, if not horrified. Women, they may believe, want their partners to show their feelings, but only certain feelings, and only in doses they can handle. In fact, results from numerous research studies—as well as clinical experience—tells us that men may be right to be wary of women who implore them to show their true feelings. Men who deviate from the traditional masculine norm by being emotionally expressive and talking about their fears are often judged as being poorly adjusted.
As a moderately successful man that has now fallen on leaner but not necessarily hard times I came to this page to read about how ladies think. For some time I have suspected the only reason why my partner is with me is because of the lifestyle she can enjoy from the money I earn. By no exaggeration, every cent I earn goes on trying in vain to keep her happy so that we are happy. I fell so deeply in love with my partner but now I have no choice but to ask for our monthly spending to drop she has become viciously hostile, mentally and at times physically abusive to me. All I want in my life is to feel the closeness in spirit to someone who will stay together with me until the end. My trust in how women are, how they think and what they want is all but completely broken.

I’m a female 21, and I’ve always thought being with a rich man will complete my life. Twice there were extremely wealthy guys who showed much interest in me and didn’t know I knew they were well off. And I tried to be attracted to him thinking about his money but I just could not fake it. There has to be some level of attractiveness in order for a relationship to work so a women who starts treating a wealthy man ill mannered was never attracted to him and just wanted his money. Me personally would love to fall in love with a man who is honest loyal and rich would be a plus. I see so many comments from men not feeling loved from their wives when there are attractive women like myself ready to love someone unconditionally. Just I guess never in the right place at the right time. Love doesn’t have a price tag so all the rich men out there reading this, if any, make the woman you want fall in love without showing her your money let her love you from little dates nothing to extravagant until she’s earned a place in your heart. Make each other laugh hold hands do things you wouldn’t normally do. Never be too nice because she will take advantage but know the difference of respecting. The way I’ve attracted rich men were my looks and personality I’m very honest about everything but although you may be rich doesn’t mean I’ll take your number. You have to find a humble rich man which I’ve havent found so that’s why I’ve stayed single for so long. You will be much happier


Having a boyfriend or loving husband is a wonderful part of life – but so is being single and dating! Learn to enjoy your single life; it has benefits that marriage doesn’t. Being in a committed relationship is wonderful, and sometimes it’s even more wonderful to dream about it than actually work at it 🙂 So, let your dreams of finding a good boyfriend sweep you away. But always use your brains when you’re actually “interviewing” men for the role.

Interesting Texts To Send A Guy


An occasional smiley face is one thing, but making a picture story out of emojis is just a little bit excessive. As a rule of thumb, if you think you’re overdoing it, you probably are. Boys aren’t usually as expressive as girls, and, “OMG cool!!!!!!” may seem like enthusiasm to you, but can come off as crazy to guys. Just keep it casual and use emoticons sparingly.
Get to know (and understand) what he does. This is something that could dramatically increase your chances of winning his love. Take opportunities to get involved in things he does. Ask him whether he needs any help to accomplish a task. If he discovers that you are keenly interested in his plans, he will see that you care for him and that you could be a good partner.
* Show interest in his business. A man wants to marry a woman who cares about where their money is coming and going. After all, the man has spend all of his post secondary education life working on a career or business that made him rich. It’s vital to understand what he does for a living and check in every so often to ask how things are going. There is always some new deal or initiative on his plate that he’ll love to share. Rich men always think they’ll bore their women to death with business talk so they don’t mention anything related. Take interest in the source of his wealth and you will go farther than any other woman.

