Anyways, good advice for single women. I think there comes a point in most of our lives where a successful man becomes more attractive to us than a pretty man. Maybe this happens at about 25. I’m attending the wedding this weekend of a friend who is marrying a very successful guy and he is totally smitten by her – she is gorgeous, a fantastic surfer (better than him), a great cook and has a good legal career of her own.

I am a 25-year-old, college-educated, #workingwoman living in Los Angeles, and I have never had a boyfriend. “REALLY?!” is the response I usually receive. Yep, that’s right, World, during my 25 years on Earth, I have zip lined through the rain forests of Costa Rica, ran a half marathon in Central Park, and become a vegan, but I have not yet become a girlfriend.
It turns out, research shows that, in reality, women are the ones who make the first move. . . but not the way you might think. According to research revealed in The Man’s Guide to Women by Dr. John Gottman et al., “Whether or not men are interested in a woman is not strongly related to her objective attractiveness but instead to the nonverbal signals she sends out. In fact, when scoring women’s nonverbal behaviors, researchers were able to predict a man’s approach to her with 90 percent accuracy.”
Roleplay. The same banter techniques that work in meeting and attracting someone in person also work great over text. Initiate a scenario in which you’re already a couple in some capacity: a husband and wife headed toward divorce, a rock star and a groupie, a pair of buddy cops on the case — anything else you can think of. Bantering through made-up roleplay is great; it provides a playful way to create a shared experience that makes the other person smile and feel more connected to you by sharing what your collaborative imaginations can come up with. Examples of how to get the roleplay rolling: “Green Sparrow, I’ve got the target in my sights! Should I take the shot? Over!” or “I’m in the lab inventing a new ice cream flavor. What should I bring us home for dessert, dear?”

Ben, 27, wants a more creative conversation starter. “If you are actively pursuing someone, you better come up with something better than ‘hey’ or you will lose their interest,” he cautions. But don’t underestimate the guy’s ability to play hard to get: “However, if I know someone is interested in me, and maybe I’m playing hard to get, just saying ‘hey’ after a lull in conversation can let them know that I’m still interested, but still give me the control.”


It’s been seen that romantic eye contact can actually make two people fall in love with each other in no time. The next time you’re having a conversation with him, stare deeply into his eyes as he talks to you. You can smile or flirt, but every time your eyes meet, let the eye contact linger even if both of you aren’t exchanging words. It makes the guy feel warm and fuzzy, and would definitely stir his heart.


First off I want to say thanks for your honest and refreshing post. It's rare and a wonderful thing for a guy to admit the challenges men face and try to act opposite of the gender stereotypes. I'm so sorry about your breakup and hope you find happiness and love. Please stay warm and loving and expressive. The right woman will appreciate it. I personally am the type who loves emotional expression in men.
This one should be a no-brainer but for some reason it often gets ignored. "Playing hard to get, teasing someone, acting fragile are all ways you can try and 'trick' someone into a kind of love," says Spurr. "But the fact is that if you want someone to care about you deeply, friendship is the key. When they're with you, they need to feel safe – game playing might help hook a someone in the first place, but it gets extremely tiring." Being supportive, listening to them, making them laugh, helping them feel good about themselves and life in general – these are the things that make someone really value you.
As for the very emotional and negative comments – maybe its because people don’t want to believe that its so easy to get a rich husband/boyfriend. That the core was ‘self-value’. That money isn’t a demon. That it offers choices and experiences and satisfaction from life. This article makes us question ourselves and then when we don’t like what we realise….then we lash out.

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3. Make dating a priority. Janis Spindel, the self-described "cupid in a Chanel suit" and president of the New York-based Janis Spindel Serious Matchmaking service, suggests that clients approach finding the right man as they would a job hunt. The key is to always be prepared because you never know when or where you'll meet someone. Wear clothes that make you feel attractive and plan ahead for interesting conversation. "You also need to change your routine," adds Spindel, who in the last 10 years has brought together more than 300 marriages and 400 monogamous couples. "Don't get your newspaper delivered. You might meet someone at the newsstand."

