Advice, never compromise with guys, you only give them control over your life, YOUR life, and they will guilt you and manipulate you and tell you you are a bad person but in my honest opinion and literally the best thing I’ve ever done was to “brutally” put my foot down. It took two weeks because he just wouldn’t give up, crying and saying he was going to kill himself (because I told him a. I don’t care to hear about his “superior” arguments against feminists or black people r anything at all and then b. when I ignored him or get this, DIDN’T SEEM HAPPY when he ignored my request started crying, telling me I became an awful person and how I make him want to kill himself.)
Comments like this come from people who are insecure, seething with resentment, and fearful. It sounds like you’re projecting your lack of self worth onto your ignorant concept of “feminists”. Obviously feminists threaten you terribly. Hey, if I lived a vapid life where I’d married the highest bidder to “provide for me”, I’d feel bad about myself, too. Many other women have the satisfaction and confidence of knowing they earned their own money from their accomplishments and talents; they don’t lazily consider all work to be “toil”; they are in great relationships; and they’re very attractive to boot. It obviously burns you up. :)
Guys are looking for someone who will be loving and nurturing, and the best way to show him your mothering instincts is to express how much you care for others. Women who own a furry friend are seen as more suitable partners for long-term relationships because if you can take on the responsibility of owning a pet, you can pretty much take on anything!

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Respect yourself. If you say no, he should stop. If he doesn't stop, leave. Don't ever be uncomfortable saying no. Don't go against your morals to try to keep a guy. If you feel this is necessary, then either he's not a good man, or he is a good one but simply isn't a good match for you specifically (e. g. he is currently "playing the field" and is up front and honest about it, but you're looking for an exclusive relationship). Don't be uncomfortable saying yes, either. If you feel the time is right, believe in your worth and don't worry that you're "giving yourself away." You respect yourself and you're confident that he'll come back for more! A man who doesn't respect you in the morning never properly respected you to begin with, and a man who doesn't respect your wishes to wait is too impatient to make a good partner. Either way, find someone else.
Sometimes texting habits are a guy’s way of defining the relationship. A guy who texts back on the reg is interested. A guy who only texts you last minute when he’s horny is only interested in being your hookup buddy. A guy who doesn’t text back until you repeatedly hit him up has no interest at all — he’s just trying to get you off his back. If he never texts back then that silent treatment is your slap in the face to move the hell on.
I humbly offer a different perspective. At 65, I am at a different age spectrum of many of your commenters. I have an FI that meets my needs now and heading into the future. A few years ago I suddenly lost my beloved husband of nearly 30 years. The struggle and searching journey proceeding from that massive loss has transformed much of my worldview. Chris and I shared an epic love. We started out with very little but a shared passionate attachment. But we held similar ethical standards, a commitment to hard work, the willingness to work in therapy when we derailed, love of parenting and so much more. We embraced joy and general silliness whenever possible. We put our love first…always.
Chopstick couples do what each needs to do in a coordinated effort to get the job done, no fixed responsibilities that are the sole job of one person or the other. Sometimes it works out to leverage the strengths of one person over the other, like my husband will go get a needle and thread to fix my pants while baking bread and watching football… and I’ll be reading a PF article and picking ETFs, sitting next to him while doing the laundry. Things get done to both our benefit.
Honestly I don’t think he doesn’t feel “confident”. Guys are chasers they love to chase women regardless if they think she’s too good for him. Speaking from personal experience he could just be talking to other girls on the side and feels guilty because he knows you’re genuine with your feelings,therefore claiming you’re too good for him. If a guy truly likes a girl and she’s mutually as interested, he wouldn’t just cut her off so quickly (except if he I having some serious deep issues)
#16. Be COMFORTABLE around him – He wants to grab your love handles, and suddenly you are pulling away, asking him if he thinks you’re fat.You also become insecure when he wants to make love to you. Or you just struggle to open up to him. All of these things tell him that you are not comfortable around him, make him feel insecure, and make him QUESTION the point of marrying you.
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#28. Respect him – If he has boundaries, don’t cross them.If he values privacy in certain areas, observe it. If there is something you dislike about him, don’t go complaining to your family and girlfriends about it, behind his back. There are many examples, but the main point is that you RESPECT him, so that he can feel valued, appreciated, and upheld.