So, you’ve got the moobs like Jabba. Life’s just not fair, is it? Well, no, that much should be obvious. However, there may be certain things contributing to your bountiful bosoms that are within your control. While it’s not guaranteed that cutting out sugar or choosing a new moisturiser will flatten your chest overnight, a few lifestyle tweaks can have a positive effect.
From now on, be on the lookout for opportune moments to touch him "accidentally." For example, don't ask him for his keys...glide your hand into his pocket and slowly take them out. Don't ask him to pass the salt...reach across him, letting your breasts rub against his arm. Don't walk past him in a crowded bar...press your rear into his gear. According to Tricia, 25, these sneak attacks work like a charm. "If I've been really touchy-feely with Rob, the next morning, he'll be really snuggly," she says. "It's like he wants to be closer to me."
When these types of thoughts overwhelm you, it's important to remember that this is a symptom of your depression and these irrational, pessimistic attitudes-known as cognitive distortions-aren't realistic. When you really examine them they don't hold up. But even so, they can be tough to give up. You can't break out of this pessimistic mind frame by telling yourself to "just think positive." Often, it's part of a lifelong pattern of thinking that's become so automatic you're not even completely aware of it. Rather, the trick is to identify the type of negative thoughts that are fueling your depression, and replace them with a more balanced way of thinking.
Guys who are actually interested will make time for you. Everyone’s busy AF, but if a guy actually cares, he’ll do whatever it takes to be in your life. That means he won’t leave you hanging on a text. He’ll text back because he actually wants to talk to you. Seeing your name light up his phone will make him happy, not annoyed, and he’ll be more than happy to shoot over a few words to keep the conversation going.
He and I dated for 9 years. I never thought he would ever ask me to marry him. He kept telling me he wanted to “keep his options open” many would have left him. But I saw his abilities and admired him for them. He was never rich, however was a good steward of the money he had. We did finally marry. but dove straight into financial ruin as he tried to pursue his own business.
They never call (probably because they're too intoxicated to remember they promised to). I don't see them all week, then the weekend parties roll around; they get a little Budweiser in them, become all excited when they see me, apologize, start feeding me lines, and we hook up again! I'm a good person! I deserve a nice guy. It's just really frustrating! —Stop Me Before I Do Something Stupid!
Take a good look at yourself. Psychological studies have shown that people seek out partners to fill a psychological void. Sometimes these voids are unhealthy; for example a woman who is unhealthy will actually seek out any man for the "high of seduction" or to get attention and feel desirable. Look inside yourself and ask yourself why you want a man so badly, be truly honest with yourself, and, if need be, talk to a therapist about this. Someone with issues only attracts a guy with issues as well, and a good, real man doesn't want anything to do with someone who has more issues than TIME magazine. If you want a good, healthy relationship with a real man, make certain that your own mental state and intentions are healthy.
Nora's smart BUT she wants to be popular. So when she moved schools, her plan: never admit to anyone that she's actually smart, dumb down her subjects from AP classes to regular ones, join the cheer squad, and date the hottest, most popular, and possibly one of the dumbest guy in school, Jake. But when Adam enters the equation, her plans changed OR has to change.
Hi Eric, I’m in no relationship right now. I’m on a dating site and matched well with a as we messaged, he stated, we have a lot in common. He asked to start texting so we did. In two weeks we sent pic’s of ourselves and had phone sex twice. He keeps saying we need to meet, when we set a day and time he was getting sick. Fine, I believe him. You suggested a sexy pic. Good idea. It’s fun, but is there a way to ask him if he still wants to get to know me? And, What is the standard of getting to know one another if the dating sites are where I’m meeting guys. I understand he and other guys are tired from work and are busy on days off and talking to other women on the site. Thank you for your time, Kim
Seems like the process of you getting wealthy doesn’t appeal to you because it will take too much time (don’t want to be a workaholic mom who has no time to see her kids, totally agree, but); you want to only consider a man who has gone through this process and been successful, and then he is only useful for helping fulfill the life YOU want? I may be missing something, but that seems a little unreasonable….
My boyfriend and I took a break for a couple of months. We saw each other last week, and everything was just great ! And invited me to go to the beach with his daughter in the morning. However I had plans that day, with my Mom. But I asked for a raincheck. Anyway few days later asked him, if he wanted to go have ice cream and he replied “that he was in park with his daughter and then going to a restaurant. ” Then I answered, “At church, leaving soon, Where is the restaurant ? Seems like a funny name for a place. Lol.” Haven’t got a response since. I hope he didn’t think like if I was inviting myself, because I didn’t mean that. I just wanted to see him. And nothing else. What do I do ? Please help, I want to take the proper steps. Haven’t heard from him since Saturday and it’s Monday.
The occasional “boy, it’s hot out!” is no big deal, but don’t bitch about your boss, your kids, your life. There’s a fine line between talking to someone about what’s bothering you and simply complaining. Know the difference. If something’s really eating you and you want to talk about it, save it for a phone conversation or an in-person meeting. Otherwise, you’ll come off as a Negative Nelly, and that’s not sexy.
"The reason a woman gets hooked on one man is not because he is just sexy, or just playful, or just certain, or just masculine, or just bursting with integrity, but because he possesses a unique combination of traits: the man who is warm, has integrity, and can charm her family, then rips her clothes off in the bedroom and is a sexual god who's willing to invest all the time she needs in foreplay; the man who is respectful with her friends, can fix things around the house and in the garage like a pro, but knows how to enjoy a lazy Sunday at the museum or craft fair; the guy who is independent, kicks ass out in the world, but is gentle and loving with his woman and lavishes attention on her. Men like this cause an alarm to go off inside a woman's head and heart. He's just a character in a romance novel, she thinks. Be more realistic!"
* Show a tremendous interest in your personal finances. Nothing is more attractive than a woman who has a strong command of her finances. The more a woman cares about her own financial well-being, the less the man has to worry about having to care for everything financial-related, even though he easily could. I recommend signing up for Personal Capital, a free financial software online that lets you track your cash flow, analyzes your investments for excessive fees, calculators your retirement financials, and tracks your net worth. I’m positive a rich guy will be super impressed with your financial savviness if you show him the app on your phone next time you meet up. Being financially wise is sexy!