Thanks for this article..I’m.confused :-/ and I’m would love some advice from military perspective. For me I had a really good chemistry with this person. Everything was good….until he was informed about deployment. He told me he doesn’t do well with long distance relationship. I told him I understood his decision since I had that experience and didn’t blame him. But! The problem is that he’s the ONE ?and I told.him I loved him with all my heart. He questioned this expression because we’ve met for only 3 wks already in person, and about 1 month via text. I feel I scared him away :( that was not my intention. He told me he would think about what he wanted to do with our relationship. He left for a trip for 2 wks so I send him a message wishing him to have fun & to wishing he would come back safe. I didn’t hear back from him. A wk prior to sending him this last text I had send him a “good morning text” and I received a zero response :-/….HELP!
Now's the time to make a joke about something you have in common, something in the news, or something funny going on in your life. You could say something as normal as, "omg, you'll never believe what happened to me today... I got up when my alarm went off (shocked emoji)". Ask him what's up with him, give him a funny challenge ("I bet you can't go the whole day tomorrow without laughing"), or send him a random, funny meme.
When I write something, I write the kind of thing I would want someone to tell my sister if she was hurting and needed help with this question. So that means I’m going to write what I believe would help someone I love — even if it means saying things that might not fit within what’s politically correct to say. If it meant helping make sure I get a loved one out of pain, you can be damned sure I’m going to say it.
If you have something to offer to rich man besides your looks, there is nothing wrong with trying to get a rich boyfriend or husband. In most cases, rich men are career driven and spend a lot of time trying to improve themselves. If you want to be with someone who always pushes himself to the limits, a rich man might be a great choice for you. If on another hand you just want to meet rich men so that you can sit the whole day at home doing nothing and expect him to pay for everything, it is a really bad approach.

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He and me are best friends. I love him. But I don’t know whether he loves me or not. I know I’m the only girl with whom he shares everything. And the way he’s with me.. he’s never with anyone..We both are like lovers but not actually commited. We don’t share any physical relation but spritual & emotional.. I want to be with him till my life ends. How can I get him feel the same..
As men, we like to think of ourselves as strong and in control of our emotions. When we feel hopeless or overwhelmed by despair we often deny it or try to cover it up. But depression is a common problem that affects many of us at some point in our lives. While depression can take a heavy toll on your home and work life, you don’t have to tough it out. There are plenty of things you can start doing today to feel better.
Sometimes women tend to forget that men are human beings and they also have feelings like any other person. Even though every relationship has its ups and downs, successful couples have learned how to manage the challenges they face during their relationship.Challenges come with a lot of emotions not only for women but also men.They hang in there, tackle problems, and learn how to work through the complex issues of everyday life. All relationship problems start with poor communication. If you are willing to listen to you partner and be part of the solution and not the problem, then your relationship will automatically work out for both of you.

When you’re in a relationship, you automatically go into what I like to call “Don’t Notice Me Mode”. It’s a way of ensuring you don’t end up in any awkward situations with other men grinding on you in clubs, thinking you’re single. So, what do you do? You keep your head down, and only flirt in a light, slightly awkward way, usually mentioning your boyfriend in every other sentence.
I don’t care about getting a “rich” man– just a good man who can appreciate me for me. Yet it is still incredibly difficult, and I’m not sure why. Not to toot my own horn, but I do everything that is on your “women do this” list. Most of the guys I’ve dated have been in their mid thirties (I’m 26) and honestly usually know more about personal finance and money management than they do. I’m successful, own my own house, don’t depend on anyone to pay my bills, work hard, have big dreams, and know what it’s like to struggle (have lived through some childhood trauma). I never take things for granted because I learned very young that life can end in a second.
Your comment was awesome. I’ve been single for a long time and would like to settle down. I’ve focused my career goals to a point where I’m comfortable with my life accomplishments, I continue to re-invent myself for purposes of self satisfaction as well as attracted interest for my suitor. I consider myself a woman of substance and look forward to the day when I can be appreciated fully by the man I love. Right now I’m resting in the fact that this day will come soon.