Men can detect that the office interaction is a little sour or frigid. How to become great, gorgeous and sweet, and use flirting, charisma and creating the setting, so that men might make passes at you at least once a day and have suitors in the office occasionally walking around you. Take care of your body with good nutrition, hygiene and exercise; why not? Use a beautician and fashion stylist to optimize your looks.

I hate sound repetitive, but loads of single people who are never married with no kids get mislead by a romantic partner every day of the week. Only you can determine if it is worth going to a court of law. That said, I would not condone any person trying to manipulate another in their time of grief. It is morally wrong. I can tell you the conduct I have seen first hand upon the death of a loved one can be atrocious.
But there's a trick to buttering up your guy right. You see, men are supersensitive to gushing. It makes them want to gag and run far away. So when you give him props, stick to this tip: The more obscure and exclusive the praise to him, the more genuine it feels. That's why Molly, 31, casually praises her guy's kitchen-cleaning prowess. "Tom is anal about wiping down the counters, so whenever I go to cook and they're clean, I say how much I love it." He may dismiss your flattery with a grunt, but deep down, he's loving every second of it.

Now when it comes to "getting" your man, there is one thing you must not do if you want a man to see a future with you. Do not treat him like some kind of project that needs to be fixed because it immediately brings up the walls. If you have the urge to try to change his clothes, his circle of friends, the way he talks, what he loves to do — don't do it!

A close second, highly powerful, signal that a guy should make a move is a smile. A smile tells a wary man you like him and, more importantly, you aren’t going to humiliate him by shutting him down if he risks approaching you. It’s not that you need to go around smiling all the time, but when you make eye contact, flash him a smile too, and he should get the message. The message is nicely delivered with very little effort on your part—there doesn’t even have to be a break in the friendly banter you were engaging in. Which brings me to our third signal.


i really liked your page ..im a lady who's been dating guys whom have been taking me for granted but I have this friend of mine who's a guy I often talk with bout everything he understands me well I like him very much n adore him cause he's different ..he feels hurt each time I breaks up with another guy m actually falling for him but he is in a long term relationship ...sometimes he tels m all his problem and even wishes I was the one he was dating but the unfortunate part is he's says he's commited to his lady ...donno wat to do


#29. MAINTAIN his interest – Marriage is a LONG-term relationship, which means that you will consciously have to make efforts to keep his interest. You won’t be able to keep his interest if he knows EVERYTHING about you, and nothing changes. This is why it’s important to learn new things, new skills, and to create a life outside the relationship so that you have things to keep and spark his interest.