How To Get A Nice Guy To Like You


Avoid using shortened “chatspeak” like “l8r,” “2day,” “b4,” and “plz.” It might be fine with your friends, but it will make a bad impression on someone you’re romantically interested in. Chatspeak can also be easily misunderstood if the receiver doesn’t know the abbreviations you use. All in all, stick to correctly-spelled words and clear language—at least at first. Don’t text the girl from work “fyi i frgt have an appt l8r idk if i can meet 2day.” Say something clear like “I forgot I have an appointment this afternoon. I’m so sorry, do you mind if we reschedule our date for tomorrow?”


What being a millionaire does mean, is that my house I live in is paid for. The house is an 1800 sq foot home that isn’t fancy but is paid for. in a postage stamp yard housing community. We both drive newer cars instead of beaters, but mine was purchased used in 20012 and his was purchased new for $13,000.00. what it does mean is that we are saving for an 18 acer estate raw land we can developed ourselves for our own use and have accumulated enough for it’s purchase but not development. What it means is that after this large purchase where our paid for house will pay for the estate development, we will continue to save. At a certain point when the INTEREST can pay the same amount as his income now, while working, he can retire.
Meet new guys. Before you get a boyfriend, you’ll have to meet some guys. Don't worry, it isn't as scary as you think. You can try to get into a relationship with a guy you already know if they are decent, or you can go out and meet some new guys. Make sure he's got a great personality, smart and things that you would like to look for in a guy. This is easy and fun to do, so don’t be nervous! Make sure when you're meeting new guys you don't come across fake.
Science has shown that when looking for their perfect mate, guys tend to go for the girl who fills a void that's missing in their life. People naturally gravitate to those who are similar to them, but when it comes to dating, people are also looking for someone who can create a balance. If your guy is suffering from low self-esteem, become the confident and bubbly person he wishes he can be. He will subconsciously feel attracted to you, because you are everything he wants to be!

They never call (probably because they're too intoxicated to remember they promised to). I don't see them all week, then the weekend parties roll around; they get a little Budweiser in them, become all excited when they see me, apologize, start feeding me lines, and we hook up again! I'm a good person! I deserve a nice guy. It's just really frustrating! —Stop Me Before I Do Something Stupid! 
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