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The greatest appeal that many men working toward their wealth have for me is that they have a growth-oriented mindset built into them already. I’ve seen too many complacent people who just want to work and then come home and watch TV or drink or something. I’m the type of person who will work all day, maybe have an hour of leisure time, and then go do more enriching activities, whether it’s more work, a hobby (such as learning musical instruments), or stimulating conversations. I like that “rich” people who are self-made seem to value improving themselves and the world around them.
Sam-you hit the nail on the head again. After divorce at 35, took 7 years to find wife no 2. It’s virtually impossible to find a woman who fits requirements. Virtually all wanted kids and for me to look after them or had kids and wanted me to look after them. Finally found producer partner, not parasite partner. Im now the weak link on mortgage application. This eliminates the opportunistic behavior from women married to rich men and gives both people in the marriage complete freedom. If we got divorced, neither of our lifestyles would change. She doesnt need a penny from me and I dont need a penny from her.
Make sure he is not in a relationship. If he already has a girlfriend or boyfriend, it's best to be just friends. Put yourself in his shoes: Would you want another guy (or girl) to meddle in your relationship? Think about it; you would probably answer "no" to this question. Backing off is helpful to everyone: him, to yourself, and the person he’s dating. Plus, you'll find another guy eventually, so keep searching.
Some rich guys have this fear complex that all they have will soon be gone if they don’t ring-fence their wealth. Maybe he grew up extremely poor and has fears of going back. Maybe he’s heard too many stories of swindle. Or maybe he’s secretly looking for someone who is wealthier. It is tough to say. Sometimes, the more you make the stingier you become.
MY FAMILY IT AFFECTED ME PSYCHOLOGICALLY BUT I WAS TOO STRONG TO BREAK DOWN COS I HARD TO FIGHT FOR KIDS WHO LOOK AT THEIR MOM AS INVINCIBLE AND STRONG.Honestly don’t know how and when i contacted a spell caster to help me.AT FIRST IT WAS JUST TO SEE HOW TRUE AND HOW HE COULD REALLY HELP ME FIX MY PROBLEM LITTLE DID I KNOW IT WAS HE SOLUTION TO MY GRIEVING PAIN.His name IS Dr okpapiami i think he was of great help cos i honest remember that he helped me save my marriage and made me helped myself to feel loved again.Its being one year and six months exactly since he cast a spell to make my husband stay till dead do us part and my husband is still with me now and we are happy and in love just like how we were for the first six months.I will be fully convinced if we get to celebrity our 50th year anniversary.I don’t want any body to see this article like it was meant to make you contact him.I am just sharing my experience on how Mutton helped me restore my marriage with spell casting and i should tell you he does not charge for his services all you are to do is to provide materials he will be needing for the spell casting.If you feel he can help you solve any of your problem contact him here ({okpapiamish[email protected] Phone +27610682653} ) this was what i used to contact him good luck

The word dating entered the American language during the Roaring Twenties. Prior to that, courtship was a matter of family and community interest. Starting around the time of the American Civil War, courtship became a private matter for couples.[8] In the early to mid 20th century in the US, women were often visited by "gentleman callers", single men who would arrive at the home of a young woman with the hopes of beginning a courtship.[9] The era of the gentleman caller ended in the early 20th century and the modern idea of dating developed.[8]