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“When it comes down to it, flirting is a mindset. It is saying to yourself, “I like them! I want to make them feel good by being nice, complimenting and letting them know that I like them.” You can twirl your hair, but if you are not projecting warmth or even looking at them in the eye, it doesn’t count,” says relationship expert and television host Rachel DeAlto.
Good news is, this bit is the easiest by far – just combine the three points above. Be out and about. See a guy. Assess him. Listen to him. Analyse him. Look at him. Let him look at you. Read his expression. At this point, you should be fluent in “smizing” and be able to gather whether he thinks you’re hot stuff or not. What happens next is really up to you, but the most important thing is either to be confident enough to go over and say hi, or to make it incredibly obvious with your body language that you would like him to come to you. Weirdly, and against expectation, often the former is the less embarrassing, because the latter can lead to some disastrously cringe head-beckoning gestures.
Hey Brian, I’m writing for my daughter who is 27 y/o, Do you know any good man? My daughter Maxine has her MBA is very successful and been saving herself for a good man. Did I say she is beautiful? Well yes she is. Not just because I’m her mom either. The girl is smart and gorgeous. She focused on her career and not dating. She is also a kind human being. There just must not be a lot of good men out there because for the life of me I can’t understand why someone hasn’t snagged her up. The only thing I can come up with is that she has reserved values. Bless her heart… I’m from the South
Thanks for this article..I’m.confused :-/ and I’m would love some advice from military perspective. For me I had a really good chemistry with this person. Everything was good….until he was informed about deployment. He told me he doesn’t do well with long distance relationship. I told him I understood his decision since I had that experience and didn’t blame him. But! The problem is that he’s the ONE ?and I told.him I loved him with all my heart. He questioned this expression because we’ve met for only 3 wks already in person, and about 1 month via text. I feel I scared him away :( that was not my intention. He told me he would think about what he wanted to do with our relationship. He left for a trip for 2 wks so I send him a message wishing him to have fun & to wishing he would come back safe. I didn’t hear back from him. A wk prior to sending him this last text I had send him a “good morning text” and I received a zero response :-/….HELP!
#4 Wait for a reply. This used to kill me. I’d get so nervous when the guy didn’t reply that I fired off another text message just in case. I would bombard the guy with three or four texts just because my insecurity took over. Do NOT send him a series of texts just because he didn’t reply in two minutes. Wait for the reply. No matter how long it takes. [Read: 6 basic rules of double texting to play it cool and casual]

Getting To Know A Guy Over Text


If he is using pauses with you match him until you can ascertain whether or not it is intentional. If he pauses a day, YOU pause a day! Match his or her rhythm or better yet set the rhythm yourself. This can be done at anytime just make sure your pause is longer than his. This seems petty but!! It communicates very clearly who is in better control of their needs. This is not a game (well it is… but so is everything). It is more of a test that each of you put the other through. Imagine that your needing a text is just like them trying to kiss you and wont give up, not too attractive…
"The reason a woman gets hooked on one man is not because he is just sexy, or just playful, or just certain, or just masculine, or just bursting with integrity, but because he possesses a unique combination of traits: the man who is warm, has integrity, and can charm her family, then rips her clothes off in the bedroom and is a sexual god who's willing to invest all the time she needs in foreplay; the man who is respectful with her friends, can fix things around the house and in the garage like a pro, but knows how to enjoy a lazy Sunday at the museum or craft fair; the guy who is independent, kicks ass out in the world, but is gentle and loving with his woman and lavishes attention on her. Men like this cause an alarm to go off inside a woman's head and heart. He's just a character in a romance novel, she thinks. Be more realistic!"

Seems like the process of you getting wealthy doesn’t appeal to you because it will take too much time (don’t want to be a workaholic mom who has no time to see her kids, totally agree, but); you want to only consider a man who has gone through this process and been successful, and then he is only useful for helping fulfill the life YOU want? I may be missing something, but that seems a little unreasonable….
Um. I think this article is very interesting. I obviously for one couldn’t help clicking and reading it. But I do disagree with many of these points. In that I feel like the expectations that money can attract quality women is off. I think money, like any other advantage in life (eg. if you were born extra good looking or extra charming or extra intelligent) is an attractive quality and it certainly helps your chances, but if you have really absurdly high standards for your partner you will end up alone.
Stephanie is a junior at Lehigh University in Bethlehem, Pennsylvania where she is currently studying international relations with a minor in psychology and political science. When she's not researching and writing assigned articles for Her Campus, she is involved in extracurriculars on campus such as the Kappa Delta chapter, and Student Political Action Committee. Stephanie hopes her future consists of making the earth a more sustainable environment, helping underprivileged minorities, and advocating for women's rights. Additionally, her interests include skincare, tea, and traveling. She also really loves her dog and cat!