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Did you know that there are even more sexy places you can touch your partner? And if all those places you touch him feel good, think about how much better he'll feel when your mouth is on it. Just some places to consider: his elbows, his toes, his clavicle ... you get the idea. Every guy is different and will have different specific turn-ons, so it's worth trying new spots.
MY FAMILY IT AFFECTED ME PSYCHOLOGICALLY BUT I WAS TOO STRONG TO BREAK DOWN COS I HARD TO FIGHT FOR KIDS WHO LOOK AT THEIR MOM AS INVINCIBLE AND STRONG.Honestly don’t know how and when i contacted a spell caster to help me.AT FIRST IT WAS JUST TO SEE HOW TRUE AND HOW HE COULD REALLY HELP ME FIX MY PROBLEM LITTLE DID I KNOW IT WAS HE SOLUTION TO MY GRIEVING PAIN.His name IS Dr okpapiami i think he was of great help cos i honest remember that he helped me save my marriage and made me helped myself to feel loved again.Its being one year and six months exactly since he cast a spell to make my husband stay till dead do us part and my husband is still with me now and we are happy and in love just like how we were for the first six months.I will be fully convinced if we get to celebrity our 50th year anniversary.I don’t want any body to see this article like it was meant to make you contact him.I am just sharing my experience on how Mutton helped me restore my marriage with spell casting and i should tell you he does not charge for his services all you are to do is to provide materials he will be needing for the spell casting.If you feel he can help you solve any of your problem contact him here ({[email protected] Phone +27610682653} ) this was what i used to contact him good luck
Don’t make your early text messages an interview. Not only will you use up all your conversation starters before you actually meet that “guy your friend set you up with,” you’ll probably create unnecessary stress for yourself. King suggests that texts dependent on responses will leave you feeling anxious and insecure. Did they get my text? Why aren’t they answering? Did I offend them somehow? Are they ignoring me? The fewer direct questions you send their way, the fewer responses you have to stress about.

10. Treat his friends the way you treat your friends: smile politely, laugh at their jokes, and let your hatred for them slowly consume you from the inside out, like cancer. If you win over his former fraternity brothers, you’ll win his heart. And once you have his heart, you can keep it locked in the trunk of your car. So make plenty of snacks and, when in doubt, just pretend you’re a lamp.

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Natalia This is the story of my life that i am still pondering upon even as i write this article.I maybe judged and i may not be but even if i am judged, no one can ever know my real personality or family.I have been asking myself if i should let the world know about this or maybe i should just keep it to myself cos most people might think am crazy.All the same am telling my story. my husband has four kids and we have a happy family.It wasn’t always just like that.Before my husband, i have been married to five different men.Yeah five, all five marriages failed after six months not cos we had problems or the relationships was on the rock they just come and go without good reason.It was easy to say i was cured by someone or something.I had a feeling there was something about me that wasn’t just appealing in the site of all the men that claimed to love me to death.The entire puzzle of my life just seem to fall into place when i met my present husband i fall hardly in love with him like he also did.It was all in his eye that he loved me with all he’s got.Yeah we got married but just after the first six months as always he just wanted out as every other man that i was married to.I never really wanted to let go of any of my ex husband i was willing to fight for the marriage but they bluntly weren’t ready for that.But this, i just got tired of same old same old thing just wanted a steady marriage with the love of my life.I tried marriage counseling with him which is suppose to me the best way to resolving marital problem but he was like its been tattooed in his mind that he wanted out of our marriage.I WANT TO LEAVE A QUESTION FOR ANYONE READING THIS CAN A WOMAN REALLY BE HAPPY OR FEEL COMPETE WHEN EVERY OF HER MARRIAGE FAILS.CAN A WOMAN EVER FEEL LIKE THEY BELONG IN THE SOCIETY WHEN EVERY MAN SHE IS MARRIED TO REJECT HER AFTER A SHORT PERIOD OF TIME WITHOUT ANY COURSE?FOR ME MY ANSWER IS A NO COS I KNOW HOW HARD IT WAS FOR ME AND
I know you want to figure out how to get a boyfriend today, but girl, you need to be patient. I know that isn’t what you want to hear, but understand that the next man who will be your boyfriend is out there somewhere. But right now, he may not be emotionally ready to connect with you. He might be in another relationship. Hell, you might not actually be ready for a relationship.
I’m not saying I came here with no slightest bit of motive..but, the more I read all things above the more I realize, how ridiculous all of ‘that’..if I only have one penny in my pocket, I’ll give it willingly to anyone who need it more than me..u can say I’m naive , stupid, etc..but that’s the way I live..we are’nt the same. We live for to be happy, even u have a million dollars on your bank but u never content with that, u will never gonna be happy, we have our way to face this life..so, if u wanna be happy then be..don’t thinks unnecessary things

Look, it really isn’t that hard to control the situation over text, to really make a difference in the way he perceives you, to shift the balance in your favor. If you are not getting what you want from him, why not use some killer texting strategies to get into his head and launch the relationship to the next level?? Take a look below, you are only a click away from getting what you want.
In other words, avoid being a vamp. A vamp is someone who sucks the energy right out of you. If he texts you saying, “Hey, how are you doing?” Do not text him back and say, “I’m so bored. What are you doing?” That’s like, people who do that are looking for someone else to entertain them, they’re looking for someone else to add value to their life. It’s like hey, let me plug into your life and suck the life right out of you. These people become a drain and they are no fun to be around. Instead, you want to be the person who adds value to his life. You add light, and love, and laughter to his life. So if he sends you a text saying, “What are you doing?” Even if you are bored at work, send him a funny picture back that says I am kind of feeling like this. Send him a funny gif that roots him on and cheers him on, that adds value to his life.
My parents discourage our relationship because they think we are not compatible financially. They prefer me to get married to a man who is more financially independent. There are doctors going after me. My friends and colleagues also think that I should find a guy who has the same financial status and social status as me. Many people believe that there will be high chances of divorce if the wife can earn more than the husband due the ego of the men.

Okay I need some guy advice. I started a new job about 6 months and was immediately attracted to a guy that works there. We do not work for the same company, rather my company works for the company that he works for. I admired him from afar for about a month, simply exchanging hello's when we pass each other in the hallway, until I decided to dive in and let him know that I was interested in getting to know him. We became very flirty and would talk about little things here and there every time we would see each other, which is a lot since it's a small building.


What about the military wives who yes, stay with thier husbands for years, ”suffer” through the seperation of deployments. By cheating, lying, staying at home never working and making little to no effort to support their spouse. I have a family member who has been deployed for a year this time. His so called wife of 15 plus years only messages him about money. Did not bother to see him off, or try to contact him at all for a month, and then was only about more money. Has he been perfect? No, he’s human. But he takes his vow to her seriously, and refuses to leave, even when she slept with his best friend. I have seen it a million times. He’s a paycheck when away, and an pain when he is home
While it’s debatable whether grammar and spelling matters in texts overall, you’re better off using proper English in your initial texts with someone you’d like to date. Ansari and Dr. Klinenberg said that bad grammar and spelling was considered a turn off in every interview they did with focus group participants. Generally, interviewees explained that it made the sender seem unintelligent and lazy.
Finally, Date someone smart. He’s got to challenge you but he can’t be a teacher! If a man that challenges you,makes you wonder and adores you! (Money can be made!)… SO STOP LOOKING FOR A SUPER WEALTHY SPOUSE! JUST GET OUT THAT ELBOW GREASE AND MAKE YOUR OWN DAMN MONEY! I GUARANTEE YOU YOU WILL SUDDENLY GO FROM BEING SIMPLY A PRETTY FACE TO ONE HELL OF A CATCH (no matter the man or his age OR career!).

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I refuse to admit my own feelings till I know he's completely done with her. My biggest fear is what to do once he is done, if that happens. I've been in plenty of relationships, but I wouldn't know how to be in one with him because he's the longest, closest, male friendship I've ever had and at the same time, and we're deeply attracted to each other.
Psychology 101 may not be the first place you normally go for dating advice. Here’s a secret though—you can use some of what you learn in class towards your advantage on the guy scene. There are reasons you fall for certain people (besides their cuteness), and once you understand the rules of attraction, you’ll be the master of making guys fall for you.
Here's one you might not have thought of: humming. At first you might feel a little weird, but the payoff will be worth it. "Humming causes your mouth to vibrate in a way that feels similar to sex toys," says Gardos. Plus, varying the pitch of your voice creates a range of sensations: Lower pitches create slower vibrations; higher pitches, faster ones.
“After about two months, other reactions take place,” Fanelli says.  These are less lust-based, and more comfort-based. Cuddling is one way to keep the chemicals flowing, which Fanelli says, makes you feel warm in the closeness of that other person. The chemical oxytocin is released during cuddling which brings feelings of attraction. Pop in a movie and get your cuddle on!
This one should be a no-brainer but for some reason it often gets ignored. "Playing hard to get, teasing someone, acting fragile are all ways you can try and 'trick' someone into a kind of love," says Spurr. "But the fact is that if you want someone to care about you deeply, friendship is the key. When they're with you, they need to feel safe – game playing might help hook a someone in the first place, but it gets extremely tiring." Being supportive, listening to them, making them laugh, helping them feel good about themselves and life in general – these are the things that make someone really value you.