Texts That Will Make Him Hard


Hi Eric, I’m stuck and not sure if you can help but I thought I’d give it a shot. So me and my ex(it’s complicated) met at a party in May. I was 22 and he was 19. What I thought was a one night stand turned out to be a relationship. He said he’s faithful and doesn’t do one night stands and wanted to get to know me (he was drunk when he said this). Anyways after a month of friends with benefits and me slightly pressuring him on making me out, we started dating. Although the relationship still seemed like friends with benefits just with the added title. We would mostly hangout at my apartment, have sex, and then he would leave, everytime! I confronted him about this and he’s said it was because of his parents, even though he was an adult he had a curfew, even though it was usually around 2am when he would leave. Things were good though he made me feel good about myself, would always make me laugh, even bought me flowers after a small fight we had. Then it started going downhill when August came around. He goes to school in another state and we both knew that soon we wouldn’t be able to spend time like this anymore. He started hanging out with his friends more and bailing on plans with me. Along with that other things about his personality started to bother me so a week before I confronted him on how our relationship was not working out and how I wasn’t happy anymore I felt like he didn’t care about me like he used to. This talk was so heartbreaking, he started crying which made me start crying and we came to the decision to break up but still talk to each other to see if the long distance thing could work. He didn’t want the clean break because he said he loved me but hated how I always got mad at little things. So we left it at that. Since then we barely talked up until this week when he came home for thanksgiving break. Upon his arrival all I got was a snapchat saying he was back in town. I asked where he was and he replied saying he was at his friends. That night I awkwardly saw him for 2 seconds and left to go downtown to the bars with my friends. He said his phone was dead so when I get back I should text his friend. So I did when I got back and him and his friends were all still hanging out. I stayed up waiting for him to come over but he never showed. He texted me at 4 am saying he found a charger, and I replied by asking if he was coming over. He didn’t reply for 2 days. So I got depressed and decided I would not text him back. (I know this is my flaw, I’m a spiteful person) So after the 2 days he sent a text asking “What are you doing late tonight?” I thought it was a booty call and didn’t feel like responding anyways. The next night he asked if I wanted to come to a party, then what I was doing, and then attempted to call me but I ignored it. Today I texted him and asked when he was planning on leaving and his reply was that he already left. And this conversation lead to all the issues we had in our relationship. He doesn’t make me feel appreciated and/or loved because he doesn’t show that he cares. His words>”nothing is good enough for you, you hold ridiculous standards, and you get mad for the smallest reasons”. In my heart I know I should end it because we’re obviously not good for each other but at the same time I’m pretty sure I love him and think maybe he’ll mature when he’s older. Since he’s still 19 and I’m now 23. I do care about him a lot and he says the same for me. Do you think we could learn to accept each others flaws/ mistakes or should we just completely end things?
Well there’s this guy that I really like but he already has a girlfriend and I already told him I liked him and he said he didn’t like me as a gf but he said that I was kind and all but. I still want to go out with him and all, is there anyway he still likes me or he probly might go out with me because I’m clueless and broken hearted that he said that I need help and tips/guides

How To Text A Guy You Like


Obviously the most important thing you need to remember is to start off strong. If you start off on the wrong foot, the rest of the conversation is likely to follow, which leaves you with a boring, uninteresting, and totally terrible text message convo. Start off strong by coming up with something new and unique. For instance, instead of the same old “Hey, what’s up?” try saying something like, “Hey! How did you do on that math test?” or “Hey are you watching this crazy baseball game?” Anything that will strike up a conversation.


Good news is, this bit is the easiest by far – just combine the three points above. Be out and about. See a guy. Assess him. Listen to him. Analyse him. Look at him. Let him look at you. Read his expression. At this point, you should be fluent in “smizing” and be able to gather whether he thinks you’re hot stuff or not. What happens next is really up to you, but the most important thing is either to be confident enough to go over and say hi, or to make it incredibly obvious with your body language that you would like him to come to you. Weirdly, and against expectation, often the former is the less embarrassing, because the latter can lead to some disastrously cringe head-beckoning gestures.
Now this boy being fresh out of high school too had no money! His parents, were the same financial situation as my own. So what was the difference between this boy and all others? He was a wonderful friend! But I also noticed, he climbed in the company quickly! He was smart, efficient, intelligent, and became the favorite of his bosses quickly. He had wonderful work ethic while at work, but was always late, not just by 5 min but sometimes an hour late to work EVERY DAY!! He got away with it because, he was so good at everything he did at work. he had a Midas touch. I latched onto him, not only because he was my best friend, but also, he was like following an ambulance with the lights on and blaring clearing the road for any one behind the ambulance.