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Brian, any woman worth your time, or any man that is rich’s time would have to be a very understanding woman, but you see the thing is, is if she enters into a relationship with you, that as long as you were up front with a her from the get go about how much time you will or will not have to be able to devote solely to her in your relationship, then she should not have any reason to complain about it. I’m quite positive that if your in what you believe to be a loving relationship, then she should be able to read you enough to know that you probably already wish you had more time to be with her, that it bothers and hurts you just as much. Just because your a man with money, it doesn’t mean you don’t have feelings, if she keeps badgering you about it, then it would be obvious that not only did she not pay attention to you from day 1 of your relationship when you told her clearly that this is how it was going to be, but also that she must not only not care, but not know you as well as you do for her or else she would be able to tell that your hurting too. Any woman worth your time and Love would know these this things. I know that I would.
That’s absolutely false. What you’re describing only applies in the opposite direction. Women are attracted to men who are aloof and aren’t easily controlled by women. Men on the other hand, especially successful men, seek out feminine women who are supportive, deferential and don’t feel the need to compete w/them. All one needs to do is take a look around at all the “strong, independent” career women in their 30’s and 40’s, who are still single and wondering why. If you’re a woman that gives off a masculine vibe, don’t expect a masculine, heterosexual man to be attracted to you, despite all the feminist propaganda being spewed in our culture. You can’t change nature no matter how hard you try.
Desperation and insecurity,of any kind, will, naturally seeks control and validation. Desperate and insecure people attract desperate and insecure people who seek to control them in order to validate themselves. The reason a poor girl focuses on marrying a rich man, regardless of what he demands of her, is the same reason the girl who felt ugly in high school stays in an abusive relationship, is the same reason the girl who didn’t get enough attention from her father sees her value in terms of being a sex object.
You should also mention that successful men really value their time. Therefore, if he makes time to do something with a girl, then she should not take advantage of that or take it for granted. Be on time and don’t make plans only to change them at the last minute. Also don’t be mad if he doesn’t want to talk on the phone for hours talking about nothing – successful men aren’t trying to find time to fill in the gaps of boredom, they are more focused on making the finite amount of time they have in this world matter the most.
Dear E. Jean: Are guys worth the effort? I'm 22 and having a hard time because (a) I am really sweet and conservative, don't go out looking like a slut, and never act like I want to hook up with as many people as possible; and (b) guys are mostly into getting laid, drinking, partying with their buddies, and doing it all over again the next weekend (with a different girl).
i really liked your page ..im a lady who's been dating guys whom have been taking me for granted but I have this friend of mine who's a guy I often talk with bout everything he understands me well I like him very much n adore him cause he's different ..he feels hurt each time I breaks up with another guy m actually falling for him but he is in a long term relationship ...sometimes he tels m all his problem and even wishes I was the one he was dating but the unfortunate part is he's says he's commited to his lady ...donno wat to do
I sent one message saying hey I hope you made it.. First one was to Skype and no reply.. Second was to what’s app he replied I did make it A lot going on will get in touch with you soon.. It’s been 3 weeks and nothing I have backed off completely ..as I am unsure if he has or if he needs space due to his job and what he dealing with. How long do I wait I have no closure. Please advise, this man seems far to mature not to put closure on what we have we were even planning on me going to see him in the US.

How To Attract And Keep A Man

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