Flirty Text Messages To Send To A Guy


Make fun of yourself. A surefire way to get someone to smile over text is to make fun of yourself in a tongue-in-cheek kind of way. By making fun of yourself, you get them laughing and show that it’s okay for them to let their guard down. They’ll feel more comfortable with you, which will allow them to become more attracted to you. Examples: “I used to think I was indecisive, but now I’m not too sure.” or “Take my advice — I’m not using it!”
Really, to get this far in the comment section and not drink from the well of advice given so far, why should a rich man be expected to give you the life you believe you deserve as well spoil you? I understand I’m not rich but I’m not poor. I try to educate and enhance my skills to become such an individual that can complement someone respectably and with flexibility. Interacting beyond my pretty face and slim body. Be interesting since he (or she) is trying to enjoy life too. Not just to grind out the gold and drop it in your lap because you believe you deserve it.
So, I've been talking to this guy for a couple of weeks. we have known eachother for awhile though but never talked to each other till recently. He was dating this girl for 2 years and they broke up 6 months ago , he messgaed me on instagram asking if i wanted to hangout sometime so i gave him my number! well we started texting for awhile but he isn't very consistent with texting and when we finally hung out i brought up how i always tect him for and he leaves me on read but then reply's to what i said couple days later. his reason was with school and work he has to work off his phone and my messages get pushed back and he would forget to reply, when he realized he forgot he had said it was too late to respond so i wouldnt bother. the next week he didnt talk much saying he had been, which i new he would be with what he had going on and moving out of his apartment that week. well he was active on snapchat at some concert so i thought i text him again and he never replied but still active on social media. i don't know if i shouldn't worry about it and text him again or just forget about it, maybe he isn't interested. i need help everyone i ask doesn't carer they just tell me i don't know. and i really need help figuring out what should i do.
* Nobody is going to give me anything. Given most rich men are self-made, they strongly do not believe in entitlement. Nothing is deserved which is not earned. Given this type of stance, sometimes they can be very harsh on those who are receiving some type of assistance from the government, friends, or family members. It takes time to assuage such a man to see another’s point of view as a result. Men want to see that a woman is independent or on her way to being financially independent through self-struggle.

This is both the first and the last step, really. Because if you don't truly love yourself, they will find it difficult to fall in love with you. Think of yourself as the number one prize – because to the right person that's exactly what you are. To get to feel that good about yourself you need to learn to appreciate all the good things you have to offer. And by that we don't mean your pert derriere or any other thing you can see in the mirror. It's also not about the new and expensive things in your wardrobe, your skills at work, it's about loving who you are as a person.


If you have something to offer to rich man besides your looks, there is nothing wrong with trying to get a rich boyfriend or husband. In most cases, rich men are career driven and spend a lot of time trying to improve themselves. If you want to be with someone who always pushes himself to the limits, a rich man might be a great choice for you. If on another hand you just want to meet rich men so that you can sit the whole day at home doing nothing and expect him to pay for everything, it is a really bad approach.

How To Get A Boy To Like You Again


According to Love Signals: A Practical Field Guide to the Body Language of Courtship, we naturally blink faster when we are emotionally excited. Bat those eyelashes to let him know you’re interested without saying a word. People also, “lean toward whatever – or whomever – they find most important at the time,” according to Love Signals. Use this trick and slightly lean towards him, whether it’s in your chair in class, or while standing at the bar.

How Can I Make A Man Love Me

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